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Posted 6/8/2013 by YooRees_Mom in General Scrappin'
 

YooRees_Mom
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Posted: 6/8/2013 3:43:52 PM
I went to Micheals today to get a few craft items for our church's VBS. I passed through the scrap booking section and felt so inspired to go home and scrap! As soon as got home, I felt bombarded by all of the things I NEED to do - things like laundry, dishes, and working on VBS stuff.

How do you make time for your hobbies? I know if I scrap BEFORE I get all of this other stuff done, I will feel guilty. If I wait until all of my work is done, I will be too tired to do anything creative. Does anyone else feel this way?



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Posted: 6/8/2013 3:56:26 PM
I devote 1-2 days to cleaning while my kids are in school. My daily cleaning such as the kitchen is always a must and I get it done right away. I pick 2-3 nights for my hobby when the kids are down for bed.


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Posted: 6/8/2013 4:55:29 PM
I view it as making time for myself. I do a lot for my family so why shouldn't I take time for myself too? The world isn't going to fall apart if I spend a few hours in my scraproom.


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Posted: 6/9/2013 12:43:10 AM
There is always something that can be done around the house... what's that old saying, "A mother's work is never done"?

But, there is another saying too that I take particular heed to: "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy"!

Sometimes you have to take a step back from your busy life and take some time to do something that YOU enjoy, that will help you relieve stress and feel emotionally fulfilled.

If you are always busy doing the endless list of chores, and never take time for yourself, you start to become overwhelmed and more stressed out.

So, look at it this way: taking some time to do something for you will make you happier and more efficient when you are doing things for everyone else.

Carve out time for your hobbies for the same reason employers carve out time for their employees to take breaks during the workday: because you will get more done and have a better attitude in the long run.


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Posted: 6/9/2013 3:17:54 AM
Agreed - it's important to make time for yourself and your creative expression.

Personally, I do all of my housework on Tuesday evenings after work when laundry is running but I'm just one person so that's very manageable for me and it's only a once a week chore.

But if you have a partner and/or children, why are you doing all the work while they get to reap the benefits? They helped make the messy, they need to be responsible for cleaning it up, too (can you tell I'm a teacher?). Honestly, if this is your scenario, I'd be making up a chore chart or schedule and having everyone pitch in. That way no one will feel overworked and you can have some extra time to craft without feeling guilty about it, while the children learn about work ethics, responsibility and how to eventually take care of themselves as adults, etc.

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Posted: 6/9/2013 6:44:16 AM
I learned many years ago that there will always be other things that need to be done around the house, but spending time with family/friends and "me" time needs to be a priority.

Scrapping, shopping, and blog reading are my favorite "me" time activities.


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Posted: 6/9/2013 7:56:13 AM
Look at it this way....your kids will not remember that on Sunday afternoon, at precisely 1:34 p.m. the living room was dusted, but if you make a scrapbook page at that time, that memory is preserved for the future. That always puts it in perspective for me

Obviously I do clean, but only the 'must clean' areas (for me that's kitchen and bathrooms) - for others it may be different areas. If that's not clean on a daily basis I feel internal stress, and it does effect my creativity. Other areas like living room, bedrooms, foyer, laundry room, etc., I have a much higher tolerance for disorder.
Also, try to find shortcuts for cleaning: i.e. I don't do dry clean, and I don't iron...I buy wrinkle free, machine washable clothing for the family, and I fold the laundry immediately after the dry cycle so it won't wrinkle. There's a cleaning supply kit under every bathroom sink, so I'm more likely to clean up as I go instead of drawn out cleaning marathons on the weekends. Making beds....I buy duvet covers for the comforters vs. in the past when I used to put the flat sheet under the comforter and tuck everything in; now I just have to straighten out one duvet-clad comforter and the bed is done in a few seconds.
That's what works for me!



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Posted: 6/9/2013 1:38:26 PM
Take some "me" time and let go of the guilt. There will always be something that needs to be done in the house. Just remember to feed the kids and pets. You can clean tomorrow.

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Posted: 6/9/2013 1:42:48 PM
I was just thinking about this today. Right now I'm having "me time" while hubby deals with the 2 girls. We trade off on weekends - sometimes he gets a couple of hours to go on a motorcycle ride, visit friends, or whatnot, and then I get my crafty time. It's non-negotiable for us - we aren't happy parents without it.

But there are tons of laundry and dishes I *could* be doing. I realized I have to "timebox" those activities - ie, it only gets handled once a day, or else I'm doing little bits of it ALL DAY LONG and it's not making me any happier. House chores have a way of creeping up on you.

You know what else I noticed? Hubby has no problem vegging out in front of a video game or the TV. If he's relaxing, he's serious about it (so to speak). He's not stressing about all the stuff he has to do. So I try to be more like him in that way When the dishes pile up, he'll load the dishwasher. When he runs out of jeans, he'll do laundry. He waits until it's a problem, then he fixes it. Pretty smart, IMO



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Posted: 6/9/2013 7:14:15 PM

I know if I scrap BEFORE I get all of this other stuff done, I will feel guilty. If I wait until all of my work is done, I will be too tired to do anything creative. Does anyone else feel this way?


This is me to a tee.

I will get online and watch tv but for some reason, I feel indulgent if I'm scrapping or maybe it's that I can't truly focus and relax and enjoy it unless the house is clean and my work is done. My house is a wreck right now but I'm watching Resale Royalty instead of cleaning!! I do let myself chill on Sundays and not feel bad about it but during the week, I feel like it's my job as a mom to clean and do laundry before having fun.

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Posted: 6/9/2013 7:20:12 PM
I don't know if this will help you at all, but I just choose not to feel guilty over time I spend scrapbooking. My DH loves it. My kids love it. And I know someday my future family, maybe even after I am dead, will love my albums.

