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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:18:02 PM
Any suggestions? I have hated my purses because they are an abiss for stuff. I need something with compartments that I can easily organize things in. I am a mom of two littles ones, a wife of a guy who needs me to hold onto his wallet as not to lose it and a teacher who carries books and papers from time to time in it. I have a tiny make-up bag and pocketbook, but other than that it is a catch-all for everything else. Needless to say, my purse carries a wide variety of stuff. I don't want a diaper bag sized purse. We are working our way out of diapers. Not a fan of tiny purses either. I need something durable, fashionable and,again, organizer friendly.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:20:44 PM
I'll look forward to the replies. For me there is no such thing as the perfect purse. In fact the person who designs it one day will become a billionaire.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:23:04 PM
You'd probably be better off finding a purse in a color/style/handle length you like and getting or making an internal organizer. Etsy has tons of options for sale. I made one myself for my last purse.



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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:24:49 PM
Probably right, Dawn. I was thinking about an organizer from an Etsy shop. I feel if I need to be toting around my and everyone else's stuff I had better look good doing it and not lose my mind everytime I try to find something. lol!


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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:30:57 PM
I bought several cute, hand-made fabric makeup bags from etsy in several different colors/patterns. I just move them from purse to purse. One has makeup, another pens, another lotion and medication, etc.

Then DH's wallet and my phone gets shoved in the inside pocket of my purse.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:32:24 PM
I got a Kinies canvas bow bag for Christmas. I'd link, but I'm on my phone. Google should help.

Anyway, it has lots of great pockets and tons of room for all our stuff (I have almost-6-year-old triplets and a DH who wants me to hold his wallet, too.).

I like it way more than any purse I've had since having kids!

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:39:45 PM
I carry a large tote, into which goes my smallish purse. I need the tote daily for work, and to keep needed items related to our building renovation, but don't want to lug it around into stores with me, or out to lunch.

I'm not a 'designer handbag' person, I get mine at Target and similar stores. I also have to handle a bag before purchasing it, so I never order them on line.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:58:28 PM
Look at Vera Bradley bags. Many are very well designed with pockets, flaps, slots, etc. And lightweight, too.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:21:28 PM
I got a bag from travelsmith...the ipad security bag. it is slim, has several zipped pockets. and is big enough for a paperback, but not so big that it loses stuff.

I really like it.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:27:04 PM
I suggest Vera Bradly as well. I put off getting on of hers for years because they were just not my style but then I got a solid black one & LOVE it. The pockets are wonderful & keeps me organized.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:35:14 PM

I Want a Purse I Don't Hate
Indeed. This is why I've pretty much ditched purses altogether.

Instead, I found a wallet I don't hate: Big Skinny

It slips right into my coat pocket. Easy peasy. No more purse for me.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:50:26 PM
I bought this Vera Bradley Eloise purse because I loved the retro look and it is one of my favorite purses for staying organized. I even bought a second one in a different pattern.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:57:03 PM
I very much like the Big Skinny wallet.

There is no way I would carry DH's wallet. All his clothes have pockets, he can manage his own stuff.

I don't have him hold my bag for me either. If I don't think I can keep a hold of it I don't bring it.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:01:14 PM
I keep looking at this purse

I have a gazillion purses. I will carry one for awhile and then remember why I didn't like it. Use a different one for awhile then the same story.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:21:31 PM
Vera Bradley. I know folks call them old lady bags, but they seriously keep you organized!

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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:25:25 PM
I think definitely a medium-sized cross body so your hands are free to deal with your little ones! I hate bags that are always slipping off my shoulders.

Something like this Fossil bag. Fossil Maddox Cross Body

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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:36:10 PM
Purse organizers!!

I have a couple of purses that I switch between and inside them I use andsewmuchmore's purse organizers from Etsy

I bought the medium one and the small one and I have the smaller one inside the larger one. Gives me about 16 pockets and I can find anything instantly.

If I want to switch purses, I just grab the insert, put it in the other purse and off I go knowing 100% I haven''t forgotten anything.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:38:24 PM
If you have a Fossil store near you, I would suggest going to the store and looking at Fossil purses. I absolutely LOVE Fossil bags. They are durable, very well made and well worth the cost.

I don't have the purse that valincal posted but I love it!


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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:09:13 PM
but other than that it is a catch-all for everything else. Needless to say, my purse carries a wide variety of stuff. I don't want a diaper bag sized purse.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Until you start insisting everyone else carry their own stuff and not make your purse the catch all, you will need a diaper bag sized purse.

