Why is my cat such an a$$hole?

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Posted: 1/26/2013 2:39:06 PM
I have a cat who just turned one, and an 11 year old cat. I love them both dearly. But the younger one is constantly annoying the older one and - the biggest problem - chasing him away from his food. Two bowls, whichever bowl the old one goes to, the young one ignores his own and chases the old one. Makes me crazy. I have to stand there and play hall monitor so that the old one gets to eat. Has anyone else dealt with this - is there any way to stop this behavior?


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Posted: 1/26/2013 2:39:51 PM
I would say, because he is a cat. I'm not a cat fan though.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 2:42:34 PM

Has anyone else dealt with this - is there any way to stop this behavior?


Feed them in separate rooms. At the same time. With closed doors. Seriously. We had to do this years ago when we had a cat and got a new one. Eventually, they were OK enough to eat from the same bowl. (We got cute pictures.)

It's important to do this because the younger one is undoubtedly stressing out the older one. The younger one is trying to become Alpha Cat, and that's not really fair. They'll get better.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 2:45:16 PM
I had to feed the animals in separate rooms for a bit, too. It got better before too long.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 2:47:15 PM

I'm not a cat fan though.
Not to hijack my own post, but just curious - I had this conversation just the other day with a friend - did you ever HAVE a cat? Because I never did until I was in my 30's, and I never liked them either. But then my DH wanted to get one and we did, and we've been huge cat lovers ever since. She had the same experience. So I'm just wondering if that's true of other people (i.e. many people who don't like cats might be converts if they owned one, LOL).


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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:01:52 PM

I'm not a cat fan though.


I am not a cat fan. Our family has owned many because the kids and dh love them. I can NOT stand the sound of purring. It is like nails on the chalk board to me.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:05:49 PM

Why is my cat such an a$$hole?


Because he's a cat

We have only had one cat that acted like that and we did have to start monitoring him while the older one ate, although the older one finally got fed up with it (no pun intended) and started smacking him out of the way.

So do we get to see a picture of the little a$$hole?



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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:10:16 PM
I'm only a mild cat fan because I did own a cat once and he was an a$$hole. He held grudges. He'd get scolded for something, and then hours later, when you were sitting on the couch, innocently watching tv or something, he'd come out of nowhere and BAM! Teeth in the arm.

He was awesome until he got neutered. I don't think he ever forgave us for taking away his nuts.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:15:31 PM
Because he's a cat, seriously.

Feed them separately.

And I know it's too late now, but I always tell people to not mix cats of such age differences because the older one is going to get picked on. It's not fair to them. I had the same experience with a couple cats and I always felt so bad for the older one that his last year and a half were spent getting his ass kicked on a daily basis by some young punk.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:16:16 PM
Aren't most cats a$$holes? I think that's why most people either love or hate them.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:19:03 PM
Yes, I love them for exactly that reason! I like my dog and all but she's soooo needy. I'm totally a cat person, always have been.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:26:24 PM
We are going through this now. I found a kitten in our woodpile this summer and my DH fell in love so we kept him. He is constantly attacking our 12 year old cat, which I thought was a sign of him going into heat so we fixed him. Didn't help at all So now he spends the nights in the bathroom so that I stop getting woken up three times a night from the hissing.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 5:58:23 PM
I've always loved/had cats. They aren't ALL assholes, but they are, in my opinion, more like people in personality than dogs. So yeah, you'll meet some assholes along the way, lol.

First thing you should know: Mixing really young cats and really old ones is not the greatest thing. The kitten wants to PLAY. ALL the time. The older one wants to be left alone, again, all the time. They won't mix well. I suggest what many others above have done, feed them in separate rooms. That is all i can think to do.

Your older cat is at the age where he really will be peeved that you brought such a younger one in. He won't feel the need to display dominance, he'll be too mad at you, plus he likely has some aches and pains (not to mention attitude traits) that will prevent him from wanting to "fight". You need to look out for your older cat right now, the little one is just being a little cat, not an asshole..

