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Posted: 1/23/2013 6:36:13 PM
What is your definition of a vacation?

Just curious.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:34:40 PM
No one?

Does vacation involve planes, trains or automobiles?

What about a car trip to visit family? Camping?



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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:39:11 PM
Where was that said? I can't imagine that very many people on this board have never been on a vacation.

That said it's been a long time since I've been on a trip longer than a long weekend and/or out of state. But a true, week or more vacation, not since 2006. And the last before that was 1997. And actually those were more like five or six days.

My idea of vacation is going somewhere overnight at least a few nights for pleasure. Preferably more than three nights. Camping which generally involves cooking, bugs and an uncomfortable sleeping area is NOT my idea of vacation. Never stayed with family as most of mine lives near but depending on your family and the size/comfort of their house, that may or may not be a vacation. How you get to your destination has no bearing on it being a vacation or not IMO.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:39:56 PM

Does vacation involve planes, trains or automobiles?

What about a car trip to visit family? Camping?



Any of the above. I think a vacation is anytime we go somewhere away from home for the purpose of having fun family time. That can be anywhere.

ETA We do go on vacations. It is a priority for us because of the work schedule my DH keeps.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:41:56 PM
I've never been on a vacation as an adult.

At a minimum: the act of not going to work for reasons other than obligations or illness.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:42:36 PM
Oh heck, my grandparents lived 45 min. away from our house, and we saw them every Saturday. But once a year, in August, I stayed with them for a week, and I absolutely considered it a vacation. It was my Grandma & Grandpa vacation and I loved it!

We also drove 6 hrs. to visit my cousins each year...that too was a vacation in my mind.

Every bit as much so as trips to the beach or anywhere else.

We call weekend trips "mini-vacations".




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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:55:20 PM
I guess I would probably say that we don't go on vacation. By that I mean going somewhere other than to visit grandparents/parents. DH and I went to a wedding out of state in August but before that the last time we went somewhere together was September, 2001. I would like to go on a min-vacation this summer with the kids. Probably just one or two nights to a waterpark or something. but, we will have to see how things ate financially.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:57:59 PM
Oh, and I'm also curious about in which thread this was originally mentioned.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:01:51 PM
I would say that a vacation is going away from home, for 2 or more nights, for any fun or recreational reason.

Less than 2 nights I would just call a "trip".


Work related travel, even if fun, I wouldn't call a vacation.

Family visits just for the sake of visiting meets the criteria, as does camping, RVing, etc.. No planes, trains, cars, or ships necessary.

If I can walk to a resort and I stay there for 3 days, I've had a vacation. And there is a bed & breakfast only a few miles from me, so I could actually do something like that.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:03:38 PM
I think I remember the thread. It was one asking for your favorite vacation as an adult and a couple said they had never been.

We (dh and I) budget for yearly vacations because they are very important to us. But then, we aren't raising a family either.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:19:48 PM

The not-practical side of me screams "DISNEYWORLD" for my kids. We have never gotten to take a real vacation, and it would be awesome!


this is the comment that prompted my post. I have seen other posts on NSBR that folks have stated they have never been on vacation.

I grew up pretty darn poor. When we lived in colorado we usually managed a 4 - 7 day trip 90 mins away in the mountains to camp. At first we slept under the stars. Mom picked up a used tent at a yard sale and then we could go a little more often as we had a bit of protection from the elements. We considered those vacations. We ate lots of sandwiches, went fishing and ate the fish etc.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:57:11 PM
I think there are plenty of people out there who never go on vacation. I'd define vacation as going away from home for at least a few days for the purpose of doing something fun/recreational/relaxing.

When I was growing up, we visited my grandmother, who had a house on the Jersey Shore, for 2 weeks every summer. It was 90 minutes from home, and those vacations are some of the best memories I have. I cannot think of another family on our block that EVER took a trip, even to see family. We were the only family in our neighborhood that I can ever remember taking a vacation. My best friend growing up lived across the street from me and I know for a fact that she never went on a vacation until she was an adult.

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When we lived in colorado we usually managed a 4 - 7 day trip 90 mins away in the mountains to camp. At first we slept under the stars. Mom picked up a used tent at a yard sale and then we could go a little more often as we had a bit of protection from the elements. We considered those vacations. We ate lots of sandwiches, went fishing and ate the fish etc.


