Married Peas: A two part question
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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:15:42 PM

How many serious boyfriends did you have before you got married; and how old were you when you got married?



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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:17:46 PM
I probably only had one serious boyfriend before I got married but I did have a few not serious boyfriends. I was 25 when we got married but we had been dating since I was 18. He is 2 years older than I am. We didn't get engaged until I was almost 23.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:18:34 PM
What are you calling a serious boyfriend? One that lasted a long time or one you thought might be the one?

I dated 3 different guys for about a year, but really had no intentions of marrying any of them or anything.

I was 26 when I married.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:21:32 PM
I had two. One I was even on the track of getting engaged to him but we broke up before that happened.

I got married when I was 23.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:24:05 PM
I didn't have any that were serious before DH. I was 21 when I met DH and was 25 when we got married.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:24:24 PM

What are you calling a serious boyfriend? One that lasted a long time or one you thought might be the one?
Not so much length of time, but a relationship, as opposed to someone you just dated a few times but it didn't really go anywhere.



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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:25:07 PM
1 serious BF

Married at 25.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:25:49 PM
I got married right after turning 20. I had one or two serious boyfriends, but nothing in the realm of wanting to be engaged, etc. Still married 27 years later.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:28:28 PM
Not really any serious boyfriends. We met when we were 18 and 19.

I was 23 when we got married. Been married 11 years.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:28:54 PM
First marriage I married the only serious boyfriend I had ever had. I was 26.

Second marriage I had dated a lot of guys but none were serious. I got married at 50.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:29:09 PM
I got married at 19. I had two other boy friends before I met and married XH, neither of them serious. After XH and I split I met my DH three months later. We have been together for 19 years, married for 13.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:30:20 PM
I had one serious boyfriend before I met my husband I was 23 when we married.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:32:42 PM
I went on three dates with one guy in high school. I was relieved when he didn't ask me out for a fourth. I knew he wasn't quite right for me. Met dh a year later and were married four years after that. I was 22.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:34:31 PM
really just one other, and I was 22, dh was 24 when we got married.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:35:00 PM
Dated MANY boys! But "loved" only one of them.(did not marry him!) Married my hubby at 17, he was 21. Still in love & still married 35 years later.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:36:09 PM
I just realized I didn't answer my own question - and looks like I am the old maid of this group! I got married when I was 29. I dated quite a bit but only had two real relationships before I met DH.



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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:37:01 PM
One (the same person I married). I was 30 when we married.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:38:12 PM
DH was my only boyfriend ever. I don't count the one in elementary school and one in junior high (A friend told me that X liked me so then he became my boyfriend). I was 23 and he was just shy of 25 when we got married, 20 years ago this month.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:38:56 PM
3 serious, was married at 26.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:40:52 PM
I met DH when I was 19, so no real time for a serious boyfriend before that. We dated all through college and married at 25.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:42:55 PM
2 serious boyfriends. married at 27. met dh at 25.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:42:59 PM
First marriage. Met Senior year in high school. Graduated then started beauty school Got married the following July. I was 18. I graduated when I was 17. I was married for a short time when he decided to start beating me. I left.

Met husband 2 shortly after that. moved in with him too soon later and was married and having babies by the time I was 23. It was a totaly of 7 years and we were done.

Then I was single for a while. I got involved with a friends with benefits guy and got pregnant. had baby moved in with him. stayed there for a year. nothing developed more then friendship SO I moved out.

met a guy got all screwed up with him and ended up out the door. after 1 1/2 years.

Then I decided I wasn't going to get involved with any body else. I dated but nothing really went further then that.

I met my now husband while I was living with the third guy but we were friends in a group of friends.

