is my husband the only one that is a baby when they are sick?

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Posted: 1/13/2013 11:53:07 AM
I swear maybe i should dig him a hole outside and bury him. Really i know your not feeling well your on your 4 th day of your zpac. You have laid around every night since Monday. Plus all day yesterday and now he is upstairs.

My dd has had a friend over and taxi driving them try and keep the house quite. I have a ton of crap i.want to get done around the house far as cleaning.

I cant believe i posted earlier this week about feeling guilty about going on a scrapbooking weekend by myself! Ha ha not after this really long week of him being sick!!!!
Its amazing when i am sick crap still needs to get done around the house.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 11:54:14 AM
No. It's totally a guy thing.

I told my husband, "If you cut off a finger or toe, you'd just look down and shrug. But you get the sniffles and swear you're dying. All I want to do is kill you." Haha.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 11:56:13 AM
thats definitely a man thing. Why do you think they call a simple cold "man flu"? they don't have a cold , they are dying!!


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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:01:08 PM
You know, this kinda thing really irritates me. And women totally let men get away with it by saying "It's a guy thing." Because it does not HAVE to be a guy thing.

My dh does not do this. In fact, the only way I know he is really, really sick is when he goes to bed for awhile, with no desire to have anyone talk to him or take care of him. He just wants to be left alone for awhile, so he can get better enough to get on with his life.

Even when he really did have the flu recently, he kept going, denying it was the flu and insisting it was just a bad cold, until I got it, too, very suddenly and soon after he did. Before that, he would not admit to just how bad he was feeling.



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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:07:13 PM
My DH is like that too. Luckily, DS13 is much better.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:11:37 PM
Oh my gosh, I was wondering if I would actually be arrested if I killed him today.

I am very tired of him and his cough.

It's all just nonsense anyway!

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:20:59 PM
OMG! YES!!'s not a matter of 'letting them get away with it', when my DH starts whining, it's always met with 'suck it up' or 'deal with it', but it doesn't stop him. You'd think the end of the world was coming when he gets little cough, throat tickle, sneeze. I swear the man is a hypochondriac....or I would if my brothers didn't do the same thing....mostly, I do have one brother who will probably die because he refuses to believe he's really sick, s o he refuses to go to the doctor until it's life threatening. I think some men are just hardwired to be babies...or their moms spoiled them rotten when they were little!

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:21:26 PM
My husband is the same way! He had the flu the first week of the new year and all I heard for 5 days was whining and moaning. Seriously...just quit being so vocal! Do you think they realize how much noise they are making? Be quiet!!!!!

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:29:31 PM
Omg- I could kill my DH right now! We both have a cold- he's been in bed since Friday evening and I have done everything I normally do... laundry, vacuuming, cleaning, etc.

WTF? What a baby.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:32:01 PM
no, it's not just your husband. (unfortunately)

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:32:09 PM
My DH is the exact same say. Drives me nuts!

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:32:44 PM
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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:36:08 PM
My husband has never had more than a bad cold or sinus infection since we've been together. I definitely cut him slack when he is sick but he isn't a complainer at all. He still helps out to an extent but when a person is sick I'd rather they stay in bed, rest and get better.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:44:13 PM
Did you call his mom to let her know?

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:48:53 PM
Mine just went through a respiratory infection. Able to work but whined every night, like a baby until his meds kicked in.

He was worse with this than in August with a heart attack two catheterizations and two stents


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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:49:28 PM
Hummm sending husband to be with his mother...Could be a good idea even if she did pass away 3 years ago.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:57:11 PM

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Posted: 1/13/2013 12:58:03 PM
OMG, yes! This is my dh! It drives me crazy! One of my sons is the same way, but the youngest is not. My dh and I can have the exact same thing and I do all of my normal stuff and go to work. He on the other hand will miss work and not do a thing around the house.

For the longest time I thought it was because he was a premmie when he was born and was really sheltered when he was little, but his older brother acts the same way.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:02:52 PM
It's a guy thing! (Sorry, ScrapSuzy.) Both my exH and the guy I'm dating call in sick and crawl into bed for days if they get so much as a little cold.

Nothing changes for me unless I have a temp over 101 or doctor's orders to stay out of work.



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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:07:12 PM
My hubby is this way too... total baby.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:13:04 PM
It's definitely a guy thing. Everyone I know complains about it. It's not like it's something I "let" him do. I always say "suck it up", but it still happens.

What's bad about the guys doing this is that we tend to ignore them when something serious DOES happen. My DH complains so much about sniffles and mild upset stomach that I didn't take it seriously right away when he had stomach pain that turned out to be a bowel obstruction! I felt terribly guilty, but he honestly acted the same as he does for a little runny nose. He could have frickin' died. Believe me, he got the lecture about the boy who cried wolf, but he still gets all whiny about the small stuff.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:26:53 PM
If it is a "guy thing" then I guess my guy is unique. DH and I have been married for almost 23 years. I think I have seen him go to bed during the day for a couple of hours once in all those years, due to being sick. I think he went to bed an hour or so early a couple of times. Otherwise, he is usually up and doing whatever he needs to do. He might be moving around slower than normal but he is still doing what he needs to do. I will make him let me go to the store for medications so that he isn't out spreading his germs.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:33:17 PM
Sending him to his mom's is not an option she passed away December 27. But i will say its crossed my mind to put him out of his misery. Lol

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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:36:36 PM
My dh is the opposite. I have to push him to take it easy when he's sick...he prefers to just power through it.



