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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:39:21 PM
My 9 year old has had doubts for a while but I think he wants to believe (maybe because I said once you stop believing, he stops delivering). I ask this year because I can't find the ONE and ONLY thing he wants this year. He's positive he's going to get it because he asked Santa and he's been such a good boy (he has for the most part ).
I told DH, I think it's time to tell him the truth but he said no. He thinks it's fun to play Santa. I agree, but how do I explain this situation to DS?

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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:42:09 PM
Explain what? I'm 44 and I still haven't had any sort of discussion with my mother about Santa. And every year, there is a present under the tree from the old guy.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:43:51 PM
My opinion? You share the truth when they ask for it. I have an 11 year old who still believes. I'm sure there's some doubt there, but she spent two hours in my craft room the other day creating her letter to Santa so despite the doubts, she still has the desire to believe...and that's all it takes for me.

I wouldn't give it away just because you can't find the perfect gift. There are lots of reasons to share the story behind Santa but, personally, I don't think that's one.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:44:49 PM
Why say anything? My kids are 19, 14 and 11. Santa still leaves presents and filled stockings. Heck we adults play Santa and fill each other's stockings. It's fun!


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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:46:28 PM
I would & did let them come to their own conclusions, in their own time.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:46:52 PM
I agree on what everyone else has posted

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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:47:22 PM
I agree. My dd is almost 11, next month and she was on the verge last year, and I think she has her doubts, but i love the magic that is santa, and I think she does too regardless of where that magic comes from. She didn't write a letter to santa this year, and hasn't asked to see him in the mall or anything so she may be outgrowing that, but she did make a wish list! And between her parents and my siblings she's pretty much getting what she wants, but her list isn't very long. She has however always understood that Santa can't bring everything, and mom and dad bring stuff too, and she also knows things get more expensive as she gets older.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 2:51:15 PM
I wouldn't say a word!!! He is still young and if you believe to recieve, then go with it. Our rule though, you write a letter. No letter, no wish it's in his hands then



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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:09:58 PM
My almost 18 yo DD is still regretting admitting that she no longer believed in the Tooth Fairy; there is no way she will ever admit she doesn't believe in Santa anymore.

Actually, I'm not sure that DH doesn't still believe in Santa The man does delay love Christmas time.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:17:45 PM
My mom still won't let on about Santa! I still have my doubts though!

When to have the talk? Never.

He'll figure it out.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:20:18 PM
I ended up having to talk to my 12 year old about it because she was getting into fights with her friends insisting that they were crazy for not believing. I didn't want her to be the butt of everyone's jokes, so we talked about it then. I wouldn't have told her if she hadn't been at a risk for being made fun of.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:33:55 PM
When they ask. DD asked when she was in grade 1. I told her the truth. I also explained the background and that it is one way that people do nice things for others without taking personal credit.

BTW. We do Santa regardless of whether you think he lives at the North Pole. You just become part of Santa's crew when you find out the secret.

I figured that if DD couldn't trust me to answer a question like that honestly she would have no reason to trust me in the future.



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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:36:56 PM
I personally love the idea of Santa. He's asked in past years because of what some of his friends have said. I always ask him if he belives, because that's what matters. That's also where the "if you don't believe, you don't receive" came in.
All he wants is the Lego Queen Anne's Revenge. It's not available at any of the typical lego sites. It is available on Amazon for upwards of $200 which is just not in the budget. $140 was pushing it. DH already got both boys Nintendo DS's and games and he thinks that's good. Honestly, that's more than we usually spend so to spend much more will be hard on the ol' wallet.
My kids are actually pretty grateful so I don't think he'll be too disappointed come Christmas morning. He's just such a sweet kid and has wanted it for a long time. He keeps telling me that he'll know Santa is real if he gets the Lego set.
Thanks for the input. I realize now this wouldn't be a good reason to tell him about Santa. I'm wondering if he might not be ready to come to that conclusion himself.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:39:04 PM

We do Santa regardless of whether you think he lives at the North Pole. You just become part of Santa's crew when you find out the secret.


I like this. Maybe he can become part of the crew. I think he'd like that.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:58:46 PM
My kids are 8 and 11 and have been asking for the last 2 years. I just explained that Santa is real if you want to believe in him. They set up a secret plot this year to find out if he is real!


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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:15:45 PM
My 10 year old asked me last week and I told her the truth. I just can't see lying to her about it.

ETA: and I figured when it becomes more important to me that she believe than it is to her? It's time for the truth. I was sad that we have no more believers, but to lie about it? To her face? Yeah, not for me.



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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:17:49 PM
I told my son a couple weeks ago after he kept asking question after question. Really good ones. I used to always answer, "What do you think?", instead of flat out lying to him. He's 10. I explained to him the real meaning of Santa and told him that he could be part of the "magic" with his Dad and I. He's a triplet and has a younger sister. He's the only one who knows. He promised not to tell the others, and I know he won't. He's a really great child.

