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Casii
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I just noticed that I steer away from including photos of my children and their date for big events. Lol
I guess I'm concerned that they'll have a bad breakup or similar and hate the photos down the line. I scrap photos of them all dressed up and alone and with their big group, but the couple ones seem to get tucked into a pocket or envelope. |
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doesitmatter?
AncestralPea
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Totally makes sense. A few years ago Ds brought his newish Gf to his birthday dinner, and although I took many pictures all around - including them as a couple, I didn't include her in the layout. Ds was mad, and now after 3 years of dAting I finally added her lol.at this point she is in a ton of family pics and is a major part of our lives. But I like your idea of the envelope or pocket- so the memory is there but not "in your face" if it goes bad. |
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anmolhai
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My kids have not yet reached that age ( although one is close )but I think that's a good idea to tuck the pic in a pocket, just incase it didn't work out. |
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KBPea
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I think putting them in an envelope is a good idea. It might be upsetting right after a break up, but they also might want to see those photos some day. I ripped up all my professional prom photos after my high school boyfriend and I broke up. I probably still have photos my parents took somewhere, but in hindsight I wouldn't mind having the couple photos just so I have some professional shots of my dress! | |
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kiwifarmer
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 3:42:04 PM
Yes I do include them.
It's a part of their life and their growing up. I don't focus on the what if......if I did that here would be lots of pages I would never do. | |
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Jjmikrut143
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 3:50:28 PM
I'm 28 with a fiancé and we have a daughter together.. My mom still has prom photos in frames around the house.. (I attended 3 proms in high school with 2 different people) the last ex I went to prom with wasn't a good break up.. But the photos don't bother me at all or my DF! It was a part of my life at one time and even after the break up at that time I still kept the photos and wasn't upset about them.. I have my copy's in a box.. I personally haven't had a chance yet to scrap my life before I had a child but if and when I do I would put those photos in my albums, or even my DF prom photos.. Which I also have! I think when my daughter grows up and wants to look back on our lives it will be fun for her to see what we where like before she was born! I wouldn't exclude a photo from an album because you think something might not turn out well.. That person will always have played a roll in your children's lives and its important to document what you can along the way!!  |
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Audreyhf
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 3:53:16 PM
I do include the dates in dance pictures etc. I usually just include 1 or 2. I think someday they'll want to see what they looked like (it's
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vseritt
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 4:09:18 PM
I have 5 children and have included their dates in all there layouts!! Now that they are all in their 20's they love going back and looking at them with their spouses. | |
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kjapeach
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This motivates me to find my prom pic! It would be fun to scrap  |
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amom23
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 5:12:11 PM
Photos from events like prom always go in their school albums. Why not? It's a memory after all. |
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Sophikins
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 5:21:19 PM
I have 3 dd's and I try to scrap prom and homecoming pics as soon as possible after the event, before any break ups or bad feelings happen. I also scrap "photo shoot" pages of my dd alone so there are plenty of those to see the dress, hair etc, and I also scrap group pics. The formal couple photo is part of the memory, so I do scrap it too. I figure it can always be tucked behind another page if someone doesn't want to look at it all the time. |
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bluna
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I don't have to deal with this yet but I think the pocket idea is great. It sends a good message: You looked fabulous and your date is peripheral to me at best. 
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Lisa Risser
Lisa Risser
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 6:22:32 PM
This is a subject that I have given alot of thought to. My daughter is 17 and a Junior in highschool. She has dated the same boy (who we love) since the 8th grade--a lifetime in teenage years.lol! The relationship has been a smooth one from the beginning--not once has that all important Facebook status proclaiming them "In a relationship" been changed, as is typical with their age.
As an only child, she is most often the subject of my layouts. I try to make sure that I do some pages that feature just her, but more often than not--boyfriend is in the photo as well.
If they were to break up,I hope she will be able to look back with fondness at those pages and remember the sweet and special times that they shared and the importance that this "first love" has had in her life.
And if they stay together? I have created some pretty neat documentation of their relationship and you can BET those pages will find a place in any potential wedding ceremony,lol! |
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tewzers2
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Yes I do include them. It's a part of their life and their growing up.
