Would you wear a dress that is strapless with a bra that isn't if you are wearing something over it?

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:41:18 PM
I have been eyeing a "convertible" dress that can be worn as a skirt or a strapless dress. I want it mostly to wear as a skirt but started wondering if it wouldn't be too awkward to be worn as a dress with a shrug or cardigan so I could wear a bra to contain my J-sized girls (yes, J). Or if that would just be too "you might be a redneck"-ish?

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:42:28 PM
No - IMO way too redneck"-ish


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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:44:44 PM
are you leaving the shrug on for sure?

then how would anyone know?

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:45:09 PM
I probably would, but I'd use a little fashion tape to make sure the cardigan/shrug didn't ever expose my bra straps!

But then again, I'm Mormon, so I'm used to covering up a little more. I have elventy billion cardigans/light sweaters.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:45:27 PM
and even us rednecks know better than to wear visible brastraps

that's for the hoosiers....



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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:45:47 PM
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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:46:01 PM
I think it would be really hard to have the bra not show in some way.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:47:14 PM
I have done but only with a v-neck sweater over it when I wanted it to look like a skirt

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:48:52 PM
I work with a girl who does this nearly every day in the summertime. She has a short sleeved black Tshirt material 'cardigan' that she wears over the dress and I have NEVER seen her bra. I think it's fine.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:50:59 PM
I think the dress is more flattering with the tank top and the dress used as a skirt. You could put a light sweater over the tank and look really elegant.

The only way I'd wear it strapless would be as a cover up for a swim suit.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:51:08 PM
I probably wouldn't, even if I knew that I without a doubt wouldn't take the sweater/shrug off. I think it would just feel weird, LOL.

I really like that skirt/dress, by the way!

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:52:35 PM
I wouldn't. What if you got too hot and needed to take the cardigan off? (Or, knowing my luck, I'd spill something on it!)

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:53:54 PM
I don't see why it's a problem if you're not going to take the cardigan off. I mean, how would anyone know? I think it's much more "redneck" to wear a dress without a supportive bra than to wear a good bra that nobody can see anyway.

ETA: If I wear a cardigan as part of my outfit for the day, I usually leave it there ( I don't take it on and off throughout the day) so I'm coming from the perspective that the cardigan would be an integral part of the outfit and it would stay on all day.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:55:17 PM

I can't really get past the convertible skirt to dress thing. Does anybody here own one of these - - and does that really work? Are those two body parts (waist and upper chest) usually the same size? I'm stuck on pondering these great questions of life. Ha.

And to try to tear myself away to answer your question... bra straps must never show. If you can work it to where they don't show at all, I guess you can get away with it.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:57:33 PM
I wouldn't, simply since if it were me, knowing I HAD to keep the shrug/sweater on I would manage to stain/tear/lose all th buttons on it or the A/C would break and I would be the dumba** in 90 degree weather wearing a sweater.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:58:41 PM
I would. And I have. But only if I'm certain the straps won't show and I'm not going to want to remove whatever I'm wearing over it.

I never feel comfortable in a strapless bra and if I don't absolutely have to wear them I won't.

But I'm sort of redneck. I also wear spaghetti strap tanks with my bra strap showing and I know how the peas feel about that.



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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:59:42 PM
I have a friend who wears a bra, tube top and shrug or cardigan combination All. The. Time. I couldn't pull it off, but she always looks smashing. (And we're Mormon too!)

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Posted: 5/3/2013 1:00:35 PM
I would and I have.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 1:55:14 PM
I have never worn a strapless but I have worn an outfit with a bra whose straps would have shown a bit if I took off what I had over it due to the way it was cut. I know there are bras with straps that would have worked but I didn't want to go to the extra expense for something that was rarely going to be worn and the bra straps would never show.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 2:09:48 PM
As an H girl myself, I say yes. Just make sure you WILL NOT take off the cardigan, lol. I have purchased even "the best" strapless bras, and they still aren't as flattering on larger bosoms as regular bras. Of course, strapless bras aren't as comfortable, either - at least for bigger chests, I don't know about smaller ones.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 2:25:22 PM
No, but I can't say it hasn't crossed my mind every time I see a cute halter or strapless maxi dress that I know I would wear some sort of a shrug with.



