Tell me about something fun you did or gave to your SO for Valentines Day

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Posted: 1/23/2013 2:52:31 PM
Last year we had a competition to see who could come up with the best nickname for the other. So I made a funny video set to Counting Crows Accidently In Love going through all the possible silly pet names I could call him before telling him that I wasn't changing the name that I always call him and hoping he didn't stop calling me Cupcake. It was a very funny video, I involved our friends and the kids and posted it on Youtube and on his Facebook last Valentine's Day. He loved the video and is still showing it to people.

I'm not sure what I want to do this year. Something creative, but I'm not sure I could top last year.

What fun things have you done to celebrate Valentine's Day?

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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:29:05 PM
This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.

It's a little hurtful.

But then there was no such thing as my birthday (in December) or Christmas for that matter.

Something I will have to get used to.



Erica

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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:38:22 PM
Eriusa, You are wrong, you do not have to get used to a thing. You are young and beautiful and deserve to be treated with respect and consideration.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:51:34 PM
No, don't get used to it. My ex-husband never recognized holidays or birthdays either and sorry, but those things do matter. You deserve to be treated to fun things on holidays and your birthday.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:52:31 PM
eriusa, it makes me sad to think you feel the need to "compromise" to be in a relationship with someone. My motto is: Life is too short to not be adored.

We don't really do Valentine's Day as any big thing. I'll probaly get flowers and a nice card, plus dinner and maybe a fancy vegan or raw
dessert. He's not picky and he'll enjoy whatever gift he gets. He likes candy. Although it's not an important holiday to us, we do acknowledge our relationship.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:55:45 PM

Life is too short to not be adored.


Exactly! It doesn't even have to be something big. My boyfriend celebrates almost every holiday by getting me some type of flowers so it's not super expensive either. And he's appreciative of what I do for him and I really like that because I like giving surprises.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 3:58:59 PM
My husband's birthday is Feb. 20th and there most certainly IS a Valentine's day for both of us. We usually keep it more low-key and homemade gifts. Last year I made him a heart shaped cookie cake, bacon roses and I renewed one of his magazine subscriptions. He gave me a hand written love letter, a lollipop bouquet and an extra long back massage that night.


This year I am still thinking of what I want to do. It is a lot harder to keep things small.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:06:58 PM
My father's birthday is the day after Valentine's day and every year my mother gets him a bunch of balloons and the next day he gets a red velvet cake. It's ok to celebrate both holidays!

One year I made my husband a little jar with slips of paper sticking out with 100 reasons why I loved him. It was nearly 10 years ago and he still has the jar and most of the strips (some have been lost over the years) He says he even still reads them sometimes.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:08:02 PM

No, don't get used to it. My ex-husband never recognized holidays or birthdays either and sorry, but those things do matter. You deserve to be treated to fun things on holidays and your birthday.



That!! don't fall for it. Been there Done that. It's still Valentines Day and you expect to be special too. that it can be extra special because his Bday is the same day.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:10:29 PM
There is a restaurant here in town that makes the absolute BEST mac&cheese that SO and I both love. It's made with truffle cream, gruyere, and a few other things. One of the local magazines published the recipe, so I thought I'd make it for him for him for Valentine's Day. Well, it was a huge effort. Do you know how hard it is to find truffle cream? Truffle oil is easy...truffle cream, not so much. Anyway, I had a local specialty store order it for me ($$$). I made the mac&cheese and it was nowhere near as good as the one at the restaurant - not terrible, but not great either. So from now on, we make reservations. He still talks sweetly about it though.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:12:18 PM

This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.

It's a little hurtful.

But then there was no such thing as my birthday (in December) or Christmas for that matter.

Something I will have to get used to.



HELL NO! If he treats you like this less than a year into the relationship how is he going to treat you in 10 years?



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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:13:02 PM
I apologize. I didn't mean to make this about my disappointment.

I like to hear about other people's surprises.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:13:28 PM
eriusa - There is plenty of time to meet someone who will not be so selfish before Valentine's Day and V - day alone is better than with someone so self centered.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:17:44 PM
My birthday is on Valentine's also, but I have never ever told anyone how to celebrate it. I agree with the poster above who said that you should never settle or compromise on something that bothers you immensely. He doesn't have to make a big, huge deal out of it, but he should at least acknowledge that it is a holiday.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:21:51 PM

This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.

