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Posted: 12/4/2012 9:26:32 AM
I have a question for those of you that find it gross (or whatever term you use) to buy clothing from a second hand store such as Goodwill. I've heard that some do not like to wear anything that was worn by someone they do not know, not their style (which I understand) etc. etc. I am a Goodwill lover, could shop there every day if I could and my family's wardrobe shows it. We are "in style" as my girls wear mostly name brand clothes. I do buy my kids new items from the mall when they are on sale. Here's my question, how do you find it "not" gross to stay at a hotel when there have been countless people that have slept in the bed, used the sheets (I won't go into detail), used the towels, taken a shower, used the toilet and who knows what's been on the floor? I worked in an upscale hotel, so I know a lot about how the rooms are cleaned. I do not find it gross to stay in a hotel but just wonder what the difference is between staying in a hotel and buying used. They have both been used by other people and have been cleaned/washed before you use it.

Seriously, I'm just being curious not wanting to start a heated argument!

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Posted: 12/4/2012 9:46:49 AM
Another 'Goodie's" shopper here. I often have the same questions in my head when I hear others say they would never buy secondhand. I will be interested in seeing the answers you get.

I have to admit I don't get a lot of the things Peas's find gross. I have never heard of taking your shoes off in the house and wonder how you get a bunch of in & out kids (and husbands)to do that


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Posted: 12/4/2012 9:55:44 AM
My mom shops at Thrift Stores all the time for me and the kids. I also do sometimes. I don't mind wearing used at all.

As for the hotels though, don't they change out the sheets and towels after each guest leaves?




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Posted: 12/4/2012 10:16:33 AM

As for the hotels though, don't they change out the sheets and towels after each guest leaves?

I wonder if they change the mattress pad? Also, I have seen reposrts many times that the bedspread probably gets washed a couple of times a year.

I'm not one that gets skeeved out by the things so the OP is not directed to me. I don't shop for clothes at a thrift store though because I really don't like shopping and I have no patience to go through all of the stuff looking for something I might like. I would rather walk in a store where it is all nicely laid out and all the sizes are right there for me to grab, try on, pay and get the heck out as quickly as possible. LOL





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Posted: 12/4/2012 10:20:18 AM
I too love thrift stores and don't mind used clothes at all provided that it's been washed/dry cleaned. I do draw the line at used shoes and of course, underwear and bathing suits. And I also won't wear rental bowling shoes or rental skates. Must be a feet thing with me.

I've always found it amusing that men RENT tuxes for special occasions and we think nothing of it, but used clothes are icky.





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Posted: 12/4/2012 10:28:03 AM
I don't like used clothes and I don't like shopping at thrift shops for clothes. I don't have the patience for the disorganization and mess and the sheer volume of time that it takes to find anything in those stores. I want to walk in to a store, see something I like, find my size and go. I have no interest in gallavanting to a store to maybe find something I might possibly kinda sorta like. Not to mention, all the clothes I've looked at look used. And yes, there is an irrational part of me that is completely skeeved out by used clothing. That's fine for costumes, but not everyday clothing.

If my experiences with used clothing was different, I would consider it. But all of my experiences looking for clothing has been very negative.


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Posted: 12/4/2012 10:56:28 AM
I am another thrift store shopper. My oldest DD always looks so nice and very well dressed. She always finds very nice things at Goodwill for very little cost. Once new clothes are worn and washed, they are now "used". I don't want to buy/wear someones used underwear, socks or bra, but I won't say I never will. I hope the day never comes because you just never know what curves life may throw you.

And along the OP's line of questions, what about hospitals? I work in one and know first hand what gets onto beds, linens and gowns. I know our laundry is sent to a commercial laundry and stringent precautions keep dirty laundry from clean, but it is still used.

Edited to add:

I used to work in an upscale hotel in our area. I worked there 2 weeks and was disgusted by what I saw and quit. Dirty towels were used to wipe out the tubs, they weren't cleaned unless they looked dirty. Toilet brushes used on toilets and then on bathroom sinks!!! And if the bed looked like it hadn't been slept in, it wasn't changed!!! Granted the glasses in the bathroom were taken to the kitchen and put through a dishwasher and put back clean, but that was all. It has been over 9 years and maybe things have changed, but I know how it used to be.


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Posted: 12/4/2012 11:04:43 AM
And what about eating out? You never know what you're getting into with that.

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Posted: 12/4/2012 11:29:56 AM
I've bought second-hand for the kids for camping clothes but not often and not in a very long time.

