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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:18:17 PM
I was curious about those charities that allow you to "adopt" an entire family for Christmas and give them gifts for each member of the family and groceries for them all. Has anyone done this, and is there a particular national organization that arranges this you would recommend? Thanks!


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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:25:46 PM
I do it every year through my kids' elementary school which I think is hooked up with the Junior League. They have 4 or 5 families and you sign up for specific things. So I signed up to donate food for each family, a gift for a 6 y/o girl for one family, a 4 y/o boy for another and so on. It's broken down so you can give as much or little as you choose.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:31:57 PM
We are with the local Goodfellows organization this year for the first time. My kids found out about Santa last year, so we are starting a new tradition this year. We budgeted a part of our Christmas Club funds and adopted a family- an 11 yr old boy and a 9 yr old girl. The recommend about $50 per child. You can also donate money to the organization which they in turn use to purchase additional food items after their food and toy drives. The week before December 19th they ask for volunteers to come to the Township hall to help wrap, sort and prep family gifts, which are then picked up on the Saturday the 19th. I plan on taking my kids there after school to assist with the packaging and wrapping atleast 3 nights that week. We're done shopping for our two adopted kids and made a donation to the food fund already.

My kids are really excited about this- I think they fully understand that they are fortunate to be on the donating end of this venture and see that they are blessed not to be on the reciepient end. I want them to see the "other side" of Santa and be humbled.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:36:08 PM
I Nursing I worked at for the last 5 years adopted a family every year through the Salvation Army and everyone in the building pitched in on things for the family..clothes, toys, household needs, food and gift cards!



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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:36:42 PM
We do this with my husband's family for Christmas. We get a family through the county and they give us a wishlist with ages of family members, sizes, wants and needs. We generally spend about $50 per person. They also receive gift cards for groceries and gas from the county.



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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:37:27 PM
We are, well we split the family with my DH's family. We go through our church. Last year was the first year we've done it and I was surprised with the $$ amount required to spend on each child and that there was a minimum amount of presents that we need to buy. Not to hijack the thread, but I'm curious what is the norm for the $ amount that you were required to spent per child or per family?

eta- i just read a couple people say $50. Our church requires us to spend $75-$100 per child and we need to at least buy 3 gifts per child. I thought that was high.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:41:57 PM
We have done it several times and it's one of the most rewarding things I've ever done.

Our county's health & human services department organizes it.

We've done families with children as well as elderly people who had no family. I'd even go so far as to say the latter was more touching. More than anything, they just wanted company.

We kept in touch with several of our families and continued to visit them, buy food when needed and give gifts at the holidays/birthdays in future years.

I would really recommend doing it - you will be helping someone who needs it and it will fill your own heart like you can't believe.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:43:37 PM
I have a neice that is a Social Worker for CPS. She found us the families we are helping this year.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:44:45 PM
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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:46:57 PM
Thank you for the quick responses! I am looking forward to this.



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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:47:47 PM
Journeyfan may I ask what happened?


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Posted: 11/20/2009 12:49:39 PM
We do this every year. We try to get the family members at least one want and one need from their list every year and more if we can manage.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:01:04 PM
journey fan.....can you tell us what happened??? I'm really considering doing it...but would like to know what can go wrong.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:03:56 PM
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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:06:01 PM
the last school I worked at organized it for us. I would think churches or schools would be good places to start.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:07:04 PM
My alumnae chapter has done this thru Salvation Army. You can also provided "stuffed" stockings for them, too.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:10:44 PM

journey fan.....can you tell us what happened??? I'm really considering doing it...but would like to know what can go wrong.

I'm sure it was just our bad luck...don't let it discourage you.

We asked DHs grandparents to recommend a family from their church who could use some holiday help. We went all out....the works for Christmas dinner, gifts for the parents and kids specially chosen for their ages and interests, etc. Hundreds of dollars.

The first time we went to their home, to deliver the food, the father wouldn't come out of the back room to even acknowledge us or say thank you. The wife was blase. As we left the house, we thought we smelled weed but were like, "Nah...they wouldn't be asking for help if he can afford the MJ." LOL

Second time we went to deliver the gifts, same thing. And both times they knew we were coming. The mom was semi-grateful but seemed to take all our help for granted. Again, no appearance by dad ... he was clearly smoking weed while we were there.