I agree with this 100% and, therefore, do scrap my boys with their dates. Some day they'll look back and think "Oh GOD...I remember her!"  |
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grandma28
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as a mother of 3 grown DD, yes i scrapped their proms and events with their dates.. was part of the growing up years, and a part of their lives..
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andreakuenzel
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 8:18:14 PM
Absolutely not. My boyfriend from high school was scrapped all the time by me and my mom. I have a prom scrapbook from both years that I went and I am so glad that I do. I was in love with him then and it was a part of my life. I have other scrapbooks with tons of photos of us. I wouldn't change anything of it and I want my children to see them one day. My husband is totally okay with it too. He knows that it was a part of my life and a healthy part of my life. And now, I will never forget that part | |
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lascrapper
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I include the dates in my daughters' albums. They were part of the girls' lives, and they were part of my family's life at the time. Like for prom, it's very customary here to do family shots at the same time. So I usually have 2 pg LO for family shots, another for dd and date. If they are ever problematic, I could edit then, but so far all breakups have been amicable.
I recently scrapped photos of my own high school boyfriend and dh was not the least bothered. We dated for years, did NOT marry, and he was a huge part of my life for several years. |
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| Posted: 2/23/2013 10:13:10 PM
I always include the dates. I know someday they will want yo see those photos even if they do break up
My DD is now 28 and loved to look back at the photos of her and her dates |
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sithlady82
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 2:30:36 AM
I so far have not scrapped any of my previous relationships. I'm not actually sure that I want to. Although they were a part of my life and what's made me me, I don't feel like I'm that person now so I don't really want to place an emphasis on them.
I wasn't a scrapper at the time so it's a bit different. I probably will scrap dd's formal photos with partners and their boyfriends but that won't be for a few years yet. |
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2boysandwill
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 4:28:36 AM
I just went through that...my son took a date last year to the ball n now they can't stand each other....they avoid each other at all costs at school. I still scrapped the pic n when he saw the pic recently he said oh gawd....never AGAIN,!!!!
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JoanneW
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 5:50:45 AM
I would scrap them while they were together, but if I hadn't scrapped them already and they split up they would stay in a box. make sense? I don't scrap pictures with my ex husband in now, but I haven't taken out the layouts I did when we were together | |
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caspad
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Definitely include the dates. It is part of your child's history - he chose to date her and was happy when the photos were taken.
Whether you scrap the date or not, I would recommend putting the full name of ALL the kids in the pictures.
You'll be surprised how fast you forget the names of those people after high school! |
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Madeline
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 8:30:51 AM
I scrapped them for sure! That's one of the only ways I was going to get nice photos of my older boys all dressed up, so I didn't hesitate. It's something nice to look back upon even if the girl is no longer "in the picture". lol |
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Mallie
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 10:12:25 AM
I don't. My parents did not take a single picture of me going to dances without my boyfriend at the time. Not ONE single picture. And they lost the professional pictures of me alone. (They lost a lot of pictures and those happened to be in the lost set.) Sadly, that boyfriend turned into a whackjob and I do NOT want to see his pictures. Even if I crop him out, I can still see his arm, hand, etc. So I not only do not scrapbook pics with my kids' dates, I make sure to take pictures of them alone without their dates.
While this guy was a big part of my life and I intellectually know we had good times together, the way he behaved subsequently was so horrible that it's colored my memories and they are not recoverable. I do not look back on his behavior and laugh now, decades later. It's still a bad memory. So while he was a part of my life, don't we all have parts of our lives that we'd rather forget? | |
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fredfreddy
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 10:16:45 AM
I can see that. I got around to scrapping dd's dance/date photos just as they were breaking up. Well, they dated for 18 months and were always together - so it was a big part of her life. |
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EllenPea
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 10:35:27 AM
I have not yet scrapped photos of my 30- and 32-year-old SK's photos of high school boyfriends and girlfriends, DH took some photos of both of them on his visits to them when they were that age, and I think he was sent DSD's prom photos.
