|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:27:13 PM|
The peas are always quick to give advice to see a counselor. I've been very depressed since my son died 16 months ago. I would love to talk to someone but my insurance doesn't cover therapy. I can be referred to a counselor for 4 one hour sessions but that isn't enough.
The peas know everything. What can I do?
I've talked to my doctor and he said to call my provider.
I really don't want to go to a group grief meeting because my issue involves more than the loss of my son - its complicated.
Any advice you can give will be appreciated.
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:29:27 PM|
Does your employer have an EAP? I know that ours gave us 5 free each year before it had to go to insurance.
My only other suggestion is to cut back somewhere and pay for it out of pocket and maybe only go every other week. It depends on where you live how much that would be.
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:32:48 PM|
You might want to check with a local hospice organization. Many in the area where I live offer free grief counseling, whether or not your loved one was in hospice.
There also may be counseling services available on a sliding scale. You might want to check with your county health department.
Good luck to you. I will keep you in my thoughts.
|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:34:26 PM|I think you have no choice but to pay out of pocket. The good news is, lots of therapists will do a sliding scale based on what you can afford. Bigger practices also sometimes have graduate interns, and you could usually get a pretty good rate with those.
Sorry to hear about your son
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:42:53 PM|
Have you contacted hospice? I know your son's death was sudden (if I remember correctly, it was an auto accident?), and hospice wasn't involved, but often they have grief counseling available either for free or for a low fee.
I'm so sorry about your son (((hugs))).
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:44:14 PM|
I am so very sorry for your loss and depression. Praying that you will find a wonderful therapist to help you through - and yes we Peas are here for you for moral support. Another suggestion - try contacting the United Way to see if they can refer you to a counselor. We have some issues that require therapy in my family too, and it just isn't fair that mental health is not acknowledged as part of physical health. Wishing you well.
|Posted: 2/10/2013 8:46:46 PM|Thank you.
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 9:17:44 PM|If you live in or near a large enough city, you can also dial 211 and reach a centralized service for assistance. They not only have resources for things like food pantries and utility assistance but also for low/no-cost counseling.
Another avenue is The Compassionate Friends. This organization is specifically for parents/families who have lost children. And while I understand your situation is unique, so do they. They can and will do wvwerything in their power to assist you. Hugs!
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 9:23:32 PM|Could a support group help? Many areas have Bereaved Families associations such as this one. There might be something similar local to you?
|Posted: 2/10/2013 9:27:00 PM|
The hospice option is a good one. Churches and some church based social services (Lutheran Social Services and Catholic Social Services come to mind) offer free counseling to those with financial needs. Also, some county mental health departments will do the same, and it is totally appropriate for you to use any of those services.
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|Posted: 2/10/2013 9:44:19 PM|
Does your community have a family services liaison? Our town helps residents find counseling and if insurance is a problem they will help with the cost.
|Posted: 2/10/2013 10:13:59 PM|
Take the 4 your ins offers. Tell the counselor you only have 4. I got 5 and she gave me invaluable advice and techniques to use for my panic/anxiety and depression. I also see a PhD. and if I was doing badly see would fax him and he would see the very next day.
She also offered to take the 60.00 my ins. was paying her. I paid oop and just had to do without for those weeks. Your mental health is just as important as physical health.
I live in spring hill. fl...if you are anywhere near peamail me. We can talk.
|Posted: 2/11/2013 2:36:42 AM|
Cindy, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. That has to be so difficult.
When my brother and nephew were killed by a drunk driver I was devastated. My brother was my best friend and the one person I could always count on. My nephew was only 17 and a really great kid with a bright future ahead of him.
Within weeks after they died, my own 21 y/o dd suffered a life altering brain injury while riding her bike to school and my 15 y/o son was expelled from HS for smoking pot at lunch a week after we brought her home from the hospital.
About 6 months later Hospice was recommended. I went and the counselor helped me to grieve all of these losses plus the loss of the marriage and family I had dreamed of. She was excellent and it really helped to get through that time.
In our county, Hospice is free to anyone who has lost someone.
I hope you can find a counselor to talk to.
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|Posted: 2/11/2013 2:56:22 AM|
I'm so sorry about your son.
I agree with the advice to take the first 4 sessions to get started on this, you can then be working on where to carry on over those 4 weeks. I have gone through counselling and I was amazed at what could be achieved even in the first session, although of course it can be very painful to open this Pandora's box of emotions.
My Church provides counselling for free, although most people like to give a donation to the Church. Is that an option for you?
I hope you are able to find some support and peace of mind.
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|Posted: 2/11/2013 3:31:15 AM|
As soon as I saw your name I thought about your son.
I am sending you a big hug. Keep reaching out until you find the support you need and deserve.
I have missed you hanging out here.
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|Posted: 2/11/2013 6:04:34 AM|
I was able to get some excellent counseling via the Family Recovery Center at the County Level. I was able to receive a handful of free to me sessions (and it was enough) through a well buried bit of coverage through my employer but if I hadn't I understand the fee would have been reasonable.
I would suggest you call your county health dept and ask. If they aren't the right place they may be able to refer you to who to call. The funeral home may also have leads. Perhaps your church or any local church you feel comfortable contacting? Don't feel badly if you aren't a member. Just call.
I too used to eye roll the "seek counseling" until I needed it and it helped so much.
Prayers sent that you find a great one - and comfort and Peace.
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|Posted: 2/11/2013 6:10:03 AM|
Take the 4 sessions to start. From there, most counselors have a sliding scale fee for out of pocket payees. Also, if you live near a school with a Master's in Counseling program, there may be interns needing hours or practicing counselors needing hours for licensure that will conduct free or discounted sessions.
Hope you find the help you need!
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|Posted: 2/12/2013 3:43:25 AM|
I see others have already given info. on how to get help, so I will say prayers that you are able to find a counselor, and also wanted to send you many ((( Hugs))))