What the heck is a Homecoming mum & garter?

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:15:33 PM
My dd has been invited to attend a local Homecoming dance. Can someone please explain what a Homecoming mum & garter is? We recenty relocated to Texas from the midwest and this is something new to me/us. I feel so out of the loop. My dd is worried that she will commit some major faux paux. Help!!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:23:05 PM
Google "homecoming mums" and delve into a whole new world!!! Here is a website that gives you the story of "homecoming season" and these giant "mums" as well as the garter.

http://www.theartfulcrafter.com/homecoming_mums.html


After reading this, your best bet is to go to your local craft store to see examples and supplies. It is also a good idea for you and your daughter to talk to a friend at school to see just how elaborate her school is in regards to mums/garters. You can make them yourself or you can purchase them ready made. Florist, grocery stores and many websites sell them.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:24:20 PM
Usually your local flower shop will have a big variety. Here is a website with some pictures:

www.mumsbypeggy.com

The Michael's website has instructions:

http://www.michaels.com/art/online/projectsheet?pid=j00140&categoryid=88169

Usually the guy will give the girl the mum and the girl will give the guy, here it's the football players, the garter.

Good luck and have fun!!!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:26:29 PM
arent those a southern thing? they dont do them here

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:30:19 PM
Haha! Welcome to Texas!! I thought they were quite strange too when I moved here, but they have been tradition for many decades.

Your dd is only responsible for the garter for the boy, just like a boutinniere. You already have good links, but for your first year I would suggest going to your local florist and ordering one. Ask around for who is best...but do it asap or they will be booked.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:37:40 PM
i'm sorry (and please don't flame me, just educate me!) but WHY would you want to buy a nice new dress for homecoming, only to have it covered up in birthday party streamers that weight 12 pounds??????

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:38:10 PM
Go to the florist and buy one. We never made our own and you can get lots of customization with ordering. Tell them the sport he plays, their names, and anything that she would like on it. Our school doesn't allow bells so they have to be taped during school.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:44:50 PM
Thanks for the response Peas. I have never seen or heard of these things. I looked up images of them and HOLY MOLEY they are huge. Some of them require a lanyard around the neck to hold them up?? My dd is all, "OMGosh Mom, I have to wear that huge, ugly thing out in public!!" I guess everything really is bigger in Texas. lol

I do agree with the poster who asked wondered why in the heck you'd want to cover up your pretty dress with one of those but what do I know I'm from "up north."

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:46:32 PM

i'm sorry (and please don't flame me, just educate me!) but WHY would you want to buy a nice new dress for homecoming, only to have it covered up in birthday party streamers that weight 12 pounds??????


oh silly non texan, you dont wear it to the dance, just school and the game! And you don't wear your best shirt that day either, cause it can tear it. though from my days till now, they have apparently come up with some anchoring techniques.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:48:43 PM
If they do wear it to the dance it is only for pictures, then it is taken off. It is only for school and the game.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:48:45 PM
oh and OP she will probably love it once she has it and everyone has one. it becomes a contest on how much your boyfriend loves you!! lol (not really, but you know how teens are!)

and she may want to ask her date would he like one. some boys won't wear them at all. then some just want a small mum on their lapel, but others want the arm band with all the stuff.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:58:43 PM
ok, so only for the game and to school. wow!


so what happens to the girls who DO NOT have a homecoming mum that day in school??? and do people really wear TWO????!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 2:03:29 PM

so what happens to the girls who DO NOT have a homecoming mum that day in school??? and do people really wear TWO????!


Everyone can spot you a mile away as the girl with out a boyfriend! I kid!

I don't think I ever had one in high school and I don't remember being scarred by it. It's been a while but I don't remember anyone wearing two, I supposed you could but good luck carrying your books around that day.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 2:04:15 PM
haha - Many MANY decades! I went to school in the 50's and 60's and it was a annual event back then. (Homecoming). However, we didn't give the boys a garter. I'm not sure when that part started. (The mums were also HUGE and REAL back then)

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Posted: 9/8/2009 2:10:02 PM
Parents do buy/make ones for their girls with no boy, but that is a personal choice. Sometimes the club or team will make them for their members, etc. Some have them, some don't. Same as some will wear a school spirit shirt and some won't. Just depends on the kid.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 2:11:31 PM
I had the same question when we first moved here. It was a little strange to see them on display in Walmart.