He did say to me that he wishes he didn't know the truth, but that it's also fun playing along. I told him that he could help fill his sisters stockings and eat the cookies with his dad, so he's excited about that.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:23:35 PM
Nevermind.





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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:26:09 PM
Never had to explain Santa.

I raised my children as I was raised, that Christmas is the birth of the Christ-child.

Stockings are done on December 6.

Advent is observed every day with special events on each Sunday.

The presents under the tree are from mom, dad, sibling, other people. These would be placed before Christmas Eve and the one or two gifts from "Santa" would be placed very late on Christmas Eve.

There were gifts from "Santa" but there was no confusion as these gifts were more so they could tell their friends what "Santa brought". The "magic" was the birth of Christ.

The children knew about St. Nick, and that all the flying around in one night and so many different Santas in the malls were simply people wanting to share the joy of the season.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:27:43 PM

He keeps telling me that he'll know Santa is real if he gets the Lego set.


It sounds like he is really trying to flush out the truth. But, I wouldn't tell him unless/until he asks point blank.

We told our kids that Santa wouldn't give them things without mom and dad's approval. So, if mom or dad thought something was too dangerous, unhealthy or expensive, Santa wouldn't bring the gift.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:34:55 PM
DD asked when she was 11 - she pulled me into a closet when i got home from a party (and had a bit of wine, yikes). DS asked me a couple of weeks ago (he's 7). i told him the truth and believe when they ask, and that is REALLY ask, it's time to spill the beans.

DD was hurt that we had lied to her, DS was intrigued how hard it must have been to "get away with all that sneakin' around".

youngest is 5 and still believes. i have threatened BOTH kids with no christmas gifts PERIOD if they ruin it for him. my bro said to me when i was 5 "okay so we both know santa's not real, if you don't play along, mom and dad will cut us off the santa gifts. so you know what to do". i was like, what do you mean he's not real?!!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 6:51:32 PM

DD was hurt that we had lied to her, DS was intrigued how hard it must have been to "get away with all that sneakin' around".



My dd said: "you mean YOU bought all those presents? YOU?"

I guess I must have a reputation of being stingy! LOL.



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Posted: 11/26/2012 7:04:31 PM
I told my oldest DD when she was 10. Mostly because DH thought Sh was too old and didn't want to buy Santa presents anymore. She was so upset that I made her swear not to tell her younger sister. She got incorporated into the crew and still got a gift from Santa. Youngest DD came to me at 13 and told me she knew but could she still get a gift from Santa anyway. So they get a small Santa gift each year. They also help put out the Santa gifts for their cousins.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 7:18:26 PM
Our boys are 8 and 10 and still fully believe. We do elf on a shelf and all, they are young at heart and i want to keep them that way as long as I can...



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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:10:08 PM
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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:14:53 PM
My daughter just turned 12. She said that some of the kids in her grade believe in Santa and they are teased for it. I do think 12 is a bit old to carry it on....but then again, we don't celebrate Christmas. It's just my hunch that by 11-12, it's time to tell the truth!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:19:34 PM
Lat year my boys were 8 and 6 and we were doing a less is more in terms of gifts. The one big thing I had for them for their Santa gift was also given to them the night before by an uncle.

We had the talk that morning when Santa only left small things. Talked about how loved thy were that someone had the same idea as Santa. We also talked about how it would affect their little brother or others if they said things.

This year they are still making a letter to Santa with their lists


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:34:31 PM
Last year I thought my then 11 yo DS knew. He acted like he did so I let him go with me to pick up a Santa gift for his little sister. I told him that it was her Santa gift so we had to keep it a secret. On the way home I caught him staring out the window crying silently. It literally broke my heart. I ruined Christmas for him. I bought him a snowglobe from target of Santa that had the year and wrote him a note about gaining the responsibility of keeping the Santa Secret and being a helper.

This year my 10 yo nagged me over and over so I finally told him. It went over better but I think he still wishes he didn't know.

We have a rule that they need to believe in the Spirit of Santa or they will only get underwear for Christmas. Santa always brings gifts and stuffs stockings for everyone.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:40:26 PM

DD was hurt that we had lied to her, DS was intrigued how hard it must have been to "get away with all that sneakin' around".



My dd said: "you mean YOU bought all those presents? YOU?"

I guess I must have a reputation of being stingy! LOL.


My just turned 11 year old said that kids at school told her there was no Santa. I asked her what happened and she said "I told them there must be, because NO WAY would you and dad buy us stuff like that!".

Wow. Ouch.

But she still didn't ask...


