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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:43:28 PM
I am sure that my MIL got a bit ripped off. Not including the casket what are funerals costing these days. We are not paying for the burial plot and stone, he is a veteran.

they charged 1500 for the grave liner. That is about 3 times more than what we payed for my MIL less than 7 yrs ago.

They decided on a simple oak casket. It's simple, sturdy and non frilly. Like my father in law.

we are not even having visitation at the nursing home. we are having it at one church and having the funeral at another.

I can't believe that the "services" they are providing will cost 5,000 to transport the body and embalm the body.



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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:51:42 PM
My grandmother passed away about 5 weeks ago. The total cost was just under $10K if I remember correctly. That included:
-casket, liner, etc.
-embalming
-hair, make-up, dressing, etc.
-Rosary service (1 hr)
-priest
-prayer cards
-hearse
-1 limo for family from funeral home to cemetery to house
-police escort (2 motorcycle cops) for procession to cemetery
-obituary in 2 local papers (one very small, one much larger)
-opening and closing of grave site
-extra Saturday fees

I think that was everything, but there might have been a few other things.

ETA: after looking at the other replies, it also included:
-death certificates (10 I think)
-transportation from the hospital to the funeral home

Her headstone and burial plot were pre-paid (she was buried with her husband who passed away in 1987)

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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:55:45 PM
My dad's cremation last year cost just over $4,000 - completely basic - no viewing, no container other than the one provided, no service, no transportation costs (although they could and should have charged us, so I appreciated that).

Dad had a prepaid policy and he paid $1100 for it in 1997, so the costs had raised that much in just about 12 years.

The funeral home did give me a complete price sheet, so I would think that anyone could get one of those for a funeral home in question.

If I'm not mistaken, I think the funeral director told me that a traditional funeral (not counting the burial plot) is about $10,000 or so.


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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:55:59 PM
-casket, liner, etc.
-embalming
-hair, make-up, dressing, etc.
***not having one-Rosary service (1 hr)
***no cost for his pastor-priest
-prayer cards
-hearse
***no limo -1 limo for family from funeral home to cemetery to house
-police escort (2 motorcycle cops) for procession to cemetery
-obituary in 2 local papers (one very small, one much larger)
**** free- he is a veteran -opening and closing of grave site
-extra Saturday fees



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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:56:16 PM
My dh's funeral last September was $12,000, not including the headstone. We might have been able to save some on the casket, but the kids and I picked out what we thought was nice, not flashy, and appropriate. I didn't even ask about prices. It was so surreal that cost of things never crossed my mind, to be totally honest. We got the standard vault and a basic service.

The only "extra" we had to pay for was $150 extra because he was buried on a Saturday, which was a non-duty day for the men at the cemetary. My mom works part-time at a funeral home in a nearby town, and she told me that cost was not outrageous by any means.

As for the liner tripling in 7 years, I'm not surprised. Raw materials have skyrocketed in price.


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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:58:35 PM
MIL payed for the flowers directly she didn't go through the funeral home as she knows the florist in town and wanted to send the business to them.

these prices are why dh and I both want to be cremated. Plus why take up valuable real estate.

direct cremation-that is what we will have. Ashes scattered in the mountains.



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Posted: 9/24/2010 7:59:52 PM
We had a funeral for my MIL last January, before she was cremated, and it was about $6000. That was just the basics - basic coffin, basic flowers, body transport and preparation, obituary and death certificates, a short service and time for a small lunch afterwards in the mortuary, and the cremation.



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Posted: 9/24/2010 8:00:06 PM
My grandmother died in July. She was 102 and had very little family or friends left and did not belong to a church. She had asked to be cremated. We had a very simple service at the funeral home with no visitation and we spread her ashes so didn't need an urn or a burial plot. We had the gathering at my brother's house afterwards and I made most of the food. My friends made the rest. We spent only around $5,000 total and that also included the flowers, soloists, minister, bulletins, funeral book, three videos, obituary in paper with a picture and pre-printed thank you cards.


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Posted: 9/24/2010 8:36:05 PM
Basic funeral with no visitation and a casket these days is between $4000 and $5000. My uncle owns a funeral home.

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Posted: 9/24/2010 8:59:49 PM
When my dad passed away in 08, I believe the costs were around 9,000. Mom went over her budget, and we all had to go back in and pick out a new casket. The headstone was $5k and there's no WAY I will let my family spend that much on an effin pretty ROCK for me. ugh.

