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Posted 10/3/2012 by smilesnpeacesigns in NSBR Board
 

smilesnpeacesigns
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Posted: 10/3/2012 9:50:17 AM
what did you do with your part of them or all of them?

My Dad passed away and I have a small urn in a velvet black box, I keep them in the box they move around , sometimes he is on the book shelf, right now he is next to my bed on my night table. My nephew spread his part of Dad's ashes at Invasion Beach at Iwo Jima.

Just curious..


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Posted: 10/3/2012 9:53:32 AM
first of all, I am sorry for your loss..

I like the idea of taking the ashes, and spreading
them somewhere that was special to that person..


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Posted: 10/3/2012 9:55:49 AM
I had my dad's ashes for about a year. He passed away unexpectedly at a young age. I kept them for about a year and then when the whole family could get together we scattered them in the river that he loved to fish at as a child.


Kelly

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Posted: 10/3/2012 9:58:59 AM
My late DH is in a gorgeous Wooden box sitting on the lower shelf of a table in the living room. People don't know what the box is, even though it has a discreet engraved plate.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 9:59:35 AM
Most of my Dad's ashes were buried at a VA cemetary. My Mom, brother and I each have a small urn. I keep mine in my bedroom; on my dresser. Not sure where my Mom and Brother have theirs.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 10:02:08 AM
I have a cousin who has a small glass jar with her father's remains in it. She talks to it, and once in a while takes out a little to spread around.

It gives her comfort.

My father's ashes were buried in a family plot. No one even thought about removing any first. Just not our thing, I guess.


Other family members have been spread over water they loved.





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Posted: 10/3/2012 10:08:47 AM
Well when my dad died my mom was still alive and she never went to pick him up eventually the funeral home called my sister and she went to get the ashes. We made many suggestions to my mom but she could never make up her mind on what to do or when to do it. So my dad is in a box in a brown bag at my sisters house. (this is fitting because my father never wanted a fancy anything and often said so. Therefore since no one had any other ideas he is in a plain box in a plain bag no extra cost. She has from time to time take my dad up to her vacation cabin. Then my mom died. We were still raw for a while and we never decided what to do. So my sister had both of them hanging around her house. We all 'decided' to bury them in a family plot but still no arrangements have been made. My sister who has them is the executor and no one wants to step on her toes to make a decision or push her. I thought once my mom died we would get on with this process since her biggest excuse was that my mother had not decided. Recently I found out that my sister never buried her first husbands ashes either and that was over 15 years ago. So now I think maybe she just likes having them 'around' I dont really mind and my dad would not have cared.

I do however have a tiny bit of my mom's and my dad's ashes embedded in a glass pendant that I love. The ashes are made as part the glass so there is nothing to spill or lose or anything should it break. You can not see them unless you look very close at the pendant in the light. The pendant looks like a crystal pendant. You can choose any gemstone color and get it made into a pendant or ring or things like that and they have a variety of shapes to choose from. I have a light blue teardrop faceted pendant, my DD has a lavender heart pendant and my niece has a stunning emerald color princess 'cut' ring. (I say cut but I believe they are molded not cut) I have had many compliments on my pendant and so has my daughter but we are kind of afraid to tell people where we got them when they ask. LOL. I wear it to every family milestone event or when I am just very blue.

But as for the bulk of my parents ashes I guess we wait until my sister can let go, and none of us are in a rush to push her about it.

cocoanmom
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Posted: 10/3/2012 10:09:37 AM
Grandparents have been put on a curio hutch at an Aunts house. Years ago they moved around..but this Aunt is the primary holder of the boxes now. I'd rather they were buried or something..but thenI can "talk" to them anytime.I don't need the boxes to think of them.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 10:21:55 AM

I do however have a tiny bit of my mom's and my dad's ashes embedded in a glass pendant that I love. The ashes are made as part the glass so there is nothing to spill or lose or anything should it break. You can not see them unless you look very close at the pendant in the light. The pendant looks like a crystal pendant. You can choose any gemstone color and get it made into a pendant or ring or things like that and they have a variety of shapes to choose from. I have a light blue teardrop faceted pendant, my DD has a lavender heart pendant and my niece has a stunning emerald color princess 'cut' ring. (I say cut but I believe they are molded not cut) I have had many compliments on my pendant and so has my daughter but we are kind of afraid to tell people where we got them when they ask. LOL. I wear it to every family milestone event or when I am just very blue.




I would love to know where you got the pendant from...I think it's a lovely idea. My fathers ashes are waiting for the day when I can think if something right for honoring him.



Corrine








hop2
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Posted: 10/3/2012 10:39:09 AM

I would love to know where you got the pendant from...I think it's a lovely idea. My fathers ashes are waiting for the day when I can think if something right for honoring him.


We got it directly thru the funeral home that had my parents cremated but I know they sent it out to a company. I will ask my sister for the name and post back later.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 11:08:25 AM
My MIL's ashes were divided among her children and older grandchildren. Our portion is in a lovely vase in my china cabinet. I know my niece scattered some in the Pacific, near where my MIL grew up. That is one of the reasons I'm really glad she chose to be cremated, and why I'm a proponent of it. It's made it much easier for individual family members to memorialize her in their own way.





Kristen, lucky mom and proud retired Army wife!




hop2
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Posted: 10/3/2012 11:11:01 AM
I found the name
my Crystal companion

I have this pendant in Aqua teardrop my DD has this heart but in lavender. My niece has this ring on emerald. (I was wrong about the princess cut I was so sure it was square but my memory sucks. )

I can not vouch for their service or anything because we had ours done thru the funeral home so I dont know how it all works with getting them the ashes and all but I love my pendant. It does not come on a chain DH bought my chain separately at a local jewelry store.

If you google memory jewelry there are tons of other companies out there and even some handcrafted ones. I hope you can find what you are looking for and will give you peace.
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