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Is it in vogue to have a baby girl's ears pierced? A friend wants my opinion, but I'm an old lady and I have no idea what younger mothers are doing. The baby is 2 months currently. Thanks for your input!! | |
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Not my babies. |
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I know that it is very popular among hispanics. When I've asked hispanic moms no one has ever been able to give me an answer other than they don't want people to think their girls are boys.
I asked my sister in law why she pierced her infant daughter's ears, but she never answered my question. Just thought she was interesting case because she fretted over the pain and side-effects of vaccinations, but pierced both her daugthers' ears at 2 months. | |
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It is traditional in some subgroups.
I don't come from any such tradition and did not do it. My daughter got hers pierced when she had been asking for a while and was old enough to care for them herself, at ten. | |
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I will do it as soon as a doctor says its okay. Mine were done at 3. | |
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My niece had hers done as an infant and her earring holes are not even near the same position. They were great when they were done, but I guess she grew at different rates?
My daughter had hers done at two years (after weeks of asking and watching others get theirs done) and has had no problems. My other daughter had hers done when she was about nine or ten. |
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we pierced our dd's at 6 months, the youngest our pediatrician's office would do it. she's never had a problem. though I will say, even with her ears pierced, she was still called a boy as an infant. | |
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We have a large Hispanic population in our area and it is very, very common with babies in that group.
It's more common with the Caucasian children to wait until school age; sometime between K and 4th grade most girls in that group get their ears pierced.
With my girls I waited until they were old enough to take care of their ears and earrings all by themselves. I chose 12 because it's a big transition year and it helps them feel more grown up. My middle girl had hers done in January and she gets to change her earrings for the first time any day now. She's excited. |
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I wouldn't do it, because I wouldn't want to deal with any potential issues that might cause discomfort to the baby. I also think babies are perfectly adorable without earrings.
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I personally don't care for it and never have. I wouldn't do it, no matter what other people are doing. | |
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I agree that piercing a baby's ears is mainly a Hispanic thing, though my cousin had her baby girl's ears pierced when she was about 6 months or so.
I waited until my daughter was old enough to ask. She was six. | |
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It's a matter of personal choice, personally I would do it! | |
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My daughter is 25 she had hers done at 6 months and it was great because she never messed with them or had any problems.
My granddaughter had hers down at 6 months with the okay of the Doctor. She has had no problems either. |
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I don't care for it. I'd wait until they ask for it themselves. |
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| Posted: 2/11/2013 12:15:17 PM
If I was making the decision, I don't think I would necessarily care what other people were doing.
IMO, babies don't need jewelry, especially when it requires holes in their tiny fresh earlobes. I waited until DD asked for them herself - it was a very memorable "big girl" moment for her (I think she was 9?).
My opinion as well. |
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I personally don't care for it and never have. I wouldn't do it, no matter what other people are doing.
Same here and I have 2 Latina dd's. My oldest got hers done when she was 12 but let them close up. My 13 yr has talked about having hers done but hasn't really decided for sure yet.
I had mine done when I was 16 and it was fun doing them when I was older.
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myshelly
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I think it is tacky and trashy and wrong, sorry.
The ONLY people who do it here are of a particular ethnicity/socioeconomic group.
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Personally I don't like to see it on children at all, but here in Spain they do it on the maternity ward before the babies leave hospital..only if the parents want it done of course! |
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| Posted: 2/11/2013 12:57:59 PM
I don't like it. My DD got hers pierced when she asked, at age 6. |
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I think that the child should be able to make that decision themselves.
Totally agree. Many people tried to get us to have our identical triplet girls ears pierced. I am thankful we didn't as one of my girls is a true tomboy and wants nothing to do with it. She is 18, does not have her ears pierced, and still has no desire to wear makeup.  It's who she is, and I am thankful we allowed her to choose not us for her. |
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I think it is tacky and trashy and wrong, sorry.
The ONLY people who do it here are of a particular ethnicity/socioeconomic group.
Holy crap, that's rude. 
OP, that is a totally personal decision, I personally am not a fan of baby piercings.
When I had my girl, my DH's family (who are more recently immigrated)kept asking me over and over when I was going to pierce Dahlia's ears.
I finally had to tell his sister "look, she's had two surgeries and more needles stuck in her than I care to remember, look at her, she's scarred everywhere! I'm sorry, but no way I'm going to punch two more holes in her just for some jewelry". That shut her up. 
I got my own ears pierced when I was 19. It didn't hurt that much intially, really..but for weeks after it sure was sensitive, sore. It *did* hurt. I feel sorry for babies who get their ears pierced knowing that.  |
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I have three dd's and I wanted them to be at least 5yo before they had their ears pierced. All three wanted them done around that age, so it worked out. My middle dd waited the longest. She was almost 6.
My oldest dd went in for a second piercing when her youngest sister had her ears pierced. |
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I think it is tacky and trashy and wrong, sorry.
The ONLY people who do it here are of a particular ethnicity/socioeconomic group.
You just live to say shit like that, don't you? Why didn't you just put "tacky and trashy and wrong" because POOR BROWN PEOPLE do it.
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I don't see it very often at all around here. When I do see it done it's mostly Hispanic families. It seems more common to have it done in elementary school after the child is asking for them to be pierced. |
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I have a baby girl and would not have her ears pierced. I, personally, will wait until she is old enough to ask and go from there. It alters her body and I want her to be able to make that decision for herself. | |
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We had my girls ears pierced right around their first birthdays. My DDIL & DS had both our grandaughters' ears done around their first birthdays. None fussed for more than a minute, didn't mess with them and healed quickly and well.
