Asking for book for baby shower?

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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:02:12 AM
Would like to ask for children's book in lieu of a card for a baby shower - does anyone have a cute way to do this?

I have a poem but it's longish and makes the invitation too crowded.


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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:15:31 AM
I'm confused at what you're asking. Are you thinking that most people will bring cards as their gift? Or are you wanting to find a way to ask guests to bring books in lieu of the traditional baby gifts?



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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:20:59 AM
My SIL did this on her invites. All it said was "In lieu of cards, please send along your favorite book with a message to our daughter written inside."

Everyone did it, and they still have the books. Great keepsakes when you tell people to write inside.

Bad thing is if you get duplicates and they are written in, no returns.

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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:22:24 AM
Someone had a shower for my SIL and they did this. I think that they just wrote in the invite that if instead of a card bring a favorite child's book and write on the inside of the book. This was in addition to any gift you wanted to bring. Most people did it and it was cool as there were no duplicate books.


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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:30:08 AM
Thanks ladies - that's exactly what I needed.

Sorry it was confusing - I've been to showers where you brought a gift - then, rather than a card - you bring a book w/your message written inside.

I wondered about saying - you're invited to bring a book instead of a card - rather than please or you're requested - am I overthinking this?

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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:47:03 AM
I love it when people do this!

I always make sure to pick out a really unique book that most people wouldn't pick. For example, with my niece, I brought the book "Flotsam" by David Wiesner. It doesn't have words-you make up your own story each time you read it! And it's not one of the standard baby books-like Goodnight Moon, I'll Love You Forever, etc. So, there were no duplicates!

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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:48:35 AM
I've been to a book shower, but never to a shower where I was asked to bring a book in lieu of a card AND a regular gift. At the risk of a handslap (or worse), I think it's kind of tacky to do the latter.

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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:52:44 AM

I've been to a book shower, but never to a shower where I was asked to bring a book in lieu of a card AND a regular gift. At the risk of a handslap (or worse), I think it's kind of tacky to do the latter.

I agree with this. There's a pretty big price difference between a book and a card. To me, it sounds like you're saying "Please bring us a regular gift, but instead of bringing us a 55 cent card, just spend more money on another gift." That's how I would take it, anyway. Others may disagree.

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Posted: 4/2/2009 11:56:50 AM

I think I might be a little put off by the request. Books are kind of expensive - you can hardly get a nice, popular book for less than $10 (I know you could do a paperback or bargain book, but I would feel obligated to do a traditional book, a nice board book, or one of those cute fabric books). With the present, a book, and wrapping, I'm thinking I might cut back on what I spent on the present a little.

Now, if a book shower were thrown where an additional present wasn't required, I'd probably pick up quite a few of our favorites.


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Posted: 4/2/2009 12:03:35 PM
I don't think you should ask for a book in lieu of a card. I think you should host a book shower instead. We hosted a "media" shower for friends of ours a few years ago and stated the could do something similar for a book shower:

It’s opening night for
baby x!
Come join us in celebrating
his young life by helping him stock his media center.
Let’s fill his shelves with children’s
DVDs, CDs, and books.
Bring your favorite for the (last name's) latest addition!



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Posted: 4/2/2009 12:08:07 PM
If I didn't want to spend money on my friend's baby, I wouldn't attend the shower. If the book I wanted to bring was expensive, I might spend less on the other gift. I don't get why that's offensive.

I went to a wedding shower that was also a wine shower. So, I bought a bottle of wine that my DH and I like, a BYOB carrier for it, and spent less on the other gift than I would have if I hadn't been asked to bring the wine. I wasn't offended - I just altered my plan to work for the event.


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Posted: 4/2/2009 12:15:40 PM
I'm throwing my sister a baby shower in May and just finished the invites. At the bottom I wrote "To help build McKenna's library, please bring your favorite children's book signed on the inside cover, in place of a card".

I don't think a book instead of a card is that big of a deal monetarily. Most cards these days are $3-4. You can get a variety of paperback books at WM for $2.50 (usually the Little Golden books or Little Critter [my personal favorite] )

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Posted: 4/2/2009 12:21:59 PM
I rarely see a greeting card these days for less than 4 dollars or so. You could get a board book or one of those Golden books for that!

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Posted: 4/2/2009 12:24:45 PM
Here's what I included with the invitations to a baby shower I hosted.

I want to be a bright child
As smart as I can be.
That is why I'm hoping
My mom will read to me.
If you plan to bring a card
Please take another look,
I would like to learn my ABC's
From your favorite storybook.
Please sign your name
As your personal touch.
My mommy and I thank you
Very, Very much.

I can't remember where I found it, but if you do a google search you should find other wording ideas also.

ETA: I typed it up as a separate insert so it didn't crowd the invitation.

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Posted: 4/2/2009 12:29:14 PM
I just got a really cute one. It says:

Although cards are nice,
and read once or twice
A book is a treasure forever and ever
So instead of a card to be put aside
Please give a book with your name inside
Choose one of your favorite stories or tales
That you would like Baby [last name] to hear.

In the last line their last name rhymes with "hear" so you might have to tweak it to make the line rhyme either with your last name or with a previous line in the poem. Or you could keep it as is.

They printed theirs on a little card about the size of a business card and included it in the envelope with the invitation.


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Posted: 4/2/2009 1:25:13 PM
Whew! Thanks ladies - I was beginning to feel a little guilty for doing this but you've convinced me it's not all that bad. I LOVE the little poems! I think I'll just use one and put an insert in the invitation - thank you sooooo much!
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