Is Valentines Day more for gals than guys?

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Posted 2/5/2013 by molove in NSBR Board

Gabby Pea

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Posted: 2/5/2013 5:20:34 PM
I buy my husband a Valentine card. Sometimes I get a small gift, sometimes not.

He's all about it for me though. Dinner reservations, a local show, nice flowers, gift, etc.

How about you? I kind of like not having all that pressure.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 5:23:05 PM
I try to do it back. The first year we dated I got him Valentine's gifts and I got NOTHING. It didn't go over well. Soon after was my birthday and nothing again. After that we had a talk. The days may mean nothing to him, but they mean something to me. A card or at least acknowledgement would be nice...


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Posted: 2/5/2013 5:26:29 PM
Hahaha! My 8th grade boys were talking about this in the lunchroom today. One said, "Valentine's Day is nothing more than Christmas just for girls!"

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Posted: 2/5/2013 5:43:11 PM
For me, Valentine's Day is more for guys to woo gals, but it is for people who are dating/courting. Not for married people.

Of course, married people can and do celebrate Valentine's Day big, and there's no reason why they shouldn't!

It's just that for 'me' I've always considered it as a romantic holiday for guys who are trying to 'get the girl'.

Once they've got the girl, they celebrate anniversaries. That is the romantic love day for married people.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 6:28:06 PM
I don't know that I'd necessarily say it's more for women. I think it's for anybody who really cares to acknowledge it. It really annoys me that some people totally gauge the amount of love their SO has for them by what they get on one day out of the year. Nothing wrong with celebrating, but milk chocolate instead of dark doesn't mean someone doesn't love you

Some years we celebrate with a nice dinner and honestly some years it just goes by. Our anniversary is a much bigger deal for us. To us VDay is just a big marketing scheme.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 8:10:45 PM
I think because it's an emotional holiday, the gifts for women cost more than men, and therefore it looks skewed our way. For instance, jewelry is a big item to express emotion. Well, guys just don't wear jewelry like we do. Ditto candy, flowers, stuffed animals.

My husband's favorite VD gift was a coffee mug that says I love you, and a little book I made one time to put our favorite photos of just us. They were "emotional" gifts, but the dollar value wasn't nearly the same.

This year, we're going to White Castle with reservations because the laughs will be one of a kind. But we did buy tickets to a college basketball game a few weeks ago, and at halftime we agreed it was a great VD gift for ourselves. We get very emotional about basketball.



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Posted: 2/5/2013 8:23:25 PM
My husband goes a little OTT with me, but his birthday is less than a week after Valentine's day so he gets spoiled then. We never go out to dinner on the 14th, though. I'd rather not compete with every other couple in the city on that night.
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