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Posted: 9/8/2009 4:23:42 PM
Haha! Welcome to Texas!! I thought they were quite strange too when I moved here, but they have been tradition for many decades. /quote]
That's what I thought when my sister's kids were in high school in Plano. Never heard of them here, especially the garter thing. Thirty years ago in college we did the mum thing for HC but never fir high school. The HC flowers were just a corsage for the dance and nothing for the game. But, yeah, it's a big deal in Texas at least.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:07:56 PM
Lived in Texas for 9 years. Still think they are the funniest things ever!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:27:53 PM
Welcome to Texas! The mums get bigger and the cowbells get louder every year!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:32:13 PM
LOL, I made dd wait till she was a junior for the double ones. Those things are heavy!

They made the girls disable the bells while in school, something about them being a disturbance. Ya think?

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:32:14 PM
We have a thread on this every year which usually involves terrible pics

The uglier, gawdier, big the better.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:32:59 PM
Some wear 2 or 3 or 4. I wasn't popular and didn't have a boyfriend in High School, Homecoming was one of my skip days. I could not handle the cowbells. Cowbells EVERYWHERE!!! On shoes, mums, garters, lockers, purses....you get the idea. LOL

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:36:55 PM
We had those when I went to school in CA in the dark ages. I was very surprised when my kids high schools in Florida didn't do it.



eta: OH HOLY CRAP!! I just took a look at those. Ours were simple mums with the school mascot in the middle. Wowiezowie, those suckers are huge!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:42:37 PM
I am 100% Texas, born and raised, and I NEVER had a Mum! hehehe I hated them, and turned down several offers of them in HS. I couldn't grasp the concept. One guy I turned down, went out and spent a small fortune on another girl just to "show off" the mum I could have had...dork. They get so expensive!! My brother wanted one each year for his girlfriend, and didn't want to spend a ton, thus the "Heather's House of Mum's" came about. I did them for my brother and his friends for all four years.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:46:18 PM

Can someone please explain what a Homecoming mum & garter is?
the floral equivalent of 'big hair'...

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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:47:58 PM
Okay, bigger isn't necessarily better...those are disguisting.

Ours were white mums, about the size of a softball with red/black ribbons that came down just a few inches from the mum (proportionate) and had the school emblum. They were actually very pretty. The girls always wore them on their jacket to the game. I graduated in '82.


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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:05:22 PM
Ahh mums

I was in band in high school and my senior year I had 15 mums .. they were all big


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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:06:22 PM
I didn't know this was just a Texas thing? I thought everyone had mums at homecoming! You learn something new everyday.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:10:03 PM
Texas transplant mom anxiously awaiting my own daughters' homecoming days so I can make mums ... my hot glue gun is fired up and ready to go.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:21:17 PM
Sweet Fancy Moses! That is... just... I mean... ok.. this thread deserves it...

Wow. Just Wow.

There are stufffed animals worked into those things... they are THAT big. Sounds like a fun tradition... and I bet the kids get into it and have a great time, and that's all that matters.

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Posted: 9/8/2009 11:44:13 PM
I have lived in Texas my entire life and it was only after this discussion came up on Two Peas that I realized not everyone did mums. I honestly had no idea it was a Texas/Southern thing! LOL! When I was in HS in the 80's, most people at my school still used real flowers for the mum, silk flowers were just starting to enter the mum scene. Now, I can't tell you the last time I saw real flowers used on a mum.

I thought I would throw out a few HC mum/garter tips. Usually the names are incorporated on one of the streamers so be sure your DD knows how to spell his name correctly. Sometimes the recipients graduation year is included, but not always unless they are a senior. Senior mums are often all white & metallic instead of school colors (but only seniors get all white).

I always had a mum (I think some of them are still in a box in the top of the closet at my mom's house) but the coolest HC was my senior year. I was in band and we were not allowed to pin mums on our band uniforms so DBF bought me a dozen long-stemmed red roses and had the florist wrap the stems and add all the streamers with our names and stuff, etc. That was way cooler than a mum!

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Posted: 9/8/2009 11:48:15 PM
It's not just a texas thing...it's a southern thing ;0)

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Posted: 9/9/2009 12:09:37 AM
Ah yes, the homecoming mum! When I taught high school, we always called the day the girls wore their mums to school Cowbell Day. Yes, sometimes they include stuffed animals and lights, the more "stuff" and the bigger the better.

