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cristi_ann
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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:01:18 AM
how do you coach yourself through the 'one day i might want to use this' aspect of purging?

this seems to be my biggest weakness. I can think something is ugly, but I tell myself 'one day I might want to use this.' lol...




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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:06:55 AM
You need a mantra like " ugly is forever"! Just joking, although I would suggest trying to find a way to use it now if you can't make yourself get rid of it.

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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:07:33 AM
I've heard of people putting those types of items in a box in a closet. If your "one day I will use this" doesn't happen in x amount of months you purge it. 3 months seems to be popular for purging.


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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:10:26 AM
A few years ago I heard a talk by someone who said that if you're keeping something that you are not using you're being selfish because someone else could be using it and may need it. If I'm having an issue I remind myself of this and think of the joy that someone else may get from using the very thing that I am hanging onto.

I also donate most of the supplies that I destash to my SIL who is an elementary school teacher. She has told me many times how much the kids love those packages so it makes it much easier for me to pass things along.

I just put the first one into practice when I sold my Sizzix and all the dies at a rummage sale recently. I knew it probably wouldn't bring a lot of cash, but then I reminded myself of the joy someone else may get from using it. Had a great conversation with the woman who bought most of the system which just made my day.


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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:29:34 AM
My purging rule is simple, if I don't LOVE it, I get rid of it.



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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:35:24 AM
I remind myself that if I think it is ugly and have not used it yet, I am unlikely to use it at all.

After all, at what point am i ever going to think "Hmmm, something ugly would be perfect in this cluster."

And then i put it in my daughters play stash and then get satisfaction when she loves it.
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Posted: 7/20/2013 9:35:26 AM
There are 2 main things I think about first ....

1. how long has it been sitting there unused and if I can't use it on the next couple of layouts I probably won't use it, especially when I think about how little scrapping time I atually have. There are plenty of other supplies to use.

2. Everything has to fit in the space assigned to it so I ask myself if I have the space to hang onto it for a little while longer or not. If not then I tell myself to be ruthless.

Over the last year I have learned to recognize and understand my scrapping style through Shimelle classes and videos. That has really helped a lot with the purging. I had supplies I liked looking at but now I know I will never use them on a page no matter how pretty I think they are. That made it easier to part with the excess too.

One other thing I learned is that the purging seems like an ongoing process to me rather than a one-shot exercise, especially with papers. So when I start to have some supply that doesnt fit any more, right then I look to see what I can purge, what I am not so fond of any more, and then I try to focus on using up more of what is left right away.

Now that I think of it the biggest change for me has been understanding my scrapping style . That made purchasing, storing, organizing, purging AND scrapping LOL a lot easier.

That's just what works for me.
Good luck!

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Posted: 7/20/2013 10:23:45 AM
I'm not the one to answer this question- I don't purge at all. I have the space and an organizational system, so if I liked it enough to buy it, I will keep it.

I have been scrapping since 1996, and I am amazed how much that was old becomes new again. I have stencils from long ago of hearts and stars that I am using again. Some of the brighter papers, or themes with bright images can look pretty good with some distressing, inking, misting etc., or in a just a small pinked circle etc. My mm acrylic paints are fine if I shake them up.

Of course lastly is freely sharing when one of my dd decides she wants to do a project. That thin pattern paper cut into squares worked great for her origami phase last week.


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Posted: 7/20/2013 11:13:48 AM
I don't have an overly large stash, so I don't really get rid of too much on a regular basis. And I'm pretty good at using up old supplies, so I don't feel bad about keeping almost everything.

But if I think something is ugly, then it's gone! I don't want to be shuffling through product I hate to find that one piece of older treasure to use.



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Posted: 7/20/2013 11:29:08 AM
I had to stop letting myself keep things I DIDN'T like when the only reason I was keeping it was "just in case I might need it someday". Now, if that if what I find myself thinking, and I don't like the item, I remind myself that:
1. There will always be more of said item available
2. I won't miss it when it's gone.

I'm also a big believer in keeping things I do like. I won't get rid of something just because it's old, so if i like it, I keep it. There are lots of items in my stash that I use now, that I've had for several years and didn't use before, like baby clothes pins, some metallic gold paper I've had since the 8th grade, and speciality suede and neon paper my aunt gave me that SHE had had for a few decades that I've now had for close to ten years.

Keep it if you like it.
Don't keep it if you don't really really really like it or love it.
There will always be more.
You really won't miss it when it's gone.







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Posted: 7/20/2013 11:36:56 AM
My purging routine goes like this. Speaking to myself "maybe I will use this one day". Then I ask, "why haven't I used it yet".

I then go through the pile one last time and if I choose to keep it, I must use it THAT DAY or it goes. Today, I began a purge early (too early 5am - couldn't sleep). I have a pile to donate to the boys and girls club but I set the following aside and did these 4 layouts today.