It's a little hurtful.

But then there was no such thing as my birthday (in December) or Christmas for that matter.

Something I will have to get used to.


NO NO NO!!! Don't get used to it! If that's how your SO treats you now, this should be your last Valentine's day together.

Life is too short to settle for a jerk. Trust me on this!!!


Gail

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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:30:37 PM
One year, I made homemade fortune cookies with reasons I love him inside (our first date was on Valentine's day and we went out for chinese, so special meaning).

Last year, I made a candy "card", where you take a piece of thick posterboard and write a letter, with candy bars in place of some words (like, "To my BIG HUNK, I love you to the MILKY WAY and back because you are a SWEET TART" or whatever) My DH is candy addict, so it was perfect for him!

One year I found a free site online where you can make your own crossword puzzle, so I made one up where all the clues/answers were about our history together, then decorated it with my scrapbook stuff. He had a lot of fun with that!

He also loves Mountain Dew, so this year I am thinking of a pack of Mountain Dew with a note "To the man who does his "DEW"ty to please this booty!" Lol.

Valentine's day is perfect for little cheesy gifts, IMO! I don't need expensive jewelry, I just want a little treat that makes me smile.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 4:58:15 PM

"To the man who does his "DEW"ty to please this booty!"
For the spreadsheet:
Creativegirl and SO are into anal.

LOL J/K, don't be offended.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 5:06:16 PM
I gave my (now) husband a balloon ride over the Gold Coast while we were on a weekend away for Valentine's Day. We got engaged the next day - he didn't want to do it on Valentine's Day itself, he wanted a day just for us.

Erica - don't settle if you're not happy and this is upsetting you. I know that's easy to say but you'll be miserable if those things are important to you but not to him. He won't change how he feels about those days either and it'll be a point of contention throughout the whole relationship. I was with someone who was the same way. Partly because he grew up a Jehovah's Witness, but mostly it was just him (his siblings celebrate those occasions). We had a more than a few arguments on those days (inc. a breakup on my birthday one year) and it really spoilt everything. Having someone forget or not celebrate your birthday is awful. I found someone who not only is wonderful in every other way, he looooves to have any excuse to spoil me whether it's Valentine's Day, birthdays, Christmas, or a made-up day. You can find that someone too.

Gilly.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 5:08:09 PM
We choose to spoil our dd's on Valentine's day. This year they just might get a special delivery while they're at school. We might do a little something for each other, but our special day is our anniversary.

Last year I made muffins for my dh and wrote 'for my stud muffin on Valentine's Day' on the packaging. I might do something similiar with a different treat.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 5:18:40 PM
Um...he forgot Valentine's day ONCE.

The next day I went and bought tons of tacky decorations, and decorated his truck (parked at work).

It took him ten minutes to get into his truck.

passive-aggressive...oh heck yes, but he has never forgotten it again.

In 22 years We have done just about everything, fancy dinners, picnics, but one of my favorites:

We had a very packed day, with both kids going to soccer, and dance lessons so the was really no time for dinner. We had to make do with a quick trip to Arby's. We were the only ones in the place, and they were playing romantic songs. He got up and asked me to dance.. A man that can risk being being thought of as silly is a keeper.

Another favorite:
A moonlit drive through the back roads up on the Continental Divide just outside of Butte.
Snow in some places as high as the truck, all crusted over with ice so it sparkles in the moonlight. That is the one thing I miss truly miss about MT.

another:
I had tickets to riverdance delivered by an Irish dancer to my husband.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 5:38:11 PM
When DH and I were dating, we spent a Valentine apart because he was on call all day in the hospital and I was living out of town. Before V-day, I made him a package with 12 envelopes and each one had a time written on it with instructions to open one envelope every hour. In some envelopes I put love coupons/notes. In one I put a sexy picture of me. I used some bigger manilla envelopes and put some surprises (cookies, small gift, etc.), I don't even remember what I put in them, but I know he LOVED LOVED LOVED his gift, and everyone else kin the hospital was ist as excited as he was to find out what was in the envelopes. He kept some to himself.


This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.