We are a very anti-drug family (having worked in law enf. and such), so you really couldn't have disrespected us in any worse way.

Again, I'm sure it usually goes well for people....I would still encourage everyone to adopt a Christmas family. We just had bad luck.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:12:47 PM
That's one reason why I think anonymity is very important.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:13:25 PM
We get our family through St Vincent de Paul (which is run through my Church.) There is no specified amount of $$ to spend. They give you the ages/sizes and specific items requested. For example a 2 yo girl, wears a size 2T and loves dolls. We try to also supply a couple gift cards for the family to be able to choose items they want/need themselves. The organization supplies a food box along with your donation.

We have done this for years. This year there is an even greater need for people to adopt families. It has always been a positive experience.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:28:34 PM
We do this at work and have had mixed results. We get the name from the city school's guidance counselors, so they are local families.

Some years, we get reasonable lists and have greateful families (or at least families that don't complain.)

Other years, we get lists filled with things that are super-extravagant and we have had more than one occasion of a parent calling us to tell us we needed to get them more gifts than we did. It's disheartening when you spend all that time and money putting together something you'd be proud to give your own family and then have it rejected as not good enough.

I haven't participated for a few years because of this. This year we are adopting 2 families for Thanksgiving and are giving them a Turkey and all the ingredients to cook a Thanksgiving meal. Hopefully that will go well.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:31:05 PM
We don't get specific requests. They tell us male age 6, specify size in clothes, likes board games, the color blue, you get the idea. It's not like a registry where they come to expect specific things.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:37:12 PM
I did it once at my first job and swore never to do it again.

At the time my Grandmother and her Lodge cronies were still alive and they collected canned food for the woman and her family plus we each donated towards an age appropriate gift and set of clothing, back in the 80s when 500.00 was a lot of money. The little ladies at the lodge even threw in a couple of gifts, re-gifted I'm sure, for Mom but it was the thought that count considering these women were all retired.

Our pick-up driver took all the stuff over to the woman's house and the woman said she didn't want the canned goods and the frozen turkey because THEY were on their way out of town and they could have USED the money instead of the stuff but to make sure they had the receipts so she could just return in for CASH, back when you could get cash.

It just hurt the driver because she had given when she didn't have much to give herself. Since all the canned goods had come from my people, I told the driver to take what she wanted and give the rest to anyone she felt needed them plus the gifts from the little ladies. It meant a lot to her to have something because she wouldn't have had anything at all that year, she and her husband were having IRS trouble and 90% of her check was going to pay for that.

From that point on I only give to the Salvation Army.

I think it is wonderful that you want to help and also give your children the gift of giving.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:38:24 PM
We do! We go through Shelter Network and there is a facility and they have a number of families there with children. Last year we had 17 children and we do a Christmas party for them with little gift bags.

We find out the ages and sizes and pick out stuff for them, too.

We are doing it again for them this year.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:47:05 PM

I think it is wonderful that you want to help and also give your children the gift of giving.

I thought it was also important to have them get "hands on" with the sorting and wrapping, and just not shopping from a list for our adoptees - at 11 1/2 yrs old, it's comprehendable for them to understand the reality of it all. I hope we remain fortunate enough to continue our new tradition in future years.

I'm a little disheartened at the number of bad experiences. I know there are those who feel a Christmas / Holiday delivery during a hardship is an "entitlement" or sorts (for lack of a better term) and I guess there will always be a bad apple or two in the bunch. Too bad they leave such a bad taste for those who really want to do something from the heart and only be appreciated in return!

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:49:28 PM
We do Angel tree. We don't pick the ones that say "Nintendo DSi" and "Xbox 360 Elite" though. We ususlly pick a kid around DD's age and spend about $50 on a backpack or whatever they asked for with some toys. No offense to anyone but I don't think we'd so an adopt a while family thing and buy gifts for adults. Food, sure but gifts, no way.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:51:34 PM
My dh's company adopts several families in the different departments. In the past I usually contribute $50 gift towards it. This year I am put off a bit by the family that has asked for hockey jerseys and a portable DVD player, to me that is a bit much to ask.

