S/O: if you bury a pet in the backyard, and then you move, do you leave it there?
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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:00:03 PM
I know this is probably a stupid question, but I've never had a pet die, except fish, so I have no idea. Is there some health code or law or something about where or how to bury a pet? Do you tell the new owners of the house that there is an animal buried in a certain place, or what?

Our lizard is already 7, so we may face this issue soon.


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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:01:22 PM
we buried our cat in the yard, she is probably mulch now. the dog we have her ashes in a box on the fireplace.


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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:03:08 PM
If we ever move, we'll have no choice. What else would we do with them? We live on acreage, though, so I doubt it would be an issue.

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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:03:43 PM
Yup. Leave it be.

DH buried his darling Ashley cat in his back yard- she is still there, though DH moved on.

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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:04:40 PM
We've buried all of our cats at my parents' house for that reason. They are unlikely to ever move. We did bury our guinea pigs at our old house, but I don't think the new owners are likely to ever dig up their remains. I think they have probably decomposed by now.








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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:05:13 PM
I would only bury a pet where I would be fairly certain it would be undisturbed. Yes. I'd leave it and no, I probably wouldn't tell the new owners.

I've only buried one dog. It was a few miles down a fire road in the woods and we moved a large log on top of the site so it wouldn't be disturbed.
All my other substantial pets have been cremated.


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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:22:11 PM
The former owners of our house left their buried dog. We discovered the box while landscaping. It would have been nice of they had warned us.






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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:26:13 PM
I'm just curious how long it takes animals to decompose if they are buried? We have a cat and a dog buried on our property here.

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Posted: 1/22/2013 8:26:31 PM
We buried our Littls Bob (turtle) at our old house. They did demolish and rebuild so they may have come across his shell.
Our next turtle Brian was taken to the vets for cremation as I was afraid our cats or dog would dig him up.

Last year our dog died and we did discuss burying him but ended up having him cremated. His ashes sit in an urn in our hallway.

Then Shelley, our big turtle that we had for over 20 years died. It just seemed right to bury her in our back yard under the tree where we used to take her to roam around. If we leave this house I will leave her there. I don't want to see her shell without her in it.

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Posted: 1/22/2013 9:04:33 PM
If anyone goes digging in my mother's yard in years to come they might be surprised at what they find. I know there are at least two hamsters, two cats, and one dog buried under the lemon tree.


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Posted: 1/22/2013 9:16:00 PM
Yes. Can't imagine digging them up.

My sister took the special engraved rock she had made for a special kitty, but not the kitty.



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Posted: 1/22/2013 9:24:38 PM
We have only buried small animals like fish and hamsters. So, yes, we would leave those and not tell the new owners.


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Posted: 1/22/2013 9:26:30 PM
I plan to have my dogs cremated so I can take them with me when we move.

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Posted: 1/22/2013 10:16:26 PM
We are a military family and have lost two dogs since we have been married. One was when we were overseas. We had her FedExed back to my in laws and they buried her on their property. We didn't have the option of creating her. It was illegal to cremate a pet separately; they only do mass cremations or cremate with the trash.

Our second dog was cremated and we scattered her ashes in northern MN where we vacation every year. It was a place she loved dearly and the perfect final resting place.


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Posted: 1/22/2013 10:19:32 PM
I'm sure you'd have to.

Have you seen Pet Cemetery?? You DO NOT want to start digging things up! LOL



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Posted: 1/22/2013 11:03:14 PM
Just an odd random fact...It's illegal to bury a dog in your yard in Fairfax County VA but not illegal to bury a body. Who knew?


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Posted: 1/22/2013 11:18:30 PM
My husband's Grandma died in July. Her sweet dog, Benji, had been buried in the yard. When she was buried, they dug up his body and buried him on top of her casket over the end where her feet were. He loved sleeping on her feet and that was what she wanted.
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Posted: 1/23/2013 12:33:53 AM
Well, heaven help the person who starts digging in my parents backyard. There are 5 or 6 dogs, a few cats, and 2 horses. Good thing they will never move!
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Posted: 1/23/2013 1:31:23 AM
I have no plans to move but if I did I'd leave my buried pets at the "home" they knew.
(Also: digging up petsewww)


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Posted: 1/23/2013 2:07:24 AM
We had our dogs cremated so they move with us in their boxes, but at a house we bought in Florida, we discovered a little Pet Cemetery when we were clearing the back yard. There were little headstones with things like 'Here lies Beauregard, the best dog ever' engraved on them. I think there are 5 all together. We incorporated them into our landscaping.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 2:42:34 AM
I 95, that's really sweet that you honored the resting places of the pets of the former home owners.