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Posted: 1/13/2013 1:48:54 PM
My husband TOTALLY used to do this. I'd come home and the entire house would be shrouded in darkness at 7:00PM and he'd be in bed (aka: on his deathbed) I could almost hear the bells tolling for him, he'd take a sick day or two from work (luckily he has a LOT of days he can take). He'd moan and pathetically ask me to do things to help him. Meanwhile I'd have the exact same cold--one of us got it from the other-- and go to work, and also do laundry, cooking, cleaning, shopping, whatever needed to get done.

I teased him a little about the "man cold," and he'd roll his eyes, but I think there was some point when he realized that I felt at least as bad as he did but wasn't dissolving into a pile of self-pity. I showed him This Commercial, which somehow actually seemed to have an impact! Over the past few years, I have noticed a big difference. When I ask him how he's feeling when sick now, I get "not great, but I'll be okay," and there's not much whining anymore.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 3:17:36 PM
LOL, My husband gives me a hard time because I get sinus infections, ear infections, and bronchitis easily. Always have. I put off going in to the doctor, but when I do, I am really, really sick and get meds and get better.

He was "sick" last year and thought he was dying. He finally went into the doctor. (He hates the medical bills) OMG, he *wasn't* sick enough for meds.

Ya, I hold that over his head when either of us isn't feeling well. At least I have always been sick enough for meds.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 3:36:10 PM
You are not alone. My DH is a terrible sick person. He can't stand to have a stuffy nose. So he blows and blows and blows until it bleeds. Then he gets aggravated because he has a bloody nose and walks around with a blood soaked tissue packed in his nostrils. Then repeat.

The post nasal drip bugs him just as much so it means hacking, harking, growling and making any obnoxious sounds to make it go away.

This goes on ALL FREAKING DAY AND NIGHT! I've been on the couch for the last two nights trying not to catch his crud and get a little shut eye but with all that freaking noise who can!?

He came home from work Friday night at 6pm. Got up Sat at 7am ate and went back to bed til noon. Got up for an hour went back to bed for several hours until he got a call from the commander letting him know his flight has been pushed back from Monday to Sunday.

Today I had to drive him to the airport because he's too sick to drive the 70 miles. When I said goodbye to him at the gate he had that same look our youngest gets when she feels like poo. Gotta love those military orders! He'd have to be dead to get out of training.

He's a big baby when he is sick which thankfully isn't but maybe once a year for him but he still gets the job done when it has to be. Laundry and dishes aren't a have to LoL that's what we have kids for and Papa Johns or grilled cheese & soup for dinner. Done as he says.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 4:35:45 PM
Sometimes I wish he was. Mine is one of those stoic types, so no matter what he has it's "nothing". So he'll take longer to get better, because he carries on as usual.

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Posted: 1/13/2013 8:11:12 PM
Oh lordly, He wants to go for a walk in the frigid night air. NO please go take a nice warm shower and GO TO BED.

(this is the conversation going on in my house)

On the brighter side
I am making him a huge pot of chicken broth. I hope it helps.


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Posted: 1/13/2013 9:27:55 PM
Can I add that when I'm sick dh gets angry and cranky? He gets an attitude if I ask him to do things I would normally do and we end up arguing. Every.damn.time.

Can you tell I'm sick right now?

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Posted: 1/14/2013 8:45:22 AM
I think there are a handful of husbands who are NOT like yours. Everyone I know has a husband who becomes an almost ill-tempered infant when they get even the slightest cold. It is amazing, but no matter how I know the wife, they have all mentioned how much they hate when their husband becomes ill.

My husband was being particularly dramatic about illness once and I asked him if he was well enough to go to the funeral home and help plan his service since he clearly was not going to make it. He sniffed a bit and said he'd just suffer in silence, lol! I was thinking YES, PLEASE!

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Posted: 1/14/2013 9:10:04 AM
Are you kidding? Every single woman I know has a husband that's a huge baby when they're sick. You're not alone.

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Posted: 1/14/2013 9:13:38 AM
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Nope, not alone at all. (See my post about my colonoscopy-fearing, going a day without "Food" fearing man story!)

You might as well have 15 kids when the "man" is sick. Hugs to you!


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Posted: 1/14/2013 9:53:11 AM
I discovered I am not a patient person when it comes to "man flu." At all. So the first time it happened, my dh was complaining to my mother (who loved him) about how I wasn't very nice. She came over and babied him. I left. They both made me crazy.

Interestingly enough, that was the last time he tried it. Apparently if he couldn't get the attention from me and me only, it wasn't worth the effort.


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Posted: 1/14/2013 10:27:33 AM
Man Cold
Call the paramedics!

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Posted: 1/14/2013 10:48:00 AM
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Posted: 1/14/2013 10:58:17 AM
Mine isn't a baby... He just sleeps a lot. That's usually the only reason I know he isn't feeling well.
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