Parents of only children aren't "really" moms...

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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:23:53 PM
Apparently her PR person had the day off...

So not only does Elizabeth Banks think that moms of one child are not really moms, she also had to spend 10 days "alone" with her DH and two kids. She even had to *gasp* do dishes and wash bottles!

I do agree that two kids are more work, as there are now two little people demanding things from you, but come on, one child is work too! Shaking my head at celebrities.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:28:36 PM
Didnt she use a surrogate for both kids?

PR person on vacation is right!

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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:31:27 PM

We had no help, no nannies, no babysitters. It was crazy. You forget how difficult it is to wake up in the middle of the night, how exhausting it is. I lost all my nails. I did dishes and cleaned bottles for 10 days so I lost all those nails!


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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:47:01 PM
What a douche


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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:51:53 PM
Wow. Unless she is reading from a script pre-approved by her handlers, she shouldn't talk...at all.



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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:52:00 PM
I've never liked her and that article doesn't help.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:53:02 PM
Wow, I used to like her...


You forget how difficult it is to wake up in the middle of the night, how exhausting it is. I lost all my nails. I did dishes and cleaned bottles for 10 days so I lost all those nails!
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Some of us don't forget that sweetie!! Us poor little people parenting just one child.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:54:54 PM


Um...she sounds very confused about the definition of the word "mother"



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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:55:55 PM
I had to click on the link just to see who she even was.

Her opinion is *so* relevant to my life, after all.




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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:56:14 PM
I think you're reading too much into this. I've heard people say that one child is just an "accessory" like a purse, it can go wherever you go, but when you have 2 kids then it's a bigger responsibility. That's what she's saying is that it was much easier with just one. Yes she had a surrogant. I feel like she's made her career by doing a bunch of nude scenes in the same movie role over and over again, a 30-40 something SAHM mom.




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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:57:30 PM
It seems like some people or groups are just sitting around waiting to be offended by something.

Sometimes you (general you) have to call a dumb remark, a dumb remark and move on. It's an annoying comment, yes. It makes her sound stupid and out of touch, yes. Until she's in my circle of friends, I could care less what she says or thinks.

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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:58:43 PM
She's an idiot. But I feel really badly about her nails, though.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:06:34 PM
I didn't know her before your post. Now, I think she's an idiot. I hope she has plenty of money so those kids don't get stuck with her all the time. LOL


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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:12:16 PM
Someone told me that when I had one son.

I remember thinking WOW you seriously didn't just say that??? She was a woman that I really respected and was pretty shocked. She had 2 kids at the time.

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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:20:44 PM
Sometimes I think having one is HARDER than having 2 or more. Because there is no one to entertain ds. In my fantasyland, another child would entertain the one I already have so I could eat bon bons all day. AND they would do all the dishes so I wouldn't have to break any nails


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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:21:46 PM
LOL. Some celebrities should just keep their mouths closed.

It reminds me of the time my sister's coworker told her that she should have to work more in the evenings because her family wasn't as important as his since she only had one child and he had four.



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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:22:18 PM
Who is Elizabeth Banks and why should I care what she thinks?






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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:25:51 PM
Eh, not worth getting riled up in my book. She's entitled to have her opinions about parenthood, even stupid ones.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:26:04 PM

Sometimes I think having one is HARDER than having 2 or more.


I know that everyone's experience is different, but for me, adapting to being the mother of one child was much tougher than adapting to being the mother of two. With the first one, your whole dymamic changes. You go from being a couple to being a family. All of that responsbility (emotional, physical, etc) is a whole new experience. By the time our second one came along, we were in that groove. It was still difficult, but not on the same level.

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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:28:06 PM

I think you're reading too much into this. I've heard people say that one child is just an "accessory" like a purse, it can go wherever you go, but when you have 2 kids then it's a bigger responsibility.




I guarantee that my one child is not an accessory. One child is a responsibility, that child still needs to be fed, changed, bathed, to compare a child to a purse is the height of absurdity.