I definitely would have considered those vacations. They sound like they were very special.



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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:14:30 PM
For me, a vacation would be for fun/leisure and include at least three nights where I have to pay to stay. I don't consider staying at our friends or my parents as a vacation. I consider that a visit. Lol.

A mini vacation would be one or two nights where I pay to stay---for fun/leisure.

We do both types each year. We haven't been on a long vacation/trip (a week or more) since 2006 though.

We are planning a five night vacation this summer. We are going on a two night mini vacation in Feb ( we go to the MOA for the JDRF walk each year and stay in a hotel with family).



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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:15:49 PM
That was me that said that.

I have been on many vacations, but I have never gotten to take my kids anywhere fun to get away. I have a hard time considering going to family funerals as vacations, and that is really all the traveling I have done with them!

When I was married, getting time off and then having the money to do anything was always an issue.

Now that I am a single mom, it's been even harder for me to plan a vacation - but now that the boys are getting older and more manageable () I am trying to finagle something for this year!


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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:22:03 PM
We go on vacations, but they are always to visit family. Our families live 1500 miles from each other, and we don't live near either one.

Those are vacations, but really aren't relaxing to me. I still have to help out, wash dishes, etc. Plus, staying at someone's house is okay, but to me it's not as relaxing as being at a resort, etc. We do fun things though, although not every day.

This April we are going to Disney World with my husband's family, and I am really looking forward to it, although I'm sure it's going to wear me out. Now THAT'S a vacation!

I have to admit that I sometimes wish we didn't have to travel to see family so much. I'd love to go someplace I've never been with just DH, son, and me! However, I just can't stand the thought of disappointing my in-laws. They are such nice people, and my son is their only grandchild. My fil counts the days until he sees my son again, literally.


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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:26:42 PM
angie - why don't you take a vacation? Your job gives it to you, and I'm sure your boss takes one and maybe even your court has a recess. don't you need the time to relax and refresh?




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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:33:29 PM
I guess I look for any excuse to say I'm going on a vacation--and use the term loosly.

As long as there's no work involved, and a hotel of some sort, I call it a vacation.

Unless it's camping. I do not camp. That would be the very definition of a nightmare to me.

We sleep at a hotel even when we go see my parents, so even that qualifies as a vacation.






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Posted: 1/23/2013 9:48:32 PM

angie - why don't you take a vacation? Your job gives it to you, and I'm sure your boss takes one and maybe even your court has a recess. don't you need the time to relax and refresh?


Long story.

My first job didn't accrue much leave time.

My second job: I had to be in court 3-4 times per week, and my supervisor was a bitch about giving people time off. Everyone had a duty attorney, so if you planned on going on vacation, you either had to clear your calendar, which you could not, or you had to ask your duty attorney if they could cover for you, and if he/she agreed, then you had to pay them back when you returned. People seldom took time off with that set up. The only time you didn't have to pay back is when you took sick leave. I had to take 2 weeks off for a tonsillectomy, which wiped out my leave and about a year later I cashed out my remaining leave because I left.

My current job: I got very sick about a year into it, and had to be out for MD appointments + 6 weeks. THAT wiped out my sick leave AND vacation time for the next 2 years. THEN I got RA, which took care of what little leave time I had.

I now have managed to accrue like 2 weeks vacation time, but I feel guilty about taking time off in addition to my MD appointments and flareups. So I don't. My supervisor tells me to take leave, and she gets irritated that I won't, but like I said, I feel guilty about calling in sick. I take random days when she goes into my office and pretty much tells me that "you are taking this Friday off." I always take of one day in May no matter what--that's for an orchid show. My supervisor and I actually had the "when is Angievp taking a vacation" discussion over lunch today.

I should, but I feel super guilty.

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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:53:34 PM
Until 2009, we'd never taken a vacation.
When we lived in PA, we came to OH a few times a year to visit my dad- we slept at his house, but it was no vacation LOL.
Then we moved from PA to OH, and a few times a year we go visit family there- again we stay with parents, and while we enjoy it, it's no vacation.

A vacation to me involves staying in a hotel and not going for the express reason of visiting family.

Our first ever family vacation was 2009, after we'd been married more than 14 years.

Our first ever couple vacation (we never even had a honeymoon) was 2012, after being married 17 years....my mom kept telling our kids it was our honeymoon LOL


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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:08:57 PM
We go on two vacations every year - one one-week and one-two weeks. We then take ~4-5 getaways a year. Time away from work and day to day life is extremely important to us. Travel is on our top priority list. We have no kids.