Tell hubby to keep up with his wallet. He is an adult. You keep up with your's just fine. He can do the same. He doesn't need you to do it for him.

Make a "car box" for the kid stuff. Get them out of the habit of taking toys out of the car unless it is small enough to go into their pocket... match box car or little polly pocket doll. Anything bigger stays home or in the car. If you feel you must have snacks and juice put them in the car box, not your purse. While you are out and they need a snack have a snack break instead of offering food/drink as mindless entertainment to keep them quiet.

Pick a suitable "teacher tote" for carrying your books and papers around. Make it big enough to put your purse in. Don't put your work stuff in your purse.

Now you are ready to pick a cute purse for YOUR stuff and it won't need to be all that complex to stay organized!!!

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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:16:19 PM
Miche bags have an organizer you can drop into a purse miche organizer pursket organizer

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This last is what I use

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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:22:28 PM
I have only one name to offer: Kipling! I adore my Kipling bags, they hold everything and more, come in gorgeous colours and can be thrown in the washing machine when they get grubby.
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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:33:01 PM
I figured out all the purses I've hated have had black or really dark linings making it hard to find stuff. I only buy purses with light colored linings now and I'm much happier in general with all my bags, whatever shape or size.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:36:17 PM
My husband bought me a large handbag a few years ago and while I liked it, after I 'moved in' it became a mish mash pit.

So I use a wallet, small make-up bag and wristlet and that has helped so much!

All my 'member' cards (to scan at checkouts for points/rewards) and receipts go in the wristlet.

My wallet holds credit cards, money and checks.

My make-up bag holds lip gloss, lip balm, concealer and a highlighter eye shadow.

Everything else then doesn't get lost in a jumble at the bottom of the pit. My iPad can go on one side if I am taking it with me. I can coil up a charger for my phone in a pocket and the this and that which family members want me to hold when we're out. Give that a try!

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Posted: 1/17/2013 7:17:18 PM
Instead of built on pockets and organizers, I use several zipper pouches for each group of items I carry.

When I switch bags, it is easy to change over. If I am switching to a smaller purse, it makes it easy to edit out what I don't have to have with me or transfer to another tote that I may need to also carry.

I know what it in which zipper bag because they all have different cute patterns.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 7:24:33 PM
Scentsy has a new line called Grace Adele and all the bags have the "Intelligent Interior" with lots of fabulous compartments and a luxurious lining. I personally carry the Sarah in Sand with a Rae clutch in Leopard, because I love the center pocket for my catalogs and order forms, but both of my busy daughters wear this one: Cora Crossbody Purse, one in Cognac and one in Black. The leather Bella is gorgeous too-- a little pricier but great quality!

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Posted: 1/17/2013 10:42:46 PM
I spent a year looking for a new purse... I don't carry as much as you do, but I wanted a zippered pocket for my wallet/valuables so they didn't spill everywhere when I drop it (this is a weekly thing so it's a big concern)... I also wanted something with a square/flat bottom so that stuff wouldn't just slide into a pile - I 'file' my day planner, papers, etc in the open pocket and they stay flat and organized that way... I also wanted a couple small pockets for my cell, gum, toiletries, etc... The only place I found a purse like that was at Fossil... This was over a year ago, but they had a large selection of beautiful but practical purses and bags... The bag I bought is leather, and it's solid and still looks like new

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Posted: 1/18/2013 1:08:21 AM
Fossil are one of my favs and also a brand called Baggallini. You can find Baggallini at Ebags.com. I love them both!


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Posted: 1/18/2013 1:22:26 AM
My favorite purses have really evolved over the years...Liz Claibourne, Dooney, Coach, My favorite right now is Vera Bradley. They have so many fabircs and styles to choose from, some with lots of pockets(which I love). One of the reasons I like them is the fact that they are so light weight. My shoulders just can't bear the weight of a heavy purse, anymore.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 3:17:37 AM
I have bought 2 pf these for myself ( one for my non-work stuff, and one which has the tools and stuff I use for my profession to keep in my work bag), and several for friends and we have all loved them and found them amazing quality for the money. Shipping to the UK was less than a week.

