|Posted: 1/25/2013 10:17:24 PM|
... you to do or not do something? I would love some real world examples of this, so please share if you have anything that fits.
DH and I are talking. I told him that my "inner voice" is telling me that using a (bio-identical) estrogen cream would not be good for me. He thinks I'm being irrational...
Do you ever "go by your gut" on matters that seem like no brainers to others?
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|Posted: 1/25/2013 10:37:41 PM|Yes, I do have that inner voice thing from time to time.
DH thought I was really mother henning DS this past fall about a girl that was pursuing him but I had a bad feeling. I read DS texts frequently while he was in the shower or busy and did not feel good about her being so needy.
Needy turned agressive with propositins of sex and then went to her urging him to come over on a day off school. I said I would bring him over but would like to meet her parents. She stumbled with excuses and in the end admitted no one was home. DS was 13 at the time and in no way ready for what she was asking. It annoyed him that I was reading texts but in the end he was glad I stepped in because while he liked her he was not ready for most of what she was asking for.
|Posted: 1/25/2013 10:51:29 PM|
I have learned to always go with my gut. I drive DH crazy when I make a snap "judgement" about a person with no real info. They are not doing anything bad, but it is like they just have a dark cloud over them. Now I don't go around announcing it to the world, just hubby, but it still shakes him. Time usually brings up interesting events. Every time I have been right. At this point, if I say "this person makes me feel funny", he knows what it means.
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|Posted: 1/25/2013 10:55:48 PM|
When we owned a pizza shop, there was an employee that DH thought was pretty cool/good. There was something I didn't like about him and would not allow DH to invite him over to our house.
A couple months later we caught him stealing money out of the registers.
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|Posted: 1/25/2013 10:57:48 PM|I will always listen to my gut. It has served me well. I have gotten into trouble when I didn't. .
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|Posted: 1/25/2013 11:32:01 PM|
Yep! All the time.just yesterday dh called to say his best friend doubled over at work.was taken to er.I prayed and thought for about 2 hours.finally said..he has something serious will be ok but des are missing it. We went to hospital 14 hours later.2 cat scans. With die and without.blood work.x ray. Still nothing. I asked about twisted bowel or aoretic aneurysim or gall bladder. Appendix. Dr says no no no no. But terrible pain. Finally today around 3 took him in for emergency surgery. Twisted bowel.
|Posted: 1/25/2013 11:40:57 PM|
I think that I have very good intuition.
I have bought a lot of stocks based on intuition, and I usually do very well with it. I have also sold stocks short once I sense that their "street cred" is going down.
I have known that people were gay even before they knew it themselves.
I pick up on lies and inconsistencies all the time. My husband will roll his eyes when I point them out to him, but with a little digging, my intuitions are proven.
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|Posted: 1/25/2013 11:42:01 PM|
When I was diagnosed with MS, my neurologist kept encouraging me to start taking MS drugs. But every time I thought about it, I got the WORST feeling of doom. Like, "DO NOT TAKE THAT.".
Turns out I have Lyme disease and weakening my immune system more would have really messed me up.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 12:11:48 AM|
Yep and yep. Just one example, I knew with my last pregnancy something wasn't right very early on. I had people tell me how I'm being negative etc. he was born 10 1/2 wks early. Turns out my intuitiveness was 100% correct. My point is always listen to your gut. If it doesn't feel right don't do it.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 12:34:54 AM|
Yep, and I get the cold clammy sweats when someone I know is in danger.
One time, at a party I felt it, and someone asked if I was alright. "no, something bad, seriously bad just happen."
A mutual friend was in a nearly fatal car accident (survived but with lasting injuries) . Time of occurrence? When I had that bad feeling.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 12:44:35 AM|
Thank you so much. Your stories are very interesting and helpful to me.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 3:21:58 AM|
Yes, I do believe in it. I can't tell you specific stories but it seems to be pretty accurate particularly with assessing people. My gut instinct about people is pretty much always spot on.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 3:44:35 AM|I absolutely believe in female intuition! Whether it's just that inner voice, gut instinct,or a higher power that's telling me something, I try to listen. I think when we try to reason our way out of it or ignore it ..that's when we get into trouble!! Honestly, I've learned to trust my gut and not give a damn what anyone else thinks! Age helps
Also, just my 2 cents, when it comes to hormones..if you have the feeling you shouldn't be taking them...then don't!!! You know your body better than anyone else!