A vacation is longer than 5 nights, outside of California, and done typically by airplane or motorcycle.

A getaway is less then 5 nights, within California, and can be done by car or plane. (i.e. Tahoe, Monterey, Disneyland, Vegas, etc.). We recognize Vegas is not in CA, but it's close enough to count for this category!

These definitions came about when taking a trip to Disneyland with my sister and her two kids. We justified it not being a vacation to her husband this way, as he said they couldn't afford a vacation. we kept telling him it was a getaway. He didn't buy it.


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Posted: 1/24/2013 12:53:24 AM
If I have to arrange it. it is not a vacation for me.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 6:45:48 AM
Angie,
I say this with kindness and compassion, and as a fellow RA'er....Take a vacation! When you have RA, you must take care of yourself. Time away from work falls into that category. Don't feel guilty, it's your designated leave.




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Posted: 1/24/2013 7:58:17 AM
I think vacation is some place fun you go like a beach or something like that. A trip to me is when you go to visit family. A vacation is fun, something we do with just our family and we stay at a condo not a relatives.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 8:06:43 AM
Growing up money was no issue but while my parents traveled the world, me and my sisters did not. We went on maybe 10 big vacations (one was to Europe) my entire life. When dh and I got married, we went on our honeymoon and after that went away every year. We went to the carribean and mexico and then had kids and have gone to the beach every year. One year we took the kids on a cruise.

This year we are going to Maine for a week in August. A vacation has to be a week and no driving during it (meaning no long roadtrips). It is very important for us to get away. We also take short trips to NYC every year or so.





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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:13:53 AM
I remember two or three vacations as a child, and many trips to visit grandma.

As adults, we manage to take trips, so I can't complain too much. We usually do Vegas once a year sans kids. And a work/pleasure trip is usually every couple years to somewhere neat, and I get to go most times. We live 1300 plus miles away from any family member, so much of dh's vacation time is used just to visit family. I sometimes wish we didn't have to use it all on that, but again...not something I should complain about. We are lucky enough to be able afford to do that.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:22:44 AM
I remember one vacation as a child. And that was to visit my dad's brothers. The only other "vacation" I remember is when my parents farmed us out to his brothers while dad and mom hashed out their divorce (didn't know this at the time, of course).

But DH and I love to travel and think vacations are very important. We take one week with the kids and one week with just DH and me. We joke that if you take the kids, it's a trip. If you go with your spouse, it's a vacation.

We also generally take quite a few weekend trips in the summer to our beach property. They kids also spend a week each (alone) with their grandparents in the summer.

If I have to cook, clean, drive more than from the airport, or deal with squabbling kids, it's no vacation.





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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:42:00 AM
A vacation to me is at least a week long and relaxing. 99% of the time it has to be tropical somehow.
Anything shorter is considered a trip. If it involves a wedding or major sightseeing I'm more inclined to think of it as a trip regardless of the length of the trip. Vacation requires utmost relaxation. Sightseeing is not relaxing to me. So a two-week stay in Europe would still be a trip to me. Visitng family is not a vacation, except my SIL in Florida because it is relatively tropical, there is a pool and we don't do anything non-relaxing =)
Camping is a trip, so is skiing.




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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:48:08 AM
Growing up we took a few vacations.. seems like almost every summer we would do something, even if just camping. Did Disney a couple of times and RV'ed around. We always did grandma's house at Easter and Thanksgiving, so for me it seemed like a vacation, probably not for my mom who had to do all the work.

Now with my family, we have done one real vacation out of state, to California. This was before our surprise baby who is four now.. But before she was born our 2 older kids and dh and I did that big trip.

Other than that, it's always just been small'ish things like camping, day trips.. nothing big but fun though.

My dream was/is to go to Disney World with the family but living so far away and so expensive it just never happened. But can't complain, I know we are 'not' that bad off and what we do is fine.

Wish I was one of those families that could just hop on a plane and fly where ever your heart desires with no worries about planning every single nickle. Just go and be free.. lol



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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:50:06 AM
For me, a vacation would be for fun/leisure and include at least three nights where I have to pay to stay. I don't consider staying at our friends or my parents as a vacation.



