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I saw this video and it burns me.
A. He continually calls a kid a name.
B. he's holding a baby as he threatens to "cave in" the guys glasses.
C. He continued to mock the same kid after the kid had an injury.
D. He turns around and plays victim and say the criticism of him has been "unfair". Poor baby.
What a dick. Really, I'm speechless. Truly. I'm glad this guy is being suspended from his kid's game. However, it's a shame for the kid.
CBC article
Story with video
Fixed you tube link:
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KikiNichole
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Darnit, I can't get the video to load on your second link and the youtube video has been made private.
But I have a pretty good idea what the guy sounded like...because I've seen it hundreds of times.
When my daughter was in first grade I turned the video away from her little bitty ball basketball game to the bitch sitting behind me in the stands who kept screaming at her daughter to 'TAKE HER DOWN'...as the girls struggled for a jump ball.
The mom later, in the commons of the building where my six year old was putting on her shoes, offered to kick my ass. WTF?
At 14, my oldest daughter reffed for our local parks and recs. It became a job for us too because we ended up having to sit in the stands because of the number of whack jobs that thought it appropriate to scream names at 8th graders reffing first grade basketball games.
And now she's a coach. For a 7th grade girls varsity team at a local middle school. She had one dad who would continually yell at her from the stands. He was a big guy...with a big, booming voice...so everyone could hear him. He'd scream things like 'WHAT ARE YOU DOING?' and 'PULL YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS'...and on and on.
I went to a game and listened to him bitch and moan for 20 minutes, and move amongst the other parents trying to convince them that they needed to get rid of her (this was her first year and her THIRD game). By the time I got home, I was livid. If it hadn't been my daughter's place of employment he and I would have had some words that night.
My daughter finally took care of business herself (but as a 24 year old woman, having to take on a big guy in his 40's...that was difficult).
And the best story of all?
Also involved my daughter as a coach, when, during a tournament, a parent of a player from an out of town school (which just so happened to be the same school my youngest daughter attends) grabbed one of my older daughter's players by the shoulder and gave her a little 'nudge shove' as she walked by.
I guess the woman had come up to the girl (who is 12 years old by the way), grabbed her and told her that it must feel nice to win by playing dirty and then gave her a little shove as she walked on past.
My daughter saw it happen and came UNGLUED. She followed the woman into the gym, told her she was never to touch one her players again, and asked her to leave the premises.
Several minutes of back and forth, which eventually led to the woman's boyfriend getting involved and then the principal at my daughter's school...ended with the woman in the back of a cop car and an assault charge on her back.
I felt for her little girl...but damn. People are crazy. |
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Arielsmom
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Wow. And we wonder why our country has anger issues. People---sports are games. There will always be one team that is a winner and one team that loses.
It would be very hard to sit and listen to that going on around me. Maybe there should be a code of conduct for parents and observers. Too loud or inappropriate----out the door. | |
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dreamerpea
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 8:56:28 AM
In our community you have to take a class on how to behave when your children play sports. If you dont'. Your children don't play.
It sounds like it needs to be implemented in more states.
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pyccku
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 | Posted: 2/16/2013 9:12:08 AM
This guy is from Canada, not the states. But I do agree, it needs to be part of parenting education with some people!
DS is playing in basketball, a totally recreational league - no playoffs, nothing. Parents are told to cheer for everyone when a good play is made, and for the most part, that's what they do. I'll see the same people cheering for boys on either team when a nice shot is made, or a nice block.
I also play in an adult rec hockey league. I am there to have fun, but I know some of the guys take it WAY too seriously. Some players will try to start things with other players, and of course some of the guys on my team (they are all guys in their 20's, I'm the only woman) walk right into it. No matter how many times I say "hey, they're just trying to rile you up so you'll be stupid and then we'll have to be on the PK" they just. can't. let. it. go. One of them told me last week that it would be "so awesome" if I would just hipcheck someone. And I'm thinking "exactly HOW would it be awesome to get myself a penalty so the rest of my team has to cover for it?"
