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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:06:29 PM
Received a wedding invitation yesterday. Along with the invitation was a card stating that couple is registered at Target and that they also have set up a bank account and gave the bank name and account number. Is this something new? I've never seen this before. Next thing I bet couples will be sending out paypal info. Is this tacky or am I just jaded b/c of the Peas?

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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:08:13 PM
Tacky





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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:09:17 PM
Always tacky to ask for a gift, IMO. It's fine to put the info on your wedding website. It's fine to include the website with your invitation. Tacky to put anything directly registry related in the invitation.




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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:09:18 PM
Super, Super tacky. Breaks the tack-o-meter tacky.





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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:09:25 PM
My first thought was that's really stupid to give out the account number!

My second thought was that's just plain old tacky.



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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:11:50 PM
What Amanda said.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:12:22 PM
Ew.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:12:36 PM
I vote tacky and not smart from a bank-fraud point of view.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 12:16:14 PM
The account number is tacky for sure.

The registry card is awesome. The invite should include all wedding related information. Don't make me work to track down the information I'll need.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:29:39 PM
Sounds like I'm not alone in my thinking then.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:32:46 PM

My first thought was that's really stupid to give out the account number!


Don't be surprised when you later hear that some one cleared out the bank account.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:34:13 PM
It's distinctly uncharming to act as if one expects a gift, ever, even when they're customarily given. To act that way about money is just, well, worse than tacky, it's grubby. Blech.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:39:54 PM
Wait...as in they can't even be bothered to deposit a check, you are supposed to direct deposit your give to them?!?!? Am I reading that right??


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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:41:15 PM
If cheques are the same in the States as they are here....hello, here's my bank number every time I write one, so not such a security risk.

As far as tacky goes, I prefer to buy a gift and like to do it the way pennyring does!! Looks far better to give a gift with a high price point (or higher than paid) than to put the same amount into a bank account in some instances!!!!

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:45:28 PM
Tacky!

Sorry to high jack, but I have a question. Is it really that easy to commit fraud with just a bank account number? After all, people get that plus more when I write a check.. It has my name, address, routing and bank account number. On top of that, most merchants want my driver's license number and phone number. Color me confused.

ETA: Sammi posted as I was typing the same thing. Make no sense, right?

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:46:46 PM

Wait...as in they can't even be bothered to deposit a check, you are supposed to direct deposit your give to them?!?!? Am I reading that right??


Yes, that about sums it up. I'm wondering how they would know who deposited the funds into their account? Would you just write a note on their card, "Hey, we deposited money into your bank account." That seems all sorts of awkward to me.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:47:53 PM
I've seen paypal accounts on wedding invites too


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Posted: 11/15/2012 5:15:14 PM
Outrageous. They deserve a crafty gift.






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Posted: 11/15/2012 5:24:24 PM
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Posted: 11/15/2012 8:20:53 PM

They deserve a crafty gift.


They are getting married the week before Christmas. Maybe they'd like some of those crafty angel ornaments made out of tampons.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 9:05:08 PM
Wow, that's new to me! I thought I had been to and seen every tacky wedding thing there was! LOL


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Posted: 11/15/2012 9:09:07 PM
I do not mind if the registry card is in with the invitation. I actually prefer it that way as I want to buy something *THEY* want and will use, not what *I* feel like they should have. It's their day, their gifts.

BUT, to include bank info? Seriously??? That's beyond tacky.




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Posted: 11/15/2012 9:51:18 PM
Deposit a buck.





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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:01:34 AM

Would you just write a note on their card, "Hey, we deposited money into your bank account." That seems all sorts of awkward to me.


I would totally do that! But not put any money in Don't specify an amount, and you get out of buying a gift!

Tacky. Tacky. Tacky.


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Sorry to high jack, but I have a question. Is it really that easy to commit fraud with just a bank account number? After all, people get that plus more when I write a check.

My slightly reformed brother who has spent significant amount of time in jail says yes. With a bank number it's easy to get a routing number. With a check, they also have your name and address. IDK what they do with it from there, but I imagine no good.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:13:24 AM
If you set up an account for 'gifts' the name of the depositor can be displayed on the bank statement.

Last time I went to a wedding which had that system I sent a gift instead.





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Posted: 11/16/2012 4:55:56 AM
I also think it's tacky to ask for any gift, but to each their own. The bank thing in an invite would proabably send me irrationally over the edge.





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Posted: 11/16/2012 5:28:08 AM

I do not mind if the registry card is in with the invitation. I actually prefer it that way as I want to buy something *THEY* want and will use, not what *I* feel like they should have. It's their day, their gifts.

BUT, to include bank info? Seriously??? That's beyond tacky.


Ditto!


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Posted: 11/16/2012 6:24:53 AM

Sorry to high jack, but I have a question. Is it really that easy to commit fraud with just a bank account number? After all, people get that plus more when I write a check.. It has my name, address, routing and bank account number. On top of that, most merchants want my driver's license number and phone number. Color me confused.


With just the account number and routing number (easily found online), someone could print up a set of fake checks (with their name/address/ID on them, so when if they are asked to present ID, it matches) or set up to have the account drafted to pay their bills (gas, electric, cable, etc.) if the company doesn't also require to see a blank voided check. This happened at my company; an employee got a reimbursement check through AP and he then used the check number/routing number and had his bills automatically drafted from the company bank account. Granted, if you are keeping an eye on your account, you will notice it right away, and it isn't too hard to identify who did it (and fire them!).

In fact, my bank said not to write our account number on the back of any checks we endorse, so that whoever wrote the check won't have access to that number when they get their check images.

So is it unlikely? Probably. But why put it out there if you don't need to?

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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:27:47 AM
Ticky tacky to put anything about $$ or banking info. Leave it as registered at Target, and for those that don't want to shop they know that they can always tuck a cheque or cash into an envelope for the newlyweds. Guests shouldn't be expected to do the newlyweds banking!
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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:35:38 AM
Definitely tack-o-licious.






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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:40:41 AM

Wait...as in they can't even be bothered to deposit a check, you are supposed to direct deposit your give to them?!?!? Am I reading that right??


That's what I was thinking! Really? Is that what we've come to? Tacky & lazy. The mind reels . . .

I'd send them a bond. That way, they have to wait a looooong time before they have to physically go to the bank and cash it!




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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:10:50 AM
I'm on some Facebook selling sites. There is a woman who is clearly selling a TON of wedding gifts (her profile pic is her in a wedding dress and the things she is selling are typical things you would get for gifts and are unopened). On one hand I would rather give a gift that the person likes/wants to avoid my gift being discarded like that. But in the other hand, both situations ate incredibly tacky.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:13:43 AM
You don't need the Peas telling you this is tacky. It is on the far edge of tacky going into 'are you kidding me?' land!



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