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Posted 1/17/2013 by mightyme in NSBR Board
 

mightyme
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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:25:51 PM
If you ask someone 3 days before an event. If you could ride along with them. They say yes.
Who should contact who about times?
I asked some friends on Tues. if I could ride along with them to our sons (boys play on the same team)game.
She said yes. I figured she would call the day before about times. But no call.
I asked her last time about another day and she didn't know what they were doing. I ended up going alone.
The game is an hour away and dh has to work.
I am assuming if someone doesn't call me they don't want me tagging along.
Do you think its my responsibility to call them?


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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:26:46 PM
I think you should call them.





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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:27:28 PM

Do you think its my responsibility to call them?


Yes. You are asking them for a favor, you need to take the initiative on all of this. Why should that other mom chase you down to help you out?

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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:28:43 PM
If you ask to ride, it is your responsibility to call to check times. If they don't give you a solid answer after a time or 2, I would find other arrangements. NEVER just keep calling.



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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:43:46 PM
Hell yes you call them. You are the one who wants the favor. Never say you think they need to do the co coordinating as well?


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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:51:48 PM
I think you should call them.

Them not calling you doesn't necessarily mean they don't want you there - it could just be that they think that since you're the one who wanted to come along, that you should put more effort into making the arrangements, since they're already the ones doing the driving. Makes sense they'd feel that way.



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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:55:52 PM

Yes. You are asking them for a favor, you need to take the initiative on all of this. Why should that other mom chase you down to help you out?


Ditto That^^^





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Posted: 1/17/2013 10:03:32 PM
Thanks I figured the ball would be in their court. The time they leave is up to them. When someone asks me. I always contact them to tell them we are leaving at X time and can pick you up at X.
I never thought that calling a friend would be considered tracking you down. Multiple times yes. But not one call or text.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 10:14:11 PM
i think it is up to you to call...


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Posted: 1/17/2013 10:17:21 PM
Most definitely up to you to call.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 10:27:34 PM
I agree, you should call.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 11:35:01 PM
I guess I am confused as to why you never found out a time to meet or to be ready for pick up etc when you asked for the favor? A quick text saying "are we still on for saturday?" and when she says "yes" reply by what time.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 11:41:34 PM
You should be the one making the call.




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Posted: 1/17/2013 11:47:24 PM

If you ask someone 3 days before an event. If you could ride along with them. They say yes.
Who should contact who about times?
I asked some friends on Tues. if I could ride along with them to our sons (boys play on the same team)game.
She said yes. I figured she would call the day before about times. But no call.
I asked her last time about another day and she didn't know what they were doing. I ended up going alone.
The game is an hour away and dh has to work.
I am assuming if someone doesn't call me they don't want me tagging along.
Do you think its my responsibility to call them?


My answer is this....

Yes. You are asking them for a favor, you need to take the initiative on all of this. Why should that other mom chase you down to help you out?


And I'm also wondering I'm not sure why you even need to ask the question.


Well Peas, I believe this thread has gone Thrusday.
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Posted: 1/18/2013 5:40:23 AM

Do you think its my responsibility to call them?


Yes


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Posted: 1/18/2013 6:01:36 AM
You call.

If I am already doing the favor I wouldn't expect to become cruise director too. If we are close friends I probably would - but if you haven't heard from me then drop a line and help me coordinate or remember.



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Posted: 1/18/2013 7:29:42 AM
If you're asking the favour, yes you definitely need to call and ask what the details are. Yes, it's up to them to choose the time to leave, but it's still your responsibility to make sure you know the details and to be ready to go when they are.

I can't imagine calling someone and asking for a ride and then waiting on the sidelines until they call me to coordinate. It's up to me to get their schedule and fit into it since they are doing a favour. Everyone I know does this.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 7:45:17 AM
Just adding to the chorus of agreement - call them.



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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:22:57 AM
You need the ride. You make the calls.






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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:40:15 AM
Do you plan to return the favor by driving next time? Unless it was a really good friend I would not be happy repeatedly proving a ride when it wasn't reciprocated. If I did ask for a ride I'd want to let them know I'd be springing for a dinner stop on the way home.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:43:08 AM

Do you think its my responsibility to call them?

Yes. You are asking them for a favor, you need to take the initiative on all of this. Why should that other mom chase you down to help you out?


Yep, ITA. You call.




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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:57:24 AM
WOW! Peas are all in agreement! YOU make the call. YOU need to know what time THEY are leaving...


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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:04:00 AM
You call


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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:05:19 AM
Ditto times 20 something. Call them.


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