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Kelpea
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Update: she made her flight. Her grandfather got her there. She was in great spirits. I just saw her awhile ago and she looked happy. She's staying with her bff on the team. Seems like a lot of mamas are gonna make sure she is set for the weekend.
My daughter just told me one of our travel cheer members may not make our competition in Dallas. Why? Her mother is still drunk from last night.
This poor kid is trying to get to the airport in Virginia to catch her flight. By herself. She is a sophomore in high school. I'm so pissed for this girl.
There's a private message group on twitter of about 10 kids on the team; they and their parents are all rallying to get her from the airport, hotel, food paid for and whatever else we can do.
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sportymom
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That's so sad. I hope she makes her flight. Good luck in your competition.
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Mallie
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| Posted: 3/1/2013 11:32:44 AM
I had a college friend whose mother pulled stunts like this. With hindsight, I realize the mother was trying to sabotage the girl from success and even, having fun.
I wish there had been some way to help her more or something, because eventually she gave up trying.
So I'm very glad you all are trying to help this girl out. Sounds like she needs the support.
Please keep an eye out for signs of the mother sabotaging this girl. 30+ years later, I still think about my old friend and wish I could have helped her. | |
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Imagine*Whirled*Peas
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Please keep an eye out for signs of the mother sabotaging this girl. 30+ years later, I still think about my old friend and wish I could have helped her.
Mallie....I wouldn't be suprised if that mom is still sabataging her daughter. Just in different way.
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melanell
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Oh, that poor girl. 
Thank goodness for the other parents stepping up to try to help her. |
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MizIndependent
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That pisses me off.
Please do a follow up because if I have to wonder how this turned out, I might explode. |
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Scando3
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That is so sad.
My daughter is on the way to Dalls with my GD. She will be competing also. | |
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Bless that little girl's heart. I am sure she is mortified.
 to you for helping her out. Where is her daddy? Sounds like the mother doesn't deserve custody of her, she sounds like a crappy role model.
Please let us know how it works out! |
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Nightowl scrapper
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It is such a tragedy when good kids try to do healthy activities and stay out of trouble, and the parents have no idea how lucky they are, and continue to be self-absorbed. We have kids in our band and color guard whose parents have never, ever shown up for anything. I understand working, I understand having other kids to keep track of. But never finding a way to see your child perform in an activity?!
This little girl must have a sucky life with a mother experiencing such deep and drastic issues that she is in that condition. Sometimes we see those beautiful faces and have no clue what they face when they walk back in the door of their home. One of the reasons I don't think I could be a teacher is I can't imagine knowing what is happening with these poor kids and have it not be serious enough to get CPS involved, yet knowing they are having a horrible childhood.
Hoping she makes it to the event. Keep us posted. And now you all know you need to keep an extra eye out to make sure her needs are covered whenever she's participating in a team event. |
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Donna in GA
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Poor girl! I have some students who have some pretty crappy parents. It is so hard to not be able to do anything about it. | |
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SuPeaNatural
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I wonder if the mother is a regular drinker or was this just an uncommon event after a night out? Either way it stinks. to you all for helping this poor girl.
If it is sabotage, I hope she can rise above it and not give up on herself. |
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I-95
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| Posted: 3/1/2013 6:23:34 PM
I can't even imagine what type of person thinks it's OK to have kids and then treat them like this. Poor kid....I'm sure this is not the first time her mom has been too drunk to function.
I bet this child has helped her drunken mother to bed and made excuses for her absence from events, more times than she can remember,..children of alcoholics have to grow up way too soon.
She must be terrified. It's hard enough to get to the airport and catch a flight when you're an adult. How awful for her to be trying to do this on her own. I hope she makes it in time. So unfair. | |
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AnonPeaName
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| Posted: 3/1/2013 6:28:50 PM
So sad for this girl. My BFF in HS was in similar situation and I had no idea.
Just like this girl, her parents paid for expensive activities but failed to support her doing them.
My friend's mom had good intentions but was in too much pain and could only keep herself moving. If there's any good from it my friend is incredibly self reliant and responsible.
I hope she made the flight!
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That is terrible and I feel for that girl. I hope she makes it!
Maybe her mom is going for the "Dina Lohan Mother of the Year award". SMH.  |
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There is absolutely NO excuse for that. NONE. |
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mom2cameron
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Bless that little girl's heart. I am sure she is mortified.
to you for helping her out. Where is her daddy? Sounds like the mother doesn't deserve custody of her, she sounds like a crappy role model.
Please let us know how it works out!
That. And thumbs up to you and the other parents that have stepped in to help her! |
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just sad. I hope the girl gets to make the event! She must be so disappointed and embarrassed. Glad to see the other parents/girls rallying for her. |
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I'm glad this is out in the open now so the team is aware of what is happening. This girl needs the support of stable adults, so hopefully there will be at least one mother in the group who will develop a relationship with her. Life is pretty horrible growing up in a home with an alcoholic parent. I wish someone had helped me, so I guess I have a bias in this situation. I hope she made it to the competition! | |
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jodster70
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| Posted: 3/1/2013 9:39:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear about this! I hope she got there okay.
This situation reminds me of a girl I had in my 5th grade class. Her mother was an invalid because alcoholism had destroyed her health, and this 10 year old took care of her mother and her younger sister. We didn't know about her situation until midway through the year because she was always clean and made awesome grades.
That was about 10 years ago, and I still wonder about her to this day. |
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Kelpea
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Btt for update |
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BuckeyeSandy
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Thank you for the update. Hope all is well this weekend for the team. |
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Glad to hear she made it. Good for you and the other moms for making sure she made it. |
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| Posted: 3/2/2013 1:12:10 AM
I'm really glad that she made it. Must be awful to have to live with not knowing if your Mum can actually get you to events due to drinking. I am sure she will have a lovely weekend with all the girls and mamas looking after her. | |
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meshelley
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That poor girl! I sure she was so embarrassed! I'm so glad she made it, and that so many other moms stepped up to help her out. | |
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jodster70
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Yay! So glad to hear that!!! I hope you all have a great time! |
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jenp1024
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I feel for the child, but I also feel the adult mother who is still a child herself. She must have a serious addiction, maybe someone could help to connect her with AA and AlAnon for her family members. It is such an insidious disease that when it shows itself publically like this, the bottom is very close. I am not sticking up for the mom, I am just saying that she needs help.
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As a daughter of two alcoholics, I agree with this. The mother needs help, not condemnation.
I'm confused why if all these cheer patents knew the situation why none of them stepped up and offered her a rid to the airport? |
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ChildOfThe60s
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Kelpea
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| Posted: 3/2/2013 10:33:52 PM
I'm confused why if all these cheer patents knew the situation why none of them stepped up and offered her a rid to the airport?
The team was already in Dallas; she was one of the last few to get a flight.
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I-95
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| Posted: 3/2/2013 11:51:34 PM
I'm so glad she made it, hopefully she's also found a whole bunch of new moms who will mentor her more than her own mother does.
I also hope her mom gets her act together and gets some help, but substances abusers rarely do that at the suggestion of others. They only do it when they hit rock bottom. | |
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