|Posted: 11/26/2012 11:51:28 AM|
What words or saying are NOT allowed in your home?
When my DD was growing up she couldn't hate anyone or anything, say I'm not gonna. She was allowed to ask why and mostly I gave her answers to that, ( I hated " because I said so" growing up ) I also wouldn't let her call someone names, name calling of any kind was frowned on but if she used a word to describe the way someone acted if it was mean we talked about it.
How about in your home?
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 11:55:27 AM|
"shut up" was just as bad as any other "bad words" in our house...
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 11:58:05 AM|
i think it starts at stupid and works its way up.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 11:58:48 AM|
Crap and piss were no-nos, among others, but they have a slightly different meaning, or are perceived differently here than in America I think.
'I want...' was something we tried to correct with 'please could I/may I have....' when they were younger too.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 12:40:04 PM|Right now, at ages 2 and 4, the bad words are pretty tame. But the biggest right now is "baby". I know, I know... But at their age, nothing is worse than being a baby - except being called one by your sibling because you peed your pants or spilled your milk.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 1:06:14 PM|
Sort of depends on the age of the kids... I don't like my little kids saying "butt", but don't care if my 13 year old says it. And I don't care if my kids call something stupid, but they know they're never allowed to call a person stupid.
Same with hate... Fine with me if you hate math, but don't even think about saying you hate somebody.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 1:19:59 PM|
Pretty much swear words..esp the F word!!! hate that. I know alot of adults think it's fine these days..and proudly exlaim "I swear like a sailor"..ha yea..but your kids hear it.
I don't like stupid either. We do use spaz, and I work with the handicapped,and never found it offensive towards them.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 1:24:37 PM|
As a child we couldn't use...hate, shut up, lie, lying or liar or fool...
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 1:26:29 PM|
Curse words also
|Posted: 11/26/2012 3:09:17 PM|
We laugh because my dear mother (age 75) still cannot say penis!
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 3:13:26 PM|
Shut up, stupid, and oh my God.
|Posted: 11/26/2012 3:17:26 PM|
I think the main one when I was growing up was 'shut up'. I hated that they made such a big deal about because it seems so tame to me. Even when I was little and didn't swear or say anything worse, I just never understood why we couldn't tell each other to shut up.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 5:22:11 PM|
Our kids are not allowed to say, 'What?' in response to our calling out to them. They have to say, 'pardon?' or 'Yes mom/dad?'. And 'whatever' is not acceptable when speaking to their dad or I either.
They are not allowed to say 'retard'. I have never heard them say 'spaz' but wouldn't allow that one either.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 5:50:01 PM|
The only word I've had to speak to my son about was retarded.
We have a family member who is mentally retarded. I know there is a more PC term now, but that has been the diagnosis as long as I can remember. So, the terminology has stuck.
I know I had discussed the family member's issues when my son was old enough to wonder why/what was different about the person. But, the actual word, retarded, didn't stay with him.
So, when I heard him say it, we had a discussion as to why we don't use that word.
I don't care about many of the words other non-curse words others get up in arms about.
The curse words just seem to have been a given with the boy. Though, there were a few he hadn't heard and had to ask me about when he was in elementary. We had a rule...Don't know a word you hear used, ask mom. You won't get in trouble for inquiring about any word you don't know.
As for others, I really don't care what words they use. Nor will I correct anyone for words I find offensive. Not my responsibility.
The only thing I will do is have a discussion with my son about the inappropriateness of such words. The latest one was rape. For some reason, the high schoolers are frequently using the word rape in an innocuous manner. It's rather baffling.
But, I did have to speak with my son as to how insensitive it is to use the word rape so casually.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 6:06:45 PM|I teach 2nd grade. The words I have had to outlaw in my room so far this year are:
The year is not quite half over... I'm sure there will be more
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 6:06:58 PM|
I greatly dislike when someone says "I'm starving". No, I can pretty much assure you that you are not.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 6:13:21 PM|
I tell dd (12) that she can't say "just a sec!" because that always really means "just 10/15/20/50 more minutes please mom!"
|Posted: 11/26/2012 6:13:59 PM|
I'm pretty laid back about use of language. I never told my kids they couldn't swear I just said it didn't look good coming out of a 7yo's mouth. I'm okay with teens swearing and they know this yet they do not swear in front of me. I do make it clear that I don't like God's name used negatively.