OLD OCTOBER AFTERNOON

OLD CRATE PAPER

REMINISCE

WAYYYYYY OLD MM & TH TICKETS


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Posted: 7/20/2013 11:59:15 AM
Thanks for sharing, treyaut. As I commented on the layout in the gallery, I will be lifting the doggie layout. Still love that line of products in my stash.

Regarding purging, I put things away for a while. My best thing that works for me is finding children who like or want to scrap. They are so tickled to get "new" supplies. Makes me feel better, too.

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Posted: 7/20/2013 12:49:06 PM

Keep it if you like it.
Don't keep it if you don't really really really like it or love it.
There will always be more.
You really won't miss it when it's gone.



Ashley...I think I am going to print this out and put it on my wall!







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Posted: 7/20/2013 1:00:45 PM
I have found that I am able to let go of things if I feel like it will actually be used. As another Pea mentioned, elementary school teachers will love you for any scrapping supplies you pass on.

It is funny for me when I am purging and come across piles of paper from a stack that I absolutely had to have! 98% of that paper goes to the pile for donating!

I have also made special little goodie boxes for friends at work with children - those with larger families especially, with the economy being what it is.

However, I don't always do well with the purging if I'm having a tough day in general...I went through a phase of hard-core SHOPPING
that I now know was a coping mechanism for some tough life lessons. "If I just have all the scrapping stuff I need for making the latest/greatest scrapbook, I can start making pages just like I see in all these magazines (because those seem to depict this 'perfect life' that I once envied). And then maybe my life would be perfect, just like that."

Wow! I didn't mean to take ya'll on a therapy trip! It does feel good to say it, though. I am finally moving past that and the realization that my life is pretty awesome, with or without a huge stash, is liberating! I am a work in progress.

I don't have an actual answer for your question, I suppose - but really think about why you even hesitated - maybe the hesitation is your answer. If you say 'one day...' maybe it's time to let it go.

Hope it kind of helped...Thanks for listening!

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Posted: 7/20/2013 1:12:50 PM
I still love my stash even from 10 years ago. MME die -cuts of those cute kids comes to mind even though they are not the current trend. The only stuff I truly hate are those QVC kits I bought 8 years ago. Will I throw them away......nah, I decided to use them for cards because the paper as a whole is ugly but when cut to size it won't be too bad.


I did purge some paper that were not to terrible ugly b/c I liked them at one point but once I donated them I instantly regretted it. Now I refuse to purge ever again. I am however slowing down on my spending by really holding out for sales unless it is something low in stock. I am hoping by doing this I won't be bringing in more than I am using. I think that is why I like the current trend of layering all kinds of products gets me to start using a bunch on one layout.

Not sure if my response helped but best of luck with whatever you decided on.


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Posted: 7/20/2013 2:16:00 PM
I actually just went through my stash today and did a purge. I wasn't entirely ruthless but I have to say, my stash baskets are pretty darn empty right now. Here are some of the factors I used to decide:

1. Package unopened or opened but nothing/one item used - if I still haven't even opened the package or I've opened it but used typically one or two items, I clearly should get rid of it.

2. Original stash - if it was something from my original scrapbooking stash, it needs to go. Nothing wrong with old stuff but old stuff I'm not interested in isn't right.

3. Not my style - I get free (supply) gifts from a magazine subscription but they're not always my style so when that's the case, get rid of them.

If it's something that doesn't fit into one of those three categories, then sometimes a bit of ruthlessness is needed.

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Posted: 7/20/2013 3:40:22 PM
I am really struggling with this too right now.

As I am currently in the process of reconsidering my supplies I have been thinking about this a lot. Whenever I run into that idea of "what if I could use that someday" I've started to examine that thought. When I really get into what is behind the "someday" thought, I've realized that more often than not it is my mind's placeholder for an idea or plan. So if I don't even have a notion about how I would use a given supply, then that indicates to me that it isn't fueling my creativity.

In the off chance that the "Someday" thought is there and I DO have a plan for that product I need to consider how long I've had that plan and if it even aligns with where I see my creativity taking me these days and into the future. I am trying to set time limits for these projects and ditching them if they are still undone when the time period has passed.

Now I do find that there are some of my supplies that I just don't really worry about (thickers, kits, pens, etc) because they will get used. And there are other things like my embellishment bins and loose paper that I will pull out anything that I don't like anymore, or just doesn't fuel my creativity - but those are two sets of supplies that I am pretty lax about (at least I am until I reach the capacity of the storage I've set up for them!)

The last thing that I've come to realize is that for some of my stuff I just need to decide what the value is to me. For example I have a foot and a half stack of paper pads that I genuinely enjoy, but have been rather overwhelming for me because of the sheer volume of paper. I have made the decision to jot down on the cover of each approximately how much I spent on that pad of paper. If I can make enough scrapbook pages from that paper to equal the # of dollars I spent at that point I will consider myself successful in using up that pad. After that I can purge the remainder, or do whatever with the rest of it - no guilt allowed.


