Stop the madness?
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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:11:28 AM
My Christmas presents for DD so far:

~ second hand 80's sweater $30
~ Record $35
~ Record $25
~ 3 American Apparel Nail Polishes forget he cost $15 - $30
~ Raw Vegan Lip Balm $5
~ Musical Snowman $15
~ American Apparel Watch $35
~ Winter Village figurines $5
~ Pjs $15
~ Starbucks GC $10
~ Snowman Ornament $2
totalling about 200 pre tax.

I know in my head this is a lot of money spent, but it looks so small laid out on the floor. I'm seriously wanting to go buy something else. I still need to get some candy and DH says he has a few little things to add, but still it isn't BIG. Perspective please??





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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:25:17 AM
That seems like a lot to me, heck when i was a kid we got 2 presents from my parents and 1 from Santa and then of course the stocking with an apple, orange and nuts. Are you worried she won't like it?


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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:27:35 AM
That's pretty typical in our family, though I can see why you think it's short. If you're adding candy and the few things from DH it will round out nicely. Though I know we'd probably add a few more things, just because.

Are you concered because you're missing a big ticket item?

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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:27:48 AM
Is it because there's no "big gift"? I do like to do at least one big or expensive thing.



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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:33:47 AM
How old is she? Is this the first year she won't be getting a big toy like a bike or something like that ? Is she a tween? I ask because it sounds kind of like you are missing her being a "child" ?

Maybe I am in the wrong ballpark all together Lol!

They sound like great gifts, if you want to spend more money and have it to spend I don't see a problem with doing just that. If you don't have the money to spend on more, it sounds like you have done a great job. I'm sure she will love everything you bought for her.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:38:07 AM
I think it is the stocking I'm more worried about. The sweater and records are big and she'd know it. She was there with me when we first looked at them. same with the watch, which is in the stocking. I think she'd be happy with it but I feel guilt because she is getting older and the craziness of present toys is ending. (She's 20) She has always been really spoiled but money is tighter the last few years for all the assorted grandparents etc. She knows this. I just need to get over myself. It is hard though *sigh*




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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:42:10 AM
Based on your answers Yes!! Stop the madness!!!

I don't know just try and enjoy yourself.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:46:57 AM

Based on your answers Yes!! Stop the madness!!!

I don't know just try and enjoy yourself.
See? Haha I honestly don't think she'd even care, I think this is all me feeling guilty for the fact that she is grown and facing 'reality' after they all set her up to expect so much.




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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:53:22 AM
I can relate. Our kids are 12 and 15 now. They're used to pretty good Christmas. However, money is tighter this year and really, they have anything they could want (computers, phones, etc.).

15 yo DD wants an Iphone and DS has his eye on an Ipad, but if we make that happen, the rest will be very small. Not sure yet what to do. Either way, the big stack of presents under the tree will not be happening.



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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:56:57 AM

second hand 80's sweater $30

Are 80's sweaters something that teens are into for real?

I saved every one of my Esprit oversized & crazy looking sweaters from the 80's, I just love them. I've got dozens & a few Betsy Johnson sweaters from then too. My 12 yr old dd just wore one of the Esprit sweaters for her 80's Halloween costume last month, she was so cute.

I am thrilled to hear they are cool




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Posted: 11/15/2012 11:06:11 AM

Are 80's sweaters something that teens are into for real?

I saved every one of my Esprit oversized & crazy looking sweaters from the 80's, I just love them. I've got dozens & a few Betsy Johnson sweaters from then too. My 12 yr old dd just wore one of the Esprit sweaters for her 80's Halloween costume last month, she was so cute.

