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lynlam
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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:41:33 PM
I talked to my mom for the last time. I'd give anything for a do over.

I am having a really rough day. Can't stop the tears.

It's my dads birthday too. He is in Florida. He and mom rented a place for January just before she died. I'm so happy he went anyway. But his new lady friend flew down today to spend the week with him, and then drive home with him this weekend. I like this woman a lot, don't get me wrong. I am happy he has company. I don't mind him moving on at all.

I just miss my mommy.





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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:44:33 PM
Just let them roll... [ [ hugs ] ]

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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:46:33 PM
I'm so sorry you're having a rough time right now.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:47:35 PM
That first year is so very hard. Just know that your feelings are a normal part of the grief cycle. I hated Mother's Day for a few years. The first two years of holidays were hard; although, the 2nd year was easier. Believe me when I tell you that you really will find joy, once again. I was best friends w/my mother. We talked all the time, traveled together, etc. Living w/o her seemed impossible, but years later I am here to tell you that happiness does return and life goes on. I remember her and enjoy my memories. Every now and then I feel that sadness, but for the most part I am thriving. The fog lifts, good days start to outweigh the bad days and you will find a new normal. It's truly going to be ok.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:48:43 PM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:49:32 PM
((((((hugs)))))) and more((((((hugs)))))

It's going on 13 years since I last talked to my mom. I can't even begin to describe how much I still miss her.

Dad's been gone for almost 7 years and I miss him, tremendously, too.

I'm sorry you are sad today. Please be kind to yourself and know you are in my thoughts and prayers.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:49:48 PM
I feel your pain. I lost my mommy last Saturday. {{hugs}}




lynlam
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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:52:55 PM

I feel your pain. I lost my mommy last Saturday. {{hugs}}


Oh I am so very sorry hugs right back, sweetie.

Scrap maven, thanks for those words. Very comforting.






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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:56:28 PM
I am sorry. My heart goes out to you.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:03:55 PM
I am so sorry... On days like this, the sweats go one, the pictures and kleenex come out. It feels good to get it out, so that tomorrow starts fresh. hugs.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:09:28 PM
I know how you feel, I lost my mom a year ago yesterday.
There are days I just can hear her, and other days she's such a distant memory.

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. Big (((hugs)))

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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:10:48 PM
I'm so sorry. I wish I knew something to say to help.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:33:20 PM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:39:15 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's very, very hard. I still miss my Dad and he died in 2004.




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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:41:06 PM
I'm so sorry. (((hugs)))


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Posted: 1/27/2013 3:00:01 PM
Hugs to you both, Lynlam and SoCalLoneScrapper.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 3:01:50 PM
So sorry. Big hugs to you and others for whom the wound is still fresh.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 3:03:45 PM

I'm sorry that you're missing your mom today. (((HUGS)))


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Posted: 1/27/2013 3:53:48 PM
I'm so sorry. I have lost my mum to Alzheimer's- she hasn't known who any of us are for just over 4 years. It's so heartbreaking. Sending you hugs and prayers.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:23:08 PM
I wish I could ease the pain for all of you who lost their mother, whether recently or years ago. I lost my dad three years ago, but my mom is still with me.

My mom turns 95 soon and she often wonders aloud about how much more time she has. She isn't afraid to go, but she says she hates to leave me. Mom lives with me, alternating with time with my sisters. She is so much fun and actually a big help to me (when I allow her to do things like laundry or gardening for me.) And as much as I focus on the joy of having her here and now, I dread when she will be gone. I can imagine your pain.

At this very moment, Mom is on the phone talking to her older sister who lives in Canada in an awesome retrofitted log cabin. My grandmother lived to 100, Mom's sister is 98 and totally independent in that cabin, so I'm hoping my mom makes it to over 100 too.

Hugs and a day filled with warm memories.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:35:12 PM
Oh, I know exactly how you feel Lynlam...and it hurts so much.

My beautiful mom collapsed from a massive brain aneursym on December 22nd and we had to let her go on December 29th. She was my best friend, confidant, supporter and the most generous and loving person I've ever known.