My own personal feelings about hormones is that I prefer not to take them. I used bio identicals for a year after my hysterectomy basically because I was told I HAD to go on some kind of replacement hormones.( My Dr. told me I would be bitchy and my family would kick me out!! LOL). I refused synthetic hormones and figured the bio identicals were the safest way. Hormones are hormones and I was never 100% comfortable. So after a year I just stopped taking them and I couldn't tell the difference! So no hormones for me!
My best friend died due to a deep vein thrombosis because of birth control pills. I also know a 20 year old girl who got several blood clots due to them also and was very lucky to live. This is why I personally avoid hormones and all the possible side effects.
I say listen to your intuition!
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 4:08:36 AM|
I definitely believe in listening to your gut feelings. Many times it is your subconscious that is telling you to pay attention to some details and we call it gut feelings or "female intuition".
There is a book, "The Gift of Fear", by Gavin de Becker that is all about listening to your intuition to detect danger to yourself. It gives many examples of this.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 5:43:49 AM|
I've had an inner hormone voice too lol. I go on a menopause website where the majority of women on there use hormones. Something has always told me that I'd get through meno just fine without them. So far, so good- my symptoms are mild.
I saw a guest on Marie Osmond's talk show yesterday who said something like 'intuition is God's way of remaining anonymous'. I thought that was a neat way to look at it.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 5:47:55 AM|
Lol, my inner voice said bio-identical hormones were the answer and sure enough...they were!! Took about 5 months of tweaking amounts and types, but I sleep better, have more energy and stamina and people who have no idea I am doing this tell me I look more radiant and youthful.
No way would I have done synthetic!
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 6:23:52 AM|
I don't know if it's "female intuition" or just gut feelings, but I've had a few experiences with it. I was driving my Suburban down a steep hill I drive every day and something in me said: "slow down. Slow down right now." I slowed down and the car completely died - I had no control over the steering and if I'd been going as fast as I was, I'd never have been able to steer myself to safety.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 6:51:25 AM|
Intuition is not always mystical. It may be a symptom of your brain processing a million little things you are not consciously aware of. That is why when people say proudly "I'm not judgmental" I worry for their safety. Good judgment in every day decisions is not a negative.
I also believe in the subconscious sense.
Loc: Upstate NY
|Posted: 1/26/2013 7:26:01 AM|
I absolutely believe in it. Whenever I have ignored it, it turned out badly.
Whenever I get that feeling. I *have* to listen to it because it's always right. ALWAYS.
Loc: Northern Florida
|Posted: 1/26/2013 7:32:34 AM|Yes, I do. Also, this book is amazing. He also has one for parents to help kids stay safe.
"The Gift of Fear", by Gavin de Becker
|Posted: 1/26/2013 7:46:01 AM|
All the time. Once back when I worked late in downtown Dallas, I started to head to my car, but before I was leaving the building I got a really creepy feeling. I went back and got the security guard to walk me to my car. The next day we heard that a girl had been killed in the same parking lot I parked in. So, yeah, when my gut tells me something, I listen.
I think we've become too tame and civilized. We're too worried about insulting someone when our gut is telling us that there is something not right with that person.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 7:49:47 AM|
I use to wonder if intuition was real; now I know its real. DS (8) had been having symptoms of something not being right and everything in me said it was diabetes. Monday I had this gut feeling it was really bad. I took him to the pediatrician who sent us directly to the local ER who then had him transported by ambulance to a children's hospital where he stayed for 3 days. Diagnosis: Type 1 diabetes.
The doctors told me had I not pushed him Monday to get dressed like I did (because we were running late for the appointment) he could have slipped into a coma.
I'm a firm believer in intuition now.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 8:06:51 AM|
Heck yes. I have had too many incidents to not believe in intuition,
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 9:02:25 AM|
I live by going by my gut. Sometimes things happen that I get a little feeling that maybe I shouldn't do it. And I do. And normally I pay for it, usually not in a big way.
But yeah, I also get impressions quickly about people and I can tell what their impressions of me are even when they try to hide it.
Like my opinion really counts anyway...
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 9:16:32 AM|
My gut was screaming at me not to move to VA. I such a strong visceral reaction that I'd never had before. I was afraid that something really bad would happen if we moved here. But, the choice at the time was move to VA or have no job in MI. (the company dh works for rel8cated to VA) This was 2008.
So, we moved. Within a year I was infected with Lyme Disease. My vision is now permanently damaged and my eyes hurt every day. I also have tinnitus from Lyme.