DH has this thing about it, though. Totally irrational, he even admits it, but he feels that since we have the means, we should not be taking advantage of it because to him, it means we might be taking away from people who can not afford to shop anywhere else. He wants to leave the good prices for those who really need the good prices.

I accomodate this irrational thought because he humours my many irrational thoughts which far outweigh his.



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Posted: 12/4/2012 11:56:44 AM
I guess I have a high threshold for skeevishness. I've been shopping for clothing at thrift stores since the mid 1960s, and a good portion of my wardrobe has always been used. I love it all- used clothing, shoes, (they must be very gently worn), furniture, decor, etc. I recently relocated from the west coast to the east, with pretty much just the clothes in my suitcases, and I had to furnish an apartment and buy a work wardrobe on a shoestring. Only the bed, bedding and couch (and a few household items) were bought new. Everything else came from various thrift and resale shops and I'm so proud of the results. My little place is adorable, I have a decent work wardrobe, and no one has told me to my face that I look out of date or shabby.
(Apartment results here).

I've heard some of the hotel horror stories. The only concession I've made is that I avoid sitting on the bedspread, preferring a comfy chair. Of course, that chair might be icky too, but I guess what I don't know won't really hurt me.



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Posted: 12/4/2012 12:05:48 PM
I have friends who don't stay in hotels because their germophobia won't permit it. They stay home.






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Posted: 12/4/2012 12:10:06 PM

Totally irrational, he even admits it, but he feels that since we have the means, we should not be taking advantage of it because to him, it means we might be taking away from people who can not afford to shop anywhere else. He wants to leave the good prices for those who really need the good prices.

I accomodate this irrational thought because he humours my many irrational thoughts which far outweigh his.


I look at it like being greener, environmentally, BUT I can fully appreciate when someone has an irrational way of looking at something and owns that. Although I don't agree with his opinion, I don't think it is irrational, TBH. I think it's kind and well thought out. Unfortunately, in this world of consumption, at least in the US, there's always more where that came from.

OTOH-when people with means shop the store with 'good prices,' and are greener, they can donate more to charitable causes and also go less into debt which is better on the whole. Just my 2 cents.


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Posted: 12/4/2012 12:17:42 PM
Stef, I love what you have done with your apt...love your table and chairs. They really look in excellent condition.

As long as I can wash the clothes, I use 2nd hand, but I usually buy at garage sales not Goodwill in the clothing line. I, too, get tired of looking through tons of stuff for the possibility of finding clothing. But I LOVE the other "stuff".


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Posted: 12/4/2012 1:03:51 PM
I spent the day Christmas shopping at an upscale mall on Saturday wearing the following:
$5 Columbia vest from Goodwill
$4.95 Levis jeans
$5.99 long sleeve black t-shirt from Wal Mart
$7 scarf from Wal Mart

And I think I looked pretty cute! By grabbing those inexpensive items from Wal Mart and Goodwill through the year, it allows me to have extra money to spend on other things without feeling guilty. For example, the Uggs boots I bought my daughter for a Christmas gift and the Jordan tennis shoes I bought my son as a Christmas gift. If I wasn't frugal in some of the ways I am on a regular basis, I would not be able to afford those expensive gifts at Christmas.

My kids have no trouble wearing hand me downs or things I pick up at Goodwill or Platos Closet. They wear almost all name brands. Including name brand underwear (which I only buy new. LOL)

I like being thrifty!

ETA: I just realized I'm wearing a Gap Body zip up jacket as I'm typing this. $5 at Goodwill.


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Posted: 12/4/2012 3:01:35 PM
I just cant wear second hand clothing from someone i do not know well. I only wear hand me down from one aunt and two of my cousin. Because I know there personal hygiene and house cleaning is up to my standers. I do not have to worry about getting anything from the.

As for hotels I do not fly so i take my own sheet, blanket,and pillows. I also take my own bath towels. I can stand using something other people have used. That I do not now there hygiene and cleaning standers. To me it is Gross.


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Posted: 12/4/2012 3:16:01 PM
I find this argument kinda funny as most clothing is manufactured in other countries under less-than-pristine conditions.






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Posted: 12/4/2012 3:18:14 PM

As for hotels I do not fly so i take my own sheet, blanket,and pillows. I also take my own bath towels. I can stand using something other people have used. That I do not now there hygiene and cleaning standers. To me it is Gross.
They all get washed - same as things do at home.

Do you eat at restaurants? How about ones with linen napkins?


I find this argument kinda funny as most clothing is manufactured in other countries under less-than-pristine conditions.
That's very true.

