Mother's Day/Father's Day? Do you recognize your kids once they become parents?

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Posted: 4/5/2013 1:43:18 PM
Do you do something for your children and their SO on Mother's/Father's Day once they've made you a grandparent? Do your parents do anything for you?

ETA: If you give something other than a card, what types of things do you give?


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Posted: 4/5/2013 2:05:14 PM
My parents sometimes send me a Mother's Day card.

My children are too young to make me a mimi yet, but I think I will send them cards once they become parents.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 2:11:42 PM
My MIL (who recognizes EVERY single occasion and holiday) does send cards on Mother's and Father's Day.

My mother does not, because, "You are not my mother."

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Posted: 4/5/2013 2:21:54 PM

I'm not a granmother yet. However, my parents and my in-laws did have sent cards to thank me for being the mother of their grandchildren for Mother's Day.

I work hard at being a good mom. It's nice to receive a little pat on the back at least one day a year for all that I do.


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Posted: 4/5/2013 2:43:45 PM
No, I don't. My ds is a step parent and we spend a lot of time with him and his family, but I wouldn't think to recognize him for Father's Day.

I already recognize my husband for being our chilrens father, my step dad and my dad.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 2:45:54 PM
I'm planning to send my dil at least a card... even though she isn't due till the end of May.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 5:02:27 PM
My parents don't do anything, but DH's mom recognizes every occasion on earth, so we do get cards from her on Mother's Day and Father's Day.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 5:16:38 PM
DH and I were each acknowledged for those holidays by each set of parents the first year we had DS. That was very sweet. But they have not continued to do that, and I think that's totally fine.

Our DS is only 5, so a long way from any possible grandchildren, but I think I would do the same thing. Acknowledge the new roles the first year, but after that, I think they are really more of kids-honor-their-parents (and spouses-honor-their-co-parents) holidays.


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Posted: 4/5/2013 5:24:20 PM
My parents send me cards and sometimes flowers. I use to get cards from my former inlaws but that has stopped now that we are divorced - apparently I stopped being a mother to their grandchildren at that point too.

I like the little nod from my elders and once I have grandkids I will mark the day for my kids as well.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 5:27:23 PM
They aren't parents yet but I won't/wouldn't, no. To me that's like doing Valentines things for your kids - it's not what it's 'meant' for so to speak. Valentines are for your 'romantic' love and mother's/father's day is for your mother/father.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 6:45:28 PM
I sent my daughter flowers on her first Mother's day. Since then I have not been real good about sending something each year. I want to, but sometimes just don't get on top of it and get it done.

I never received a card or any recognition for Mother's Day except from my children and husband.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 7:11:06 PM
Not big on cards birthdays only...When my kids started having kids I started giving mothers/fathers day gifts to them...mostly a scrapy kind of albums...canavas....a emblished photo frame...many different things over the past few years..but by far the very best mothers day gift I ever recived was a phone call from my son who was in the ARMY fighting in IRAQ at the start of he war....he call me on mothers day...hands down best gift ever...he has blessed me with 3 grandbabies....


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Posted: 4/5/2013 7:36:04 PM
My MIL does send each of us cards on Mother's/Father's Day. She's done it since DH and I were engaged for me and once we got married, and he became ODS's stepdad, she's done it for DH. It's nice but not at all expected.

I send a card and a little trinket to my SIL. My mother has passed so I do try to pick up some of those things that a MIL might do for her. My brother always thanks me for making his wife feel welcomed in our family.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 8:02:12 PM

My MIL (who recognizes EVERY single occasion and holiday) does send cards on Mother's and Father's Day.

My mother does not, because, "You are not my mother."

Same situation here. I'll definitely get my dd's a little something when they become mothers.



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Posted: 4/5/2013 8:07:23 PM
My mom has always sent cards to my brother and his wife for Mother's Day and Father's Day. One time she forgot and my SIL called me and asked if everything was ok...yep she just mailed it late. There's nothing in the card, just a card itself.


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Posted: 4/5/2013 8:07:45 PM
I send my DD a card on Mother's Day, and if we happen to see her we all go out to dinner. I also send my SIL a card on Father's day. Since my granddaughter is only 2, I also get a little something from her to give to my DD. Last year I made a little little box with that would fold out and had a bunch of pictures in it for her. My SIL is an over the road truck driver so he's not home enough to get something. He does send a card and have flowers delivered, but I know she likes a little something "from the baby".

My in-laws never sent anything to either me or my DH. My mom used to every now and then, but doesn't anymore.

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Posted: 4/5/2013 8:09:06 PM
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Posted: 4/6/2013 2:44:16 PM
My parents and in-laws have not done anything for us but we send cards to our DD and her husband.
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