I had been wanting to go back to work when we moved, but now I don't know if I'll be able to work again because of my eyes.
I now live every day regretting the move here. I often wonder what my life would be like now had we not moved. We might have had some big financial struggles, but I would not have gotten Lyme, I would have pain-free, clear vision, my ears wouldn't be ringing and I would be working again. Now, I'll probably be dependant on someone else for the rest of my life and I hate it.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 9:36:16 AM|
Yep trust it all the way. The major one was when pg with DD12 I knew something was up. Ended up with a c-sec 6 wks early as she'd wrapped the cord around her neck 4 times.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 10:31:14 AM|Yes, when I really listen it's never been wrong. I'm a very good instant judge of character.
It's probably the sole reason I have a bit of hope left about a guy I was dating, even though we're 'just friends' now. I just know he's my guy. I've known it since our 1st date. (I should clarify - I already knew him from college. We just reunited). It's been 4 months and we aren't together and I've prayed about it thousands of times...including asking God to let him go if it isn't right. Feeling hasn't changed. It's really frustrating.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 10:52:49 AM|
I had surgery a couple of years ago, and when I was in the after care facility about to be released, I told my husband that I couldn't go home because I wasn't ready- I had a feeling something was off. It was very expensive for another night, and I was terribly conflicted about spending that money, but I decided to stay.
In the middle of the night, my blood oxygen plummeted and the nurses gave me oxygen and had me transferred to the ER. I had pulmonary emboli (bilateral blood clots- dozens of them.) I was treated almost immediately and am fine now.
If I'd gone home as scheduled, I probably would have died in my sleep.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 11:20:23 AM|Yes. When I found out I was pregnant with my last child, I knew it would be a girl and I knew there would be something wrong with her. When she was born they gave her a 9/9 on her apgar and I was really surprised because I felt so strongly about there being a problem. She was a late bloomer and one of her eyes was slow. I took her in for her well baby checks and they always said she was fine. When she was 1 I took her for her 1 year check up and she was diagnosed with CP. I think I always knew she would be a special little gal. She is 11 now and her CP hasn't slowed her down one little bit . Epilepsy came a calling about 4 years ago and decided to stay so our lives have taken a bit of a change. Since she was born, I haven't felt any thing as strong as I did then. Sometimes little things but I learned to always listen to my intuition.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 11:31:02 AM|
I had my dd after being told I would never have children. Her pregnancy was easy.
We then got pregnant 3 more times and lost those babies in the 2nd trimester. No reason found, and testing would have been costly and inconclusive. We opted not to do that since we decided to be happy with our one blessing and stop trying.
My doctor and I were very close. A year later I discovered I was pregnant. I called him crying late on night. He told me to get to pharmacy ASAP and he would call in meds for me.
He started me on blood thinner injections, low dose antibiotic, and progesterone.
He said these were the three most common treatments for miscarriages after testing. He was throwing all three at me hoping one or all would solve my issues.
Things went great until I was about 6 months along. At that point my liver started failing due to the blood thinners. Toxins were coming out through my skin. It was awful.
My doc wanted me to go off the blood thinners. I refused. I knew if I did that I would lose my son. I just knew it.
My doctor was adamant to the point that he had me sign papers saying I understood the risk and was going against his advice.
A short while later I threw a blood clot and passed out in his waiting room.
No doubt if I would have stopped that blood thinner I would have died and lost my son.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 12:03:11 PM|
Such a great thread, flanz.
I love hearing these stories. I'm trying to talk to my students (8th graders) about intuition regarding friendships, drug use, temptations they are now dealing with every day.
I love my intuition. Use it outdoors, on hikes and backpacks, and kayak trips. It's come in handy so often. And like the other pea said, when I don't go with it, I get into trouble.
Should have listened to it when I hired a woman years ago to care for my mom with Alzheimer's. She stole from us, did not really watch her well, and we paid dearly in worry and anxiety, not to mention money. I think about that often and go with my gut whenever it tells me to do so.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 12:50:21 PM|
Yes. My instincts were telling me that something much more than my husband believed was wrong with our son when he was sick 2yrs ago. He nearly died from what we ultimately discovered was wrong. We are very lucky that he did not, but he was on life support and hospitalized in the children's hospital for a very long time.
After it was all over I told my husband that we will NEVER AGAIN ignore my intuition. It's a difficult thing to do sometimes, but it's a gift that's there for a reason.
(Read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker for many examples of the power and importance of human intuition.)