^^^ditto this for me, too.

we take time every July/August to go back to the Midwest for my BF's annual family reunion, and we visit my parents on the same trip. We call that our 'vacation' but I think of a 'real' vacation as going to a resort, a new city, etc., not just going back to visit family or stay with family. In the 9 years we've been together, we've only taken one trip that meets all my criteria. And it was only for a long weekend, not even leaving the state.

I'd love to have the time / money to take a 'real' vacation (cruise, trip to Hawaii, trip to Europe, etc), but neither of us gets enough vacation time from our jobs to do the (expected) family visit AND a vacation.




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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:51:23 AM
Vacation for me growing up was the school bus dropping me off the last day of June and ended when it picked me up the first day of September. I frequently never left the farm the entire summer.
My first vacation was as an adult.
I overindulge my kids in this regard now.


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Posted: 1/24/2013 10:55:25 AM
We hadn't been on a vacation for 10 years before this last summer. We had an occasional weekend away but not a vacation. To me a vacation is more than just a weekend away. It involves taking time off from work and then more than 2 nights. I am hoping we do many more family vacations as we all seemed to thrive on the family time away from home and work. DH really needs some time away. We had done staycations but they just didn't do much for us as we did a few things around our city and then spend the rest of the time doing necessary stuff around the house - while fun it just didn't relax us as much as we had so many things we were trying to get done as well. We are going to make vacations a priority.

Vacations don't have to be expensive. We took a road trip and stayed at decent but not $$ hotels. We didn't go to a touristy area but it was relaxing and I want to go back so bad. It really wasn't that expensive and it was so worth the cost and I think if you can get the time off and can afford it everyone should do so - don't go into debt for it but start setting aside some money and then go for it.

We like going to National Parks and to museums. Our last trip included some touristy things but most of it was spend in the Redwoods and beaches in Northern California where there were rarely many other people around. It was so nice and so relaxing. For me a vacation involves being outside and seeing stuff. Disney to me is a trip as it is so tiring. We live near Disneyland so have been a lot but it is usually just a day trip. We like to go and see stuff but have to have down time as well and don't want to just be driving from place to place. The thing about vacations that I love is that it is relaxed and you are not in a hurry. The not being rushed is a biggie for me. We try and spread the driving out or have one or two days with some driving but the rest of the time is just poking around and exploring.


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Posted: 1/24/2013 11:16:19 AM

I can't imagine that very many people on this board have never been on a vacation.


I think you might be surprised how many people have never been on a vacation. I know my mother is nearly 60 and except for trips to visit relatives as a child she has never been on a vacation. As an adult I know she has never done one.

To me a vacation is at least 48hours (otherwise to me it is a day trip) and involves as it's primary goal relaxation or enjoyment. So me going to my mother's house for a week to care for her after surgery is to me NOT a vacation.

That being said I was married for 10 years before I have my first vacation as an adult(no honeymoon). As a child my vacation experience was limited to a couple of weeks at my grandparents one time and a single day at Disneyland when I was 14.

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Posted: 1/24/2013 11:23:58 AM
we went on a week-long vacation every year when I was growing up, but it probably wasn't very restful for my mom, lol!

We drove 12 hours to stay in a cabin at a resort on a lake in MN- same place (same cabin, even) every year. Mom still had to cook every meal, wash dishes (after heating the H20 because the cabin didn't have a water heater), and clean up all the fishing junk after we got back home. I loved those vacations and still have fond memories of those times, but my mom? possibly not quite so much. My parents finally started taking 'fun' trips together after all us kids moved out of the house.




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Posted: 1/24/2013 6:08:36 PM
Planned time away from home for more than just the day for rest or relaxation or just for fun.
Not spending the day at an amusement park or the beach 20 minutes away from home.





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Posted: 1/24/2013 6:09:31 PM
"I can't imagine that very many people on this board have never been on a vacation."

I've never been on one
Not even a honeymoon
We don't even do weekend trips. Ever.
Never have. Not even as a kid


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Posted: 1/24/2013 6:57:58 PM
I grew up in a family that didn't seem to take vacations so it was the norm in my life. We just stayed home, although my parents fished a lot. I look upon any time I'm away from home overnight as a vacation but due to our current lifestyle we aren't gone long.

My job has no vacation time, nor any sick leave. Any time one of us gone from work, except for state holidays, it's without pay.
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