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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:34:36 PM

I know that everyone's experience is different, but for me, adapting to being the mother of one child was much tougher than adapting to being the mother of two. With the first one, your whole dymamic changes. You go from being a couple to being a family. All of that responsbility (emotional, physical, etc) is a whole new experience. By the time our second one came along, we were in that groove. It was still difficult, but not on the same level.

This was my experience too!

10 days without help, huh. Try going a year having only 10 days of help, the rest of it on her own. Her nails would be the least of her worries and she'd be too tired to comment on what makes a real mom.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:35:06 PM
My husband and I used to kid around that we were parenting as a hobby when people asked us when we were going to have a second baby. We had our kids six years apart and I do think it was easier to do it that way. A couple years ago I took my brothers kids for a weekend. I happily said yes when he asked because I thought it would be fun. They were 18 months and 6 months at the time. Oh my God. It was freaking crazy at my house. I don't know how so many people do that day in and day out. I suppose when you're in it, you just get used to it. I get the gist of what she's saying without taking offense.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:45:34 PM
I'm in the "you're looking for something to be pissed about" camp. I don't think she's dissing moms, she's dissing herself and using hyperbole. It's like she had a wake-up call, "Oh wow! I've been taking my nanny for granted! How do 'regular' people do it?" That kind of thing.




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Posted: 2/6/2013 7:51:09 PM

Some people should just.say."NO" to microphones without a script.


Oh yes (me, included!)

oh please. The writer of the "rant" seems overly sensitive about the issue. I swear, people are looking to be offended over everything anymore.
While I agree that things can be taken out of context and people are awfully sensitive, this doesn't seem to be the case here. This woman (who I have never heard of) sounds like an absolutely idiot. I could maybe forgive the "Now I feel like a real mom" because I think she probably meant she has gone from having a bit of time to having no time and that is really true, but the no nannies and no babysitters comment is really OTT and comes across as ridiculous.

Ten days.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 8:00:17 PM
Clueless but not offensive.

She didn't say what the OP title says. She is speaking about herself and experiences, so it's dumb sounding in an excited babbling type of way. It doesn't come across, to me, as an intentional snarky insulting dig towards all moms of singletons.

Or

Perhaps she is one of Annabella's "accessory" friends.



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Posted: 2/6/2013 8:08:17 PM

She's an idiot. But I feel really badly about her nails, though.
lol. Exactly.

And good to know my daughter is just an accessory.



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Posted: 2/6/2013 8:28:21 PM
Hahahahaha Ha ha ha ha.

Oh wait....

Hahahahahahahaha.

That's good.

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Posted: 2/6/2013 8:31:09 PM

I've heard people say that one child is just an "accessory" like a purse,


Except that you can leave a purse in the car, take it into a bar, and throw it in the trash when you are tired of it.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 8:53:03 PM

Except that you can leave a purse in the car, take it into a bar, and throw it in the trash when you are tired of it.


...or sell it on Kijiji

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Posted: 2/6/2013 9:01:20 PM
I don't remember a time that one of my accessories puked on me, smarted off, spiked a middle of the fever or bonked my nose with its hard head. Maybe I got a defective kid.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 9:26:22 PM

Who is Elizabeth Banks and why should I care what she thinks?


Yeah, that....



"Oh wow! I've been taking my nanny for granted! How do 'regular' people do it?" That kind of thing.


And that too...probably has been said by many a celebrity with a nanny, housekeeper, trainer, etc...


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Posted: 2/6/2013 9:35:25 PM
I have two children.

However, I had to have my gallbladder removed two weeks after giving birth to my first child. I lost an ORGAN...not my nails (though my hair did start falling out at an alarming rate too). Was I not a real mom then?

When child #2 came along, child #1, who was potty trained, reverted and I had two kids in diapers. Can I expect some kind of mom medal for this?


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Posted: 2/6/2013 9:36:42 PM
Never heard of her before.

I find that for me, having 3 kids is easier than having one. I have some friends with one child. My kids play together and entertain each other so I can get things done. My friends don't have that. So for me, having only one would be much harder. Now it would be less expensive to have one child, but harder I think.