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Posted: 5/3/2013 3:27:08 PM
with size "J" breasts, i would find a different dress to wear....


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Posted: 5/3/2013 3:29:10 PM
I didn't look at your picture so I can't comment on that specific dress. But to answer your question, yes I would. I also wear tanks under cardigans with straps that show because I know I'll have the sweater on all day. I own strapless bras for when I want that look, but if I'm going to be at work all day I'd rather just dress for comfort. And in my freezing office there is no chance of that sweater coming off.

Now a shrug, I probably wouldn't...but a cardigan, yes.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 3:31:43 PM

Would you wear a dress that is strapless with a bra that isn't if you are wearing something over it?

No, I wouldn't. I just wouldn't be comfortable and I would worry the whole time that my bra strap might accidentally show.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 4:08:36 PM

and even us rednecks know better than to wear visible brastraps

that's for the hoosiers....

I'm a Hoosier and I say go for it!!


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Posted: 5/3/2013 4:14:55 PM
Only if you are absolutely positive your bra won't show.

I really hate visible bra straps!


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Posted: 5/3/2013 4:20:14 PM

with size "J" breasts, i would find a different dress to wear....

I'm kind of in agreement here. I don't think this style of dress is flattering to a large bust. But I think a bra with a coverup is fine.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 4:36:58 PM
No. I didn't look at the picture but I can say without a doubt, no.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 7:07:52 PM
I would, if I knew for sure that (a) I wouldn't have to take the cardigan off, and (b ) the cardigan was of a design that would not show the bra straps.

Unlike my teenage DD , I don't like my bra straps showing. I have a dress with spaghetti straps and I usually wear a bra that is NOT strapless under it. Then over the top I wear a wrap around cardigan that stays perfectly in place and doesn't show my bra straps.

Maybe I'm just a bit more redneck than I thought LOL!

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Posted: 5/3/2013 7:08:59 PM
ETA: What's a Hoosier???


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Posted: 5/3/2013 7:21:39 PM

ETA: What's a Hoosier???

Someone from Indiana.

I think the question is one issue, and the style of "dress" is another. I don't think that style is going to look all that great on someone who has a large chest.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 8:36:52 PM
I would. Just not an ugly ole white bra. Just in case.

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Posted: 5/3/2013 8:45:48 PM

and even us rednecks know better than to wear visible brastraps

that's for the hoosiers....

Hoosier here, never worn visible bra straps.

If you are going to wear a shrug, then your bra straps wont be visible. I don't see the problem? Are you going to take the shrug off?


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Posted: 5/3/2013 9:52:43 PM
I have a dress that I have tried this with and my bra always ends up showing while I get ready and then I make a change. I just don't have the support from my strapless so I go for my normal bra and I feel about 2inches to low. I haven't ever tried to pin it to see if it would stay in place. I might try that next time!

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Posted: 5/3/2013 10:14:01 PM
I have some strapless maxi dresses with the smocked style tops and I have DDD boobs. I have never found a decent strapless bra so I wear a regular bra in a color that basically matches the dress and then I wear a very short, lightweight shrug over the top. The shrug is part of the ensemble and I don't plan on taking it off and my straps never show.

I don't see what the big deal is.


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Posted: 5/3/2013 10:33:35 PM

with size "J" breasts, i would find a different dress to wear....



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Posted: 5/3/2013 11:53:33 PM
I have seen bras with clear straps. Of course, you would still need a shrug or cardigan but might help your confidence about them showing. I think I saw this on Bare Necessities wet site.
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Posted: 5/4/2013 12:18:54 AM
I've never worn a strapless dress/top with a bra. However, I see people wearing them all the time around here. Along with crop tops with muffin tops showing and pajama pants with characters on them. However, I doubt that it's exclusive to Indiana. I've seen them in other states as well. Including California, when I lived there and during visits.

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Posted: 5/4/2013 12:28:49 AM
As someone who was a former size "I" myself, I understand your dilemma.

I would, but I would follow JenKate77's suggestion of fashion tape to be certain the shrug wouldn't move and expose my bra strap.

Very, very cute dress by the way! Wish I was taller so that I could wear something like that!