Since this is your first V-day together, its time to start your own traditions as a couple, and that includes celebrating V-day, if its important to you. But of course, his birthday needs to be important too so you both need to figure out how you can both be honored and feel special.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 6:06:22 PM
I love valentines! I am a florist by trade, so I don't get in all traditional Valentine's wine & dine deals. But I make sure my hubby of 35 yrs will still be MY Valentine! I I did a LOVE basket last year w/massage oils, chocolate sauce, a little naughty toy, () green M&M's, nightie, love CD & plenty of candles. I left a little note on that said I have missed him the last couple of days, because of work, but the Feb. 15th was ALL his!
One year I did 12 days of Valentines, HE still talks about that one. I usually put the day/treat on the table since he got up for work before me. One day I did not put it there because I had to Bake the cookies while he was at work. He called later that day to ask if I was mad at him? I said no, why would he think that? He said, because he did not get a treat that day. I have the 12 days idea & a love candy poster on my blog a couple of years ago if anyone wants to see it. I will be glad to share. HE is very traditional when it comes holidays & says he will leave the creativity to me! He spoiled me w/perfume, candy & NO flowers( I am sick of flowers!)and instead gives me a12pack of PEPSI! MY blog: LOVE candy poster


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Posted: 1/23/2013 6:53:48 PM
I also agree with others that life is way too short for that. What he is doing is not something I would "get used to." I would tell him that it's hurtful!

Case and point SO's birthday is the week before Christmas, we celebrate the two holidays separately. My birthday is the week before Valentine's Day (I was supposed to be a Valentine's baby), but I was a week early. My birthday is the exact same day as Valentine's Day, but is the week before. We always celebrate those days separately as well.


~*Melissa*~

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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:09:03 PM
Our first wedding anniversary is on this Valentine's Day, so I am looking for a really great gift! We will combine the two 'holidays' and neither of us has a problem with that.




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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:47:25 PM
My DH celebrates "Valentine's Week" rather than VD. We don't usually do much for our anniversary in January because he has so much fun saving and planning his surprises for me. He starts the week before, so I get 8 days of gifts, cards, and special treatments. Over the years his gifts have varied in price, depending on what our financial situation is that year. It's never been about the cost of the gifts, but rather the thought, effort, and imagination that went into each.

He usually starts the week out with flowers - a week before VD, you can get roses at their normal price, rather than the elevated price charged on VD. The man knows how I love when he saves money. When the Southeastern Flower Show was here, he gave me tickets, then took the day off and went with me. There is usually a candy day, maybe a gift card day, and always a coffee day that might include the latest hitch coffee paraphernalia as well as some exotic, excellent coffee. The last day, actual VD, is usually the big gift - not necessarily the most expensive, but always the most special.

How do you compete or match that kind of thoughtfulness? After 25 years, I have realized that the best gift I can give him back is to let him do this for me. LOL. A hard life, yes it is. LOL.

Over the years I have found things that I thought he would like, and he did, but he really just likes for me to let him indulge me. The gift he liked and remembers the best was a heart shaped basket filled with massage goodies, lingerie, and a note from his MIL asking if she could have the kids over the weekend.

I try to make his bday as special as he makes VW. We usually do a trip of some sort, something geared towards his preferences. Last year, money was tight, but I pooled all my credit card rewards and we did a Diners, Driveins, and Dives weekend. We drove to a nearby state and visited cities that had restaurants featured on the show. You'd have thought I took him to Paris, he was so excited. LOL

Marcy



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Posted: 1/24/2013 7:28:27 AM
Such great stories! what fun, little things everyone has done for their SOs. I'm enjoying reading them.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 7:56:41 AM
This is my first V-Day with my SO. I'm going to make him a basket of all his favorite things: gum, Keebler striped cookies,a six pack of his beer, and then I will bake him something. He loves when I bake for him but he doesn't want me to do it often so he gains weight

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Posted: 1/24/2013 8:10:31 AM

This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.


Oh heck no. Valentine's Day, my birthday, and our anniversary are within days of each other and I practically wrote it into our wedding vows that they would always be treated as three separate and special events.


But then there was no such thing as my birthday (in December) or Christmas for that matter.


Is he JW? I'm thinking not since he wants to celebrate his birthday. . .


Carla




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Posted: 1/24/2013 8:25:22 AM

This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.

It's a little hurtful.

But then there was no such thing as my birthday (in December) or Christmas for that matter.

Something I will have to get used to.


