would you or have you ever gone away for the weekend without your spouse or kids?

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Posted: 1/10/2013 4:36:09 PM
I need a weekend away. Life has been crazy hectic and i think its all coming down. There is a scrapbook place right up on the beach. Should I treat myself and sign up? i I would have my own room and all my meals provided. which would be nice . Should I feel guilty for spending 295 dollars on

Have you ever gone on a scrapbooking retreat by yourself?

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Posted: 1/10/2013 4:45:40 PM
Are you currently impaired? It seems like you are in your post.

If you need a weekend away and can afford it, then, yes, go even if you have to go alone.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 4:49:45 PM
I need a weekend away. Life has been crazy hectic and i think its all coming down. There is a scrapbook place write up the write up the beach. I should treat myself and s sign up. I would have my own room and all my meals provided. which would be nic. for for spending 295 dollars on myself

to go on a to go on a scrapbooking re treat alone?



I would think a retreat would be a nice place to go with (almost all) people of the same gender and interests, where you can relax and do what you enjoy.


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Posted: 1/10/2013 5:07:44 PM
I say go for it!!! Sounds like a nice relaxing weekend.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:11:28 PM
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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:13:39 PM
I'd go in a heartbeat. I'd find some friends to share a room with though, girlfriends time is good for the soul!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:14:20 PM
DH goes hunting twice a year. Once for 4 days and once for 7 days for two different camps.

I am going to Vegas with a friend the first week in April. It will be the first time I will go without either spouse or kids. I have done it with either spouse or kids, but never without both.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:16:25 PM
Id go in a heartbeat!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:19:18 PM
Many times. I really can't imagine this being a question, but I know there are all kinds of family situations.

I say go and don't give it a second thought.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:19:36 PM
I go away by myself to weekend yoga retreats. I like the time alone. Don't have to worry about anyone but myself.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:21:05 PM

I need a weekend away. Life has been crazy hectic and i think its all coming down. There is a scrapbook place right up on the beach. Should I treat myself and sign up? i I would have my own room and all my meals provided. which would be nice . Should I feel guilty for spending 295 dollars on

Have you ever gone on a scrapbooking retreat by yourself?

I host two scrap camps a year and dont' feel one bit guilty about going without my DH and kids. If you have the funds and someone to look after your kids, GO! and enjoy yourself.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:21:46 PM
Go for it! I went abroad with two dear friends (women) and we all left sources and kids at home. I.ve also stayed at my friends for the weekend so we could go to a specific crop.
You may be a wife and mom but its important to have some you time too. Nothin
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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:23:39 PM
I haven't gone on a SB retreat, but I've gone way with my sister, with friends. Why not? I'm not chained to my family and DH takes care of the kids just fine! If you have the money and everything will be fine at home, go and enjoy.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:25:00 PM
My husband and I both have had time away with friends. I think it's a good thing!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:25:17 PM
I did and do go as often as I could and can afford it. I have always believed in nurturing myself too. Never have felt a twinge of guilt. Go, it's good for the soul. Your family will enjoy having a refreshed you come home to them


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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:26:57 PM
Are you kidding? Not only have I gone on weekend scrap retreats but I routinely go on a week long "vacation from motherhood" to go SCUBA diving...and that costs a LOT more the $295!!

I say go and enjoy yourself!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:29:39 PM
The past two years, I've gone away for a retreat weekend with friends. I wouldn't do it if dh was not ok with it. We both confirm things with each other before committing to things.



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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:31:21 PM
Yes, several times a year My family knows that happy wife and mother makes for a happy family

I go to 2 weekend scrapbooking conventions, 1 long weekend out of state concert and at least 1 weekend retreat each year without my family.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:49:54 PM
I go away at least once a year, never scrapbook related though. My personal retreats usually don't cost very much, but if we had it to spare I wouldn't hesitate.

My most recent trip was overnight at a Carmelite nun monastery where they raise miniature horses as part of the multiple ways they earn money to support themselves. It was one of my favorite retreats ever.

I say go for it!



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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:55:40 PM
Yes. I usually take one vacation a year without my immediate family.