One year I spent over $200 with adopting a family with some other relatives and when they were delivered they weren't all that grateful and there was a new computer at their house, that really put me off.

I think if you go with an organization that properly screens the people than it is ok, or maybe if you know someone directly that you could help. A lot of time I would just rather donate money to the salvation army so I don't know who they are helping out.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 1:55:37 PM
Ack- the bad stories just break my heart. THis is pretty much what I do all year round so I would agree with anonymity - sometimes, it is well-meant, I am sure, but we want the warm fuzzy of going to the poor person's house so we can give them their gifts and watch the tears fall from their wrinkled cheeks. We don't want to cook in the back room or dop the dishes at the soup kitchem, we want to scoop the food on the tray for the poor homless people. It becomes as much about US as the need.

I much prefer having a go-between so the "family" isn't forced to "perform" for the gifts. So much dignity is stolen through hand-outs anyway. It is such a fine line between helping and enabling and hindering. And most of us come from a middle-class (or UMC) lifestyle that we can legitimatley NOT "get" a life of poverty. We "judge" the home, the car, the "stuff", the nails, the cable - some of these things are survival mechanisms. They might not have any food tomorrow but by-golly they have steak tonight. It is a very "live-for-the-moment" lifestyle sometimes when you are poor.

And yes, the greed does kick in - we had a lady tell us her kid needed a TV because he was the only kid without a TV in his bedroom. (POOR kid ) I would sugguest Children's Services agencies - the Salvation Army is always good at screening and doing things in a way that honors the family. I would suggest a go-between to deliver the gifts, I would suggest spending what you can, not over-gifting. But then again, whatever rings your bell - you are the donor, do what makes you happy. Just don't forget how hard it would be to be on the other end!

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Posted: 11/20/2009 2:03:55 PM
We have a program like that here at work. I think they work with a particular township near our office.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 2:08:21 PM
We go through the schools. We get a wish list from the kids, and a needs list from the teachers. My kids loved shopping for the wish list. I also bought about 5 gender neutral jackets for the classroom in case someone "forgot" theirs.


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Posted: 11/20/2009 2:18:01 PM
We adopt through the community ministries office and have done it for years. Before we moved to WV, we did it in AZ. Sometimes we are disappointed in the wish lists but hey, they are only wishes. We buy more of the needed items and pick and choose off the wish list.

Last year DS (10) was more excited than I was to get up and go shopping for our families on black Friday. We searched the ads and made our lists. We hit Walmart at 5:00 in the morning. While there, we saw some of DS teachers, neighbors, etc. and he was so happy to tell them that we were there shopping for our adopted families and weren't buying anything for ourselves.

He's already thinking ahead to next Friday!



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Posted: 11/20/2009 2:21:32 PM
My work has adopted a family. I work at Money Mart (a payday loan/cheque cashing store) and we ask our customers if they wish to donate the loose change that we give back to them from their transactions. We just started collecting yesterday, and I collected the most for the store so far. Almost $39 by myself - Thats a lot of dimes and nickles! (Im a little competetive that way! LOL)

I cant wait to go shopping for our family!

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Posted: 11/20/2009 7:44:47 PM
This was several years ago when I was still teaching full time, but our high school homerooms could choose to adopt a local family. My students really went all out and the gifts totally filled the trunk and back seat of my mom's Lincoln Town Car (it wouldn't all fit in my Mustang). These were local families screened by the school district. Because my students got so involved, they agreed to let us deliver the gifts ourselves (myself, my mom and a few of the students). The family lived is a single-wide trailer that was very neat and clean but there were no extravegances. I honestly don't remember anything else about the furnishings etc. but the family was so nice and the kids were adorable. The parents were fairly young and it was my understanding had been working but the father was not working at that time due to some health issues. They had not asked for anything for the parents besides a few basic clothing items but my students wanted to get them some gift things as well. I remember they bought the mother a new set of cookware and she couldn't believe we thought of her. She just wanted a nice Christmas for her kids and that we thought of them too really meant a lot to her. We visited with them for just a little bit and they were such a sweet family and very grateful. It was an expereince that has stuck with me for a long time. I was so proud of my students (9th & 10th graders) and their outpouring of caring for this family.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 8:05:05 PM
I posted about doing this on a different thread. But my family did it for years! It was a fantastic experience for all of us! No one was ever rude on ungrateful.

