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Posted 11/26/2012 by justkristy in NSBR Board
 

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Posted: 11/26/2012 9:51:25 PM
I am hosting my scrapbooking group at my house for our Christmas get together. I offered to host it because I really enjoy hosting parties HOWEVER, since I offered I have received 3 emails for things that people cant eat or things they don't like. I've been told not to have Italian, Mexican or anything spicy. There will be approximately 10-12 ladies.

Any suggestions??

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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:16:12 PM
Sorry...but I think that them e-mailing you with their preferences is rude. Now in the case of severe food allergies-that's different...or if you had ASKED them their preferences...but for people to dictate your menu when you were kind enough to host the party...rude.

I am vegan-no meat, dairy or eggs. When I attend such an event, I will contact the host/hostess and ask her if it is ok if I BRING a food that meets my needs so that he/she doesn't have to fuss over my special dietary requirements. No one has ever said no. I bring enough for everyone to enjoy. If the party has a theme, I'll plan my dish to match, so it blends right in.

I say plan a menu that you will enjoy making and serving. The picky eaters can eat when they get home.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:24:29 PM
I agree with the PP. In the case of SEVERE food allergies please let me know. But just because they don't like it. I'm lactose intolerant, but when I'm invited to someones house, I either eat something light before I go, a yogurt, fruit or even a bowl of cereal (with lactose free milk). I also don't particularly care for fish, but I've been known to got to a fish events and not come home hungry. When in Rome . . .

I would never contact the hostess to tell her not to make something. That's just way Tacky.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:29:31 PM
We would be having Italian or Mexican .


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:32:56 PM
Now that my rant is over . . . Actually you could do a meal of "nibbles". Meat and cheese tray with couple of breads choices, spreads, crackers, antipasto, fruits, deviled eggs, edamame, sushi rolls, etc. You know all that finger foods that you end up eating too much of, because you get a little of this and a little of that. The two or three dessert choices - cookies, cupcake, bars, etc.

I had a family dinner last night for eleven people, I set out nibbles - dip, crackers, brie, grapes, nuts, peppers. We all stood around in the kitchen nibbling before dinner was ready. And to be honest I wasn't hungry for dinner.

ETA: It seems like a lot of work to have nibbles, but most can be done ahead of time.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:46:16 PM
I would be inclined to serve Mexican or Italian too.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:47:45 PM
Appetizer and dessert buffet

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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:50:32 PM
One of the (few) times I actually agree with darkangel.
Italian with mexican infusion.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:50:57 PM
I think it is really rude the invited guests would dictate the menu unless they are allergic. I would also go with just appetizers.



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Posted: 11/26/2012 10:56:15 PM
Just because I HAVEN'T gotten over my rant yet...let's do a hypothetical menu.

Ten ladies are coming:
#1 says no Italian
#2 says no Mexican
#3 says nothing spicey
#4 says no meat (that's me )
#5 says no dairy (that's me again..No, wait!It's SMayer-she's lactose intolerant. I'm off the hook)
#6 says no gluten (she doesn't have celiac disease, she's just trying to lose weight)
#7 says no carbs, she's on a high protein diet
#8 says no salad because she read about salmonella in lettuce
#9 says no Chinese because MSG gives her a headache
#10 says no sugar because she's doing Sugar Buster's

There. I've got it all figured out for you. You may serve celery and chick peas. Everyone will be happy.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 11:03:00 PM
I say you send out an email: "Due to an excessive number of special menu requests, this is now a potluck. Everyone bring a dish to pass and if there isn't anything you can eat, well, then I guess it's your own fault. Hostess will provide water-- your choice of bottled or tap. See you on the 15th!"

(On a more realistic note: I think I would serve fruit, veggies, deli meats and cheese, and small silver dollar rolls, with a couple of small bowls of mayo and mustard. Maybe just sandwiches and fruit and a bag of chips dumped in a bowl.)

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Posted: 11/26/2012 11:25:41 PM
Make Mexican lasagna

I agree that it is rude to make requests.

Do you want a sitdown meal or finger foods?

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Posted: 11/27/2012 12:08:48 AM
What about doing a baked potato bar? You can have lots of options for toppings and then everyone can have some choice? Good luck!

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Posted: 11/27/2012 12:15:37 AM

I say you send out an email: "Due to an excessive number of special menu requests, this is now a potluck. Everyone bring a dish to pass and if there isn't anything you can eat, well, then I guess it's your own fault. Hostess will provide water-- your choice of bottled or tap. See you on the 15th!"

(On a more realistic note: I think I would serve fruit, veggies, deli meats and cheese, and small silver dollar rolls, with a couple of small bowls of mayo and mustard. Maybe just sandwiches and fruit and a bag of chips dumped in a bowl.)