I've had my pets cremated as it is not legal to bury them in our yard. We have so much rock, I doubt we could have dug deep enough anyway. I have told my kids to cremate me when I die & mix my pets remains with mine then leave us at the cemetery where my parents are buried.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:17:59 AM

Our lizard is already 7, so we may face this issue soon.


A lizard...really?

And you have the type of close and intimate relationship with this lizard that you would consider digging up its dead and decaying body to relocate it to be closer to you when you move?

Assuming this is the pet of a child, I'd have to suggest that digging up a dead reptile would really be missing a learning moment to get a grip on moving on.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:59:16 AM
Sorry gals but had to pipe up on this. The poster who had an issue with you having an emotional attachment to your pet made me a bit mad. Doesn't matter what species your pet is. No need to be mean! Maybe this person is not an animal lover? I wish people who posted on sites would learn to be a bit more kind or just don't post!!!!


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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:03:10 AM
If our dog dies she will be cremated. I would hate to find pet bones on my property.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:03:55 AM
By the way... I feel you do with your lizard what you feel is right. He/she was your pet. I hope your family handles the death ok when the time comes! It's a hard thing losing a "loved one".


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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:15:49 AM
I buried my cat in my grandmother's backyard. At the time, we had no idea that they would ever move, but they did eventually. It never even occurred to me to dig up the cat.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:24:51 AM

A lizard...really?

And you have the type of close and intimate relationship with this lizard that you would consider digging up its dead and decaying body to relocate it to be closer to you when you move?

Assuming this is the pet of a child, I'd have to suggest that digging up a dead reptile would really be missing a learning moment to get a grip on moving on.


Well aren't you special.

No, I don't want to dig up ANY pet after it's been buried. I just didn't know what you are SUPPOSED to do. I've never had to think about it before. I also have a dog, but she's young, so I hope to have her for many more years. The lizard will be the next to die, most likely.

And I'll teach my children what I want to teach them about death and grief, thank you. I don't need a lecture.

Thank you to all who mentioned cremation. I can't believe I didn't think about that before. I imagine the vet would tell me all my options when the time comes, anyway.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:32:02 AM
We buried our pet rabbit on the outskirts of our yard, near the shed, and left him there when we moved to NM. No way in HELL I'm digging up a dead animal and transporting him across country!

No, we didn't even mention it. They'll figure it out, if and when they decide to dig in that area. FWIW, he is in a shoe box.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:37:39 AM
I had two of my beloved dogs cremated for this reason. I was afraid I'd move and have to leave them.

My Inlaws bought a farm and the former owner told them about a small tombstone on the property where their cat was buried and asked if they would not disturb the area. My Inlaws honored their wishes.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:53:51 AM

A lizard...really?


She's had her lizard for 7 years. Taken care of it on a daily basis, etc. Why is it hard to believe she'd have an emotional attachment to her lizard??



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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:59:40 AM

A lizard...really?




What a rude thing to say. I'm known to be rude but I would never say something like this to anyone.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:08:46 AM
Every tree in my grandmother's yard has a pet under it. Its a good way to make sure your pet isn't going to get dug up .


I know people who put their pet under their sidewalk.


So no once they are buried they stay buried.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:21:19 AM

A lizard...really?


Just because a living animal doesn't have fur doesn't mean it's any less loved or cared for.

Just because YOU don't understand it, doesn't mean it's inconceivable to the rest of the world.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:41:10 AM
We recently had to bury our mini piggy and my dd wanted him to be wrapped in a quilt that she made for him and buried in our yard. A couple of years back, we buried our parrot in our yard. My main concern was that our dogs don't dig them up because that would freak us all out!!! If we move, they will stay.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:09:56 AM

Just because a living animal doesn't have fur doesn't mean it's any less loved or cared for.

Just because YOU don't understand it, doesn't mean it's inconceivable to the rest of the world.