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:45:28 PM
Ginger-you must've caught me at an emotional moment because that made me cry. I know you didn't mean to make your DS cry, but it's a tender story all the same.

I told DD at 7 since by her questions, I knew she was figuring it out.

DS came upon the stash at about the same age while looking for batteries.

I actually like that they don't believe but Christmas is still magical. It takes the pressure off hiding things and coming up with the most sought after toys.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 10:27:30 AM
Thanks *Delphinium Twinkle*, I actually did check there but it's not available to ship from their website and not available at any of the stores within a 100 mile radius of my home. I probably won't be driving farther than that to get it.

I think this will also be my rule:


We have a rule that they need to believe in the Spirit of Santa or they will only get underwear for Christmas.




I also like this, I might use it this year!


We told our kids that Santa wouldn't give them things without mom and dad's approval. So, if mom or dad thought something was too dangerous, unhealthy or expensive, Santa wouldn't bring the gift.


Ginger21, that broke my heart too. But I think you handled it well!

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Posted: 11/27/2012 10:31:37 AM
There's no explaining. When the kiddo figures it out, I'm happy to discuss it, but I won't tell. Nosiree. That's where the magic is and I'm not spoiling a single second.

My oldest dd managed to believe until she was 10. I'm hoping for that for my little two as well.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 11:20:21 AM
Ok here is a link for it Toy R us

We don't tell. To get your santa gift you have to believe in him. If you do not believe in him there is no gifts.

If you can get your hand on it be for Christmas, Why not do a gift card type thing. Make up a gift card he can give you in a month or so to get the toy. My mom did something like this a long time ago because the big gift i asked for was sold out. It was a gift card from Santa


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I called my local Lego store to see if I could help you out, and she said it was retired 6 months ago. That's why Toys 'R Us doesn't have it in stock online. They show it as an available item because some stores may still have it on their floor.

eBay has a few, if you just watch it carefully and bid you may get it decently priced.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 11:55:42 AM

I figured when it becomes more important to me that she believe than it is to her? It's time for the truth. I was sad that we have no more believers, but to lie about it? To her face? Yeah, not for me.


That's what happened with us. I was vague and evasive for a couple of years when they probably half-knew but if they'd asked outright the most direct question after that I couldn't flat out lie. I think I just smiled when they asked and I was 99% certain they knew anyway.




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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:02:53 PM

We do Santa regardless of whether you think he lives at the North Pole. You just become part of Santa's crew when you find out the secret.


I like this. Maybe he can become part of the crew. I think he'd like that.


It's working beautifully this year with my niece, who will turn 11 three days after Christmas. She figured it out around June, and I high-fived her and welcomed her to the fun side of the Santa game. She and I are going out shopping for a surprise to put under the tree for her brother. She's pretty excited about that -- and VERY proud of her new "mature" status.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:16:13 PM
My nine year old asked about the tooth fairy couple of months ago. I really thought she didn't believe any more and was just playing along, so I acknowleged that I was the tooth fairy at our house. She was fine with that. But a few minutes later, after some quiet thought, she said, "So what about Santa? Are you Santa, too?"

I should add that this was all taking place at Fuddrucker's on a busy Friday night. Older dd (who's known for a couple of years) and DH looked at me expectantly. After some hemming and hawing, trying to gauge whether or not she'd be upset, I told her the truth, that Mommy and Daddy had always loved her enough to be Santa for her and her sister and always would be.

And she promptly burst into tears. In Fuddrucker's on a busy Friday night. In addition to breaking the kid's heart, I got to endure the scorn of various passersby who surely thought I'd just killed her puppy or something.

She still hasn't forgiven me, really. We've tried to make her "part of the crew" and talk to her about getting to be Santa for others, now, but she's not buying it. I think it will be OK on Christmas morning when she sees there are still lots of presents under the tree.

But for right now, I vote for never actually acknowledging the truth, and definitely not at age 9.

Older dd was easier - she was also about 9, but she just came up to me and announced that she knew that Daddy and I were Santa, so she'd be submitting her list straight to me henceforth.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:33:45 PM
I hope I am not the only one surprised at this post - 10-12 year olds still believing! That is amazing.

In my son's kindergarten (2010) there was talk in the classroom about Santa amongst the children and basically this one child told everyone what he knew. I was told the family doesn't celebrate Santa, not sure the truth to this. It was quite a stir. Then came along another girl in 1st grade that announced to the class about the tooth fairy.

So far my 8 year old believes but I am just waiting for more chitchat about it in school.

We are Catholic and working on 1st reconciliation/ten commandments. We emphasize the importance of truth and not lying. I have to admit, I have a personal battle with the Santa magic thing and keeping secrets/lying.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:47:12 PM

I called my local Lego store to see if I could help you out, and she said it was retired 6 months ago. That's why Toys 'R Us doesn't have it in stock online. They show it as an available item because some stores may still have it on their floor.


