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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:26:35 PM
Would you replace it or offer some sort of compensation?

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:29:10 PM
He did and I did. My toddler broke an iron by pulling it off the holder by the cord and I bought her a new one of the same kind. Thank FSM she didn't have a Rowenta.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:32:51 PM
Yes, I would.

On the flip side, if a kid who was not ours accidentally broke something at our house, we would not ask for the parents to reimburse us nor would we accept it if they offered (unless the kid did it maliciously or by intentionally breaking rules).

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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:38:36 PM
It really depends on how the person reacted. If they were like, oh wow. I guess accidents happen. I'd replace it. If they were like, this old thing? Don't be ridiculous! I have 10! I would offer and insist, but ultimately take their lead. 9 times out of 10, if my family damages it, it's replaced or restored to the same, if not better condition, even if the person says it's no big deal.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 5:44:57 PM
Yes, of course I would. I can't imagine doing anything but at least offering.


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Posted: 11/15/2012 5:48:05 PM
I would like to think that I would offer, but I can imagine that depending on our life circumstances, that it may not be possible to pay for an expensive item.

I would also never mention a broken item or expect any sort of compensation from a guest child in my house. If they are in my house and their parents aren't here, they are my responsibility. If something gets broken due to inappropriate use or rough-housing, I would be responsible for not having taken better precaution.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 6:03:27 PM
Last spring my cousin's 3 yr old got hold of a guests I-phone ran with it and dropped it in an unflushed toilet. (Gross! but that's another story)
I got to hear how awful it was that this woman expected her to pay to replace the phone. I was like of course she does you idiot!! Your little brat got into her hand bag, stole the phone, dropped it into a filthy toilet and it is damaged beyond repair.....you owe her a NEW I-phone. Not the $40 cheap ass POS you tried to pawn off on her.
No wonder she took you to court. I would too.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 6:14:16 PM
I would and I have. I wouldn't expect the reverse, though.

A story that still cracks me up: My ex-brother in law was quite a...character, to put it nicely. A child visiting his home got into an ashtray that was filled with change. Child swallowed some coins. Parents found out and took child to ER. Child had xrays or some sort of scans done and it turns out the child had swallowed over $2 in change. Once XBIL found out, he asked for the parents to pay him back the change the child swallowed. FTR, XBIL & family were absolutely fine financially. It's not like the change was their grocery money or anything like that.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 8:14:35 PM
If I had kids....nope I would not. I would not expect compensation for something broken at my house by kids either (which has happened before). Stuff happens. Kids break things accidentally. If it's something really rare and priceless, then keep it out of reach of children.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 8:40:41 PM

Yes, I would.

On the flip side, if a kid who was not ours accidentally broke something at our house, we would not ask for the parents to reimburse us nor would we accept it if they offered (unless the kid did it maliciously or by intentionally breaking rules).

Same here.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 8:54:59 PM

Yes, I would.

On the flip side, if a kid who was not ours accidentally broke something at our house, we would not ask for the parents to reimburse us nor would we accept it if they offered (unless the kid did it maliciously or by intentionally breaking rules).


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Posted: 11/15/2012 9:14:34 PM
It would depend on what/how ect but I think for the most part I would offer to pay half or replace the item, depending on the situation.

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Posted: 11/15/2012 10:08:58 PM
It depends on the situation.

My child steals your iPhone out of your purse while I'm visiting? Absolutely.

You let my kid play a video game on a $2500 tv while he's on a playdate? Nope. Sorry.

In the first, I'm the responsible parent. Even if the purse was left down where the child could get it, I should be paying at least a little attention to where my child is.
In the second, you are the responsible parent. I left my kid with you. If he fell out a window and was rushed to the ER, I would hold you responsible.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:06:19 PM
I agree with bestcee.

Child at your house that accidently damages something on your watch? That's on you.

You can ask for compensation for your tv, OP, but I really think that in that case, you are out of luck.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:34:27 PM
Mine just broke a special-ordered Rapunzel wand this morning at a play date. I offered to replace it and the mom (my friend) said not to bother as the Rapunzel phase has passed. So I left it at that.

I would not expect a replacement if the situation was reversed either. But an offer is always nice.
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Posted: 11/17/2012 11:02:50 AM
I'd like to think I would but in reality it depends what it is and how much it costs.

Years ago I had a neighbor who got a new couch. A bunch of boys were roughhousing and jumping around and my son got somehow slammed into the new sofa and something happened to it, I don't recall what. When I heard about it I heard "TJ broke the Smith's new couch." I was mortified, and immediately fearful that I was going to have to foot the bill for a new couch. I asked the boys what happened and my son said he apologized.

The neighbor never said anything to me, and I didn't say anything to her. Later my son told me the husband fixed the couch.

But of all the things my son's friends have broken in my house, I never asked anyone to pay for anything. I figure it is my job to supervise, to keep them out of places where things can get broken, or move things I'm worried about, and figure that some kids are rough on things and things will get broken.

Someone's kid drove a scooter into the side of my car and I was very pissed off because it was a lease and I had to pay for every little ding, but I didn't go to the parents. I figured my kids probably hit a few cars or something somewhere along the line.

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Posted: 11/17/2012 11:08:41 AM
It would depend on the item and circumstances. If it was truly an accident I may offer up some. If it wasn't on purpose of course I would pay.


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Posted: 11/17/2012 11:08:53 AM
I would. Like other posters, probably it depends on the circumstances, and I would hope that unless my child had acted really egregiously, I wouldn't be taken up on it.

Over the years, there has been a lot of wear and tear here by various small guests. Unless there were a serious behavior issue I thought the parent would need to hear about, I would never mention any of it to a parent.
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