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Posted: 9/9/2009 1:59:27 AM
Flame me all you want. They are the biggest ugliest creation I have ever seen. When I moved from CA to TX a few years ago I lmao the first time I saw a "mum".I know the M's near where I live have all the supplies needed to create these paper plate size flower creations with ribbon streamers 5 feet long. (Good
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Posted: 9/9/2009 6:14:18 AM
Ah mums - never heard of them until kids were in high school, one of her friends moms took us to the local source for all things mum....

dd had great fun every year making her mum. we would get the "base" with some ribbons in school colors - single mum for freshman, double for sophomore, triple for junior, and then for senior year - 4 mums on an over the shoulder one! all were school colors except for senior which is all white.

we would have bits of ribbon, charms, glitter, hot glue all over the kitchen every year as she always made her own.

One year she did have a date for homecoming, and he bought her a mum, and we made him a garter.

make sure you know the school etiquette regarding mums, a local florist should knnow.

good luck!
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Posted: 9/9/2009 7:09:07 AM
Shoosh up all your hatin' on mums! LOL I wanted to toss out the reason that some girls sport two and three mums at a time. The boyfriend has one done for his girl aaaaaaand mom and dad usually do one as well; sometimes grandparents buy them, but not as often. It is not unusual at all for a girl to have two mums.

Have fun with this silly, over-the-top southern tradition!

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Posted: 9/9/2009 8:06:14 AM
If you decide to make one yourself, be sure and have your daughter ask her friends how they usually do them. Different schools have different traditions. In our area, the freshmen and sophomore mums use the school colors, juniors are silver & white and seniors are gold & white. Also, our schools don't allow the cowbells to be worn in school. If you have them. or any noisemakers on your mum, you have to tape them so they don't make noise.
Just have fun with it! Smile, shake your head and go with the flow!

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Posted: 9/9/2009 8:57:59 AM
When I was in college, my brother did not want to pay for his date's mum, so he stole all three of mine from my bedroom at home, told my mom I said it was ok, and she recycled them into a mum for his date. I was beyond livid when I found out, so she tried to make it better by making me a cr@ppy one with the college colors. I didn't want a college one! That was stupid! I wanted my mums back!!!

And his date was pi$$ed that "her" mum had shadow letters spelling out "Steve", "utmr" and "1983" from where the ribbon had faded.

Yeah, still ticked about that...Mums are a BIG deal here in Texas.

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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:01:17 AM

It's not just a texas thing...it's a southern thing


Not this part of the South (NC)...I'd never seen such a thing until 2Ps

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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:09:29 AM
Never ever heard of this in Minnesota! They are ... interesting!

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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:12:43 AM
Yes, they're gaudy, but damn....I wish I wouldn't have missed out on this by being homeschooled. It looks fun. I'd love to try and make some


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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:15:40 AM
Wow, those are just hideous. Sorry. And I am in Georgia and have never seen those here or when I lived in Florida either.

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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:19:33 AM
This is so funny. I never knew until last year on 2Ps that not everyone did this! I just found out this morning that my ds has a "date" to homecoming this weekend, so we have to go tonight to get her mum!

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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:20:56 AM

the floral equivalent of 'big hair'...


So true! They keep getting bigger every year it seems!

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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:25:44 AM
I never heard of these either. When I opened this thread,I thought it would be about moms wearing garters to homecoming and embarassing their kids.

From a New york/Massachusetts perspective, they look like fun. Don't like the cowbells though.

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Posted: 9/9/2009 10:18:09 AM

My girls have always just made their own mum. They wear the mum on Friday to school. We take pictures before they go to the dance with the mum.

I didn't grow up in Texas and we didn't do mums. If I remember correctly, we may have done a small flower for the dance if you had a date, but not the mum thing.

To be honest with you, it seems like a complete waste of money, but I do it anyway because it makes them so happy. Neither of my girls has cared whether she had a date or not, she wanted a mum. (I cut 3 ribbons and a couple of flat trinket thingies from my younger dd's mum to make a scrapbook page and she was pretty unhappy with me about it! I told her the scrapbook page would last a whole lot longer than the mum ever will. Didn't matter.)

I have learned that if you buy the parts and put it together, it costs a whole lot less. Also, be sure to look around the store in other departments. For instance, Hobby Lobby has Christmas decorations all out now. I walk through the isle that has small Christmas tree ornaments. Our mascot is "broncos" and there is always something horse related in the ornaments. Also, scrapbook letter stickers are ALWAYS alot less expensive than what they have in the floral isle.

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Posted: 9/9/2009 10:24:13 AM
This is a random photo of the kinds of things I've seen girls wear.



Sometimes, the darn things are almost as long as the girls!




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Posted: 9/9/2009 10:37:50 AM
I went to high school in the 80s and it was very rare to have a silk mum at that time. We also didn't buy garters. But you know you can't go wrong with MORE COWBELL!!!
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