I just pull it from one bag and put into another if I change bags and have found it so easy.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 3:32:11 AM
Some tips not for the purse, but what goes in ... these work for me:

1) If your purse is black, make sure your wallet is white!
2) Put a little stuffed animal like these on your keychain. It's easy to find the stuffie reaching in your purse without looking or in the dark!
3) small makeup bags or even ziplocs will keep small items like lipstick, chapstick, mints, kleenex and wet naps corralled. Maybe have 1 ziploc baggie per child.
4) I look for purses which have a few pockets on the front and one on the back, plus compartments inside.
5) Get receipts, loose change, lunch leftovers out of there every night!

If you are carting papers, you will need a bigger bag like a laptop bag. I bought this @ Costco just before Christmas and love all the compartments! Enough room for my work badge, business cards, usb memory keys etc, plus a portfolio and a laptop! I do also carry a separate purse.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:42:24 AM
If my HUSBAND asked me to carry his wallet on a regular basis, I would look at him like he had grown an extra head!

He's a grown up for God's sake, he needs to act like one!

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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:45:19 AM
I have a smaller and a larger Kipling bag that are fantastic for what you're describing. IMO, nicer then the Vera bradly bags. Try them at Macy's or an outlet mall.

Also, Roots bags are popular here for a leather bag. I have 2 over the shoulder and they're fantastic.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:36:10 AM
Wow some people are really over the top with husband's wallets... I don't carry my husband's wallet, but if he asked I wouldn't think much about it...


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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:51:53 AM

Wow some people are really over the top with husband's wallets... I don't carry my husband's wallet, but if he asked I wouldn't think much about it...

Yeah, I agree. If we are at a restaurant or sitting down somewhere I don't mind putting it in my bag. I don't see what the big deal is. Unless I have my small clutch that is. But otherwise why the hell not? It barely weighs anything.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 10:21:36 AM
Ugg. My dh's wallet is heavier then mine! And it's bulky. No wonder he heated it in his pocket. He rarely asks me to carry it. When he does, I do if I have room and if I don't then I say no. H knows better then to ask regularly. He usually does it more on vacation, when he also has sunglasses, rental car keys, maybe a camera and a hat, etc.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 10:31:58 AM
Let me say this in advance - I'm not meaning to be snarky.

Talking about this subject makes me laugh and remember a conversation that I had with an older, mature woman - raised in a very different era. She had worked at a fine handbag store, before there were many designers with their own stores and such. She said to me - very sweetly and politely - "Young Lady, a purse is something that you win at the race track. A handbag is what a lady carries."

Now, sometimes I do call it a purse. But usually its my "bag" or my "handbag". How things change over time!

And that said, I will definitely jump on the Vera Bradley bandwagon. I have several. Recently I was given a Coach canvas bag and I do like it. But I'm really liking that organizer. Wish it was in black though, so that I could carry it in my Coach or VB bags. Don't like the bright print so much.



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Posted: 1/18/2013 10:38:55 AM
This thread is giving me some good ideas when it's time to get a new wallet and handbag - I have the same dilemma - I'm so over digging around and not quickly finding what I want!


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Posted: 1/18/2013 10:39:44 AM
Thank you for all of the suggestions! I am working through them right now. My current purse is a decent size, but I simply need more organization. I won't carry a diaper bag-sized purse. Refuse. In my purse I keep medication, a couple lipsticks and lip balms, a mascara, a concealer, a compact, hairties, receipts, cards, a little notebook, crayons, hand sanitizer, pens/pencils, tissues, gloves, checkbook, hand lotion, DD's hairclips, phone and wristlet and sometimes mail, a book and some papers. (Did a quick inventory!)

I just hate carrying more than one bag, but don't disagree that a work bag and separate handbag might be in order. Problem is at work I will sometimes grab something from my purse and toss it into my backpack and vice versa. Ugh. I need to use the suggestions to get organized and plan my system.


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Posted: 1/19/2013 10:36:30 AM
My boss just got one from Chicos that is so cute - it's black and white with a wine colored interior an gorgeous stitching. I just looked and it's in their website for $98. It's almost flat, but has zippers on the sides that turn it into a tote. Lots of pockets and very easy to see down into. I'm tempted to get one of my own!

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Posted: 1/19/2013 10:47:12 AM
I use Vera Bradley purses on the weekends because they have several different zippered pockets, etc. My favorites are the backpack and the hipster. I love not having to carry a purse when I am shopping, etc.

During the week I use a Coach bag because I need a nice, professional purse. Mine is basic, the classic leather line. I have a wallet, a cosmetic bag, my keys, and phone. I hate a lot of crap in my purse. My kids and husband know not to ask me to carry something for them.
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