I kind feel like I am just brain dumping here, so I hope any of this makes sense! good luck - I hope you can find your happy medium!




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Posted: 7/20/2013 4:11:02 PM
I think you have to take the same mindset as they tell you to do with clothes - if you haven't worn it for a year, get rid of it. The problem is, a few embellishments or pieces of paper don't take up as much room, individually!

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Posted: 7/20/2013 4:16:23 PM
Glad you found it helpful, FurryPea! As I've been cleaning and organizing over the past few weeks, I think I might need to put it up as a reminder to myself, too. Totally just realized my paper stash is out of control!!






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Posted: 7/20/2013 5:22:43 PM
I've been purging my entire home.
I use the same system to purge my scrap stuff as my home

If I don't really love it, it goes.
I've been being really brutal with my purging and its working well for me.

I have a few big bankers boxes full of stuff I don't love.
Ill be making kits with some if it that will be beautiful and ill sell them in my ETSY shop.
The rest will go to DGD or her brownie troop


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Posted: 7/20/2013 5:29:12 PM

some metallic gold paper I've had since the 8th grade, and speciality suede and neon paper my aunt gave me that SHE had had for a few decades that I've now had for close to ten years.


BioCHem, I could have written this! I'm going to try and take your other advice though.

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Posted: 7/20/2013 8:48:36 PM
Getting rid of stuff I don't like and won't ever use gives me the physical room and justification to get stuff I actually will use! It has made me more discerning in my purchases. There will always be an endless supply of cute, must-have items, so getting rid of stuff that's weighing you down opens the way to get new stuff. That's how I see it! This is also how I coach myself through using my most favorite items.

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Posted: 7/21/2013 4:32:34 AM
I am not the best at purging by any means, especially paper, however:

1) I have limited space...if it doesn't fit I can't buy more. Once my space is filled I am not allowed to shop until I make room for new things. This is probably the most important rule for me, personally. I like shopping...okay I REALLY like shopping, for new goodies. I also like my new toys to get used and played with, if they are buried under piles of newer stuff they get neglected, and voila, one day they are no longer new.

Also, I have tried hard to STOP buying things I might THINK are pretty, but I never use. For example, I love the way Webster's Pages paper looks, vintage and amazing, but I can't seem to use it properly. So I won't let myself buy it. Ditto overly themed embellishments. I do use LOTS of bright patterned papers, washi tape, stickers, die cuts, wood veneer, and gems/enamel dots. So I do allow myself to buy those instead.

2) Do I LOVE it? Will I USE it? No? Then it goes to my daughter's scrap stash. She likes smashbooking and making cards and collages. Last term at school they did a collage section in art and kids had to bring in extra supplies. I gave a bunch of things to my daughter to share with her friends in class. They appreciated it more than I would!

3) How old is it? Do I really need that paper that I haven't used in 4 years? Probably not. I most likely forgot it was even there. I prefer being able to mentally catalog my supplies. That way I can grab something and go. If it gets too old or I get too much stuff this becomes more difficult.

4) I do allow myself a pizza box full of special things that I may or may not ever use, but I do LOVE. Only that one box though. It is mostly full of Sassafras Lass, other discontinued companies like Hambly and special papers that are so pretty they need "just the right LO". They are treasures which I have allowed myself to keep and not feel guilty if I never use. It is a limited amount though, and I still go through the box every so often and decide if I still LOVE the things in it.

5) I generally do not get rid of tools,inks, pens,glues etc unless a ) they are no longer in working order or b ) I am REALLY sure I will never use them.






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Posted: 7/21/2013 7:38:57 AM
Can it be easily replaced? I figure it as cost analysis. Why should I pay the "cost" in storage/space/cleaning time to store it in my space if I can easily let the stores hold on to one and make a small cost purchase only if I need it.



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Posted: 7/21/2013 8:30:32 AM
I can't help with the situation you're in right now but having gone thru something similar, I can tell you what I did from the purgepoint forward. Once I got things under control, I vowed to be more selective in what came thru the door of my house.

Know thyself: I stick to my style, my favorite colors, and my favorite ways of doing things. I buy bits and pieces, not entire collections, because I prefer to pick and choose. I have a color wheel I use often and my color index books have been a great source of inspo. I own way less than I used to but it's OK: she with the most toys doesn't always win, and frankly, paper can be a fire hazard. I don't want to end up on an episode of Hoarders or have my kids renting a dumpster to clean the stash if and when I can't.

Too much of a good thing is still too much. Less is more. Truly.



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Posted: 7/21/2013 9:14:21 AM
Make a plan to use it within a week...if you can't it goes in the purge pile!


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