Aside from needing a break from real life sometimes, I love my family, but the truth is that they're not always so easy to travel with.

I've had two friends in my life who have been my main vacation companions. One has passed away, but the other one is alive and well and she is my traveling buddy. We've traveled all over together for up to a week at a time. To be honest, I have way more fun with her on vacation than anyone else because we are totally sympatico when it comes to traveling, sightseeing, and so on. It's funny because I don't think we'd get along so well if we saw each other daily or lived with each other, but when we go on vacation together, it's perfect. Some of my favorite memories in life are from our trips together. I would not give up those moments to stay home!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:56:55 PM

I go twice a year to a scrap weekend. Well worth the money.

Sometimes I get a ton of scrapping done, but regardless of that it is a wonderful weekend away with friends, no hubby - no children.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 6:58:28 PM
Heck ya...twice a year!!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:21:18 PM

I have gone on several scrapbooking retreats. Where I go we stay in cabins and there are 2 people per cabin. I don't have any scrappy friends and am assigned a roommate. I've never had a bad experience, made new friends and gotten lots of cropping done. I think you should go.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:24:58 PM
I've been on scrapbook retreats - generally with my sister and a friend, spa weekends, girls weekends at the lake, etc. One time I went on a weekend by myself, and it was heavenly!
Go for it!!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:30:22 PM
Of course. Go. And, I'm pretty sure your sanity is worth the money.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:39:34 PM
Absolutely!! It's always important to get away from all of it. Not only does it benefit you personally, but DH needs to take his turn with the kids for an entire weekend to fully realize all you do! In addition, kids need to have time away from Mom too.

Even as a couple, my DH and I would try to get away from it all once or twice a year. When the kids were very young, it might just be for one night-we would go an hour away-do a movie and dinner, spend the night, and do the Christmas shopping. Nothing majorly expensive.
The kids had a great time with the grandparents or local college sitters, and we could get a great nights sleep and have some couple time.



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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:42:13 PM
Definitely! I go to CKU, CKC, and other scrap/art events yearly. I come back refreshed -- and inspired! I've been doing this 2004 and my dh has figured out the phrase "Happy Wife = Happy Life!"

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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:56:13 PM
Every year for the past 11 years! My girlfriends have been seriously getting together for 11 years now. The first 10 we went to a YMCA scrapbooking camp & now we go to a beach house that belongs to one of our friends family. We have a blast!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 7:59:33 PM
I'm going this weekend with my cousin and a friend. I don't even care if I get any scrapping done!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:12:08 PM
I go to a scrapbooking retreat 2x a year. Never alone, there are a couple other girls that always go too. But "alone" in the sense that dh & dd don't go. I've been doing this for about 10 years. It's great!


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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:13:01 PM
I go away for the weekend by myself once a year. Usually MLK weekend, because DH usuallly goes to Vegas that weekend for football playoffs. But they're going this weekend instead so no trip alone for me. My best friend and I are planning a beach weekend in the early spring instead.

But we don't have kids.

As for a scrapbooking weekend, I would love to do one by myself but I'm too chicken. None of my friends scrapbook and I am a total introvert who is really uncomfortable making small talk to start new friendships.

I wish there were places like your retreat near me.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:18:38 PM
I have not only done this but I flew from Florida to Branson, MO in a plane that landed on top of a mountain, then had to drive an hour down the mountain in a cab, through the town to a hotel to crop with people for four days that I had never met.

It was wonderful! I would do it again in a heartbeat if I could! I had the greatest time and met the most wonderful people.

If you can swing it, do it. Everyone needs their down time and leaving your family so you can recharge will make you better for them in the long run.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:23:27 PM
Yes, in fact I am getting ready to go to a SB weekend this week. dh will be on his own friday and saturday night.

I have also gone to visit family without dh, and he has done the same - mostly due to our work schedules

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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:23:38 PM
I went to 3 CKUs by myself way back in 04 and 05. Every year nowadays I meet my parents in Reno for 3 days.