But...in our game two weeks ago, the ref had to throw out the father of one of my teammates. Yes, the father of a 23-yr old man was removed from the game for being too rowdy. It's embarrassing. The following week the refs were giving us a hard time on the bench, one of them said it's the first time he's EVER had to throw out the parent of an adult league player.  | |
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JBeans
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 9:13:27 AM
The comments on the you tube video said it would be temporary, but the Toronto Sun link should have worked.
Kristen, those stories are GROSS. 
Like I say, I don't even know what to say to any of that.
I can't believe that a parent would literally shove a child.
The guy in my videos/stories isn't sorry he spoke like he did. He's just sorry he got caught.
And I think more parents should be "exposed", stood up to or kicked out of watching for behaviours like that. |
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Our 11 y.o. has played sports since he was 4 y.o. Unfortunately, we have witnessed the insecurity of parents living vicariously through their children. One dad-coach often reminded the boys: "you suck, so the only reason you are on the court is because five players are required; your only job is to return the ball to (insert his 10 y.o. 5'2" son playing point guard's name)." If any other player touched the ball longer than 5 seconds or scored, the coach would immediately call time out & scream at the boy before benching him for the remainder of the game. Sadly, the reason for the rule wasn't because his son was a phenomenal player who could carry an entire team on his shoulders like he had convinced him; the kid couldn't pass the ball without being called for a travel, yet Dad was admittedly grooming him to be a high school point guard!
Unfortunately for his son & unsuspecting players, this dad continues to coach & alienate parents/leagues all over the city. Some of the boys from last year's team were discouraged & no longer play the sport, while others joined other leagues & have had fun seasons. Our son made an elite team & is slowly regaining his confidence. | |
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 9:22:24 AM
Don't forget about coaches. We had one coach that would yell at the kids and call them names if they didn't score or if the other team got possession of the ball. He would yell and/or cuss at the referee in front of the players and audience as well.
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 9:33:43 AM
Hockey dad of the year there. I'm embarrassed because it comes from my city, but not surprised that it happened. It's unfortunate that stuff like this happens quite a bit in the arenas. When my son played hockey, I came across a few jerky parents. It's sad, because it's usually from the parents who think their child is going to be the next Gretzy, Crosby, etc.
I also dealt with this 20 years ago when I was a ref in the sport of Ringette. I kicked a few parents out of arenas because of their disgusting behavior.
I am happy to hear that the hockey association is looking into AB and Sask for that online course for parents. I always felt that parents should take a fairplay seminar/course if their child was participating in a sport. |
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 9:51:59 AM
We had a big uproar here last year. There was a party at the high school and a young girl filed rape charges against a couple boys. The boys got off on the deal even though someone had videotaped the event.
Well, the kid that video taped it got suspended from sports for a year (his senior year) because there was admitted drinking going on and that was against the school's code of conduct.
Dad had a FIT and put out big signs along the highway calling the superintendent "hitler" and several other horrible signs. He'd always been one of "those" parents grooming his kid to be a star football player. Super embarassing and made him look like an asshole. Apparently the kid didn't really care that much about playing anyway.
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Did you guys notice in one of the comments below one of the links.... this guy works at a pizza parlor and FIRED an employee for leaving the restaurant while on duty to HELP SOMEONE WHO WAS SHOT outside the restaurant.
Yes, because slinging pizzas is soooooo much more important than helping someone who was critically injured.
This guy is a PEACH.
I guess no good deed (http://www.canoe.ca/WinnipegNews/ws.ws-03-10-0005.html/) goes unpunished.
"We feel just as bad as the next guy but we don't pay employees to be EMTs, which she isn't," Jason Boyd, a supervisor at Frank's Pizza in Selkirk, told a local newspaper last week. <snip> "She wasn't dismissed because she was at the shooting scene," he said. "She was away from her job for no good reason."
While in-between orders, the woman stopped to help a shooting victim, pressing a pillow to the wound to slow the bleeding, and trying to keep him concious until help could arrive. When the police asked her to fill out a statement, she had to call her job to tell them that someone would need to fill in for her until she could return. When she did get back to the resturant, she found that she had no longer had job.
