Anyone get pregnant after many years of trying? Like 5 years or more?

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Posted: 7/13/2009 12:11:08 AM
Me and my husband have been married for 10 years in November and we have been trying to get pregnant for 9 years now. So I was just wondering if any of you have had great news after so many years of hoping and praying every month. Would love to hear what you have to say.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 1:24:05 AM
A lady I used to teach (scrapbooking) waited 18 years for her daughter!


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Posted: 7/13/2009 1:38:30 AM
I have a friend who tried everything for 13 years and fianlly gave up, adopted and got pregnant! Prayers for you!

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Posted: 7/13/2009 1:43:26 AM
Just met a woman who had one dd tried for 8 years nothing. She did IVF - failed miserably and was told she was in early menapause. She got PG about a year and a half after that diagnosis and I just met her baby girl.

I tried for about 8 and finally got PG with IVF. I still hope it happens someday too. Good luck and miracles can and do happen!

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Posted: 7/13/2009 1:46:26 AM
I knew a lady who after 10yrs. of marriage couldn't concieve. They adopted a little girl. The birth mom called her 9 months later and asked if they wanted her sister since she was pregnant again and didn't want the child. 2 little girls months apart. She found out she was pregnant!
Years later I saw them and they had 6 kids!


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Posted: 7/13/2009 3:26:19 AM
My husband and I tried for 4 years, which seems short compared to other stories here. We were looking into adoption and had made initial inquiries while we were still working with fertility specialists. I finally got pregnant with injectable medications and IUI. We went in 10 months after DS1 was born and it was like following a recipe to make DS2.

Good luck to you... I how hard it to work at this and work at this and not get anywhere. I think it's important to remember that there are many ways to make a family. Be good to each other, fertility issues can be tough on a marriage.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 3:37:23 AM
my aunt's SIL waited 10 years and I have a friend of a friend and I think she said it was 8. So it DOES happen.

it's been nearly 13 for us.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:01:24 AM
I was also told I was pre-menapause....6 mnths after having a tube and an ovary removed and told i can only conceive if i got an egg donar and did IVF.....I had my now 2.5 yr old baby at 36 yrs old. I didnt use any treatment to get pregnant but do believe because i had lost close to 40lbs by changing my eating habits and working out that i was able to do so naturally.
But do not loose hope! It is very hard on the soul but ALL things happen for a reason. I did have one child before my baby, but before i had her i had a couple of miscarriages...there is an 8 yr gap between my kids.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:20:25 AM
I'm a labor & delivery nurse and often see people that have tried for 5+ years to get pregnant. I had a patient several months ago that had tried for 9 years and then "threw in the towel". She was pregant within a few months!

Hugs!! And good luck to you!


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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:30:00 AM
Well.. My DH and I tried for 3+ years for our son who is now ten and we just found out that we are expecting number 2. My son said the dr who told me I will never have children should be fired. LOL



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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:49:09 AM
10 years! I wish you success!!!!


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Posted: 7/13/2009 6:20:42 AM
Well my DS is 22 and DD is 9 - we "tried" during all that time to become pregnant again. We never did any treatments beyond having DH tested and basic tests for me. We were surprised when after 13 years DD was finally conceived - LOL.

My cousin tried for 18 years to become pregnant - adopted a son and (you guessed it) was pregnant less than a year after the adoption.

My DH's sister and her husband tried for over 10 years with no results. We booked a cruise together and she was sick all week - come to find out it wasn't sea sickness, she was pregnant. They then wanted another child but tried and tried for close to another 10 years with no results. We booked another cruise (I kid you not!!!), and she found out she was pregnant the week before we left They don't go on cruises any more because they are done having children - LOL. (She was 43 and he was 45 when they had their DD).