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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:29:47 PM
Do it! I had a girls weekend in2005 with friends invests and I'm going inarching with my sisters. It's so nice. And absence makes the heart grow fonder


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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:33:49 PM
About 4 times a year I grab a scrapbooking friend and we hed to a really nice hotel for one or two nights. It's blissful. If I couldn't find someone to go with I would totally do it alone.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:36:25 PM
You bet I have and DH has gone away without me/kids too. I'm leaving tomorrow to go scrapbooking with my mom for 3 days.


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Posted: 1/10/2013 8:59:17 PM
I went away for a weekend for the first time in 8 years this past October. I went to an adult Girl Scouts' music weekend with a bunch of other women and it was AWESOME. I would definitely do it again. Plus my family was super happy to see me when I got home. 8-)

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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:05:15 PM
Oh sure. Of course. Lots of times.

I've been to California/Disneyland dozens of times by myself.

I've been to a scrapbook weekend (back when Elsie was the shizz).

I've been to NYC for a week by myself.

Lots of places, lots of times. Go for it!

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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:07:29 PM
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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:10:53 PM
Heck yeah I would go out of town without DH. I go for a few weekends a year to visit my DS. He rarely goes with me. Other trips that I have taken without him:
Australia (I took a work trip to Tokyo and Taipei. I then spent about 10 days in Australia for fun)
New Orleans
New York City
Washington DC

I used to travel without him all the time. I had more vacation than he did. I still have more but he now works a job where he can take off and use his vacation time so most of the time, for the big trips, he goes with me.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:16:52 PM
My mom used to do something w/o us at least once a year. I say go for it.

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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:20:37 PM
In a split second! Why would any mom do guilt about the money, unless you can't afford it. If you can, go, have fun. You'll be a much better mommy for it.

I've been married 25 years and have gone on trips by myself, or with a girlfriend, then later with my DD, right from the beginning of our marriage. I 'need' my alone time, and DH doesn't like to travel, which suits me fine, I'd rather go alone anyway. Sometimes it's to Dallas to visit a girlfriend, sometimes its to Paris to hit the flea markets, but wherever it is, I love it


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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:43:35 PM
.As a Girl Scout Leader I used to go for one week-end a year to what we called "TrainFest" where we could take all kinds of classes, craft or otherwise.It was great to have that time to be with other ladies who shared similar interests and to make new friends. So I say go for it if you think you need it then you probably definitely do.


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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:45:43 PM
I am 60 years old. About 30 years ago I was interested in painting and most of my friends were not and the ones who were could not afford to go anywhere. I would stay home. Finally I told my husband, I am a grown woman and I am just going to go by myself. He said he was wondering how long before I figured that out. I went and had the best time. I learned I enjoyed having a room to myself. My own remote. Heck...I could watch TV in my undies and stay up reading and not worry if the light was bothering anyone. I could burp, fart, and snore. I didn't hear the word Mom for 3 days, except when I called home. (before cell phones) I learned I liked going by myself and now my friends have to beg to go with me. I am lucky to have a husband that realizes that most women are not out looking for men when they go places for their hobbies.
We really go for our own mental health. We can stop and ask for directions. Husbands helped make those kids and that just like you, they can surely watch them for a couple days and everybody will be better for it. That's my two cents!


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Posted: 1/10/2013 9:50:52 PM
Spend the $$$ and go, ASAP!! And most of all, don't feel guilty. Just because ur married and/or a mom doesn't take away that you're an individual and still need time and space for yourself every once in awhile!!
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Posted: 1/10/2013 10:12:03 PM
Don't feel guilty. I haven't been to a scrapbook retreat before but if I went alone I would get so much done, haha. I do go away 2 times a year with girlfriends, in fact I'm going to one at the end of this month and I don't feel guilty at all.


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Posted: 1/10/2013 10:24:51 PM
I've done that a few times. I've done meet-ups at scrapbook conventions with online friends, gone to a quilting show and retreat with my mom and sister, and had a girls' birthday weekend with my two best friends from high school. First time I took a weekend our son was about eight months old. My husband is a perfectly capable parent and they both survived just fine. And occasionally DH has taken the boys on a road trip and I got the house to myself for the weekend.

It's fun and you need to care for yourself sometimes. Nothing wrong with that.


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