People didn't always perform for us.. But most of them were appreciative and we were extremely generous because there were a lot of us. We did it instead of buying gifts for each other and the shopping was always a lot fun!!!!

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Posted: 11/20/2009 8:11:58 PM
Our unit at work pick a couple of families from our patients in the hospital. There are a lot of us so it usually works out pretty well with lots of gifts and necessities. You could probably call the social work dept at any hospital and they could find someone for you.
We like that we know the family and have never had any issues, but we know them pretty well as the family practically lives at the hospital when their child is first diagnosed!


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Posted: 11/20/2009 8:32:09 PM
i have - but thru my workplace. they were employees who were having financial problems (single moms). it was anonymous tho. 1 we did as a small group and 1 I did - getting money from some customers and getting 1 customer from out of state (truck plates) to deliver it all so she would have no way to connect it to me. The tree guys donated money, a tree and the delivery service! They were awesome!

another we did thru city housing... that might be a place to ask. or your local fire dept. - they know of families who have lost everything to fire recently.

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Posted: 11/20/2009 10:38:31 PM
Yep, pretty much every year.

DH's organization works with a Domestic Violence shelter in NYC. They get lists of families to adopt and then you can take one and fulfill their wishes.

At school, my DS is on student council and each grade levels officers and exec board adopt a family. This year they had a mom and three kids so we got something for each.

My DD's school does a food drive instead and that goes to the township food bank. The staff/faculty adopt families, three this year. Since I am a very regular sub there (avg. 3 days a week) the staff invited me to go in on it if I wanted to. I'm picking up a set of sheets for the parents.

I feel like my family is VERY blessed. I used to work for a social service agency in NYC and saw how little many people have, and not really due to any fault of their own, just what life deals ya' sometimes. I figure if we can help to bring a little joy to someone at the holidays, we should.

You could try local groups like the Salvation Army or a church, your town's social services department, possibly the post office (ours collects Santa letters from in-town addresses and tries to help) or do a web search.

Good luck finding a worthy group and helping out! It will warm your heart.

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Posted: 11/21/2009 7:46:12 AM
We have done this for the last 3 years at my office. We got tired of exchanging gift cards at the Secret Santa and decided that the money we spent on each other could be put to better use. For the last two years we have worked with a local women's shelter to privide gifts to the women and their children. Everyone feels that these children have gone through enough being uprooted from their homes and in many cases schools and friends as well. It is nice to know that our donations can help to keep one aspect of their young lives somewhat normal.

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Posted: 11/21/2009 6:39:21 PM
I did this a few times on my own through a local organization. I read that teenage boys are always the last ones chosen, so I was always happy to take one of them. I'm a single girl, but I honestly have hardly any presents to buy - mom, dad, grandmas - and I LIKE shopping, so I thought that was a good way to be able to enjoy the holiday shopping season, and helping someone else.

I guess I had mixed results. I enjoyed the process a lot. I felt good about it. I was just a little off put by the wish lists I got. On one hand, I totally understood - they are teenage boys, and they want to fit in with their friends. On the other hand, it just seemed over the top.

One year some of the things I can remember were Air Jordans, 2 or 3 different (specific name) NBA jerseys, Sean John (expensive) clothes, a gold chain, an XBox (or something like that - can't remember now), and other things like that. And I took it sort of as a challenge - I went to outlet stores, and places like TJ Maxx, and Burlington Coat Factory and Value Village to be able to get him some of the name brands on his list but stick with a budget. But it was still a lot. At the same time, if I were a teenage boy, those would have been the things I wanted too, so I hope he at least had a good Christmas.

Now I tend to just volunteer a lot of time at our counties food distribution place throughout the holiday season. I'm an event planner with a love of organization (give me a messy closet or pantry and I'll be happy for hours!), so I spend a lot of time there taking in food donations, sorting the stock room, organizing shelves and making food packages for families who come in and request them. It's gratifying, fun (for me), helps them out, and doesn't cost me money. I start next week, and I'm excited!

