Losing patience... child has forgotten homework 4x's over the last two weeks

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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:09:37 PM
Aughh. I'm at my wits end with my oldest. In the past two weeks, she's forgotten to bring some part of her homework (they generally have 2-3 pages per night) home with her. I just don't know what to do since this is becoming a chronic problem. I took her back to school the first time to get the forgotten homework but told her it was "one and done" (e.g. I would take her back that time, but not again for the rest of the school year) and I have followed through on that. Her teacher makes her miss ten minutes of recess to catch up on the forgotten homework. Apparently, that isn't serving as much of a deterrent since this is still happening. Any suggestions on what I can do? Overall, she's very disorganized.


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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:16:20 PM

Overall, she's very disorganized.


This is the part that I would help her with depending on what can be done. Is there a particular reason why she is forgetting to bring it all home? Does she have a folder for it all to be in?

Does the teacher have a system at school? Not sure what age your child is.


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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:20:50 PM

Is there a particular reason why she is forgetting to bring it all home? Does she have a folder for it all to be in? Does the teacher have a system at school?


She doesn't give me any reason other than she forgot. She does have a folder. I know the teacher puts the homework in their "mailboxes" and has them take it out before the end of the day. For some reason, the homework makes it to her desk, but only one page makes it into her folder. When I took her back to school the one time, the other sheet was sitting on her desk. She's in 3rd grade.


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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:22:45 PM
I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but last year when my daughter was in first grade, she had a problem remembering to bring home her reading homework.

I took a brightly colored post-it note and wrote "Remember you reading homework!" on it and then permanently attached to the the front of her school folder with packing tape. It did the trick.


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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:34:17 PM
I had the same issue with my 6th and 7th graders.
We got an assignment book (they were putting assignments on their tablets). The boys have to put the assignment book with the written assignment and any papers into the folder. They must then take that folder to every teacher (they switch classes) by the end of the day and every teacher must check the papers and initial the assignment book.
When they come home and complete the paper, I have to see it and then I will initial the completed box in the assignment book.
Pain in the butt? Sure is! But they have yet to miss something since we started 2 weeks ago.

Now, I don't know how you feel about it but I also don't let the kids make up work because the forgot it. They have to take the zero. But their currency is honor roll so I know they hate taking zeros. DS11 was mad when he didn't make honor roll first quarter and he now realizes that there is a consequence to his actions.

All of my kids are very disorganized and they come by it honestly because I am too. They each have their own system. DS11 keeps everything in one binder with folders for each class. DS16 has a binder, folder and note pad for each class in coordinating colors. DS12, well he hasn't gotten a good system yet. Everything just gets shoved in his bag, but we are trying many different things.

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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:36:05 PM
I do take my son back to get it. The first time was free.

Second time and on, we set a timer from the time we got in the car until the time we arrived back at home. He had to give me back that time in an extra chore that I wasn't able to get done while I had to drive him back to school.

I also charged him for the gas (something like .25 per mile)

That put an end to it fairly quickly!


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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:36:28 PM
Agenda and folders, that is how we helped our children in elementary school.



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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:39:35 PM
I would have her show you her homework when she is done with it and then have her put it in her bag in front of you. Make it a routine.


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Posted: 12/10/2012 3:49:12 PM
I like maallen's idea! Makes the child conscientious because it personally affects said child.

Also, I have a very unorganized 8th grader. I tried many ways to organize him but he came up with what worked best for him. In your case, if I was having the same issue with my 4th grader, I would set up a meeting between you, your child and the teacher. Talk about the issue, let your daughter know everyone is on her side, and include her in the brainstorming session of ways to get the papers home. Then she is included in solving the problem and has help in solving it.

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Posted: 12/10/2012 4:09:06 PM
I also charge money for things like that. Flat fee$2. They get 1 free mom can you .... per school year then thats it.

Also when my DD was younger (I think 3rd grade) it was difficult for her to gather all of her things. The teacher often had DD helping someone and he couldn't get her own things gathered.

We came up with a system to help her. She put a sticky note at the top corner of her desk each morning (with teacher permissio ) and as she went thru her subjects each day she wrote the items she needed to bring home for that on her sticky. Then at the end of the day she had the list to use to gather her stuff. As she got older the sticky went inside the front cover of her planner. DS had to us a similar system in 6th grade.

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Posted: 12/10/2012 4:14:22 PM

Second time and on, we set a timer from the time we got in the car until the time we arrived back at home. He had to give me back that time in an extra chore that I wasn't able to get done while I had to drive him back to school.


I like this. Make it a really yucky chore, like cleaning the cat litter box.

Or, you could maybe have a "meeting" with your child and ask HER what she thinks would help her. Make her solve the problem.



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Posted: 12/10/2012 4:17:33 PM
As soon as we get home from school, we make sure everyone has their homework. If they do not have what they need, we go right back to school. They then owe me a chore for the inconvenience, and they lose tv for the rest of the day. The loss of tv is because we go with the "tv rots your brain" line of thought. Forgotten homework must mean that someone has watched too much tv! No more until your memory improves!
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