My grandmother is not well, and will go pretty much anytime. Mom said she had $5k if I remember correctly, and that will only pay for graveside services, embalming and a good liner, cheap casket.

That's really sad to me. I'm seriously considering telling my family I want to be cremated. I just think it's such a waste of $$. Chunked away.
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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:07:54 PM
My mom works for SCI, the company that owns Dignity. They offer preneed funerals, which means you plan your own funeral now, and your wishes are followed at your death. It ends up being cheaper for your family, because you pay at today's rates. Plus, it's easier on everyone involved if you plan your own funeral while you are alive. That way there is no confusion over what you want, no emotional decisions need to be made, and it cuts down on or even eliminates arguing amongst survivors. You can even do it online. It can be paid in advance or not.

My funeral and that of my immediate family members will be free due to my mom's employment there, so I really don't know what the current costs are.

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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:14:30 PM
My MIL passed away in February and I think her funeral was about $10,000.

I reviewed the contract for the funeral services and was horrified. It was one of the most unfair, one-sided contracts I have ever read (I'm an attorney and my primary area of practice involves contract disputes). Some of the clauses weren't even enforeceable in my state.

But what are you going to do? By then the funeral home already had the body. I'm sure any other funeral home contract would have been just as bad. It was disheartening to see a funeral home require such an unfair contract-- I'm sure the average grieving family doesn't give the contract a second glance before signing.

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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:15:21 PM
We had a pre-need package and DH's Funeral in 2007 still ran almost $4000 because in Utah you cannot pre-pay obituary notices, emblaming or funeral director costs. The Obit alone ran almost $600 for 2 days in the paper.


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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:15:43 PM

I'm sure the average grieving family doesn't give the contract a second glance before signing.


Which is why preneed funeral planning is such a good idea.

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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:19:36 PM
Msbee remember when my MIL passed away? That was a couple of years ago. She was cremated - no services. I believe it was about 4900.00 then.

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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:27:28 PM
My BFF's mother passed away last year. Her funeral was $10K.


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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:42:35 PM
Dad passed away a little over a year ago...I want to say his funeral was a little over $9,000.0. We'd done pre-planning/payment a few years prior to this & we had to come up with another $500.00, which wasn't bad.


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Posted: 9/24/2010 9:47:13 PM
this crap seriously p*sses me off that they do this to people.



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Posted: 9/24/2010 10:05:03 PM
Dying is an expensive part of life, huh!

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Posted: 9/24/2010 10:44:07 PM
Four years ago we paid 16K for Kaitlyn's funeral (all things included.. NOTHING extra .. in fact I say she is buried in the Walmart section of the cematary)..at the time we had no clue ..but now we know that this is just crazy

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Posted: 9/25/2010 12:11:10 AM

in fact I say she is buried in the Walmart section of the cematary


That made me laugh a little. The cemetery where my grandparents are buried and where we scattered my parents' ashes was one I had been to many times, but we always went in the back entrance near my grandparents' graves. When we went to scatter my dad's ashes, DH took the main entrance in. We drove through all these beautiful statues and mausoleums. I swear some of the statuary was 25 feet tall. Just gorgeous. Then you go through a sort of tunnel and *bam* you are on what we called the "poor side of town" part of the cemetery.

No wonder my dad never took the main entrance. You would never know it was the same cemetery.

On one hand, I found it profoundly sad, but then on the other hand, it really was who my family was, so we just sort of laugh about it now.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 1:55:11 AM
We were told by our life insurance broker to anticipate around $12K.




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My dad passed away 2 years ago yesterday. The funeral cost was $7,500 - visitation the night before and graveside services with a Masonic ceremony. The plot at their church's cemetery was another $500.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 6:51:58 AM

this crap seriously p*sses me off that they do this to people.


You do realize that funeral homes have their own costs, right? Their profits are not what you are paying. They have to buy the ginormous building, pay for utilities and staff, the cost of the caskets, etc. Their employees still need to be paid, even if there are not any funerals scheduled that day.

Unless you know how much funeral homes make, you can't really say it's a ripoff. People are fully entitled to shop around or make arrangement ahead of time.






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Posted: 9/25/2010 7:34:44 AM

You do realize that funeral homes have their own costs, right? Their profits are not what you are paying. They have to buy the ginormous building, pay for utilities and staff, the cost of the caskets, etc. Their employees still need to be paid, even if there are not any funerals scheduled that day.

