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Posted: 3/5/2013 6:41:58 PM
I've been looking at such great party ideas on Pinterest. My daughter in law's friends are planning the party for next weekend which will be at her mother's house. We have met the mother once and will be meeting the great grandmother at the party. Should I take a gift for the parents-to-be or my DIL's mother or grandmother?
All ideas are welcome!
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Posted: 3/5/2013 6:53:39 PM
I don't think it would occur to me to take a present for any of them. You will gift the parents to be at the shower (I assume you were thinking a baby gift). I don't know why you'd give a present to the grandmother. Maybe there's a case to be made for the mother whose house is being used, but she's not even REALLY the hostess-- your DIL's friends are.

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Posted: 3/5/2013 6:54:15 PM
I would bring a small hostess gift unrelated to the baby plus a small baby gift for the parents to be assuming that a shower will follow.





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Posted: 3/5/2013 7:04:01 PM

I would bring a small hostess gift unrelated to the baby plus a small baby gift for the parents to be assuming that a shower will follow.



But then don't you need a hostess gift for the friends who are throwing it, too? Not just DIL's mother?

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Posted: 3/5/2013 7:05:52 PM
What about a baby picture frame for the new grandparents and great grandmother. How sweet of you to think of it. They are part of your family now and I think this will be a wonderful way to share your common grandchild. In my mind, it has nothing to do with a party gift per se.


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Posted: 3/5/2013 7:10:50 PM
I would bring a baby gift for sure.

I think a hostess gift would be too awkward/complicated in this situation since there are multiple hostesses, but then they aren't even using their own houses, and the one whose house it IS isn't a hostess really, etc. I think it would be potentially hurting feelings to just bring the friends hostess gifts but not the mom or vice versa. So I might skip it unless you want to bring them all something.

I would not bring a gift for the great-grandmother. That seems awkward...the party is not for her in any way, and she might feel confused about why you are giving her a gift. It might make her feel weird that she didn't get you anything. Or it might make your DIL's mom feel weird that she didn't get you anything. And depending on all personalities involved it might even come off like you are brown-nosing or trying to show off even.


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Posted: 3/5/2013 7:52:19 PM
Good luck with that one - sounds like you're going to have parents that think the world revolves around their kid on your hands. People really do this?

I would take a small hostess gift, just as I would to any party. Nothing for the baby.

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Posted: 3/5/2013 7:57:04 PM

People really do this?


I hate to agree with captain k, but yeah.

Why can't you just tell people? Why does it have to be this production that requires a party and extraneous gifts?


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Posted: 3/5/2013 8:23:38 PM
My son and DIL had a gender reveal party. They hosted it at a restaurant (a pizza place, nothing fancy) and it was very sweet. They had stickers you could wear to tell your guess of boy or girl then they opened a gift (purchased by them) that had a boy outfit it in which let everyone know (including them). It is their first baby and they had been trying for several years. They had told people no gifts although a few people did bring them.
Maybe you should ask if others are bringing gifts.

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Posted: 3/6/2013 8:54:49 AM
Thanks for all the replies.
I do agree that new parents these days seem to go overboard on lots of things but I think this will be a fun party. There are so many cute ideas for a gender reveal party on Pinterest.
There probably won't be a shower afterwards but I do need to ask so thanks for that,too.

Elise

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Posted: 3/6/2013 9:00:00 AM

My son and DIL had a gender reveal party. They hosted it at a restaurant (a pizza place, nothing fancy) and it was very sweet. They had stickers you could wear to tell your guess of boy or girl then they opened a gift (purchased by them) that had a boy outfit it in which let everyone know (including them). It is their first baby and they had been trying for several years. They had told people no gifts


I like this idea for a gender reveal party that is given by the expecting couple and is low key. I would hope that this would be more of the norm for gender reveals.

What I don't like is yet another excuse for a party to have gifts given to a couple that will already have tons of gifts given to them over the next 9 months. I think some of the gift giving parties is getting as out of hand as tip jars at every establishment under the sun. The only thing that would have made the above party better is if people had honored the "no gifts" request.





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Posted: 3/6/2013 9:23:27 AM
I Love to give gifts and think the photo frame idea is cute.

You could put a piece of baby hued cardstock where the picture goes saying "this space reserved for a picture of my new baby/grand baby/great grand baby", which ever one applies.

This could be done without a lot of money and is a fun way to include those family members.


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Posted: 3/6/2013 9:38:13 AM
I think it sounds like fun! If we can have parties to sell jewelry or parties to watch a football game, why can't we have a party to celebrate finding out if someone is having a little boy or a little girl? I see no need for gifts, unless you just want to bring something for the baby, and that certainly wouldn't have to be anything expensive. Maybe just a stuffed animal with an "I Love Grandma" bib or something similar. I hope you have a wonderful time and I suspect you will.


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Posted: 3/6/2013 10:42:29 AM
I'm sorry, but I don't get it. This is NOT a generic party thrown by a hostess. If it was, I could see getting the hostess a gift. BUT, the party is specifically for the parents-to-be. In this case, I would treat it similar to a shower and MAYBE take a small baby gift or gift for the parents (Non baby related), not something I would give at the actual shower. I would not, in this case, take anything for anyone other than the parents-to-be. The hostess does not need a gift. I have never taken any type of gift for a hostess of a baby or wedding shower. That to me is overkill.




