Did anyone's Tgiving guests come bearing the gift of sickness?

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Posted: 11/25/2012 3:32:29 PM
My brother and his family came to stay with us for five days and all 3 of the kids came sick. Out of the 10 of us staying at the house 9 of us(including his 3 kids) are now sick with colds, including my mom who has a compromised immune system to begin with. I don't know what it is I wish they had done - stay home or come after they were well, but it pisses me off that they thought nothing of warning us or asking what I preferred they did. No apologies or anything. Who does this?

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Posted: 11/25/2012 3:44:24 PM
I think it's respectful to give you a heads up and ask whether you want them to "come as they are"
My DH had a fever and bad cough and we stayed away - it was hard, but no way he could have done it anyway .
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Posted: 11/25/2012 3:49:41 PM
The last time I went somewhere for Thanksgiving, one of the other guests showed up with a 102 degree fever and a horrible cough. We all soon followed. Wish the guest had stayed home. I get not wanting to miss a holiday, but we all got to miss work and school afterwards as a result.

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Posted: 11/25/2012 3:49:49 PM
My DS got a fever on Thursday night. We were at DH's parents' house. We canceled our plans to eat lunch on Friday with the kids' cousins and headed back early instead. Unfortunately kids are contagious before getting a fever, but hopefully no one he was around on Wednesday or Thursday caught anything. We would never knowingly infect others.

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Posted: 11/25/2012 4:40:41 PM
We missed all of Thanksgiving, including taking the food we signed up to bring, because Wednesday night DH had 101.8 fever and tested positive for flu.

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Posted: 11/25/2012 4:48:33 PM
A few years back we had a large crowd for T-dinner. Including many out of state guests. After the meal was finished my sil passed on dessert announcing she had been throwing up for days because of food poisoning. Yeah my ass! By the next day 18 of us were puking our guts out with the worst stomach virus we had ever seen! Our poor guests had to stay 3 extra days and still barely could make their drives back home! It was horrible! And to boot...honest...she did the SAME thing a year later at a Christmas party!!!!



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Posted: 11/25/2012 5:11:13 PM
Not tot TDay, but one year my cousin brought his puking dd with a bucket to the family Christmas eve party. We spent the rest of our vacation sick at my parents a couple of days after Christmas. She just sat in her mom's lap and was sick, but she had 3 brothers who played with my kids, and they all were sick by the next day.

Everyone was so thrilled with them.


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Posted: 11/25/2012 5:19:23 PM
My mother is a HUGE germaphobe almost to the point of ridiculousness. I stayed home while my kids and DH went up for the day. I am STILL sick.

I just can't believe people do crap like that.

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Posted: 11/25/2012 5:27:06 PM
I'm thankful this was my family year for Tgiving since my dumbass brother in law took his kids with the flu to his sister's house. SIL called me in tears Friday while she desperately was trying to disinfect. She wanted to cancel us coming by today on our way home since they're time bombs now. Glad she's more considerate than her brother.

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Posted: 11/25/2012 6:36:04 PM
My DW's family. Not only were both of her sister's kids running around in nothing but diapers the entire time (3 and 2), they were also sick which no one mentioned until one threw up in the hallway shortly after we arrived. Also, the house was a disaster and she didn't bother to unbury her dining table or couches for company. This is nothing new for that side of the family. Fun times. LOL

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Posted: 11/25/2012 7:09:18 PM
Nobody knowingly came to dinner sick, but my son in law and 2 grandkids have been sick since and now tonight I think I am geting it.



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Posted: 11/25/2012 7:21:16 PM
And this is exactly why we do not get together with others for the holidays. My immune system is crap. Last time (and basically everytime for the last few yrs) I got sick with what everyone else called a basic cold I almost died. Yes it hurts peoples feelings when I decline invitations and quite honestly it sucks for me too, but so does lying in a hospital bed fighting for my life!! 99% of the time a carrier monkey shows up and everyone get sick, then they call me a couple days later saying it was a good thing I didn't come.

Friends and family know I love them to pieces but if they are sick please do not come to visit. And you won't hurt my feelings cancelling at the last minute. We can always celebrate when everyone is healthy!!

It's terrible that people are so careless about the health and wellbeing of others.


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Posted: 11/25/2012 10:23:56 PM
I have one family member that thinks nothing of bringing the entire sick family to get together. My child's first Christmas was spent puking, along with my husband and I and my MIL and FIL. Good Times. I am not a germaphobe, but it got to the point where I would make my husband ask them if they are or had been sick.


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Posted: 11/25/2012 10:41:14 PM
Yep our DGS now DH has been sick all day and he never gets sick. I am feeling ok but I wish we had known he was so sick. My SD (DGS mom) left him with us all day while she cooked for her BF that's a whole other story.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 12:06:35 AM
DH came home with some "cold" virus after flying to Atlanta. Of late, every time he flies anywhere, he comes home with "something."

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Posted: 11/26/2012 1:28:25 AM
No thanksgiving celebration for us but this does remind me of SIL always bringing our niece to family get togethers when she is ill. I think it's now happened at least twice. The worst thing is that dh's Gran has ended up in hospital as a result on one occasion.

And yet they still don't seem to understand why people are annoyed at them

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Posted: 11/26/2012 6:27:01 AM
Personally, a simple cold doesn't bother me, unless it's one with a fever. The stomach virus would be a deal breaker....to be that inconsiderate?!! I can't imagine. It would almost be enough for me to cut all ties with a family member who did that.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 7:19:46 AM
DH's cousin hosted thanksgiving this year.... and forgot to mention everyone in their household had been really sick all week. Me and my kiddos woke up Friday morning with fevers. Had an awful weekend trying to take care of my kids and myself while my DH was out of town. Getting ready to go to the doctor now bc whatever we caught is causing my lungs to hurt(thank you copd). Had I known they had been sick we would have never went to their house. All my plans for the weekend with my kids were ruined. Didn't get to go pick out a tree yesterday.
Did I mention my lungs hurt and just taking a deep breath brings tears to my eyes!!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 8:44:33 AM
nope we stopped people coming sick to our house a long time ago. my system can not really handle even a simple cold. So we pretty much tell everyone if you have just a cold please do not come here. DH has ask friend and family to leave when they come to the door sick.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 9:17:45 AM
My two sister-in-laws that live in the same city were sick early in the week, so they waited until Thursday morning to come thinking they were fine. We all thought we were fine too, until we all woke up Saturday morning with a nasty stomach bug! There were 16 of us at my in-laws for Thanksgiving and only two people and the tiny kids managed to miss out on the ordeal!

Luckily it was just a 24 hour thing, we're all better today. And we wouldn't have had them stay home, we miss them when we don't see them!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 9:21:16 AM
OH NO! I hope your mom doesn't get terribly sick from this!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 9:29:13 AM
Thankfully I was able to stop the sickness from coming in my house! My sister posted on facebook at noon on Wed. that she had been throwing up and couldn't stay out of the bathroom...but was hoping she would feel better by tomorrow so she could come to the family Thanksgiving (which was at my house!). I quickly called her and told her no way should she be coming! She felt that as soon as her symptoms were over that it would be just fine to come and was VERY upset with me! My parents were also upset with me. But I'd rather have hurt feelings than 25 people sick!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:04:31 AM
YES! my MIL!!! and now i am sick! grrrrr!


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:25:15 AM
DH had a cough that "wouldn't go away" for weeks but thought he was fine - he ended up sick while we were at his parents' house for 5 days and now it's my turn (just when we get back - so now I have to figure out how to miss work. I don't want to infect people). Grr...I was just saying I'm happy I haven't gotten sick this year, but I guess I jinxed that!

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