Their costs are not anywhere near what they are charging. I'm not giving them anything. Just cremation and sprinkle my ashes at the beach. The kidlet needs the money more than they do.



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Posted: 9/25/2010 7:52:21 AM
FIL passed away a few weeks ago; funeral costs were about $8,500. That figure does not include a burial plot or headstone.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 8:08:36 AM
Sorry for your loss!

$5K-$10K (including casket), depending on what you choose and where you live. If you live in a small town where there are fewer choices in funeral homes, they can tend charge more than if you live in a larger city with more competition.

(DH sells funeral and final expense insurance)

ETA-

I didn't even ask about prices. It was so surreal that cost of things never crossed my mind, to be totally honest.


That's why, when DH was a pastor, he'd always offer to go with the family when they made the funeral arrangements. He's seen too often when the funeral home tries to pressure the family into more than they need/want/can afford. It's hard to say no when you're in shock and of course they "want the best for their loved one".


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Posted: 9/25/2010 8:27:43 AM
I am surprised that a cremation with no service,no viewing,etc cost $6K All the ones I've heard about were less than $2K.

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Posted: 9/25/2010 8:32:05 AM
Most people aren't going to shop around at the time, so it's really not feasible to comparison shop. Once the funeral home has taken the body, can you even have it transferred to another place?

Not all homes are out to price gouge though. When my triplets were born 3 months early, we lost one of them at 11 days old. We went to the home suggested by the priest who came to give him last rites. The funeral director told us they weren't in business to make money off of dead children, and they charged the very lowest they could - $325 for cremation and copies of the death certificates.

They were very kind about it, and after the obituary ran in the paper they sent us copies of it laminated with a prayer card.



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Posted: 9/25/2010 8:41:53 AM
My father's funeral was last month. Total cost was $3000. That included:

-cremation
-transportation of body from my father's home to the funeral home
-obituary
-flowers
-death certificates
-guest book
-the use of a magnetic picture board
-the funeral director delivered and set up the flowers, the guest book, and the picture board. He stayed for the funeral and checked with us both before and after to see if we needed anything else.

No visitation, funeral was at church, no urn (just the cardboard box)




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I'm from a small town and my mom was a high school classmate of the man that owned the town's funeral home. When my grandmother died, I went with my mom to the funeral home to plan the funeral (thank goodness!)

The first thing my mom's friend said was, "here is a price list for individual services. I have to offer this to you by law, but I'm sure you'll want one of the packages" and he slipped the price list back in the drawer without letting us even glance at it. I said, "Thank you, Jim. I think we would like a copy of the price list."

He then said to my mom (and I kid you not!), "I pulled your father's file and your mother picked out a beautiful, top of the line casket for him. I'm sure you will want a matching casket for your mom. The price will be $16,000."

My grandfather died in 1965 and my grandmother died in 1998. Why on earth would they need matching caskets! I was outraged that he was preying on my mom's emotions.

I said, "Jim, show us your cheapest casket, and we'll work our way up from there." Of course, the cheapest was the one we ended up buying, but it costs a whooping $1600.

It costs about $10,000 for my grandmother's funeral and burial. I hate it that some funeral home directors prey on the emotions of people when they are at their weakest point.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 10:05:12 AM
My mom's funeral in 2008 was over 16,000.00. That was not including the plot as it was already paid for years ago. We picked the middle ground casket. They charged 2,500 to dig the hole for the already paid for plot. The one extra we had was a horse drawn carraige to take her from the building to the plot. It was only about 300 yrds. that was 900.00. That was my mom's only request. Well that and a band (like they do in Louisianna), but I drew the line at that one.

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Posted: 9/25/2010 10:09:01 AM

Of course, the cheapest was the one we ended up buying, but it costs a whooping $1600.


What a douche waffle!!

My dad's casket cost $950 - and mom bought an insert for the top that was about $125 that was given to my brother. Everyone commented on it. It was flat black with chome handles and made us think of dad's harley. I actually prefered it over the first one she picked. My feeling is it's just a stupid box. That's it.