But that doesn't mean I won't. (Don't know.) I am not worried about their reactions. DSS has a long-time girlfriend, DSD has been married for three years. So these photos will be their "puppy" loves. |
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Casii
CasiioPEA
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 12:59:01 PM
I love reading how everyone handles this. It's odd to me that I do keep my child 'only' as the main focus of these big events because I married my prom date. And really the only thing I regret about those photos is the hairstyles.
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Casii
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Sometimes I wonder whether the world is being run by smart people who are putting us on or by imbeciles who really mean it. ~Mark Twain
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Cricutgirlg
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 1:17:18 PM
This topic comes up once in a while, I yes believe in scrapping Prom dates and Ex. If I'm dealing with a certain time period it all goes in. My father took my mom on her Prom and they married a few weeks later, Three yrs later they divorced. My mom never saw the Prom picture again, until I asked my brother ( from his 2nd marriage) to look for the picture in his things as he was packing up my dad's things, after he passed last year. He founded it and sent it to me, I copied it and framed it for her. She was thrilled! It wasn't about him it was about her history. Now, my other siblings have that picture too. We're happy to have.
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Scrappy Bug
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 1:24:32 PM
Mine will be going to his first and only prom and dance this year, and I will definitely scrap him and his date. I don't really expect he and his girlfriend to last forever, but who knows? Anyway, it's part of his life regardless of what happens down the line.
I've scrapped weddings where the marriage eventually turned into divorces, but I don't hide those layouts - they're still part of MY memories and the memories and lives of the couple and people who attended. |
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Scrapydoglover
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 2:15:47 PM
My two DD both went to several proms and I did scrap them just one page othing fancy they never mad it into the "family album" befor the breakup.....I have a box marked..."the ones that they tossed back" it is in the bottom of a cabnit....they know of this box...and someday someone will find it and it will be a good laugh.... | |
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Dancingfish
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 4:13:54 PM
lol my kids and their dates all got scrapped.. lucky for us now that my kids are pushing 30 they are still friends with most of their dates.
My dd started dating her now husband at 14! But went to alot of proms and dancing with other guys because dancing wasn't his "thing" so we have lots of pictures with many of her guy friends. Its fun to look back at their relationship from when they were much younger.. Those types of relationships don't happen often. |
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KikiPEA
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 4:21:51 PM
Why would you NOT scrap them? It's a part of their lives that they enjoyed.
I didn't start truly scrapping until after DH and I got married. I scrapped both my prom and banquets as well as all of his. The girl in the photos was his girlfriend for 3 years. That's a long part of life to ignore. If it was just a one time date and they had a great time, I would absolutely scrap it. The only reason I wouldn't would be if something really bad happened, like he/she turned out to be a horrible person. |
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paperpea
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 4:29:35 PM
Hmmm. I think the OP would be best just scrapping herself because a falling out could happen with anyone in your life. | |
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Bonscraps
PeaFixture
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 7:23:33 PM
When my son went to prom, with his then girlfriend, I scrapped all sorts of the photos from that time. Well she broke up with him a month later. I never noticed till a year later, that my DS had gone through all those pages and removed those photos. I wish I had used an envelope to hold those photos...now I have prom pages with no photos.
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Maryland
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 7:31:22 PM
I will for sure scrapbook my daughters dates to homecoming, dances, etc. Why not? That is an important event and should be scrapbooked. My oldest (15 yr. old) took a new boy on her coed soccer team to Homecoming and even though he wasn't a "date" (oh how my husband and I wish he was her boyfriend, he is a great guy) it will be in her scrapbook. I love to look back at pictures of my old boyfriends and my husbands old girlfriends. It was part of our teen life and we enjoy it.
We already "tease" her that he will be our son-in-law someday. We have three girls, so he gets his pick.
Now my husband and I are already trying to persuade our daughter to ask a date to the Spring Fling! I can't wait to scrapbook it.
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AJCs_mom
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| Posted: 2/24/2013 8:25:26 PM
My dd who is now married and a mother dated the same guy for 6 years before they broke up...prom, homecoming, senior year...Josh is in all those pictures. If I didn't scrap any of them together that would be 6 years of memories gone. She doesn't care...and neither does her husband. After all, he's the one she married. | |
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