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JBeans
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 10:21:22 AM
I guess no good deed (http://www.canoe.ca/WinnipegNews/ws.ws-03-10-0005.html/) goes unpunished.
"We feel just as bad as the next guy but we don't pay employees to be EMTs, which she isn't," Jason Boyd, a supervisor at Frank's Pizza in Selkirk, told a local newspaper last week. <snip> "She wasn't dismissed because she was at the shooting scene," he said. "She was away from her job for no good reason."
While in-between orders, the woman stopped to help a shooting victim, pressing a pillow to the wound to slow the bleeding, and trying to keep him concious until help could arrive. When the police asked her to fill out a statement, she had to call her job to tell them that someone would need to fill in for her until she could return. When she did get back to the resturant, she found that she had no longer had job.
What a fucking asshole. (and yes, the curses apply quite nicely)
well, I guess his true colors are coming out and I'm not sad for this guy at all. And this guy is whining that the online backlash has been "unfair".
No, with this, I'd say he's getting back exactly what he puts out there. |
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 11:48:26 AM
This guy is from Canada, not the states.
What does that have to do with anything?
Jerkwad sports parents are everywhere.
My DS is the only sports nut in our family. Thankfully, between rep soccer & rep basketball, we've so far been spared idiot parents in the stands. But he's only 11, and this is our first basketball year, so I'm sure we won't be spared much longer.
I go, I cheer my kid & his team mates on (loudly and proudly) and that is it. |
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JBeans
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 12:14:39 PM
This guy is from Canada, not the states.
What does that have to do with anything?
Jerkwad sports parents are everywhere.
I don't really think it has to do with anything, Cake Diva. I don't see the comment as something other than pointing out the obvious.
On the other hand, now I'm thinking of shows like Dance Moms, Toddlers and Tiaras, and Cheer Perfection, where being on camera and acting like a twat is perfectly acceptable if not glorified. |
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melanell
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"The backlash is unfair."?? Seriously?!?! What an ASS.
Repeatedly calling a 15 yr old injured player names is unfair, buddy.
Threatening another adult who comes over to calmly speak to you is unfair, buddy.
Kicking your sorry butt out of future games and hearing what a jerk you are is completely fair. Especially when you knew darn well you were being taped and continued to act like an idiot. So you knew someone would be seeing that tape. You knew there would be consequences to your appalling actions.
Now mind you, if people take the backlash too far, and he is threatened himself, or if his family is involved, then that is every bit as horrible as his original behavior and is in now ay something I would applaud at all. But people saying he acted like an ass. *That* kind of backlash I don't have any sympathy towards him for.
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melanell
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 12:18:12 PM
The guy in my videos/stories isn't sorry he spoke like he did. He's just sorry he got caught.
And I think more parents should be "exposed", stood up to or kicked out of watching for behaviours like that.
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melanell
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 12:20:49 PM
This guy is from Canada, not the states.
What does that have to do with anything?
Jerkwad sports parents are everywhere.
I think it was just to correct an earlier poster. They mentioned needing to implement a program in other "states". And while they absolutely should do so, that sentence could possibly be taken to mean that the person believed that this story happened in the states.
(I don't think it necessarily meant that, but I can see where someone else might take it that way.)
So I really don't think it anyone saying one country has more idiot parents than others. I think it was just someone trying to make sure another poster wasn't confused about the details. |
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 1:00:01 PM
When I saw Frank's Pizza had to then ask my fiancee if he knows him. They are from the same town. Yep he does and says he's an all around douche.
And I agree, more videos should be taken of parents acting this way and publicized. When I reffed, the little ones would be embarrassed and scared when their parents acted this way, but the older ones were defensive of their parents and agreed with them. Guess you get what you teach. |
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youtube video warning-profanity is not bleeped out on this. |
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 1:25:26 PM
How pathetic. Some of these parents are really living THROUGH their kids, aren't they? So much pressure on the kids and the parents are just asses.