Last year was my 1st year doing this, but I already knew I wanted to do it again. It also gave me a glimpse into what local grocery stores and restaurants donate food, and gives me satisfaction to support those stores. It may be a tax write off for them, but it means a lot to the families, so I appreciate the gesture.


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Posted: 11/21/2009 8:33:08 PM
We started doing this many years ago as all the kids in our family became adults and decided we didn't need to be exchanging gifts at the holidays (now that some of us have kids, there are some gifts to open at Grandmas, and we have always exchanged with my brother who is special needs). My mom would get the names from her pastor, and he took care of delivering the gifts so it was always anonymous. My mom is a great shopper, and she would take care of a lot of food items and find terrific deals on clothing, and the rest of us would take care of the toys.

Five years ago, my brother started receiving services from an agency that assists mentally disabled adults in group home situations (my brother only participated in the "dayhab" programs since he still lives at home). We found out that a lot of the adults in the program were living on very small monthly benefits with very little left over at the end of the month--not even enough to go to the movies. Many of them had no family to help them out or to celebrate the holidays with. We decided to adopt a few of them and provide them with toiletries, restaurant gift cards, movie tickets, etc. so they could stretch their monthly benefit checks a little farther.

Thanks to double coupons and Walgreens/RiteAid rebates, we were able to provide Christmas for 10 or 11 of the agency's clients. The next year we did a few more, and the year after that my mom got on a roll and started contacting local churches to help. She now has 20+ clients who are getting "adopted", and she actually had to turn down a couple of offers because she ran out of names to assign. Mom is getting up there in age, and she isn't sure how long she will be able to keep up all the organization that needs to happen to pull it off, so I think she is trying to find a "successor" to take over in a few years. My sisters and I are out of state, so we aren't able to take over, but we will continue to support the program when someone else does take it over.

*Fingers crossed*

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Posted: 11/21/2009 8:40:22 PM
I do it every year through our church. They find a family in the area, find out what they need and then make arrangements to get everything to them once we drop it off. I truly love doing it every year!

I've also done it through Catholic Social Services of our county.


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Posted: 11/22/2009 12:26:08 AM
Yes, used to do it through my son's elementary school. The counselor would give a list of children's ages, needed clothing with sizes and a couple of toy requests. I wrapped everything and delivered it to the counselor, who took it to the family. Thought it was very rewarding, and helped my son understand that not everyone is as fortunate as him. After my son moved on to middle school, I tried doing it through Salvation Army. I received a list of ages, but nothing specific. So I took my best guesses, wrapped and delived items to the Salvation Army office. I felt uneasy leaving the items because it seemed very disorganized, and I wondered if the items really would get to the family. Wasn't very satisfying. Then the newspaper reported that the Salvation Army commanders had been taking donated items for their personal use. A few years before that a different Commander embezzled funds and then set a fire in the office to destroy records and attempt to cover up the embezzlement. So the fact that it was still possible for money/items to be taken for personal use, years after the first problem, made me very reluctant to go through the Salvation Army. I have not donated to them since. So, I think sponsoring a family can be rewarding, but like everything else in life, things don't always work out the way you hope.

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Posted: 11/22/2009 5:17:47 AM

I'm an event planner with a love of organization (give me a messy closet or pantry and I'll be happy for hours!),

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twinsmom-fla99 I love what you (or your mom) do... definitely a group of people who are not immediately thought of when others are looking to help. My mom loves to find a good deal so when she finds things like the CVS/Rite-aid/Walgreens super great deals, she gets all she can and then takes them to the local homeless shelter, etc. When I was younger she would pick a family every year so I do remember doing this, but she has since stopped because of some experiences that turned her off.

mizind- you're exactly right in what you say about a different mindset, etc. i wish there was a better way to provide what they want. That is one thing that has prevented me from doing it more often... I'm always afraid what I get isn't going to be something they *want.* So hard.