I brought our second cat, a 7 week old kitten, into the house when my big boy was two years old. Because he was the alpha, still young, and had his strength, I absolutely stepped out if the way and let HIM teach the kitten the rules/who was boss. Most of the time, cats will sort the pecking order out on their own..


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Posted: 1/26/2013 8:02:39 PM

And I know it's too late now, but I always tell people to not mix cats of such age differences because the older one is going to get picked on. It's not fair to them. I had the same experience with a couple cats and I always felt so bad for the older one that his last year and a half were spent getting his ass kicked on a daily basis by some young punk.


Oh, I don't know. There's a 12 year age gap between my youngest and oldest cats and we've never had an issue. The old just just schooled the young one early on by pinning her to the floor a few times and the younger got the picture. I think it has more to do with personality than age. A timid cat is more easily pushed around than a more gregarious one


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Posted: 1/26/2013 8:06:47 PM


did you ever HAVE a cat? Because I never did until I was in my 30's, and I never liked them either. But then my DH wanted to get one and we did, and we've been huge cat lovers ever since. She had the same experience. So I'm just wondering if that's true of other people (i.e. many people who don't like cats might be converts if they owned one, LOL).
I've had 3 cats and two of my best friends have cats. Still don't like them.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 8:27:13 PM
I'm not a cat fan and we have 3. I can't bear for them to touch me -- it makes my hair stand on end.
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Posted: 1/26/2013 8:37:18 PM

So I'm just wondering if that's true of other people (i.e. many people who don't like cats might be converts if they owned one, LOL).


Yep, became a convert when kitty appeared on our doorstep and waltzed right in like she belonged there. Turns out she did. Country cat whose people moved to the city. We took her in fed/cared for her until she passed on many years later. And adopted a few others over the years too, along with birds, bowzers, fish and a Canada goose. The cats got along okay, but the Canada goose was jealous and would chase the cats if she saw they were getting attention that belonged to her. It was quite funny to watch. . . oh the good old days.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 8:53:40 PM
That's too funny. We have the opposite problem out old one constantly picks on the kitten. I play hall monitor too but just so I can assure the kitten gets to eat . So my old cat is the a$$. Ours happen to be very similar in age to yours.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:53:17 PM
"I'm not a cat fan and we have 3. I can't bear for them to touch me -- it makes my hair stand on end.
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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:56:58 PM
Geez, it's not like I kick them or anything -- I just don't like cats.

I suppose I could have told my children no, no cats. But I didn't.

The cats are well loved. Just not by me.




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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:57:40 PM
"First thing you should know: Mixing really young cats and really old ones is not the greatest thing. The kitten wants to PLAY. ALL the time. The older one wants to be left alone, again, all the time. They won't mix well. I suggest what many others above have done, feed them in separate rooms. That is all i can think to do. "

This has not been the case in our home.
The kittens are nurtured by the older cats.
The olders tend to protect the kittens from the middle cats. The middles seems to have some sibling rivalry when the kittens first come home.

We usually end up getting kittens when our oldest cat is about 12.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:05:15 PM
Now this is funny, take it with a grain of salt...

I just thought of the real reason cats are a$$holes-- you know how they turn and show you their best side?

That's really their "best" side, lol.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:52:33 AM

He was awesome until he got neutered. I don't think he ever forgave us for taking away his nuts




I was never a cat person until I adopted the one I have now... Not even sure it happened - was at work, three hours later I was at home with a runt kitten sitting on my bedside table... Spent that night just staring at her and texting my cat friend questions like, "she has bumps on her stomach - should I take her to the vet?" (Answer: no, girl cat = cat nipples)

She's that perfect fairytale cat I keep thinking about adopting another one to keep her company for when my work changes and I'm out of the house more, but worry the new one will be an a$$


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