Do inconsiderate people know that they are inconsiderate?

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Posted: 12/17/2013 8:45:31 AM
I'm just curious about your experience with people that are like this.

Are all inconsiderate people self-absorbed?

I have a self-absorbed, inconsiderate person in the family. I am intrigued by the psychology of it. I don't think for one second he realizes he's inconsiderate. Quite the opposite. My dime store analysis of him is he is usually inside his self-absorbed world. Clueless to others and their needs. Once in a blue moon, he sticks his head out and sees what's going on. He participates and does something nice for someone. He feels SO good about himself and he hangs on to that and goes back in his hole. He now thinks he's the most generous and awesome person in the world because he did that one nice thing that one time.

I think he comes out and reinforces it every now and again. But he really does think he is this selfless person. Generous to a fault.

Do you have anyone like this in your family?

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Posted: 12/17/2013 8:50:09 AM
Doesn't everyone? LOL

Sure, we do. My SIL and her kids are primo examples. My SIL was spoiled rotten by her parents. I've watched her raise her kids and I remember when they were young and would pay no attention to what they were doing and kick others, spill things on others, etc and she would never correct them or encourage them to watch where they were going so as to avoid hurting others. Finally my MIL said something to her and my SIL's response was, "It's other people's jobs to get out of their way." And that is where it begins.

In addition, I have worked with the general public and I now work with hundreds of employees and THEIR clients. Here's what I know: Inconsiderate people don't know they're inconsiderate because they never consider anyone other than themselves. Other people aren't on their radar except as enablers or roadblocks to their own goals.

If they're happy with a situation, they don't think about consequences for others. If they're unhappy with a situation, all they think about is making themselves happy. And if they DO think about consequences or collateral damage to others, they simply don't CARE about it because it's not affecting them.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 8:50:29 AM
I have an inconsiderate person in my life and I think, honest to God, that she has just never been taught better. She doesn't realize that she's inconsiderate and she doesn't realize that it drives other people bonkers. She just doesn't know and she doesn't know how to do it better. She is young and she is learning, maybe a little here and there.

Her mama is not particularly considerate either and neither are any of her siblings. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, I think she just wasn't raised to have any manners.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:01:37 AM
I truly don't think they know.
Years ago, someone worked in my office who was an absolute NIGHTMARE to get along with. No one could stand her, except the boss, because she totally kissed the bosses butt. We all hated her. Our office is small, so it was impossible to avoid this person.

Our office manager signed us all up for a "motivational" workshop on how to deal with difficult people thinking that we could all learn some ways to deal with her. During the workshop...OMG...listening to this woman, you would have thought she was the most kindhearted, loving person who everyone treated like crap. She raved later about how helpful the workshop had been to her, she was so glad we went, blah blah blah. We all wanted to say to her, "Ummmm...honey, YOU are the reason we all went!" LOL

I'd rather think that rude, inconsiderate, difficult people are oblivious to the fact that they are rather than think they know it and just don't care if they are.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:02:22 AM
I think the inconsiderate people probably do not think they are inconsiderate. There's a saying that we judge ourselves on our intentions and we judge others on their actions. In my experience, inconsiderate people have rarely suffered or wanted for anything and therefore lack the empathy needed to really give of themselves.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:05:01 AM
I think it depends. I know some people who are just clueless, wrapped up in themselves and not even thinking about anyone else.

My uncle is the opposite. He's the most selfish person I've ever met. He knows full well when he makes his demands that it affects other people, he just doesn't care. I feel so bad for his wife and kids. He makes all decisions unilaterally, not caring about how it affects anyone else. He'll even tell you that he doesn't care how it affects them, so it's not that he doesn't know, he just doesn't care. I blame it on the fact that he was the baby of the family, and was completely spoiled by my grandma. He lived at home until he was well into his 30's, even though he had a professional career that was completely self-supporting. Grandma ironed his clothes and cooked his meals.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:07:27 AM
My step-daughter is like this. Her dad and I raised her from the age of 9 until she moved out in February [she was 18]. She lived with her mom prior to living with us. The mom had abusive relationships and my step-daughter was always left alone because mom was absent a lot. So she grew up just worried about herself and her feelings.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:12:23 AM

I think the inconsiderate people probably do not think they are inconsiderate. There's a saying that we judge ourselves on our intentions and we judge others on their actions.