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Posted: 7/13/2009 6:27:39 AM
There are 8 years between my first and second. We did the infertility route, gave up, started to look into adoption and I got pregnant on my own. We adopted the third one.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 6:53:02 AM
Have you seen a doctor? Most REs will see you if you've been trying for a year. You can find out if there is a reason why you aren't getting pregnant, and maybe take steps to change that. Or you could look into getting help getting pregnant, if that is something you are interested in. I would find it very difficult to wait that long without finding some answers or undergoing fertility treatments of some kind.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 7:07:48 AM
My sister tried and tried, fertility drugs, etc. She finally accepted the fact she couldn't have children and gave up. She quit her job to start her own business and guess what- pregnant! This was after 6 years.

She now has 2 boys and a third one on the way.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 7:50:02 AM
A former boss of mine and his wife waited 20 years. They had an adopted son who was 10 years old at the time. She went to the doctor thinking she was going thru menopause, but was pregnant! Talk about shocked.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 7:54:24 AM
It took me a long time to get pregnant with my ds. Infertility treatments, etc. Was told that was it!! We also tried for along time with dd#2.

Imagne my shock a few months ago when I saw those 2 little lines on the test... yep I'm expecting #4.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:01:33 AM
We were married for 10 years and certainly not actively trying, but not preventing either b/c we'd been told "never" and "not a candidate for assistance".....

After I got PG the RE told me that it's not uncommon for women with PCOS to have a hormonal shift in their early 30's that they suddenly can get pregnant. So I guess that's what happened. I know a lot of women get pregnant after losing a lot of weight and I did, but it had been stabilized for about a year before conceiving so the RE said that was too far out to have been the catalyst.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:03:41 AM
My sister and her husband had been trying for eight years. She was working with her doctor and had started looking into adoption when she found out she was pregnant. Everything is going very well and she is due in November.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:12:11 AM
I had a friend in grade school who was the 'adoption pg trick'. Her parents had their first child and didn't have another for about 8 years. By that time they didn't think they could have anymore. Well, they wanted more so they adopted my friend (who was older than their 2nd child). They went on to have 4 more biological children so yeah. It can happen

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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:16:01 AM
We had been married 8 years before we got pregnant with our son. I had long ago given up so it was a big surprise.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:20:24 AM
My friend had 'unexplained infertility' and she fell pregnant naturally after 10 years of trying. So it DOES happen.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:22:50 AM
My nephew and his wife tried for 11 years and she just found out she was pregnant although they adopted about 5 years ago....

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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:31:59 AM
I had a friend from college who tried like 7 years. They became foster parents. They went through some hard times with that. One boy they had from an infant. They thought they could adopt him, lets just say that case was one that Il tried to write new laws based off what happened. They finally adopted 2 older siblings. Then it was like the flood gates opened they had 3 kids boom, boom, boom. They also ended up adopting another little boy that had been with they awhile. So they ended up with 6 kids. 3 biological and 3 adopted.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:32:23 AM
I had a friend from college who tried like 7 years. They became foster parents. They went through some hard times with that. One boy they had from an infant. They thought they could adopt him, lets just say that case was one that Il tried to write new laws based off what happened. They finally adopted 2 older siblings. Then it was like the flood gates opened they had 3 kids boom, boom, boom. They also ended up adopting another little boy that had been with they awhile. So they ended up with 6 kids. 3 biological and 3 adopted.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:29:45 PM
Yes I have gone to see the doctors and even the reproduction doctor. All of them could not find the reason why I was unable to conceive. So it is really great to hear other peoples storys of the struggle to have a family. Thanks everyone for sharring your life with me. I would love to hear more of these great moments in life.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:47:05 PM
Between 1994 and 1999, I tried and tried to get pregnant. The doctors told me it wouldn't happen- that the first pregnancy was a miracle (I had my son in 1992_. I gave up- gave all of my baby stuff away.

2 weeks later, I was pregnant with DD. Shock of my life. My knees went weak when I saw that line turn pink.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:54:06 PM
Here is my story: got married at 24 - we has NO money -wated & saved for house, career to take off, got things in order - started trying at 29 - nothing after a year - went through all the tests - nothing after 4 years. Five articial inseminations - nothing. Age 34 - agreed to go on fertility drugs (Clomid) at the begining of the new year. Celebrated Thanksgiving & Christmas - calm & relaxed - happily knowing waht the new year could bring. First week of January - I found out I was pregnant - naturally - after almost 6 very long & frustrating years. DS is now 13 & he is my greatest gift in the world.