I feel like I'm in the midst of a very bad nightmare. I want to pick up the phone and share bits of my day with her, or ask her how to do something, or get her advice. I stare at photos of her and think, "How can someone that healthy and vibrant and good be gone?" The void she left is heartbreaking. I miss my mommy, too.

Sending you gentle hugs.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:45:49 PM
Lynlam, SoCalLoneScrapper and KellyAnn:

Sending all three of you hugs. I am so very sorry for your loss. It WILL get easier.

Lynlam, after the loss of her mother, a friend told me, "A husband (in this case, your dad) can have another wife. But I can never have another mother."

My mom has been gone 18.5 yrs. She didn't see my wedding. She didn't meet her grandchildren. Those things still make me sad. But I do the best I can to honor her memory with my life.

Lisa

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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:02:33 PM
Lynlam...

I'm so sorry. In a few days it will be 11 years since I lost mine. I miss her so much. (((Hugs)))

So Cal & KellyAnn - so sorry for your recent loss. (((Hugs)))

As hard as it is, it will get better. It just takes time. Life will never be the same, but it's still good, just different.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:10:42 PM
Awwww, Lynlam, I'm so sorry. I lost my Daddy a little over 6 months ago and today was his birthday. I've been a weepy mess all day. I suppose it does get easier, but I so wish I could talk to him right now. I'm feeling you. It just sucks.




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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:17:49 PM
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what it feels like.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:21:13 PM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:23:52 PM
(((hugs))) I'm sorry.


I feel your pain. I lost my mommy last Saturday. {{hugs}}

I'm sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))


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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:31:11 PM
(((hugs))) to you all who have lost your moms.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 5:32:28 PM
With tears in my eyes I tell you I am so very sorry to each of you missing a Mother or Father. My Dad has been gone 18 years and I was just thinking of him today about how I had not started scrapping before he died but how much he would have loved seeing the pages I now create. My Mother is 84 and like many of you, she is my best friend and I cannot imagine life without her. Again, I am so sorry for those of you missing your loved ones.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 6:49:58 PM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:35:51 PM
I am so sorry for your hurt! I hope that you are surrounded by people who can let you cry as they hold you close!



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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:39:36 PM
I am so sorry. Nothing hurts like loosing your Mom. I think of and miss my Mom every day. Hugs to you.




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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:43:38 PM
I'm so sorry. Tomorrow is my dad's birthday and he's been gone almost 4 years. It's just harder on certain days and IT'S OKAY!

lynlam
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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:54:33 PM
Many many heartfelt thanks to you all.

We had dear friends over for dinner, and the joy of cooking and entertaining and drinking good wine helped distract me.

I'm okay now. I think the tears are dried up for the moment.

Despite how mad this place can make me, it's still comforting to know strangers do care...thank you all for that.





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Posted: 1/27/2013 8:13:44 PM
I'm so sorry. I hope talking about it and thinking of your mom and feeling her love for you brings you comfort



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Posted: 1/27/2013 8:19:29 PM
Hugs to all of you!!

I lost my grandmother 13 years ago, dec 28 and my dad 9 years ago, dec 3. The holidays are always a rough time.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 8:24:29 PM
Oh hugs to you, it's so hard to loose your mom. I'm very proud of you for accepting this new person your dad is spending time with, I'm sure he really misses your mom and this is helping him.

I have my 84 year old aunt with me this week and we have had the most wonderful time together, she's been my second mother always so I'm treasuring every day with her.

hugs and mor ehugs to you!


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:15:21 PM
((((((PeasWithLostLovedOnes))))))


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:17:24 PM
Thank you all for your condolences. {{hugs}}




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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:24:22 PM
Hugs!! So sorry!


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:30:29 PM
I'm sorry you're hurting. The pain of losing a parent never goes away.

Sending you many hugs and good thoughts.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 1:39:56 AM

Lynlam- It made me smile to see your post of having a nice evening with friends. So glad I read all the posts to see that.

I'm very sorry about your Mom.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 8:48:27 AM
Sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))
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