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Posted: 12/4/2012 6:39:54 PM
lien napkins at home only
We do not eat out much and pretty much we go to one sub places that we can see the kitchen.

i stayed in a nicer hotel and got scabies from something in that room . That is why i am so picky now days.


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Posted: 12/5/2012 5:50:43 AM
I feel like Miss Ang but respect that it's not for everyone.

We all have our thing. If everyone shopped used there would be no new to become used.

The people who only buy new - we thank you!



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Posted: 12/5/2012 5:53:57 AM
Stefdesign your apartment looks great! I love that dining set!

DD, 13, was given an assignment in Consumer Science, to mock furnish an apartment on a budget. They could shop online or in store but the rule was no Craigslist/used.

DD's response "I can't work under these conditions!"

She redid her room last month first pinning the look she wanted, then we found the perfect pieces on CL. It's uncanny how well - and quickly - it came together.

She's a thrifter like her mama.



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Posted: 12/5/2012 8:00:42 AM
I have no problem with used items at all. I grew up going to garage sales with my mom. We were just working people and really didn't have a lot of extra money in the 70s. I'd get all my play clothes at garage sales and then we could afford nice school clothes. When I came home from school, I changed into play clothes to keep the school clothes nice.

I draw the line at underwear and socks. I used to say shoes as well, but if they look brand new, I'm in. (found brand new LL Bean driving shoes for 15 bucks!)

My current problem with thrift stores is finding stuff that looks like it hasn't been donated to a thrift store. It's hard to find stuff that isn't worn-looking, stained or faded. Also, the only thrift store that sorted by approximate size closed and I don't have hours and hours to spend looking around. I'm plus sized and not into Alfred Dunner type clothes, so it takes me a while to find stuff. I have found a lot of Lane Bryant jeans at Goodwill, though.

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Posted: 12/5/2012 8:44:26 AM

DD, 13, was given an assignment in Consumer Science, to mock furnish an apartment on a budget. They could shop online or in store but the rule was no Craigslist/used.


That is a really dumb rule. I could see that they might have to prove a price by bringing in an ad or taking a picture of a price tag for used items.

I see not many people who don't buy used items are answering. I can tell you what people I know IRL tell me about used stuff/thrift stores.

I have been told all of the following about used items or buying used. Not saying any of it is true just what people have told me.

- Even after washing used clothing has an odor to it. (I wouldn't buy used things things that smelled to start with)
- Flesh eating bacteria is a common problem on used clothing and can put your family at risk.
- The charity that is supported by a particular shop is not one they agree with.
- Most items are unwashed and often gross so even the nicer items end up unusable.
- The prices are no lower than sale prices at good stores. In fact most of the time new trendy brand names can be bought for a fraction of used items.
- There is never anything stylish or in the right size to be found.
- The stores are difficult to shop in, have odd hours of operation or are in unsafe neighborhoods.
- Having to wear and being embarrassed by hand-me-downs as a child makes used things not an option for any family member.
- Having grown up having only second hand being able to buy new is important.
- If everyone bought only used it would destroy the economy.
- Many used items are unsafe because they don't meet current standards.

IME thrift stores vary widely in selection, prices and organization. Even different locations of Goodwill for example can vary to the point of not even being comparable. Some thrift stores are a flat rip off, have nasty clothing that is clearly unwashed and still others are so disorganized that even the most die-hard thrift shop hopper would give up. I think second-hand shopping is a skill of sorts. Learning the days to go, which shops are the best for your needs and how to focus and find what you need. My biggest issue with thrift shops has been high prices and over stocked shelves at some shops. I have learned to just turn around and walk out instead of making myself crazy about it trying to find a bargain.



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Posted: 12/5/2012 9:05:53 AM
I don't do very much thrift store shopping. Every once and awhile but mostly I stay away.

I'm plus sized and I'm very tall ( 6'2" ), my shoe size is 12W sometimes but mostly 13s. Finding clothes and/or shoes in my size is an exercise in wasting time. I'd rather shop where I know they have my size. For some reason most, not all but it sure seems that, organize clothes by color around here. What a dumb idea. I have ZERO patience for that, not when I already wear a size of jeans that has me limited to one or two stores with a selection of about 10 pairs total. Yep, all my jeans look the same. I don't have a lot of choice.


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Posted: 12/5/2012 1:03:45 PM

My little place is adorable, I have a decent work wardrobe, and no one has told me to my face that I look out of date or shabby.
(Apartment results here).


Your table and those little robots have me making this face


I'm a thrift store shopper and I stay in hotels. Neither bother me.
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