I'm trying to see my SIL in this light, as she has historically been extremely inconsiderate with regard to others. She's a 39 year old woman who has never been married or had kids, lives on her own, and really she is just used to looking out for her own needs without others to consider in most situations. (This is not to say in any way that all single, childless people are inconsiderate - far from it - just that her particular personality and life history combined with those circumstances has left her without much ability to see or anticipate the needs of others.) I'm trying to find ways to gently let her know when she is seriously imposing on/inconveniencing us rather than just being a seething doormat, because I don't think she honestly has any idea that she is sometimes inconsiderate.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:16:30 AM
The world revolves around the inconsiderate/self-absorbed person. Inconsiderate people are oblivious to &/or completely unconcerned about the plight/needs of others, except as these bystanders may help them.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:35:47 AM
DH's 3 sisters are all extremely inconsiderate. I think they were just raised that way, they are all very self absorbed. My DH is pretty considerate, but I have put in 20 years of hard work making him that way.

None of his sisters would ever go out of their way for anyone. Whenever I bitch about it, DH always just says "they don't think like you.".

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:40:48 AM
I really don't think they have the slightest clue.

My inconsiderate person is my mom who had a horrible childhood. I heard (in this context it was about foster children) someone say once that the manipulative, selfish, inconsiderate qualities come from a sense of self preservation or protection. If nobody else is going to take care of their needs, they'll do whatever it takes to survive. I think that nails it exactly for my mom.

She isn't selfish...she'd give you the shirt off her back. But only because then you'd think she was a super wonderful human being. It would still be all about her and her needs. It's like she lives in a completely different reality and legitimately cannot see beyond herself.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:54:41 AM

She isn't selfish...she'd give you the shirt off her back. But only because then you'd think she was a super wonderful human being. It would still be all about her and her needs. It's like she lives in a completely different reality and legitimately cannot see beyond herself.




Interesting viewpoint. *Selfishness* masquerading as "generosity"...

I've seen *control* masquerading as "generosity". You've given me a lot to think about...


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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:55:03 AM

I heard (in this context it was about foster children) someone say once that the manipulative, selfish, inconsiderate qualities come from a sense of self preservation or protection. If nobody else is going to take care of their needs, they'll do whatever it takes to survive


This is absolutely true of the inconsiderate people I've been unfortunate to know in my life.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 10:06:01 AM

And if they DO think about consequences or collateral damage to others, they simply don't CARE about it because it's not affecting them.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 10:39:13 AM
Its not that they don't know, its that they don't even bother to even try to figure it out. Its not a concept on their radar.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 10:43:38 AM
I went to school when someone who is extremely inconsiderate and I think she knows and just does not care. How can you be so naive to not realize your actions are inconsiderate?


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Posted: 12/17/2013 10:52:51 AM
I truly think most inconsiderate people DON'T know, just like you said.

I also think people who are rude and come across as 'crazy' to the rest of us don't know either.

For example, a conversation came up with someone I know about another person. I was surprised to hear this person talk about the other so casually because several years ago I witnessed a huge argument between the two women in the dugout of their young children's softball team. They actually had to be physically removed from the area because they were both screaming, cussing and threatening to hit each other. It was horrifying to witness.

Anyway, I casually said something about how I was surprised that they spoke, considering the fight they had years ago. The person I was talking to said they didn't know what I was talking about.... I reminded her of the story (as gently as I could without saying, "This is one example of when you acted like a crazy person...." Haha). After hearing the story she said, "Really? I don't remember that at ALL!"

Honest to goodness, I can only imagine if I EVER acted like that, it would stand out as one of the most embarrassing moments EVER. It's certainly not something that would just slip my mind.

That was proof to me that crazy people don't know they are seen as crazy because they just pretend like their crazy actions didn't really happen.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 10:58:15 AM
Inconsiderate in action or words? I think most people are naive to their own faults. I know some overly sensitive people that just don't see that everything said or done isn't a slight against them.
Picture 2 people pointing fingers at the other thinking "inconsiderate" and "way too sensitive".



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Posted: 12/17/2013 11:08:35 AM
Let me give an example and tell me if you think I am the crazy one ...

The Christmas before DH's dad died (they knew he was really sick) I made sure they posed for all kinds of group pics. I had each sister and their family pose with their parents. All the siblings pose with their parents, all the grandkids. The last group they chose was all "the guys" so that the brothers in law would all be in a picture. Doesn't take a rocket scientest to note the only one excluded from any group was me. So, when his father did die, they made a slideshow for the funeral. Even though I provided a ton of pics (I was in some from over the years), I was the only one left out. I was a part of the family for 19 years!

They all thought I was self absorbed that it hurt my feelings.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 11:24:00 AM
I have a relative with aspbergers who has absolutely no clue when he is out of line. If I call him on it, he just says that he is telling the truth. He doesn't get why people are upset by the truth, and thinks he is doing them favors by 'informing' them.