So yes there is hope - the road maybe rough & you may & will feel horrible - but it can & will happen. We were relaxed, non-stressed, no charts, thermometers, calendars or anything hanging over our heads - this, I am convinced this helped us more than any petri dish or drug could ever help us.

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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:58:55 PM
My DH and I had our first DD very easily and had no problems. Fast forward 9.5 years later and we never got pregnant again despite not preventing it to happen. We both opted for no fertility of any sort as we were ok with the way our lives had been laid out. Well, for some reason we may never know (our secondary infertility were for unknown reasons) I sit here 33 weeks pregnant. We will have a 10 yr old and a newborn!! I wonder how many times I will be asked if DD is from my 1st marriage. It has already happened once!!


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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:21:46 PM
Married 11 years and not using contraception for seven of those years before I got pg. We were not actively trying that entire time (but I did off and on) but we were not preventing. It was a total surprise when I got pg.

Unfortunatly, I lost my son at 22 weeks gestation due to complications, but I got pg with my twins (below) after only trying for two cycles.

Go figure.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:37:25 PM
I havent gotten pregnant *yet* but we've been trying for 18 years. I had a miscarraige about 16 yrs ago and havent had any success after that.

My story is a long and bumpy road (dealing with both sides of unexplained infertility, many military deployments during the worst times) but now all that is over with.
I did have a surgical procedure 3 months ago and are going for IVF in October, for one last i have some faith that there is hope.

However, My Sister in law and her DH tried for 13 years and miraculously got pregnant without any assistance...just like that...a miracle, now is a healthy little 1 year old dont give up. miracles DO happen. I know so.


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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:55:37 PM
We're TTC also. (((hugs)))


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Posted: 7/13/2009 11:05:55 PM
A guy I work with waited 8-9 years and his wife conceived unexpectedly.

A girl I work with was in the process of adoption after trying for many years got pregnant.

I just tucked my 2 year old in. We tried 4 1/2 years, corrected every issue that was known, had 4 failed fresh ivf cycles and one frozen cycle and were getting ready for our 5th and along came our miracle. As a matter of fact, the sample dh provided for back-up for IVF didn't get good reports that same week! Funny how it works.

Have you tried acupuncture? That was the main thing that was different the cycle I conceived. It's worth a try if you haven't.

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Posted: 7/14/2009 12:51:08 AM
We didn't try for as many years as some of you, but we got pg. naturally with our first after starting the adoption process.

The same thing happened with our second, but it also involved an IUI.

Best of luck. It is a tough road.

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Posted: 7/14/2009 1:34:04 AM
I had a friend who had been married over 10 years and desperately wanted a child. She finally had a precious little girl 10 years later. It is really touching and she is the BEST mom and her daughter is adorable. I can't relate to the waiting forever for a baby but I am 33 and desperately want to be married. So I know how hard waiting can be. But try to find the joy in the mean time and learn new skills and talents that will bless you and others in the future. Good luck!

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Posted: 11/5/2013 10:19:07 AM
I am pleased to announce that after 9 YEARS, my husband and I are finally expecting our first child. We did not turn to fertility drugs nor Invetro (although both crossed our minds often). For whatever reason we conceived naturally after believing it would probably never happen. We are excited and overwhelmed with unspeakable joy. Good luck on your journey! Prayers with you!

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Posted: 11/5/2013 10:30:07 AM
7 years using spotty contraception.

I just had a baby after using contraception...SURPRISE!!!

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Posted: 11/5/2013 10:38:51 AM
We started trying in 1998. We started actively seeking infertility treatment in 2003. From 2003-2008, I had 2 miscarriages and 2 twin pregnancies that I delivered between 15-18 weeks. We gave up - it was too much heartache. In May of 2009, I found out I was spontaneously pregnant. It had never happened before without fertility drugs. He is going to be 4 soon. We had a second son using fertility drugs and he is 2. My issue appeared to be a faulty cervix in keeping the pregnancies.