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Posted: 11/27/2012 3:05:30 AM
Soup like tomato
Green salad
Sandwiches in croissants
Cookies , brownies , fruit



Chicken chili or beef chili
Baked potatoes or corn bread
Or
Penne pasta with chicken and fettuccini sauce
Garlic bread
Use rotisserie chicken from store.
Or
Have everyone pay in advance and order Panera.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 3:22:16 AM

I've been told

I really just can't get past this part, and agree with

I say plan a menu that you will enjoy making and serving. The picky eaters can eat when they get home.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 5:51:56 AM
I think an appetizer menu is the way to go. It's the only way, besides the potluck that everyone will have something to eat.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:13:56 AM
Since most of those sound like preferences rather than needs, I would go with what you wanted to serve in the first place. I would be inclined to go the Mexican lasagna route but...



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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:21:39 AM
I don't think no italian, spicy, or mexican food is overly picky.

To give the OP's friends the benefit of the doubt, maybe she asked. If they are her scrapbooking group, I'd assume they are her friends. They may have a party every year. She may have emailed back and forth about the party and asked.

I don't know why the Op put HOWEVER in all capps, I don't find any of those to be a big deal. A christmas party isn't generally a big mexican feast at my house. I don't think anyone will faint if you have an italian appetizer.

Relax. Make good food, it is only for 10 or 12 people. Have fun with your friends. Chill.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:22:48 AM
First off, guests demanding certain menus guarantee a big old "FU" from me. I'd be doing the Mexican Lasagna with a hella bunch of habaneros in it. Just to send a message.

It's one thing to call and say, "I'm allergic to nuts/gluten/dairy/etc" or "I'm vegetarian/vegan/celiac/alien" combined with, "can I help out and bring something so that you don't have to worry about me?"

I agree with the person who said send an email out about it being a potluck and the reason being that there were so many special requests made.

But serious... F off to all your scrap buddies who were so rude to demand their menu. If they want a specific menu, THEY should host.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:32:50 AM

There. I've got it all figured out for you. You may serve celery and chick peas. Everyone will be happy.

Sorry, that won't work if I'm invited to this dinner because often chick peas upset my stomach. Also, I do have celiac disease so I've taken care of #6 in bgpa's list.

I'd serve appetizers and be done.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:37:40 AM
What about soups and bread? You could make a vegan option and maybe 2 others. Surely everyone could find something they like.

That said, I think it's rude of your guests. I detest cheese and will not eat it and yet have been invited to dinners more than once where I ate a plate of lasagna so picky eaters can do it.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:45:17 AM
Just to clarify.. We normally have our Christmas party at the local community building where we scrap each month but I recently left my job and I'm at home now so I thought it would be fun to have it here at my house.. a little more "Christmasy & cozier". We have in the past ordered out, or done pot luck. Everyone else except one retired lady works full time and since the party will be on a Friday evening I offered to do the food. Some felt that they would be taking advantage of my kindness by me doing the food myself but I really enjoy cooking and planing a party so I told them I would love to do it. As soon as it was decided that I would do the food the next day I received 3 different emails. The person that does not like italian - her Mom which is part of the group as well emailed me to remind me that her daughter does not like pizza, pasta or pretty much anything italian. The other emails were within a couple of hours of each other. I almost feel like there was discussions amongst the three... its just odd that the emails were so close together. I did not ask for suggestions or if there was any special requests.

I think I will go with finger foods, meat trays and make a soup or two... surely people will be able to eat something out of that.

Thanks for all your suggestions!

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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:48:46 AM

Appetizer and dessert buffet


I like this idea.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 6:59:56 AM
Wow that was so rude. People were invited to your house and you are feeding them and they are making demands. People have no manners.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 7:31:35 AM
I like the idea of having soups. I'd do 3 different ones, chili (is that "mexican"?), Loaded baked potato, and vegetarian vegetable soup with or without pasta. Serve with salad and a good crusty bread.



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Posted: 11/27/2012 7:45:20 AM

Sorry...but I think that them e-mailing you with their preferences is rude. Now in the case of severe food allergies-that's different...or if you had ASKED them their preferences...but for people to dictate your menu when you were kind enough to host the party...rude.



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Seriously, I would make exactly what I planned to make, taking into consideration allergies only.


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Posted: 11/27/2012 7:45:59 AM
Maybe they always ordered out or had a potluck because as friends they know their preferences. I would appreciate the heads up and be glad my friends didn't want me to throw a party everyone hated. I wouldn't have made my preferences known, but maybe they figure you are close enough.

If it is too much bother, go back to the old way so everyone gets what they like.

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Posted: 11/27/2012 8:46:48 AM
Soup and sandwiches, fresh veggies, maybe a couple salads. Something like a spinach dip. Then a couple pans of squares for dessert.

Hopefully everyone can find something in that that works for them!

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Posted: 11/27/2012 9:09:32 AM
I'd respond to each of those emails with something like this, Would you like me to suggest something you could bring to accommodate this? I'll get back to you later this week with a few suggestions. Looking forward to getting together! Suzy-Q.




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Posted: 11/27/2012 10:16:10 AM
I think my response to their emails would be "I've already decided what I will be fixing. If you would like to bring a dish to share you are more then welcome."

Are you going to be scrapping too? I like the idea of appetizers and desserts. If they leave hungry they can eat when they get home.

I just wanted to add that I'm allergic to gluten and would never call/email ahead to a host and ask for a special dish to be made for me. That's rude.


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