Having people with autism in our house the words idiot or retard/retarded are frowned upon.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 6:24:07 PM|
Isn't this an oxymoron?
When my DD was growing up she couldn't hate anyone or anything, say I'm not gonna. She was allowed to ask why and mostly I gave her answers to that, ( I hated " because I said so" growing up )
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 7:15:51 PM|
I did not attach good or bad meanings to words. I did not censor their speech. If someone is lying, they are allowed to say, "You're lying." I don't get the issue with that one.
There are words I don't like but I don't have any taboo words really. There are times I have said, "You could make a better point if you said x instead of z," but that's it.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 7:24:56 PM|Growing up, my mother HATED the words snot and pee. It was "boogers" and "tinkle." She also butchers the English language frequently! lol But she always wanted to be careful of how she spoke so not to offend. I was about 15 (in 1975) before she stopped saying "Negro." She thought "Black" was disrespectful. Then when the term African-American became the norm, she was just all confused. I told her that my Black friends said go ahead and say Black.
We couldn't say shut up, either.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 7:27:47 PM|
Hate, stupid, idiot, shut up, yeah, lame, retard, spaz, moron, what (in response to their name being called) and any cuss words.
They also don't hear those words out of their parent's mouths either.
|Posted: 11/26/2012 7:31:01 PM|
It depends, on a good day everybody in my house talks like angels.
I try to make sure people don't use demeaning terms for each other.
Kiwis swear too much lot so If I banned all the bad words I'd have to ban 2/3rds of the population.
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|Posted: 11/26/2012 8:52:37 PM|I don't allow stupid, shut up, idiot, nuffy, blasphemy or swearing from my kids. (Although I do swear myself - it's one of those completely irresponsible "do as I say not as I do" type scenarios ) I also would not allow retard or spaz, but neither of them have ever said that one.
When I was about 18 I had a friend who was Catholic. You were allowed to say F*** at her house, even her mother said it, but woe betide anyone who dared to utter the Lord's name in vain! Her mum would go nuts! I could never understand that, to me it seemed a bit hypocritical.
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|Posted: 11/27/2012 6:03:41 AM|
The generally accepted swear words and the word "crap" - which I consider a swear and don't like hearing from children. It's crass.
Of course I have said "sucks" as in "that sucks" for years without giving it a thought. A friend finally told me if the sexual connotation. It's her "crap" and not allowed.
That made me more aware that people have differing ideas and ideals re: language.
|Posted: 11/27/2012 8:09:43 AM|
heartcat, do we live in the same house? Answering 'what' when I call them is a huge pet peeve of mine. Don't ask me why - wasn't that way for me growing up, but I won't have it. I just keep calling them until they say 'yes?'.
Really don't like the word retarded.
I must confess, I'm also in the 'I swear, but you're not allowed to' club. I tell them it's one of the perks of being an adult. Lame, I know . . .
I realize my 16 yr old swears w/his friends (and on FB, I'm sad to say), but as long as he doesn't do it in front of an adult (especially his mother - it's a respect thing) I don't get in a twist about it.
While I'm on a roll, I'm also not a fan of the word 'hot' coming out of my boys' mouths when referring to a girl. Again, don't ask me why. Call her cute. Call her pretty. Hot just creeps me out. And don't flex and ask me if you're hot either. Ewww!
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|Posted: 11/27/2012 11:33:29 AM|
When my kids were little, I banned the word "head" from being attached to other words. It seemed like there was a stretch of time where everything was (blank)head...ie smelly head, rotten head, mean head, dumb head, ugly head, etc. UGH!
When I was a little girl, I had my mouth washed out with soap when one of my Barbies called a neighbor girl's Barbie a fart-face. Fart was the "f word" in my home.