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Posted: 2/6/2013 11:20:05 PM
some people accessorize, some people should never accessorize....


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Posted: 2/6/2013 11:28:38 PM
She should be informed that you're not a REAL mom until you lose your nails for at least 11 days



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Posted: 2/6/2013 11:35:37 PM
Hahaha...I'll be sure to let my dd know that she can't call me mom anymore.



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Posted: 2/6/2013 11:36:03 PM
A child is not an accessory!

I think E-Banks isn't the only one who needs to learn when to just keep those thoughts inside her head.


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Posted: 2/6/2013 11:50:23 PM

I've heard people say that one child is just an "accessory" like a purse


In the year that my only "accessory" was born, it was projected to cost $215,000 to raise such an "accessory" from infancy to adulthood. If I only wanted to have an "accessory," I could have bought one HELL of an incredible purse instead.


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Posted: 2/7/2013 1:36:41 AM
Elizabeth who?


I think you're reading too much into this. I've heard people say that one child is just an "accessory" like a purse, it can go wherever you go, but when you have 2 kids then it's a bigger responsibility


I hope you didn't agree with them Annabella




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Posted: 2/7/2013 2:49:28 AM
Elizabeth Banks is no Hollywood airhead. I would bet she was laughing when she made that statement.

I vote over-reaction on her statement, and only children are not just accessories.


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Posted: 2/7/2013 3:45:08 AM
Oh my, she comes off as a mindless twit in that. Heaven forbid, caring for your own children for TEN WHOLE DAYS!



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Posted: 2/7/2013 5:27:08 AM
She is a brainless twit, however, I have actually heard other people espouse the same opinion.


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Posted: 2/7/2013 5:28:34 AM
My one child was so much work, he's actually the reason he doesn't have a sibling, lol.



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Posted: 2/7/2013 5:44:46 AM

Except that you can leave a purse in the car, take it into a bar, and throw it in the trash when you are tired of it.


Not everyone who can have a baby grasped the concept of that. I swear sometimes I think humans should have to pass a test to keep their kids.

Don't mind me I'm crabby over a local story of a neglected child.

As for the news story in the OP I don't care if she breaks nails and cares for her own kids or hires a nanny to do it as long as they are cared for. Her opinion does not matter to me, not worth getting up in arms about

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Posted: 2/7/2013 5:57:32 AM
I think her comments show how out of touch she is and she definitely deserves an eye roll. I personally don't find it offensive, just kind of dumb, and it sort of makes me feel bad for her.





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Posted: 2/7/2013 6:36:21 AM
How crazy is that! I have two kids, but my best friend has 1... Some days it is tough on her. My kids play together and amuse each other. My friend is "on call" all the time! It's ludicrous to say that!! Only someone who doesn't live in reality would say something so dumb!


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Posted: 2/7/2013 8:44:00 AM
She is an idiot as is Annabelle. Some people should just keep their mouths shut and thoughts to themselves.


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Posted: 2/7/2013 8:48:37 AM

oh please. The writer of the "rant" seems overly sensitive about the issue. I swear, people are looking to be offended over everything anymore.


I agree with this.


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Posted: 2/7/2013 8:49:18 AM
ROFLOL.

I also had no idea who Elizabeth Banks is/was.

So, if a parent of an only isn't really a mom, does that make an only child an orphan? Just checking so I can let my dd know she doesn't really have a mom.



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Posted: 2/7/2013 8:56:23 AM

oh please. The writer of the "rant" seems overly sensitive about the issue. I swear, people are looking to be offended over everything anymore.


I agree with this.


I don't click on headline links that are Cafemom...those ladies are shrill and usually a little dumb. Their short little rants also leave me thinking less of them than whomever they are writing about.

I also have no clue who Elizabeth Banks is...but I'm thinking she herself just didn't feel like a real mom when she had one child...who was being tended to by nannies and other household help. Maybe number 2 infringed on her a little more and she started to grasp her own mommyhood. Heck, I know someone who hasn't had her child yet, but thinks she's a selfless mommy already because she got a flu shot. (It's going to be a long six more months with that one! LOL)
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