Do these parents all think their kids are headed to the NHL? Why is it so INTENSE?? I don't get it. | |
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 2:58:28 PM
Disgusting, but can't say that I'm surprised.
A few years ago during a hockey tournament DS#1 was playing in,they had a game with some really obnoxious parents. At one point during the game, one of our boys got a penalty and was put in the box, which is near the spectator stands. A parent from the other team went and stood on the stands directly over the box and proceeded to cuss the boy out. A 14-year-old boy, sitting in the box with nowhere to go.
His mom was PISSED and was about ready to rip the other woman's head off, but instead got the tournament official and he put a stop to it.
The parents continued to be very obnoxious during the rest of the game, yelling for their kids to "SMASH HIM" and other similar sentiments.
The next day, we got word at our rink (it was a local tournament) that the mother who was yelling at our player and another mother from that team were arrested as the instigators after getting into an altercation at one of the other tournament rinks, during which a piece of the rink glass was broken. That must've been some fight.
And with that, I'm off to go to...what else? A hockey game. People have been better behaved, so far. The team from a few years ago has been banned from the tournament. |
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pyccku
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| Posted: 2/16/2013 4:52:53 PM
I think it was just to correct an earlier poster. They mentioned needing to implement a program in other "states". And while they absolutely should do so, that sentence could possibly be taken to mean that the person believed that this story happened in the states.
That's why I said it. Of course I agree that it's everywhere, but the person above me had mentioned needing it in other states. | |
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| Posted: 2/17/2013 9:31:17 AM
I hope Jason Boyd from Manitoba is regretful of his actions, and now that he is banned from the rinks and games. Maybe he'll change his ways?
I see this kind of behavior all the time at hockey games. From mothers, grandparents, and siblings too. It doesn't phase me.
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| Posted: 2/17/2013 9:52:12 AM
I don't understand this behavior.
Kid sports here don't allow that kind if stuff and the adults are banned immediately if that happens.
They don't get yo just ridicule and demean the kids over and over.
The parents sign forms stating that they know this us a rule at registration.
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| Posted: 2/17/2013 10:06:36 AM
I wish I could say that I never saw anything like this while on the sidelines of my daughter's softball games in years past. Unfortunately, I can't. In fact, the first year I was in charge of the program, I personally was attacked verbally both in writing and in person by a coach from another team. After receiving multiple complaints from different coaches and parents in my program, I sent an email to the other program's president asking that he help with the situation. He helped by sending my email to the problem coach.
In turn the problem coach sent me the vile email. I printed it out and it took up *3* pages with little to know paragraph spacing! He cc'd the parents of his entire team and several of them sent me nasty grams too. I responded that we would talk on the field during that week's game. What he didn't realize was that the coach of my team that week was a long-standing member of a local major police dept. And he was a big guy. And he had dealings with this person in the past in another sport. Just the sight of my "backup" standing next to me made this asshat act as if he never did a thing out of line.
I regret to this day not seeking help to get this guy kicked out of the program permanently by taking it up the chain of command until I got that outcome.
And this;
Miller said Hockey Winnipeg is gathering information about a program run in Alberta and Saskatchewan that has hockey parents take an online course that explores their own behaviour and how it affects their children. He said it would be difficult, if not impossible, to ensure every parent actually takes the course, but it might minimize confrontations like the one depicted on the video.
There is a solution to making sure every participating child's parent takes the course. We do this at work all the time. Once you take the course, you get a "participation" printout at the end. No child would be accepted into the program until at least one parent (if not both) presented such a printout. And it would be specific with names/date and could be followed up/verified through tracking of the program itself (thereby avoiding people just copying one completed form and passing it around). |
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| Posted: 2/17/2013 11:36:14 AM
Can't see the video, but as Kristen said, I can imagine what was said only too well because I've seen it before.
This guy is an all out dickwad jerk and I hope Karma has something REAL good planned for him. What an asshole. Glad he was caught and a lifetime ban wouldn't be long enough. |
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