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Posted: 11/5/2013 10:44:47 AM
I am also a strong supporter of acupuncture. I really do think that it was one of the primary reasons my first son is here. Can't hurt, right? Cheaper than fertility drugs. My acupuncturist specialized in infertility so try to find someone with experience and not just someone from a groupon! I know 4 other people that used mine and got pregnant.


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Posted: 11/5/2013 11:32:35 AM
DH and I were married almost 7 years when we had DH. We tried for 6 years and did fertility treatments for 2 1/2 years.

DH's parents were married 13 years before they had him. They adopted two kids and were told early on MIL couldn't get pregnant. DH is 9 years younger than his sister!

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Posted: 11/5/2013 11:54:03 AM
We tried to get pregnant for 5 years before adopting our oldest son. Three years later we adopted our second son. That was 11 years ago. We've used no contraception for 17 years.

And that's the VERY happy end to our story

My two boys are the biggest blessing of my life. No other path would have led to them.

Love, family is a wonderful thing. Never give up - and I'd add never limit your paths either

Best of luck!


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Posted: 11/5/2013 12:49:43 PM
11 years between our daughter and son. We had finally given up and sold everything. I lost about 30 pounds, and then, surprise!

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Posted: 11/5/2013 2:45:35 PM
I'm happy to see you have so many positive stories. I hope you are encouraged by all of this! Anything is possible, I believe.

We tried for 3 years for #1, had a very sick, preemie baby, and then tried for 4.5 more years after that before we were blessed with #2. Then, #3 and #4 came two and four years later, respectively, and both were big surprises.

Infertility is such a spectrum of success and failure, and rarely a reliable indicator of whether you can or can't actually have a child, IMO. Doctors know a lot, but they're often as surprised as we are in things like this. Never lose hope!

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Posted: 11/5/2013 2:49:24 PM
Just realized this is an old thread.

OP, I hope you got your longed-for baby.

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Posted: 11/5/2013 2:53:12 PM
Has your husband gone in for testing? My sister is a fertility specialist and she says so many times the men refuse to go in for testing and they can have issues just like women, but society is much less accepting of it. A friend of ours finally conceived via donor sperm and IVF a while ago. Their baby is such a blessing. You wouldn't believe the crap people say though. It is okay to use donor eggs, but donor sperm is a big taboo for some reason. Luckily her husband was behind it and said lets go for it. Just a thought if he hasn't been tested.


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Posted: 11/5/2013 3:16:58 PM
Yes, I have a friend who tried for well over 5 years and 9 months after they adopted ... BINGO!



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Posted: 11/5/2013 5:15:39 PM
6 years of trying and finally got pregnant with TWINS no fertility treatments. never give up

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Posted: 11/5/2013 5:30:58 PM
We tried for 4 years (I know that's not 5 or more).


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Posted: 11/5/2013 5:57:59 PM
Check out this story.

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Posted: 11/5/2013 6:01:46 PM
I know this is an old thread, but thought I would respond in case my story can help someone else...

When DH and I got married I was diagnosed with severe endometriosis. I was told that my "treatment" option were to go on Lupron, which my dr told me would make me fat, hairy, and zitty. Or I could get pregnant. We decided to TTC, although it was fairly casual at first. My dr told me that if I wasn't pregnant in 6 months I would most likely need IVF, which at that time was not usually covered under insurance to my knowledge. We continued to TTC for three years or so. IVF was not in our budget and I was in grad school, so we didn't look into it yet at that point. After I finished school I started getting really depressed and anxious about not being pregnant. We went to the dr and I showed him my charts that I had been keeping, etc. He scheduled some tests for me but also suggested that DH have testing, which he had never done prior to that. Turns out that he had a varicocele. He had surgery which reversed his problem. We didn't have a problem getting pregnant after that. I was never one to get pregnant super easily, but we obviously have four kids now.

So, the moral of my story is not to assume that the woman is the problem.

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