I also know someone who goes on rants and says horrible things, calms down after five minutes, and it never once occurs to him that maybe he might have upset someone else. He has no clue why people are upset with him afterwards. And then he will totally forget the incident. And....if someone mentions it any time down the road, he truly has no memory. Little sh*t.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:32:41 PM
So after reading this thread I started thinking, "Am I inconsiderate?" Now I am worried that I might not recognize it if I was! I sure hope someone points that out to me...I would hate to be that way and not know it.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:40:42 PM
I'd say "considerate" is not important to them. I know it sounds amazing, but different things are important to different people and to some people THAT is not important.

Being considerate is really about worrying about what OTHER people think of you and how they judge you. Amazing, but some people REALLY just don't care if you think they are nice or not.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:42:26 PM
In my world, if they know it, they just don't care. They're gonna be rude and nasty and condescending no matter what.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:44:36 PM

So after reading this thread I started thinking, "Am I inconsiderate?" Now I am worried that I might not recognize it if I was! I sure hope someone points that out to me...I would hate to be that way and not know it.


Jen, if it even crossed your mind, chances are you're not!

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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:48:21 PM
My personal take is that they know but just don't give a rat's ass about how someone might be hurt by their lack of consideration of others.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:48:43 PM
Thankfully the only truly inconsiderate person I know is just so sure that the whole world revolves around her that she considers she's truly justified in her behavior. She's deeply selfish, constantly feels that no one understands her when in fact she behaves appallingly and *creates* the way people now respond to her.

It's very deeply ingrained.




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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:48:49 PM
I don't know but I would like to ask the lady in front of me today at the stationary store.

She was in line, still VERY much in decision mode on what she wanted to personalize on 3 gifts. She didn't need help from the sales person but needed to decide. She was going back and forth, thinking out loud while two people waited in line. The sales person stood there nicely just waiting and finally asked her if it was OK to help us until she decided.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:50:29 PM

someone say once that the manipulative, selfish, inconsiderate qualities come from a sense of self preservation or protection. If nobody else is going to take care of their needs, they'll do whatever it takes to survive. I think that nails it exactly for my mom.


This is so interesting.

I would never call my mom deliberately inconsiderate bc she lives for her children. We are Number One to her. But we just have to come behind all of her....issues. And all she sees is how she puts us "first" but she doesn't see the "issues".

She was born in a war refugee camp. She came here as a young girl, and they had nothing, not even citizenship in a country. She was in her 40s before she got her US citizenship bc she had no papers and had to hire a lawyer to fix it.

So a lot of her "issues" come from that. It still makes me crazy (the stuff she does) but I try and remind myself that being in a refugee camp as a child would alter anyone's personality. Her very earliest memories are about just trying to survive and being inherently insecure, being hungry, and no one caring.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 12:55:13 PM
The only truly inconsiderate person I know is I believe fully aware that she is inconsiderate and just does not care. I have never met anyone like her. Just nasty to everyone. It's amazing anyone wants anything to do with her.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 3:57:50 PM


Inconsiderate people don't know they're inconsiderate because they never consider anyone other than themselves. Other people aren't on their radar except as enablers or roadblocks to their own goals.


well put


There's a saying that we judge ourselves on our intentions and we judge others on their actions.


I hadn't heard this. But I like it!


My uncle is the opposite. He's the most selfish person I've ever met. He knows full well when he makes his demands that it affects other people, he just doesn't care. I feel so bad for his wife and kids.


The kids will eventually get away from him but how can the wife do it? ugh.



My step-daughter is like this. Her dad and I raised her from the age of 9 until she moved out in February [she was 18]. She lived with her mom prior to living with us. The mom had abusive relationships and my step-daughter was always left alone because mom was absent a lot. So she grew up just worried about herself and her feelings.



but don't you think there's still time for her? I think sometimes it takes people to go out on their own to have some clue as to what goes on around them. She just might surprise you. But then again, she might not. I'm hopping for some good news on her though.







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Posted: 12/17/2013 4:03:40 PM

Being considerate is really about worrying about what OTHER people think of you and how they judge you. Amazing, but some people REALLY just don't care if you think they are nice or not.
I don't really give a rat's ass what other people think of me, but I'm considerate of others because I believe that's the right way to behave.

As an example, I'm not going to let my kid kick the seat in front of her in an airplance not because I care what the stewardess thinks, but because it's freaking annoying and obnoxious to the person sitting in that seat. I'm not going to cut a line not because I care if people give me dirty looks, but because it's a jerky thing to do and I have no right to do it since my time is no more valuable than anyone else's.