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Posted: 3/6/2013 11:07:05 AM
Bring flowers (or a plant) and a couple of bottles of sparkling wine and cider and a nice box of candy.



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Posted: 3/6/2013 11:09:00 AM

People really do this?



I hate to agree with captain k, but yeah.

Why can't you just tell people? Why does it have to be this production that requires a party and extraneous gifts?


That. It just seems to be yet another round of the "look at me; I've procreated; aren't I special" attitude we see these days. Now, we don't only have a baby shower and birth announcements; we have "give us a gift because we're going to tell you the sex of our baby...and we can't just tell you, we have to have a party so that there's no question about giving a gift.".





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Posted: 3/6/2013 11:10:14 AM

Why can't you just tell people? Why does it have to be this production that requires a party and extraneous gifts?


I have definitely turned into an old fart because ITA.

Honestly, no one cares except the parents to be and the rest of the family. At least in the circles I run in.

Nevertheless, congratulations on your grandchild! That's always good news.



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Posted: 3/6/2013 11:13:04 AM
I went to a party like this a few months ago, it was for family and close friends only. It was just a simple get together with a BBQ and cake. I thought it was sweet. And this is coming from someone who is not a kid lover at all. No expectations for gifts and not one brought.



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Posted: 3/6/2013 12:26:08 PM
I am a very pragmatic person, so lump me in with Lumo, Peabay, etc. I didn't even tell people. So I think it's a bit egocentric to have a big reveal.

I'm clearly on the no gift side of things.

I know people are all 'any excuse to have a party' but these pregnancies always seem to run longer than 9 months and I don't mean for the mom to be.


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Posted: 3/6/2013 12:37:37 PM
I like the idea of parents hosting something low-key/intimite to tell those closest to them (immediate family, best friends) what the gender of their baby is.

But I picture it as something done by the expectant parents for those they love, not the other way around.


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Posted: 3/6/2013 12:37:42 PM
It sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate some wonderful news and I think we should celebrate something every day - what a blessing and how nice to be all together to share some news that I am sure everyone in your family is very excited about.

I always think that a heartfelt and unexpected gift is just a way of saying how happy you are - so if you are doing it out of obligation, which I don't think you are, then I wouldn't do it - but if you are just sharing your joy then good for you - and congrats!

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Posted: 3/6/2013 2:24:39 PM
I have to agree with the others about why have a party to announce the gender.

I would not even consider bringing a gift, it doesn't sound like a party that would require a gift.

I guess I'm too old fashioned. I don't think the gender is a big deal. Most friends who find out in advance just tell their friends and don't make a big deal about it. But I am in the minority because I didn't find out the gender until the kids were born.

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Posted: 3/6/2013 2:46:14 PM
Gees, remember the olden days where you had to wait until dad called from the hospital?

I did find out the sex of mine from amnio, and named them and everything in advance, but a party to tell people the sex of a baby?
Pretty soon we'll be celebrating the act of procreation itself!

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Posted: 3/6/2013 2:56:54 PM
Yup, this whole "gender reveal" party/event is now officially a thing.

Can you believe it? Well, maybe any excuse for a party but shoot, with the baby showers, etc. that are "typical" that's just an extra party to host. And who wants to be the person who doesn't show up with a gift?

I think it's an odd, new twist but it's really caught on.

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Posted: 3/6/2013 2:59:31 PM
[Gees, remember the olden days where you had to wait until dad called from the hospital?

I did find out the sex of mine from amnio, and named them and everything in advance, but a party to tell people the sex of a baby?
Pretty soon we'll be celebrating the act of procreation itself!

"Hey everybody, I ovulated so we had sex party!"quote] [/quote]


so true! I think I must be getting old.
We didn't even ask what sex mine was when I went for a scan. We didn't want to know.
Both DH and me were looking forward to having a surprise after all the hard work of me giving birth


OP congratulations on soon to be a grandmother



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Posted: 3/6/2013 4:18:10 PM

Why can't you just tell people? Why does it have to be this production that requires a party and extraneous gifts?


Put me at the old fart's table because ITA with this.

The first time I heard of this was a few years ago when our local TV anchor had one and then they did a reveal later on the news with her co-anchor, the weather and sports guy all biting into a cupcake. They used cupcakes with the inside being pink or blue and when you bit into the cupcake, you knew which one. In her case, it was pink as she had a girl. Mostly, it just seemed like a big plug for her friend who owned a cupcake shop. My cousin's daughter had a party also, but I think it was just family and close friends. We live halfway across the country from them, so we weren't invited. I think it's kind of silly to be honest.

Congratulations on your first grandchild!!



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Posted: 3/6/2013 4:34:56 PM
I don't think it's a gift giving occasion. No gifts are necessary and I don't think you'll be looked down on for not bringing one. If you don't want to come empty handed, a bouquet of flowers is nice.


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