I am thrilled to hear they are cool
We had walked up Main street, looking into all the different vintagey consignment stores and they had a lot of those sweaters - the puffy angora ones, the ones with the geometricy designs, the sequins. Pretty funny to be looking at it all again. The big name stores have them too - forever 21 had neon that hurt my eyes. Not excited to see that particular trend back




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Posted: 11/15/2012 11:06:30 AM
I'm all for stopping the madness. My husband is the bad one always buying DS expensive stuff. I do a fun stocking that has small goodies. I'm tired of the high expectations that only get higher with the bigger gifts each year. I can't imagine anything we could get him that would impress him.

I think that holidays really have gotten out of control (including those people giving me ridiculous gifts) and need to be reined in asap.

Your list of gifts for your daughter seems very generous. I would not buy her anything else other than maybe some candy/crackers/socks for her stocking.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 11:39:05 AM
I like to have a 'main' present for my DDs. I doesn't have to be expensive but when I feel I have something they really want as their 'big' thing then all the others are extras and bonuses.

I'm sure she'll love all her stuff!



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Posted: 11/15/2012 11:56:21 AM
I am tying to stop the madness too! We only have one child and two incomes so Christmas has been ridiculously big for him in past years. He has gotten Jet skis, 4-wheelers, guitars and amps, Trek Bikes, etc...

He is an adult now. I have told him that our limit this year is $500.00. He is actually totally cool with it but I keep thinking I am being stingy! UGH! We bought a fishing rod and reel that he wants and that was $400. I keep thinking just 2 things under the tree, but I am holding to my plan. I will not spend more than $100 more and that is including the stocking.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:07:04 PM
She's 20? That's more than acceptable. My only suggestion was that it seemed to be missing the "wow" gift, but since she's an adult I think that's just fine.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:30:37 PM
maybe i can help give an opinion from yoru daughter, as i'm in the somewhat of a similar boat with my parents, tho i'm 32, married with 2 boys.

but i remember when i was her age, and i knew money was tighter and my parents were struggling with the declining amount of presents under the tree. there were 4 kids in my family, and we always had 12-15 presents it seemed to open, and then the "big gift" rotated to a different child every year.

even tho they would say, when asking for our gift lists, that they were cutting back, they still kept it up. i don't think there's ever been a christmas i've had less than 10-12 presents. and i've told them it's ok, they don't have to do that much. and i REALLY mean it. i know it's their issue at this point. and i feel guilty opening them, because i am happy to have the gifts, but i honestly would be just as ok and totally understand if they actually DID scale back.

***another, more important thing to note.. husband and i aren't real well off, and i really struggle with christmas with my boys. i REALLY want to give them the experience i had, but it's just not possible to haev a tree full of presents when everything they want is $40 each. and i wrap up batteries and everything seperate to try to make it seem like there's more than there is. they don't care, it's totally my issue, but it makes me feel like i'm not doing things right, and that bothers me more than taking a cut in presents ever would! so please, really consider cutting back and actually do it, it might help your daughter in the long run.



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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:34:59 PM

even tho they would say, when asking for our gift lists, that they were cutting back, they still kept it up. i don't think there's ever been a christmas i've had less than 10-12 presents. and i've told them it's ok, they don't have to do that much. and i REALLY mean it. i know it's their issue at this point. and i feel guilty opening them, because i am happy to have the gifts, but i honestly would be just as ok and totally understand if they actually DID scale back.


I agree with this to a point but who the hell am I to tell my parents to stop? I learned a long time ago that it was not an option to say no. So I let them do what they want. I tell them they don't have to, but I don't stand in their way. They get offended being told no. So I no longer do. It took me a few years to figure this out... and now we're all better for it.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 1:33:45 PM
When we got older my parents, really my mom, would fill our stockings. We got toothpaste, deodorant, nail polish, etc. Our special gifts in our stockings were our favorite nuts.

We lived by a nut factory that had an outlet store. My mom would go buy cashews by the pound and divide those up along with other nuts depending on what we each liked. It was great as all of the stocking stuff was stuff that we'd have to purchase anyway. The nuts, well, they were the best bonus!

Oh, and she'd get us each a lottery ticket too!


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