Thank you PrettyINPeaNK!! (Thank you all for links, etc..) That must be why it's so much on Amazon. I'm actually concerned now because I was thinking for his birthday (in August). I can imagine the price on ebay/Amazon then!


I got to endure the scorn of various passersby who surely thought I'd just killed her puppy or something.


I'm sorry MergeLeft, this made me LOL. I can only imagine the horror!

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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:50:34 PM
Mine have always known.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:53:13 PM
Many here have mentioned that they think doing the Santa thing is lying to their children. I don't understand this. Why is it a lie?

As for when to tell, I say never. I still get Santa gifts. There was never any talk about it and nothing really changed. Not sure why there needs to be a dog and pony show about the 'reality' of Santa.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 1:54:10 PM

In my son's kindergarten (2010) there was talk in the classroom about Santa amongst the children and basically this one child told everyone what he knew. I was told the family doesn't celebrate Santa, not sure the truth to this. It was quite a stir. Then came along another girl in 1st grade that announced to the class about the tooth fairy.
There was a conversation about this a few years ago in our house. My then 8-year-old told my then 10-year-old that Jacob, a kid in his class, said that Santa Claus was just his parents. My older son said, "Jacob? You're going to believe a kid who smells like pee?!?"

My older son is now 13 and made an off-hand comment last week that there is no down-side to believing in Santa. I agree with him.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 2:08:53 PM
I actually want to tell DD about it before she has too many questions. When my Mom told me about it, she presented it as a sort of rite of passage... that now I was old enough to know and to be a part of creating the magic and mystery.


When they ask. DD asked when she was in grade 1. I told her the truth. I also explained the background and that it is one way that people do nice things for others without taking personal credit.

BTW. We do Santa regardless of whether you think he lives at the North Pole. You just become part of Santa's crew when you find out the secret.


This is exactly how it was explained to me and how I plan on explaining it to DD. Santa will always come to our house. He always came when it was just DH and I.




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Posted: 11/27/2012 2:14:39 PM
You tell them when they ask. And just because they then know that there isn't a Santa doesn't mean you have to stop giving them presents. I don't know why some people tell their kids that. Besides, there is no rule that states that just because they know you have to stop writing from Santa on things. My parents still mark some of mine from Santa, I mark some of my husbands from Santa. It's still fun to have Christmas without everyone believing.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 2:56:00 PM
I stumbled across this article today that made me laugh:

Man arrested

I especially like this line:

The incident isn't the first time someone has caused trouble by trying to pretend Santa doesn't exists.

Thought it kind of fit with this thread.

I do think Santa is fun and will continue to play along. I do like this and will probably use it when the time comes.


I also explained the background and that it is one way that people do nice things for others without taking personal credit.

MrsKLewis
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Posted: 11/27/2012 4:05:53 PM
I never told my kids about Santa. So when my oldest started kindergarden, he came home from school and asked me did I know there's a big guy, that wears a suit that has a beard and that bring kids presents on Christmas?!
I had decided against teaching my kids a fantasy vs the truth. That their dad works very hard for what we have. I strive every day to teach my kids how important hard work is. I remember how heart broken I was as a kid learning Santa wasn't real. I remember a Christmas when our electricity had been turned off bc my grandparents(that's who was raising me, at their elderly age) couldn't pay the bill. Being so little and not understanding why Santa didn't bring presents to my house.
So I teach my kids that not everyone has the same beliefs. That the world is full of different beliefs and that's ok. Our belief is that you work hard for what you have(for my kids that working hard at keeping their rooms clean, and working hard on making good grades, etc) and you thank Jesus(bc well it is his bday). Santa is the guy they take a picture with at the mall. He's apart of the Christmas spirit. But it's mommy and daddy that give them presents on Christmas.
Now I struggle with letting my little girl watch the Disney princess movies also! She still hasn't seen all of them. And we have the discussion constantly about important it is to go to college and have a good job, that all should come before marriage. I really believe that growing up watching those movies give girls unrealistic expectations. Life is hard enough without having your heart broken by believing in fantasies. Santa or otherwise.
Hope this made sense, I'm on day 4 of what feels like the flu. Fever makes me a little delirious.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 5:05:56 PM
I am in the when they straight out ask you camp.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 5:36:05 PM
My kids knew by the time they were in 5th grade. If they did not, I would have told them then.

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Posted: 11/28/2012 8:53:42 AM
We don't have a lot of money either to spend but if our kids REALLY want one thing or ask for it over and over, they get it on Christmas morning. My DD6 wants that Baby Butterscotch horse. It's $100! it eats half of her budget but that's what she wants. And I'll be damned if she doesn't get it from "santa" on Christmas morning.
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