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Posted: 5/4/2013 1:17:52 AM
I wear tank tops all the time with a short sleeve sweater cardigan (not a SHRUG - I HATE SHRUGS) over it and no one will ever see my flabby arms and live to tell about it. The cardigan stays on the entire day. So I don't really see what the big deal would be if you had on a cardigan the whole time. I would probably wear a black bra and black cardigan if it were me - just so the straps didn't seem visible through the cardigan, if that makes sense.

I hide lots of things I don't want people to see under clothing. It's all good. I see a lot of those dresses in Ross where I buy a lot of clothes.


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Posted: 5/4/2013 5:54:46 AM
I have two dresses similar to this, but I have never worn them as a skirt. I wear short cardigans and usually do the top button up to make sure it doesn't slip and show bra strap.
But occasionally I'm sure it might show - I'm not that worried that someone will catch a brief glimpse of a neutral coloured bra strap!
because I'm aware I always seem to be fussing with my cardy.



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Posted: 5/4/2013 1:19:19 PM
I've done it, but only when I was sure that the cardigan would stay covering it and that I wasn't going to take it off... If I remember right I had the cardigan buttoned just under my bust line, and I wore a skin tone coloured bra to be extra sure it wouldn't be noticed...

I wear tank tops all the time with a short sleeve sweater cardigan (not a SHRUG - I HATE SHRUGS) over it and no one will ever see my flabby arms and live to tell about it. The cardigan stays on the entire day.

Same here... If you commit to keeping the coverup on/in place, there's no problem... I've only seen it be a problem at weddings when after a few drinks people start to forget that they put it on as a "coverup" and not as an optional accessory...LOL

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Posted: 5/4/2013 1:47:37 PM
Yes, without a doubt I would because I did it on my wedding day. LOL. I bought a strapless dress but wore a bolero over it. when I put it on, I realized my straps wouldn't show so I wore a regular bra. It was GREAT and no one knew except my MOH.


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Posted: 5/4/2013 2:02:14 PM
LOL! I'm lovin' this thread! Reminds me of so many 'fashion fixes' I used to do when I was still into design work. Like 'fitting' with loads of clip clothespins (for photos), safety pins & duct tape for runway.

Based on the OP? I wouldn't recommend it. Even if the 'cover' solves the problem & the encemble looks ok, you know there's going to be a 'malfunction'.

It's why our moms always told us to wear underwear that was clean & free of holes & patches or risk getting into an accident.

I'd suggest going 'pageant' to lose the straps. Cut the straps off the bra & use double face tape. 'Course the straps provide the support--unlike strapless bras, so not sure it will really solve the problem.

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Posted: 5/4/2013 4:19:05 PM
No it sounds like it may work but they always end up showing especially on us bigger bra sized girls-a shrug can fall left or right of the girls and then the gig is up. You may want to find this dress to try on in person-while it looks cute on the model I am not sure the extra banding and gathers at the bra area is going to look right J sized. I am also big in top and even empire waists are tough when there is a band everybody is supposed to fit in to and line up with. I tend even in my best bra to spill over to the south a bit. I am not sure all the way around if it is a good fit?


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Posted: 5/4/2013 4:30:43 PM
From what I know of bras designed large chests, they tend to have fuller cups that extend higher toward the shoulder. There's just more fabric covering & supporting The Girls.

If the skirt/dress covers all of the cup fabric and the join of the strap to the cup, and you have a good fitting shrug that you will keep on then I think you could get away with it.

But if the top of the dress shows bra cup fabric or where the strap joins the body of the bra then I wouldn't do it. Or if the shrug wasn't a tailored shape that lies close & smoothly along your neckline I wouldn't do it. Wardrobe mal-functions are too easy and it can ruin the 'line' of the bodice even under a shrug.

A couple of years ago when strapless tops were popular I saw a lot of women who wore strapless tops with bra straps usually with the top of the cup showing and each and every time it made the outfit and therefore the wearer look slovenly, uncaring, and ridiculous.


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Posted: 5/4/2013 5:47:49 PM
Only with the clear straps. That way if your shrug slips a little it's not so glaringly obvious. I got a convertible/strapless from cacique that came with clear straps. I use the straps in situations where they probably won't show, but might peek out if I move the wrong way.

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