No idea what my DD will decide about my youngest DGD but I know she's already thinking about it.
We are neither exceptionally poor nor are we brown. We just like the look. |
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You just live to say shit like that, don't you? Why didn't you just put "tacky and trashy and wrong" because POOR BROWN PEOPLE do it.
Please.
How do I "live" to say stuff like this? What else have I said like this?
I did not say and I do not think it is trashy *because* "poor brown people" (your words) do it.
I think it is tacky and trashy and wrong for A LOT of reasons, but that isn't one of them.
I stated my opinion (which is that it is trashy) and then stated a fact (which was that I have only ever seen people of one ethnicity do that to their babies). There was no *because*.
I don't think it's rude to have an opinion and I don't think it's wrong to state an observation.
Shrug.
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This is a subject near to my heart.
My girls are now 18 & 16. My MIL really was hoping I would pierce the girls' ears when they were babies. I opted not to.
I have never had my ears pierced because I didn't want them pierced. I really wanted my girls to make that choice on their own. My husband and I told them that when that when they turned 13 (just seemed like a special birthday to do something special and mature enough to know if they really wanted them done and take care of them themselves at that point.) they could get their ears pierced if they wanted to.
My 18 year old got her ears pierced when she was 16. She had a second set of holes pierced in them this summer.
My 16 year old has absolutely NO desire for pierced ears.
It was important to me that they make that choice.
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I'm old fashion on this one. I don't like it. There is also a big Hispanic population where I am at and it is very popular so I see it a lot. I am just not a fan of it.. |
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I am not a fan of earrings on babies. Never have been. JMO | |
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Babies couldn't look more perfect and certainly don't need earrings adorning them IMO. I dislike the look personally.
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I only see that with Hispanic babies.
I remember when I turned 10 and my mom told me I was getting my ears pierced. It was so exciting and I felt so grown up. We went together. |
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I think that is something the person should decide for themselves, not have the decision made for them.
When the child is older, she can decide for herself.
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Well I am not a mother and according to some shouldn't have an opinion on anything kid related, but this is my opinion anyway. Some people do it, it is especially common in certain cultures. I personally would not. It alters their body and I think that the child should be able to make that decision themselves. If they do go ahead with it, please have them get it done at the pediatrician's office, not the mall.
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I did my daughter's before she was one. In my family it's not a big deal. It wouldn't be a big deal if I hadn't either. I had mine when I was 3 months old. They close if the person doesn't want then later. It's not like you're cutting a nose off or anything.  |
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| Posted: 2/11/2013 3:56:13 PM
Nah. Ear piercings are becoming passe. Go for the nose or navel.
(I HATE it. It seems most people I know with girl babies do this, and it's so hard to bite my tongue. I'm in the camp of "their body, their choice". I only have boys, but if I had a girl, I would definitely be waiting until SHE asked for it, and we were sure she really wanted it, and was old enough to help take care of them.) | |
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It's been done for generations. It is neither in vogue or out. It's a personal choice by the parents. |
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writermom1
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It's not something I like for my girl.
That said I wonder how many "their body, their choice" types have had their son's circumcised?
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It's not something I like for my girl.
That said I wonder how many "their body, their choice" types have had their son's circumcised?
'Cause that doesn't grow back
I think that is wrong and barbaric too. I would never ever ever do that. Thankfully my dh agrees and even though we don't have kids it is nice to know that we agree on this like that. |
 
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Not a fan of it. My daughter had hers done when she asked for them. I didn't think I should make that decision to permanently mark her body. She wanted it done, so we made a day out of it.
Not sure about circumcision. I don't have a son. I think it is something to discuss if we did have one, because it is a major decision to alter someone else's body. |
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They close if the person doesn't want then later.
They don't always close. I didn't wear earrings for almost 2 years and mine didn't close at all. (mine were pierced when I was 8)
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I'm not a fan. My oldest DD got hers done when she was 10. My youngest DD has no interest in having her ears pierced. | |
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I'm not a fan. My oldest DD got hers done when she was 10. My youngest DD has no interest in having her ears pierced. | |
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It's not something I like for my girl.
That said I wonder how many "their body, their choice" types have had their son's circumcised?
'Cause that doesn't grow back
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There is NOTHING about a baby that could be trashy. EVER. And it's ridiculous to say so, good grief!
I was not a fan simply because I'm lazy. I didn't want another thing to take care of...and wanted my girls to be old enough to take care of them properly themselves before getting them.
And that would be the only opinion I'd offer if someone asked. No one owes me an explanation as to why they chose to partake in a particular exercise of fashion that's been around for thousands of years and practiced by many cultures. And I certainly have never, EVER thought the piercing of a baby's ear was trashy.
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| Posted: 2/11/2013 6:04:00 PM
I did it with my older daughter now 23. I did not do it to my younger daughter now 13 and I'm glad I didn't. My older daughter never wears earrings and doesn't like them. My youngest daughter is a Tom boy.
I guess I thought it would be cute when I had my older daughters ears pierced but to me now, it should have been her choice.
A lot of people have their baby's ears pierced though so I guess it is just one of those personal choices. |
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