After I was single for about 8 months husband now and I got together. after not seeing him for all those months. We connected and one thing lead to another and after allmost 18 years we haven't been apart. we got married 17 years ago.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:43:33 PM
Married for 30 years to my first love. Started dating at 16/17, married at 22/23.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:44:15 PM
Two serious boyfriends. Broke up with the second one to date DH. I was 23.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:46:23 PM
I don't think I considered any of them serious prior to DH. I enjoyed the chase more than the actual dating and then I got bored quickly. When DH and I started dating, I was sure he was just another fling but he just "stuck". The funny thing is that prior to him I always thought I wanted a boyfriend. Around the time we started hanging out more, I was just coming into my own (I was 19) and having a great time meeting new boys and casually dating. I was enjoying that so much that I had decided I didn't want a boyfriend. DH and I went home from college for the summe and I didn't even give him my phone number. He tracked me down though and the rest is history.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:46:59 PM
I married my high school sweetheart (started dating in 9th grade), after we spent 6 years of long distance dating in college. We both finished at different colleges and we've been married 20 years this August. We've been together a total of 29 years because we started dating in 9th grade...

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:48:02 PM
I married the one serious boyfriend I had when I was 18. We have been married 41 years.



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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:48:15 PM
Dh was my only boyfriend. We started dating dating when I was 16 and got married when I was 25. Yes, that's 9 years.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:48:58 PM
I had three serious boyfriends before dh ... lived with one of them ...

I was 30 when I got married ...


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:55:58 PM
I met my late DH at 18 and married him 6 months later at 19. He was my first and only serious boyfriend and we had been married 33 years when he died.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 8:58:11 PM
I got married at 24. Prior to that, I had one very serious boyfriend (as in had talked marriage with) and three other long-term-relationship type boyfriends.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:05:48 PM
2 serious boyfriends and married one of them.

Got married when I was 21 years old and have been married 20 years.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:09:41 PM


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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:09:46 PM
I had one serious boyfriend before I met DH.

I met my husband when I was 19. We got married when I was 21. That was 13 years, one week, and one day ago.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:10:28 PM
2 before DH. Married at 30.



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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:11:54 PM
1, and I was 29.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:16:02 PM
No serious boyfriends before DH.

I was 19 and he was 21 when we met. We got engaged at the end of my junior year and married 2 weeks after I graduated at 21 and 23.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:17:41 PM
First marriage, no serious relationships before. Current relationship, he is my first and only boyfriend since my ex husband. We're planning on getting married next year.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:18:02 PM
0 (first bf) and 24
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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:18:26 PM
1 serious boyfriend, he was killed, met DH married him 14 months later. I was 24 he was 25. We've been married 41 years next month


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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:18:45 PM
Serious - 1, others - 6 or 7. Got married at 26.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:23:40 PM
My DH was my first serious boyfriend. We started dating at 19 and married at 25. I had another boyfriend before DH, but we only dated 3 months.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:28:49 PM
My issue was that I didn't really like dating. So if I didn't get the idea that I might ever want to be serious about someone, I wouldn't even bother to continue with them at all.

So DH & I worked together for a few months before we went out for the first time, which worked out well for him, because I already knew that I liked him a lot before we started the aggravation of dating. And I knew he was a likely keeper when the dating stopped being annoying to me right away, LOL!

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:30:15 PM
No serious bf's first. We met in college, age 20 but still dated for 7 years before getting married.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:34:52 PM

We met at the beginning of freshman year in college. I was 17 and he was 18. He was my only serious boyfriend. We married 9 years after we started dating and will be married for 20 years this August.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:34:58 PM
One. I met dh when I was 19. We'll have been together 20 years this July.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:37:33 PM
High School boyfriend ~ knew it was a high school romance.

One serious boyfriend in college.

Two series relationships ~ one for 5 years, one for six.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:40:50 PM
1- 3 years (Got a promise ring, but I broke it off...dodged THAT bullet)and 1- 6 mo. That's it. We got married at 22/23. We've been married for almost 17 years.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:59:02 PM
2 - one I was with for 4.5 yrs. and one I was with for 2 yrs.

Got married at 28. We were together for 3 years before we got engaged and another 3 years before we got married.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 10:14:20 PM
I met my husband when I was 20 and we dated off and on for 7 1/2 years before we got married. I was 28 when we married. We've been married for 25 years, but we're currently seperated.

I had one other serious boyfriend before I met the man I married.

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