Did you all know you can buy caskets off the internet?? I did some research and found some as cheap s $500! (plus shipping). This is what I will tell my family to do for me if they choose to bury me.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 10:09:02 AM

in fact I say she is buried in the Walmart section of the cematary


I too had to laugh at this. My parents are buried in Forest Park Cemetery in Houston and my uncle was planning his funeral so no one would have to do it. I remarked oh good, you will be close to Mother and Dad. His reply was "nah - your Aunt and I are back in the cheap seats!"

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Posted: 9/25/2010 10:41:09 AM
I think Walmart even sells caskets these days!

DH and I are rearranging our wills. I had life insurance for the children when they were young so that the loss of my income if I should die would cover them. Now that they are out on their own and almost done with school I've been thinking of dropping the policy. Then I thought, wouldn't it be nice if I could leave them the cash from the policy and I would put aside a small amount for my funeral and I wanted to make a legacy to my guide dog school.

I think I need a bigger policy!!



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Posted: 9/25/2010 11:11:25 AM
In 2004, Cassie's funeral was about $15,000.

This included *everything* and she is buried in the small town cemetary. I have purcahased the plot beside her, for me.

This did not include limos, as we went from the funeralhome to the cemetary, had hearst & lead car. Private internment.

In the afternoon, there was the celebration of the 'Life & Faith of Cassie'. About 1,500 people were there and a lot of donated food & stuff. Her school closed for the afternoon, & had buses bring the kids to the church.......


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Posted: 9/25/2010 11:15:54 AM

I think Walmart even sells caskets these days!


I know that Costco sells them! I was looking for something on line and saw them.

When my father passed, he had already purchased a cremation package for he and my mother. He did not want a funeral at all. We had a huge birthday party for him when he turned 90 and people were able to say things right to his face. It was awesome. Of course, most of the people in attendance were the children of his friends because he outlived his all of his friends and brothers! After that party, he commented that we were not to have a funeral, that the party we just had was all he wanted. Little did he know, he would pass in two months.

When he died, I made the announcement cards myself. My older sister made a video - I had taken a video of my father's photos years before and I had him describe each picture, so we had bits of his voice telling about his life in the final video. We had a family dinner as our funeral and my younger sister, an amazing cook, made all the food.

My brother-in-law does woodwork as his hobby and he made a custom wooden urn for my mom out of a piece of this special wood he had owned since high school - over 40 years. It is beautiful. The only cost with that for the family was a brass plate for the front.

Mom keeps dad's ashes with her when she moves from my house to my younger sister's house. We had her favorite picture of dad framed and it sits next to the urn on her dresser.

Dad would have been very happy with what we did. He was a no nonsense, frugal man. My mother was very happy with it. She said she wants the exact same thing, minus the family dinner, which is exactly what she will get. (Unfortunately, when Dad passed, my older sister did some things that caused a unrepairable rift and my younger sister and I cut ties with her. Mom completely understands and supports our decision. I posted about it here - the older sister hacked into the younger sister's email)

You don't have to spend a fortune. The only costs for dad's passing was what each of us contributed, food, cards, video, and we split the cost of the brass plate. Dad had encouraged me for years to get the same package he did for my own cremation. I intend to do that.



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Posted: 9/25/2010 11:19:28 AM
Having never personally arranged a funeral I have a question....

If the average funeral costs between 6-16k...how do people pay for it? I mean lets say an average paycheck to paycheck family has a death where do they come up with that kind of money? Is it financed through the funeral home or do you pay it all up front?

If you just have to "have" it...it amazes me that people can afford it. Right now if I had to come up with 10k to pay for a funeral it would be difficult and we live comfortably.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 11:49:31 AM

If the average funeral costs between 6-16k...how do people pay for it? I mean lets say an average paycheck to paycheck family has a death where do they come up with that kind of money? Is it financed through the funeral home or do you pay it all up front?



When my MIL died, she had a funeral plan already in place that paid about $4000 of the $6000 bill. My SIL had made all the arrangements, and didn't know the balance would be due immediately at the end of the funeral, so it was surprise to all of us. Fortunately we had it in savings, but I too wondered how people pay the cost who don't have access to that kind of money. It took over a month for my MIL's small amount of life insurance to finally get paid.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 1:20:50 PM
One of the main benefits of life insurance is funeral costs. It is usually paid out of the deceased's life insurance policy.

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Posted: 9/25/2010 1:23:46 PM
My father's funeral was around $9,000. We're just an average middle class family, and we did have the money to pay cash for the services. I do imagine that a funeral home would have financing plans available too.