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Posted: 11/23/2012 5:20:33 PM
Hi I read an old post here and wonder if anyone knows of any programs here in NYC that adopts families or Christmas. I am currently in Brooklyn and. I am currently in a homeless shelter with my family I am in desperate need of help for my family this Christmas please email me
I have a large family I think this is why I have not had any luck obtaining help. I'm not asking for specifics or for absolutely everyone. Anything received is a huge blessing for us thank you in advance for any response

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Posted: 11/23/2012 9:01:28 PM

Five years ago, my brother started receiving services from an agency that assists mentally disabled adults in group home situations (my brother only participated in the "dayhab" programs since he still lives at home). We found out that a lot of the adults in the program were living on very small monthly benefits with very little left over at the end of the month--not even enough to go to the movies. Many of them had no family to help them out or to celebrate the holidays with. We decided to adopt a few of them and provide them with toiletries, restaurant gift cards, movie tickets, etc. so they could stretch their monthly benefit checks a little farther.

This is a GREAT idea. Thank you!

I've done either giving trees or adopted families for the better part of 20 years. Sometimes the families were identified by Salvation Army and provided to our company (we were large enough that we did 2 families). Sometimes it was through word of mouth. I've never done the delivery, only provided the gifts. While it would be nice to have some thanks, I don't do it for the warm fuzzies or teary cheeks.

We have also done similar for Thanksgiving. This year, I provided a meal for a family with four kids of their own and four foster kids they'd taken in. The 31 year old father had died in his sleep, leaving a wife with 8 kids. I teamed up with a person who had time to cook but not the money, and I paypalled her for the groceries.


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Posted: 11/23/2012 9:05:09 PM
We do through work. One of my co-workers organizes it all - we've gone through the same agency for over 10 years and it's been very successful. She gets a wishlist for each family member,and pretty well every wish gets purchased. Some people give money or giftcards.

In the past, some of the families have needed furniture and people have donated things like that as well.

Because we are a large firm, we usually adopt a very large family and a smaller one. They get a ton of stuff!



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Posted: 11/23/2012 9:20:10 PM
My co workers and I usually do this. We agreed that everyone in our family needs a warm pair of shoes and a jacket first. Then we buy extras, like toys, art items, toy cars, shampoos, lotions. One rule I really like is that we don't buy items that could be considered gang related - team hoodies or hats.

Ooops I forgot to add, ours is anonymous.


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Posted: 11/23/2012 9:29:59 PM
something similar happens in our small town, I'm not sure if it's through a church or the local council, but needy families put their name down to receive a food hamper.

On a bit different track, my sons new girlfriend, who only moved into town about 6-8 months ago, lives next door to a church (she doesn't attened though). She's organised a big Christmas lunch with the help of the minister. She's been holding raffles to raise money to put on a lunchtime feast for those who have no family or will be alone on Christmas day. I know several folks who live alone so I hope they all come and have a lovely afternoon.

Tables will be set up in the church grounds and free lunch will be provided for anyone who wants to come along. She is doing all the cooking, although I'm sure some of the parishioners will help too. I'm going to contribute some food, and I'm sure I'll be at her house on christmas eve helping out - probably on KP duty, peeling spuds.


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Posted: 11/23/2012 10:00:46 PM
Our Girl Scout troop did this last year and we are doing it again this year. We get the family through our sponsor elementary school. It's anonymous. The requests are basic. It's been very rewarding for all the girls.


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Posted: 11/23/2012 10:17:53 PM
I opened this thread because I've been longing to do something like this. Unfortunately, I do know for a fact (I have actually personally known them) that there are people who will buy their illegal drugs before they will feed their children well or buy them diapers. I actually worked with a few of them and not only did it tick me off but it broke my heart to watch children go without because their parents wanted to smoke/pop/(whatever).

That said, I would do whatever I could for a child who wanted so badly for Santa to bring them (XYZ) and for it to be waiting under the tree for them. My heart physically hurts to know that there are children who might want something so simple as a doll and not only will they not get it but they will return to school and hear how all of their friends got extravagant gifts when their one simple wish wasn't granted.

So I'm on the lookout for ways to help. I found out about Operation Christmas Child too late this year, but I will absolutely be putting some shoeboxes together for next year's collection deadline.


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Posted: 11/23/2012 10:28:04 PM
Thank you for this thread!

This year DH & I have decided to donate directly to the ARC in our county - they provide assisted living & day programs/"supported" employment for people with intellectual & developmental difficulties.

Just putting that out there as an additional option for those who may want to help in their own communities.

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