There is ALWAYS one more thing that can be done around the house. If you waited for everything to be done that needed to be done before you did anything fun for yourself, you would never do anything fun!

Put on a load of laundry, and then scrapbook.
Load the dishwasher, and then scrapbook.
Have fun while you can!
Life is too short not to scrapbook.






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Posted: 6/11/2013 1:40:04 AM
I don't think I can choose whether or not I feel guilty - I just do.

And does anyone else feel like you can't really focus on scrapping unless you have a long block of time? Maybe that is a spin-off thread. LOL

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Posted: 6/11/2013 5:17:53 AM
I totally agree with Biochemipea! On the days I'm not working I do housework, washing, look after my kids and scrap at the same time! I always have a layout on the go. Sometimes it may take a couple of days (or more) to complete the page, but at least I'm getting some scrapping and me time amongst the busyness. I think I've actually learnt to scrap in small blocks of time, and it also increases my creativity. Now I struggle at crops as I'm not used to having so much time!

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Posted: 6/11/2013 12:29:47 PM
I don't work, so my family assumes I play all day~wrong. I can't scrap "in peace" (my creativity is zapped) if I know there are dirty dishes in the sink or dirty clothes to be done. So I try to work on the house in the mornings & play in the afternoons. I do laundry in the afternoons as I can scrap while the washer & dryer are running.


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Margaret




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Posted: 6/11/2013 1:54:53 PM
I can relate. It's tough. Sometimes I just have to remind myself that taking some "me" time for my hobbies will make it easier for me to focus on other things I have to get done later.

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Posted: 6/11/2013 2:36:23 PM
I've gotten better about not feeling like everything needs to be done before I can scrap. I used to feel that way. Sometimes I will start a load of laundry and then start scrapping and get a few loads done that way while I scrap. Another thing that works for me is to plan a scrap day or afternoon. I will get my grocery shopping and housework done in the day or two before, plan an easy dinner, and scrap without all of that stuff in my mental periphery.

And I totally agree with cengland. I don't clean house alone. Even little ones can learn how to put toys away and fold towels.

Another thing that I keep in mind is that no one in my family ever complains about me scrapping. They never suggest that I should be doing something else. I do that to myself. I don't complain when my kids play video games or when my husband watches tv in their free time so why should I feel bad about doing something I want to do?


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Posted: 6/11/2013 6:02:58 PM
When my was growing up we had power hour... For one hour all three of us cleaned for one hour. Really moving and cleaning. It was great exercise and resulted in 3 hours of house work. Now when we visit he wants to have power hour at his house, uh, no, we don't live here.

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Posted: 6/11/2013 6:38:34 PM
OP and TracieClaiborne we could be triplets! With both your posts, I sighed "me too."

I think my struggle with depression doesn't help either, not a lot of ANYTHING gets done most days.


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Posted: 6/11/2013 6:44:05 PM
My housework and dust bunnies are never ending here. I need "me" time. My depression rings it ugly head if I don't.



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Posted: 6/11/2013 9:57:08 PM
Thank you for all of your posts. It is encouraging to hear that I am not the only one with guilt issues and how some of you are able to let things go and do what you enjoy! I am trying to get there! I love the idea that my kids won't remember if the house was perfectly clean, but they will cherish the memories I record in a scrapbook. I will keep working on my issues. thank you for your support!


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Posted: 6/11/2013 10:29:32 PM
Well I feel guilty not only for the housework, but if that is done, then I feel I should be spending my time with my family and what they are doing so I rarely allow myself to do it. Its ridiculous.

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Posted: 6/11/2013 11:28:24 PM
I don't feel the least bit guilty. I just can't get any help around here with the chores or dd. She is a mommy's baby and I can't put her down and just let her cry because she will literally make herself sick and she is too little to understand WHY mommy put her down. She is getting better now that she is big enough to play with toys and teethe on things. I'm hopeful that Mommy will get scrappy time in the future.

Anytime there is someone to help with the baby I am rushing to throw a load of laundry in and load the dishwasher and wash bottles. And take out the trash and a million other things that need attention. All at one time. DD's dad isn't around enough to watch her so I can have some free time. Which is REALLY frustrating but I feel it will resolve itself in the form of a large new flat screen tv for my Christmas gift

But to answer the original question, yes sometimes I feel guilty for wanting to scrap when I could be cleaning something. Or organizing something. I blame this on my nesting getting interrupted when my dd was born a month early I was getting stuff DONE before that.


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Posted: 6/12/2013 9:35:49 AM
I multi-task. I work full time all week. I don't have any energy to scrapbook most weekday evenings.
On the weekends I will do laundry inbetween Scrapbooking or cleaning rooms in the house.
I try to get my cleaning done in the morning and the afternoon is me time.



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Posted: 6/12/2013 10:05:28 AM
oh I hate that feeling. it happens often for me ... and I bring it on myself! my family doesn't mind one bit if I actually use the stuff I buy to enjoy my hobby.

I try to make sure that the top priorities are taken care of and that helps. for some reason though, when I first get started working on a project I get that familiar pang of guilt. usually, I stick it out and it fades. I try to remember the importance of balance.

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Posted: 6/12/2013 10:11:44 AM
I make a plan. For example, on Sunday after church I went on a cleaning spree with the plan I would stop at 4 pm and scrapbook the rest of the evening. I did just that. Whatever didn't get done by 4 pm, too bad!

During the week I do the dinner dishes, toss in some laundry and putter around until 7 pm. Then it's me time and I scrapbook for an hour or two.

I will say I do not have kids at home anymore. Your evenings are rarely free when you have kids! Even so, pick a night or two for yourself.


Lynn


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