I did not question the OP's love for her pet. I questioned the absurdity of considering relocating a buried animal, a concept made more than slightly comical by the fact that the animal in question is a reptile (species not widely known for their deep emotional intelligence).

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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:15:40 AM

comical by the fact that the animal in question is a reptile (species not widely known for their deep emotional intelligence).



If nothing else, this statement does, in fact, question her love for the lizard.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:22:31 AM

question her love for the lizard


No, it questions the lizard's ability to love. I love my iPhone, but it doesn't love me back.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:23:23 AM
Wow, now we're comparing a lizard to an inanimate object?



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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:24:15 AM
I guess I never knew you were the authority on the ability for animals to love, or people to love their animals.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:30:18 AM
My childhood cats are still buried in my parents' backyard - but someone else lives there now. I assume they're long since dust, but we made no effort to move them.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:43:10 AM
Who cares if the lizard loves us back? That has no bearing on how I will handle his remains.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:49:05 AM

That has no bearing on how I will handle his remains.


You're right. I hope you find a useful answer to your question.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:58:21 AM

Well, heaven help the person who starts digging in my parents backyard. There are 5 or 6 dogs, a few cats, and 2 horses. Good thing they will never move!



We have a horse buried on our parents property too. Well her and several cats and dogs.

We will cremate our dogs when it's time because they are large and our yard is small. But our cat will probably be buried in the backyard with a marker.

I know several people that have pets buried in their yards.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:04:16 AM
Yikes. I have never even thought about this!
I wonder how long it takes a dog to completely decompose? I have two dogs and my cockatiel buried in my flower gardens. If I were to move I would leave them there. But what if the new owners didn't want the flower gardens and dug them up? Oh my.




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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:13:47 AM
Our yard is really rocky, so we had kitty and pumpkin cremated. We put the ashes into the gardens.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:26:50 AM
One of ours is under our plum tree. She was wrapped in a sheet, and placed in a box, and the box well secured with tape. My fear was one of the local possums or something would start digging. But we dug the whole pretty deep, so it wouldn't be an issue. I imagine when the time comes to move, there won't be much left, so I don't see leaving it there being a problem.






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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:54:24 PM
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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:33:08 PM
DH's biggest i-told-you-so came when we moved. i never thought we would move because he said we will never move. when our dog died and we had him cremated i thought we would scatter the ashes in the backyard. DH wouldn't do it. kept saying "what if we move? then he's left behind". i would say "but you always say we'll never move". well, almost on a whim, we moved. when we were packing up, DH said "THIS is why i'm glad we didn't scatter the ashes". i doubt he'll scatter them at the new house either.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 5:13:48 PM
We bury our dogs in the yard, I have no idea about any regualtions regarding depth or whatever. We just dig a hole deep enough that other dogs won't try to dig it up.

Our last death was about 7 or 8 years ago so there would only be bones now. If I sold, I'd tell then new owners where the pet cemetary is so they wouldn't get a nasty surprise if they decided to put a garden there.

I think with a small pet like a lizard or bird you wouldn't need to worry too much. They're only small so if you make the hole about a foot deep you shouldn't have any worries.

OP, I wonder the same thing about people.

My great aunt had a live-in boyfriend for years (living together without marriage was not talked about in those days, especially in front of children, so to us kids he was Uncle David). He had hardly any contact with his family overseas and Aunty knew nothing about them. When he died, she had him cremated and buried the urn of ashes under a rose bush near the back gate.

She died 3 years ago and the house was sold. As far as I know, Uncle David is still under the rose bush and I have no idea if the new owner was told about him being there. I guess she'll find out one day if she hasn't already. lol.

I do feel sad for Unlce David though. If I lived close enough I would have got him before the sale and scattered his ashes somewhere. I hope someone does that when he's eventually found.

ETA:

A lizard...really?
How very sensitive of you. Kids can have emmotional attachment to a reptile. My young DGS had a turtle that died, he was upset over it. We carefully put Timmy in a box and buried him in the yard - had a funeral too.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:33:50 PM
We buried our dog in our backyard. We dug a hole about 5ft deep and wrapped him in a blanket. The next day we planted a Magnolia tree on top. Its a wonderful memorial and when it blooms it just fills my heart with love and reminds us our cherished pup. We are in the process of selling our house but when we do move we can always drive by and see the Magnolia tree from the street.


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