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 1:01:17 PM|
Often my friends think I'm weird because I do and they don't.
I knew the second I saw DH across a room at a party when I was 17 that he was the man I would marry, even though I thought he was icky and slobby. We were not in the sane social circles so the odds of me ever seeing him again were slim to none. I said hi when my friend introduced us and we left.
I didn't see him again for 2 months until he walked out of the bookstore at the mall. We talked for 2.5 hours right there in front if the bookstore.
I married him 15 months later.
I knew the first time i met him that the guy my sister was dating was bad Really bad. I was afraid for her life. She ignored me. As did everyone else.
I was right, he had killed someone but got off on a technicality and tried to kill her more than once.
The home I grew up in was left vacant after my patents moved out. They didn't rent or sell it. So DD and I would stop in and eat lunch and use the bathroom before afternoon kindergarten sometimes. We drove 40 miles to school so it was good to have a place to stop around the corner from school.
We opened the door one day and I knew something was wrong. My sisters XBF (the one that killed someone) had broken into the house and was hiding in the attic.
After DHs first knee surgery I knew something was wrong with him. He seemed off. I took him to the ER. He was placed in the trauma unit with pulmonary embolisms. Of I hadn't taken him when I did the doctors said he would likely have died that night
These are just a few of the times.
I try to always listen to my intuition
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 1:02:19 PM|Just read back over the thread and am so happy to see other recommendations of the same book.
IMHO the book about children is the same concept as the first book, so the blue & silver paperback is the one with the main concept. It's really inexpensive, too, and worth every cent.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 2:21:05 PM|Thanks everyone! Your stories are important and by sharing them you are helping me hold fast to my desire to not give in to pressure to try the bio-identical estrogen cream, but to listen to my gut!
I used bio-identical progesterone for 7 days starting Jan 2 and have had very, very little sleep ever since then, although it is slowly improving. I am going to start a new thread about the thing that seems to be keeping me awake now and see if I might find some useful tips. This is "hot flash" related, though I'm not sure what I have are exactly hot flashes.
And I will look up the book that several of you have recommended. Thank you!!!
If others have stories I'd love to hear more, this is a very interesting thread because of those who have already shared.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 3:27:01 PM|
I just thought of a funny one (well, it wasn't at the time but now it is).
I made DS a dr's appointment. He wasn't sick. I just felt like I needed to make him one. He got one for the next day. Woke up. Still wasn't sick. We are sitting in the waiting room and DS starts acting odd. We get in and he has a full blown asthma attack. We were there for the longest time. He got all kinds of meds. The only thing I could tell the dr was that I felt funny, so I made him an appt. He looked at me like a had a herd of eyeballs. Oh well. We were where we were supposed to be.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 3:30:04 PM|
I listen to my gut,intuition or whatever you want to call it in regards to people. The times that I've been persuaded to change my mind about someone have resulted in me getting screwed over big time. It's as if something repels me or something draws me to people. It always happens.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 4:17:01 PM|
I've avoided at least 2 potentially fatal car accidents, maybe saved myself from an attack in downtown Fort Worth. Had a quick flash of a white car harming a loved one, and yes, a white car did a hit and run on my DH, got the phone call less than one hour later. Countless times, I've felt "don't do this right now" or "don't buy this right now, wait" and every time, it was the right thing to do.
Sometimes, I KNOW it is a for sure a God thing, when I avoided ONE of the car wrecks, I actually HEARD an audible voice say MOVE OVER.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 4:22:47 PM|
At a former workplace, a new maintenance man was hired. He always had a smile on his face, was friendly, never said anything inappropriate, and did good work. After the first time he came to our office to fix something, all of the women made an agreement to never be alone in the office when he was needed. We couldn't pinpoint what it was about him that made us uncomfortable, so we didn't feel that we could bring up anything with his supervisor. Still, we felt a strong need to stay away from him.
Eventually he ended up on the front page of the paper for molesting his children. None of the women were surprised, however, several of our male coworkers felt he was innocent and went to visit him in jail. He was eventually convicted.
Also, yesterday afternoon, after house hunting since last summer in a very competitive market, we found a perfect, beautiful house. I loved it and was so excited. It fit everything on our list, was in our desired neighborhood, and we were only the second people to view it, so we actually had a chance of getting it. For some reason, my excitement dwindled until this morning, my feeling was "no, no, no!" We decided not to make an offer. I'll probably never know what was warning me away from it, but I choose to believe something valid was informing my subconcious, because, boy, I'm tired of looking for a house!