Oh Hell NO!!! He sounds like a spoiled, immature, selfish child. Adults do not behave this way. He can't have his precious birthday but then not give you yours or Christmas. This is ridiculous behavior. And I promise you it will only get more and more ridiculous and hurtful and possible abusive from there. You deserve a good man, not somebody hurtful whom you have to get "used to." Please don't put up with this nonsense!!!


Back to the OP. This year I am doing 14 days of Valentines for DH. I will leave him a card in his briefcase every day until the 14th. Then on the 14th he'll get a giant Hershey Bar =) We never go out on actual Valentine's Day though because everything is so overpriced, so we'll go out on 15th or 16th instead.




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Posted: 1/24/2013 8:31:02 AM
Our anniversary is Feb 4. Becaues it is so close to Valentine's day we do not celebrate it.


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Posted: 1/24/2013 8:47:18 AM
Last year DH went through a spell of watching hunting type shows on tv. There were often ads on for a company called Duluth Trading Company that made us both chuckle with their humorous offerings like "buck naked underwear", "free range boxers" "extra ballroom jeans" or their t-shirts that were extra long to prevent "plumber's butt". I ordered him a few items from there and they were top-notch and slightly naughty, fun and unexpected.

Another year when we were on a really tight budget and set a $5 limit on our V-Day spending we had to get really creative. He loves Lucky Charms cereal (me too!). He would often say, "I wish they would make this with just the marshmallowy pieces". So,for V-Day, I got Lucky Charms and separated out the marshmallowy pieces in advance and served him a big bowl for breakfast....that was a fun and memorable moment.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:58:28 AM
SmartyPants71 - can you post the recipe.

eriusa - actually no you don't have to get used to a thing. He wants to celebrate his birthday, then he needs to celebrate valentines day with you the day beforehand. But wait I don't understand he wouldn't celebrate your birthday but wants to celebrate his?




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Posted: 1/24/2013 10:19:07 AM
One year the local hs glee club did a fubndraiser where they sent people tou your house or business to sing to someone. Well I choose a mushy love song that a woman would sing to guy ( from their list). They sent out 2 guys to sing this song. It was so funny watching thir faces when they realized they were singing a love song to a guy. It was al we could do to keep from laughing. As soon as they were done, my husband thanked them and we went in uncontrollably laughter for 5 minutes. Husband still talks about it.

Now we try to outdo each other with a noisy card or one with some sort of motion to it.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 10:27:17 AM

This is my first Valentine's Day with my significant other.

He has told me there was no such thing as Valentine's Day as it is HIS birthday. He has told me this repeatedly.


Don't let this stop you. Celebrate his birthday on the 14th and do Valentines Day on the 15th. I grew up in a household the celebrated everything! Every holiday, every accomplishment, everything. My husband grew up in a household that barely celebrated birthdays, let alone any other holiday. The first few years I would do valentines day stuff and easter baskets, etc. After a few years of me continuing to do celebrate those dates, even if he didn't do anything for me (I think the fun is doing something for him) he finally put an easter basket of garden tools, seeds and plants together for me. He was so proud of himself! I think it just took him a few years to understand that celebrating things is important to me - and he figured out how much he enjoyed it too and started doing the same for me. When it comes to Valentines and our anniversary - he does all the spoiling of me now. Don't let your husband ruin the holiday for you. Even if he refuses to celebrate it with you, celebrate it for yourself.

As for the OP - a couple of my favorite things - One year I cut out bee's and put them all over the bathroom mirror with a big heart that said "bee mine." He loved that. We still find the bee's stuck in things now and then. This year I am giving him toad shaped chocolates (from lindt) with a note that says "have I toad you lately that I love you?" Although, the jar with the reasons I love him is a wonderful idea too and I might have to steal it!

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Posted: 1/24/2013 11:22:20 AM
I came here looking for ideas as I can't think of anything. To the person whose SO doesn't celebrate it I cannot imagine someone saying I don't celebrate it because it is my birthday. I agree he should still get a birthday but both should be celebrated. It sounded like he also didn't celebrate your birthday or Christmas - there is no way I would put up with that. I don't need expensive things but I want some thought put into it and to be made to feel special and think it should go both ways. Holidays are part of what makes life fun I think they need to be celebrated and I love some of the silly ideas I have seen on here. I am still looking for the one I am going to use.


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