if you have some hated relatives, where do you put there lo's?

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Posted 5/6/2013 by glitter rage in General Scrappin'
 

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Posted: 5/6/2013 9:06:43 PM
Do your relatives flip through your pages? Do you "hide" the lo's or scrapbook?

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Posted: 5/6/2013 9:10:04 PM
Not sure what your Q is or means. If you do not want relatives looking through your books ,then put them a way...IMO


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Posted: 5/6/2013 9:24:54 PM
I don't bad mouth anyone in my albums, so it doesn't matter who looks through them.


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Posted: 5/6/2013 9:37:07 PM
I don't think I hate any of my relatives. Not even the ones that are not so perfect. However...if I did... I probably would not scrap them.

I scrap my fond memories, not everything.








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Posted: 5/6/2013 10:28:47 PM
I dont hate the relative, but there are a lot of hard feelings from other family members. I try to remember the good things. My family goes through my stuff. There is no such thing as privacy with them. I hate that.

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Posted: 5/6/2013 10:33:56 PM
I wouldn't scrap them because I wouldn't photograph them. I avoid people I dislike. I dont hate anyone but my ex husbands LO's from our marriage did get pulled from the albums. I think he is still in a few really old ones that had other people as the main focus but I put them aside for my former step son in case he ever wants them. Buried in a box I dont have to look at or in.

I just ignore the fact that he was ever part of our lives and never think twice about him. Although he has had serious issues with stalking and trespassing. Maybe I can scrap his mugshot and the restraining order #always a bright side!!


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Posted: 5/6/2013 10:34:42 PM
Ahhh...now that makes more sense to what you were asking. I guess I would just put them away when the people that have issues come over. No need to have to deal with that when they come over.








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Posted: 5/6/2013 10:50:43 PM
I don't keep my scrapbooks out for anyone to see. If people come over, they are all put away in my bedroom and just as when anyone comes over, the door to my bedroom is closed. If anyone felt that they had the right to go into my bedroom uninvited, I'd be inviting them to leave.

If someone who went through my scrapbooks uninvited saw or read something they didn't like, I'd be pulling out the world's smallest violin, just for them. They are essentially eavesdropping and we all know what happens to eavesdroppers. TS

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Posted: 5/6/2013 10:58:59 PM
ok, I don't know how to answer the question without getting to detailed. But I do have relatives that I don't have the best relationship with, they don't hang around or come around (mostly because I live no where near them) but my albums I leave out for family and friends that come around to see and look through. They don't do it always but if they did I wouldn't be bothered because they know that scrapbooking is something that I have been and will continue to do.

My family sends my photos all the time to keep or save. I somehow have become the photo reservationist in my family, and even my aunt who loves doing our family tree, sends photos to me.

So I would not scrapbook someone who I don't have the best relationship with. And I am very forgiving when it comes to family, so if you aren't in my life it's because you are unhealthy (emotionally) and would do the same to my family so you wouldn't be around. But otherwise, my books are free range, except the book that has my baby sister in it (she is deceased and that book is about my feelings)so no one gets to read that except my kids.


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Posted: 5/6/2013 11:06:04 PM
I don't hate any of my relatives. Of course there are some I like less than others and spend less time with - so naturally they wouldn't be in my scrapbooks much except for maybe a holiday group picture, since I don't see them as much.

Now my stbxdh - at block with the photos of him I haven't scrapped yet ...I will do it for my dd- but so not ready to any time soon.


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Posted: 5/6/2013 11:19:47 PM
I suppose if I hated them I wouldn't scrapbook photos of them


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Posted: 5/7/2013 10:23:27 AM
I think you are probably asking about older pictures. I have brothers who just got divorced. I didn't take their old family pictures out of the album and trash them. These ladies are still the mothers of my nieces and nephews. I can't undo the last 20 years that they have been in the family (as much as my brother would like). People will look at the picture and maybe say a bad word about former-SIL and move on.

I have one friend who went so far as to scan in her family pictures and photoshop the ex out.


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Posted: 5/7/2013 11:50:57 AM
I might do a smaller album or just a different album with that family member. You can keep that somewhere else when other family comes over, so they don't feel slighted (by not being able to look at your albums) or have an issue with the other relative being in the album.



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Posted: 5/7/2013 12:00:06 PM
I scrap who I want to scrap. Period. If other family wants to look at my album they are welcome to do so. But I do not feel I need to edit my albums for their sensibilities. If they don't want to see photos of "John" then perhaps they shouldn't be looking through my albums.


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Posted: 5/7/2013 12:06:36 PM
I don't think you should hide them from other people. It's YOUR work that they're looking at, I think you should feel free to put whatever you want in there. If they don't like a certain person they can just flip the page.

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Posted: 5/7/2013 12:49:02 PM

I don't bad mouth anyone in my albums, so it doesn't matter who looks through them.


This!


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Posted: 5/7/2013 2:55:16 PM
I have a relative that I used to have a close relationship with and now I don't. I don't take those LOs out of the albums. I simply haven't scrapped anymore LOs with that person in them.


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Posted: 5/7/2013 7:12:52 PM
Don't take photos so there is nothing to scrap.


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Posted: 5/7/2013 10:03:50 PM
Interesting question...the albums are yours, therefore you put what you want in there. Hopefully the family members who do have the issue with the other relative would be adult enough to 'turn the page' so to speak?

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Posted: 5/7/2013 10:26:10 PM
I kind of get where you're coming from.

My Mom has seven in her family and she only gets along well with one or two.

My Dad had 13 in his family and all but one are kooky! Maybe two that live in another state.

My Dad's Dad was Satan. That's what I call him.

I do have some really old photos of my Dad with Satan and I want to include them in a heritage album but I hate to have him in there but it's so cute of my Dad so it's a conundrum for sure!

I could see if I scrapped pictures of one of my aunt's in a nice way, my Mom getting upset because she doesn't see her as nice.

Ugh - I hate family drama! Probably why I've never scrapped any of it!

But to answer your question - my relatives would only see what I have out for them to see! But I don't see my relatives that much, except for my Mom and sister.

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Posted: 5/7/2013 11:49:10 PM
okay, can I just say I love this thread!

Grandpa Satan, crazy ex's.

Love me some Pea family dirt..keepin' it real, Peas, keepin' it real!

LOL...

oh, and to answer OP, ITA, I don't scrap the crazies. Just don't.


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