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 4:25:07 PM|
Do you believe in "female intuition"?
Not for me personally.
|Posted: 1/26/2013 4:42:19 PM|this thread is making me realize something...i was a recruiter for many years and got in the habit of talking myself out of "feelings" and "intuitions". just because i didn't necessarily click with someone, i had to be careful it wasn't colouring my opinion of them as a candidate for the job.
but it was a very fine line. there were several circumstances of people i just *knew* i shouldn't select for the job and i went with them anyway. i should have listened. a couple were bat-sh!t crazy and i kicked myself after - "i KNEW it, i KNEW it".
and another recommendation for the book "gift of fear" from me!
|Posted: 1/26/2013 4:53:19 PM|
I get them all the time.
Once I was walking into work (Michael's) and I always walked down aisle 5 to get to the break room, I mean always down aisle 5. I got to the end of the aisle and something told me to turn around and go down aisle 4, so I did. Just as I got 1/2 way through the aisle the ballist in the florescent light broke and the bulbs came crashing down. If I had been in aisle 5, they would have landed right on me.
The second time was when I was getting ready to pull out of mom's driveway and at the last second I stopped because DH had messed with my mirrors, which he normally never does. Just about the time I would have been in front of our neighbors house, an 18 wheeler snagged power lines and ripped them out of her house. I would have been under the lines when it happened.
We used to frequent a restaurant when I was pregnant with DS16 and for a long time after he was born. We were there enough that the staff would take DS and take orders with him, take him to the kitchen, etc. We were getting ready to leave and one of the waitresses came by and took DS for a quick spin around the restaurant, delaying our departure by about 5 minutes.
When we finally left there was an accident where we normally turned left onto a side street. A guy came across the median and T-boned another car waiting to turn where we normally turn. The car waiting was flipped completely over. That could have been us if we had left when we had planned.
DS16's intuition is funny. When he was a baby, if we went into a restaurant and he started to cry we knew the food was going to be bad. If we went in and he was happy the food was going to be good. It took us a few times to figure that out. And it's no surprise he's going into the food industry now.
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Loc: Sunshine State
|Posted: 1/26/2013 5:02:36 PM|
I knew XDH was cheating for quite a while before I had proof. I KNEW the OW was going to be a problem from the day I met her. Turns out I was completely right.
They are now divorced.
Ironically enough, I had the Gavin de Becker book before all of that happened (my mom had given it to me) but set it aside. After he left, I read it. Very eye-opening.
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
Loc: The mitten state
|Posted: 1/26/2013 5:23:08 PM|
Trust your gut. I have not at times and regretted it. One time I did follow my gut (or mother's intuition) with dd's health despite what the doctor kept telling me. I was right and am so glad I didn't let her keep blowing me off.
Loc: Las Vegas, NV
|Posted: 1/26/2013 6:02:59 PM|I opened this thread because I have had this sick feeling of dread all day today and so the topic interested me. I kept getting more and more anxious as I read the thread. I called my daughter who was at my mothers house to check and see if she was ok. She said she was fine. I asked her if she was sure because I have an awful feeling. She said I needed to talk to my mother. My mom got on the phone and told me that my son was in the middle of a shoot out in the mall parking lot earlier today. I hung up and called my son (who didn't want to worry me) who told me the car to the left and to the right was shot. The man was shot and he is the only witness to the crime. I just got off the phone with him. OMG!
ETA: couldn't figure out how to link. Google galleria mall shooting Henderson Nevada. Thank God no one was killed.
Loc: Vacaville, CA
|Posted: 1/26/2013 6:03:14 PM|
I think fear saved my life once. I pulled up at an ATM at the credit union late (like 2 am) one night and I saw a car in the parking lot with someone inside it. I got a bad feeling about it. Why would someone be just sitting in the parking lot in front of the ATM - which was outside and one where you had to get out of the car to use it - at 2 am? I waited a minute or so to see if they would leave or get out to use the ATM and when the person didn't move, I listened to my gut and drove off.
Then a couple of days later I saw on the news that a woman had been abducted from that parking lot and raped. So scary.
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|Posted: 1/26/2013 6:14:49 PM|
I think everyone has intuition, not just women. My husband is really good with intuition, I am very irrational. I like to listen to him, it always calms me down!
bugluver, good for you in protecting your son! As my 15 yr. old daughter tells us, it's the girls you need to watch, not the boys.