I'm single and don't want my siblings worrying about the cost of anything so I have already purchased a pre-need plan. Any overage should come from my estate.


Eileen

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Posted: 9/25/2010 2:03:53 PM
I had this epic reply typed out and my computer decided to eat it. ARGH!!!!

Anyway, to concisely recap: I believe my dad's funeral in 2004 ran us about $6k.

We didn't really think about cost going into it, we just purchased what felt right. I think the cost was lower, possibly because we didn't use very many services and because he is buried in a smallish town.

For instance, it would not occur to my family to use limos for a funeral. If this is standard in your area, then of course you would do it, but I don't think we would have even thought of it.

The price included his plot, the liner, the coffin, and transportation. I think that's pretty much it. We had a graveside service, but the main service was a memorial at his church a few weeks later (no cost involved). He wasn't embalmed because we weren't going to have a viewing.

One thing that still annoys me, all these years later: someone complained to my sister that we spent to much on the coffin! LOL! Who does that?!?! It's so funny because she won't tell me WHO complained. (She knows I would confront them, because seriously, WTH!?! So she won't tell me who.)

First of all, no one but my sister and brother even know what we spent because we were the only ones in the room. Second, his coffin WASN'T that expensive. I think the cheapest at the time was about $800. The priciest was about $4500. The one we picked was about $2200. Totally middle of the road, price-wise. We picked it because it seemed like it would fit Dad. It looked like a car he might drive. It even had spicy little fins on the sides! It was very nice. Apparently TOO nice looking! LOL! Whatever.

Anyway, people will complain about ANYTHING! Insane.

As far as paying for it, my Dad owned his own business for over 20 years, so money wasn't a concern. We just purchased what seemed appropriate at the time.


ETA: I feel so badly for people who feel ripped off after a funeral. We never felt that way at all. There was no pressure from the funeral home to pick any particular package or price range. They showed us everything available and let us pick what felt right. No pressure. I realize this was a blessing, because it's not always the case.

Also, I remember now... I think there was supposed to be an additional charge for some headstone customization, but I never received a bill for it and never paid for it. Yet, my dad has his headstone... so, I'm not sure how that worked out.



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Posted: 9/25/2010 2:04:39 PM
I will say, since it came up, that I never felt pressured in any way from the funeral director to "upgrade" anything for my dad's arrangements. In fact, I felt nothing but comforted by the services that the funeral director provided and he never made me feel "less than" because we were working with a basic policy that had cost far less than what today's going rate was. As a matter of fact, the funeral home that my dad had originally purchased the preplan from went out of business, so this funeral home took over those contracts.

The funeral director was a huge blessing and took care of a lot of details that I just didn't have the energy to take care of, including transferring his body about 100 miles, working with the Coroner since it was an accident case, etc.

I'm torn on prepaid funeral plans. It's basically nothing more than a life insurance policy. The problem comes in if a funeral home goes out of business. I've read of a lot of examples where people were not able to get another home to pick up the policy or had to add to the cost of it for another home to take it over.

On the other hand, it was a huge relief to know exactly what my dad wanted - and didn't want - and to have the expense of it already taken care of. I said many times that it was the greatest gift that my dad had ever given me. I can only imagine how hard that particular check would be for a widow to write at a time that her future may be so uncertain and yet, even with a simple cremation, you are looking at a significant cost.

Since someone mentioned that they were surprised by the cost of simple cremation, I will say that the funeral director did tell me that there are "cremation only" types of businesses now that do run much less expensive (probably in that $2,000 range that was mentioned). However, no additional services are available as it isn't actually a funeral home with a funeral director. So based on what your actual need is, it might be an option. It probably would have been for us if dad had not had his plan already purchased.





Carla




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Posted: 9/25/2010 2:40:19 PM
For my dad's funeral, it was "high-end". Dad & mom had mone & an insurance policy which did cover *most* of the expenses.

Dad had been on many 'boards' in the financial area, most importantly with the local university, so yeah, I lot more than what I would have desired.

It was a full 'top-of-the-line' funeral & private burial. 4 Limos for family, limo for the pall-bearers, lead car, hearst, and police car escort.

The final bill was over $15,000. in 2000! This was 'after' the 'complemtory discount', as dad knew the funeral home owner personally and both were on variours 'boards' within the church & community. Included in this bill were the 'thank-you' cheques to the pastor, organist & soloist. We *knew* they wouldn't take money from us as these were also our friends, so we were advised to put it 'on the tab' and let the funeral home provide the cheques and to give them to the appropriate people, after the service.

