How to get rid of self-doubt...?
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kelleykreates
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:33:44 AM
How do you get rid of those annoying voices of self-doubt in your head? I will have one or two good days and then sure enough, those voices telling me I can't do anything and nobody likes me and I'm probably one of the worst mothers/wives that has ever lived come right back. There are so many things I wish I could accomplish but I constantly listen to those voices and so nothing ever gets done. Then I feel frustrated and angry. It's a vicious trap I'm in and I can't get out!!!!

So how do you drown out those voices and only hear the encouraging ones?


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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:05:52 AM
It took me along time to make my positive inner voices stronger than the negative ones and eventually it slowly changed by me asking every time I was stopped in my tracks "but what is the worst that could happen if I continue?"

For example I am frightened by heights - and especially where there is water at the bottom - this past summer I made myself walk along some harbours and some cliffs saying to myself "what is the worst that can happen if I fall?" the heights involved were maximum 2m and there were no rocks or hard surfaces - the worst that could happen is I could fall in the water - but since I can swim why am I letting that frighten me. Yes in reality I could fall unconscious and not be able to swim but it was the fear of the height that was stopping me rather than the fear of drowning.

Hope that helps a little?

Cathy


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Georgiapea
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:42:11 AM
Do you know how your fears originated? As a child I would express thoughts of what I might become as an adult, career wise, and my mother would always point out the worst case scenario and how I would fail at that endeavor. My father, when angry at me, would call me stupid and ugly.

The only way I could escape that upbringing was to tell myself they were wrong. I've held some great jobs, been written about in books, and have had a successful life. I probably would have benefitted from professional mental healthcare, but have never taken that road.

If you can determine the source of your feelings of not being adaquate, you could work on rejecting that thinking.
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