People are considerate as a result of being taught to think about others and to be concerned for their well-being because it's the right thing to do.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 4:08:29 PM
I think they fall into two camps. With they are oblivious or they don't care. Either way, their lack of consideration for others gets the same reaction. No one wants to be around them.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 4:19:55 PM

I'm not going to let my kid kick the seat in front of her in an airplance not because I care what the stewardess thinks, but because it's freaking annoying and obnoxious to the person sitting in that seat.


So you care that the person sitting in the seat thinks it's obnoxious and is annoyed, but you don't care what people think? Or just about you?

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Posted: 12/17/2013 4:24:04 PM

I think the inconsiderate people probably do not think they are inconsiderate


Does this mean that we are all inconsiderate and we just don't know it? lol!


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Posted: 12/17/2013 5:27:50 PM



She isn't selfish...she'd give you the shirt off her back. But only because then you'd think she was a super wonderful human being. It would still be all about her and her needs. It's like she lives in a completely different reality and legitimately cannot see beyond herself.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 6:50:11 PM
Some know and don't care, and some are clueless. Either way, I work with a couple of people like that, and they are given a wide berth. Nobody likes an asshat.


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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:15:39 PM
The most inconsiderate people I know believe that they are very giving and empathetic. One has really bad self-esteem which leads to so much time and attention being wasted on fairly insignificant things.....a decision to have apple pie or pumpkin pie takes 15 minutes and annoys everyone else. The intention isn't to be inconsiderate - I like how scrapaholicmt put it.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 9:37:29 PM
I think there's a huge difference in being inconsiderate and being a person who deliberately takes advantage of other people. Inconsiderate people don't seem to realize what they're doing. The other kind bully until they get their way and then act as if they deserve to be treated better than others. They will walk on top of you if they have to. They know exactly what they're doing but since they're so "special" they don't care about how they take advantage of others. They do what they do, and behave the way they do, because it works.

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Posted: 12/17/2013 10:44:58 PM

The Christmas before DH's dad died (they knew he was really sick) I made sure they posed for all kinds of group pics. I had each sister and their family pose with their parents. All the siblings pose with their parents, all the grandkids. The last group they chose was all "the guys" so that the brothers in law would all be in a picture. Doesn't take a rocket scientest to note the only one excluded from any group was me.


Were you taking these pictures or just keeping track of the group shots? If you were taking them I am not sure why, after the sisters posed, you didn't hand a sister the camera saying "would you take one of DH and our family now" and same with the all guy shot, why not hand the camera to your husband saying "hey dear, can you take one of all of us woman with your dad". Usually only the person behind the camera knows full well what shots were taken.



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Posted: 12/18/2013 3:22:29 AM
Very interesting discussion, Peas- you have given me a lot to ponder on.

My husband's eldest uncle was in a POW camp for a long while during WW2; he was infamous for being ultra hard in many ways with a gooey soft interior very deep down. He was inconsiderate about things like food, fitting in when he visited MIL's home and so on. That fits what has been said regarding people who have had to protect themselves in extreme circumstances.

I am offering up for consideration another generalised category of people who can end up as inconsiderate and entitled- youngest children / the baby of the family- my baby sister, my best friend's baby sister, a couple of my scrapping buddies' youngest. I see echoes of what has been said above in all of them.

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Posted: 12/18/2013 5:33:56 AM
I have a coworker who I used to think was clueless- they always put on an act. I have recently discovered they know EXACTLY what is going on, they just use the act to get away with doing what they feel like doing and doesn't give a $@#$@ what other's think.

If I am ever inconsiderate, I would like to think it is because I am wrapped up in my own little world at the moment.



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Posted: 12/18/2013 9:26:38 AM
We have one highly inconsiderate family member and to hear her tell it, she is the most giving, generous and selfless person on the earth. It only makes her more obnoxious, but you do not get to pick family. Nothing we ever do or say will ever reveal to her the level of her inconsiderate behavior.



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Posted: 12/18/2013 9:50:43 AM
Inconsiderate people don't have a clue they're inconsiderate. I've met so many people like that, and live with two of them just like you've described. I don't necessarily believe these people haven't been taught or seen consideration given to others. They just don't have any idea that they're not. I think in some cases they see it so much (consideration, that is) that they just assume they're just like that also without giving it much thought. They tend to have had everything handed to them or done for them by other very considerate people in life and have never had the shoe on the other foot.


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