Mom paid the bill without blinking at all.

When mom died, we respected her decisions not to have an open casket, not the 'expensive casset' as dad AND to have the inturnment prior to the service.

Again, the limos, but this is 'how' this funeral home does things. They provide 'safe travel' to the bereved family. We parked at the funeral home, took the limos to gravesite and then back to funeral home. Somehow, we had 'police escort' to the church for the memorial service. Yes, we did pay for all the food (both dad & mom) for the reception afterwards, ordered from a deli/bakery & the ladies at the church made coffee, tea and juice.

ALSO -- for Cassie's funeral, I gave DS $300.00 to buy 'candy', as Cassie had wanted a 'candy table' at her wedding receiption. I gave our pastor $400.00 to help in the purchase food, cups, plates (yes paper/plastic).

BTW: the 'candy' was 'good stuff' -- Linder chocolate balls, wrapped chocolate truffles, jelly bellies, etc.

A few of her friends have, in memory of Cassie, had a 'candy table' or have had candy strewn on the tables.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 3:56:41 PM

If the average funeral costs between 6-16k...how do people pay for it? I mean lets say an average paycheck to paycheck family has a death where do they come up with that kind of money? Is it financed through the funeral home or do you pay it all up front?


Our experience was that since my dad didn't have a pre-purchased plan, they wanted full payment. We were fortunate that I was able to write a check for it, as neither mom nor my sisters would have been able to pay in full. If you are depending on life insurance proceeds to cover funeral expenses, note that payout on most policies takes several weeks to a couple of months to occur.

After the experience we had with my grandmother's pre-purchased plan though, I don't plan to go that route. What she'd paid in for several years didn't even begin to cover the expenses of her funeral. I remember my dad and uncle having to come up with the balance - with was most of the cost. So not a fan of those plans after that experience.


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Posted: 9/25/2010 4:00:25 PM
When my Dad passed away in 2006, I went to the funeral home with my mom to make arrangements. My Mom told them what she wanted for Dad and they quoted a price of $16,000.

The director printed up an itemized list and handed it to my Mom, who then handed it to me. I put my glasses on, pulled out my red pen, and started going to through the list in complete silence while watching the funeral director start squirming in his chair and justifying expenses.

One I made my mark-ups of reasonable and customary charges based on previous research for funeral costs in the area, we were able to bring the price down to $6,113 total. The charges this guy was putting toward my Mom were felonious, and he knew we knew he was walking on thin ice that could have landed him in the hot seat with the district attorney.

As morbid as it sounds, I know we made my Dad proud that day but not letting some guy take advantage of us during a vulnerable time in our lives.




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Posted: 9/26/2010 4:29:30 PM
You can get a nice casket from Costco for under $1,000, shipped to the funeral home at no extra charge. By law, funeral homes have to accept other caskets, so you won't get ripped off.

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Posted: 9/26/2010 5:54:33 PM
About 10 years ago, my granny had my grandfather disinterred and transported back to Nicaragua. He died and was buried in Kentucky, and it took her about from 1979 to 2000 for all the paperwork, permits, etc. to be processed. Notwithstanding the fact that she had a tiny little window each year to bring him up from the ground because it was too frozen the rest of the year. It cost her about 35k to do this. It included the disinternment in the U.S., a new casket, new permits, airplane (in the cargo section of a regular flight) and re-burial over in Central America. But, she promised him when he died that she wouldn't leave him in the U.S. and that she would take him to the family burial plot in Nicaragua.

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Posted: 9/26/2010 6:05:17 PM
About 5 years ago when DH's grandmother passed away, my inlaws didn't pay anywhere near what many here are talking. They had researched cremation ahead of time and found a place that cremated for less than $1. I think it was like $850 if I remember right. They had a small obit put in her hometown newspaper and had a small service at the church she belonged to for many years. All of her friends were already gone. I think the total was less than $1500.........probably about $1100 - $1200.






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Posted: 9/26/2010 6:17:31 PM
my grandmothers funeral was the cheapest funeral ever, She had what really was a corrugated cardboard box, it was powder blue, at the graveside, the funeral director read a passage from the bible and that was it, no service, no music, nothing. That was 6 years ago, and it was $3500.
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