Ok question: If you had to choose from New York trip in October, new wooden fence or kitchen?

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Posted: 3/9/2012 1:11:58 PM
Depending on the need for a new kitchen/fence I would say the trip. The reason I would choose the trip is that my kids have never been on a real vacation, our "trips" have always been because we had to take the youngest to a drs appt. we have never gone on a trip to just go for fun.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 1:14:18 PM
I would go for the kitchen. You would understand if you saw my kitchen.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 1:23:32 PM
If it were a complete kitchen redo I would definitely go with that. If not I would choose the trip. A fence doesn't do anything for me.


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Posted: 3/9/2012 1:27:11 PM
I always choose experiences over physical items. Always. Unless it's a necessity (like the sink doesn't work and the oven is broken and not usable).



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Posted: 3/9/2012 2:15:48 PM
I would choose what would improve my families quality of life the most. If we really needed a break and time away than I would choose NY. We spend a lot of time at home so if a fence would make outside time (and safety) more enjoyable than I would do that. I love being in the kitchen and spend a lot of time there so if improving it makes life better than I wouldn't have a problem being practical at all.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 2:23:20 PM

Obviously the kitchen is pretty much a functioning room if it's a choice between a long weekend and a kitchen. I mean, they are not equivalent purchases. I'm guessing you are opting for small cosmetic changes. In that case, I would definitely choose a trip.

I love IKEA as much as the next guy. We stock up on all kinds of products that make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. I have IKEA stuff all over my house. BUT I would not choose an IKEA kitchen over a trip that really tickles my fancy. Someone said the kitchen will last longer than the weekend...well the memories of the trip will last longer than an IKEA kitchen.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 2:31:03 PM
First let me say I didn't read anyone else's posts before I posted so if I'm saying something that's been said a bunch in two pages, I apologize.

If it were me, I would take the trip. The way I see it (rationalize it ) is this way: Home prices are in the trash right now anyway so your improvements aren't going to do that much as far as increasing the value of your home AND I'll take an experience over "stuff" most any day of the week. You only live once.

Of course, if my kitchen needed to be upgraded because things were broken or in need of repair then I would do that first. That would be my second choice.


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Posted: 3/9/2012 2:46:03 PM
If you have to choose one of the three, I'd choose the one you're going to get the most enjoyment/use out of.

Faced with that, I personally would choose the fencing (but we live on almost 4 acres; I'll never have a wooden fence for all of it!) I would personally get the most use out of a new kitchen, and if I could pay for a new kitchen for the price of a 4 day vacation, we'd be getting the kitchen, hands down.

And that's from someone who loves and LIVES to travel.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 2:49:12 PM

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Posted: 3/9/2012 2:50:40 PM

Someone said the kitchen will last longer than the weekend...well the memories of the trip will last longer than an IKEA kitchen.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 3:16:42 PM
Right now, for us I'd say a new kitchen.

We already have our yearly vacation planned and just went on one in Jan... so I'd take the kitchen. We don't really have fences in our neighborhood, so that one wouldn't be in the equation for us.

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Posted: 3/9/2012 3:39:23 PM
Our choice would be the kitchen. But then we haven't taken a vacation in years and always go for the practical.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 12:51:06 AM
NYC or fence. I already have a new kitchen. But it depends on your personal situation. Does the fence need repair? Do you need one for various reasons? NYC would be fun.



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Posted: 3/10/2012 1:47:09 AM
I lived in NYC for 20 years, actually Staten Island, which is one of the 5 boroughs. Go for the fence or kitchen.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 2:02:00 AM
NYC would have to pay me to go back to that state. Never will I go again. i would do the kitchen and the fence. I don't like our kitchen and our fences need to be repaired and painted.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 3:08:43 AM
Holiday wins hands down every time for me, but would be sorely tempted by the kitchen as well

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Posted: 3/10/2012 6:57:01 AM
ETA: We have no debt aside from our mortgage...cars paid off...no cc debt...etc...

We never go into debt for vacations...like I said...my dh and I have saved up...

We have a chain link fence...I want a wooden one because of privacy...our kitchen is like 80's old....but functions...I want a newer one...the NYC trip is one we have always wanted to take with our ds....

So again...which one to choose...dh says...its up to me...? He isn't any help..lol!

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Posted: 3/10/2012 7:07:25 AM
No question --NYC! DH and I love to travel and I figure while we're young enough to still be able to go and enjoy it, why not?

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Posted: 3/10/2012 7:08:05 AM
I would choose to renovate the kitchen if it meant a gutting, with really nice new appliances, cabinetry and countertops but not an Ikea kitchen.

Next I would choose the fence. Our yard is not fenced and I would really love a pretty white picket fence. Unfortunately that would go against the subdivision bylaws.

I guess that leaves the trip.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 7:20:16 AM
If your kitchen is really from the 1980's I'd save what I have and add to it for a total kitchen makeover with some real value. I like Ikea as much as the next gal, but if I'm putting in cabinets and and new countertops, I want it to last.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 8:14:41 AM
Hands down a new kitchen!! But then, I'm not drawn to New York so that would not be on my list of wants. Pretty much, no trip would win against a new kitchen (unless it was to Israel!!)


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Posted: 3/10/2012 8:19:26 AM
NYC - you have a fence, you have a kitchen but you don't have memories of NYC (yet) - life is short - enjoy it, do what makes you happy. You can always save for a new fence or kitchen later.


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Posted: 3/10/2012 9:22:51 AM
Maybe I missed it, but how old is your DS? If this was possibly the last trip you could make as a family before he goes off to college, I'd definately pick the trip.

If not, then I'd go for the kitchen. It is the heart of the home, as they say, right?


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Posted: 3/10/2012 10:12:10 AM

We just went to NY in November and I can't imagine a new kitchen that costs the same amount as a trip. So if you have that much saved up I haven't been to Disney World and we already have a wooden fence.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 10:37:29 AM
We have a brand new kitchen, no need for a fence and I don't want to go to NYC so I would go to Disneyworld instead. I would also go for more days that 4. We usually go for aleast 14 days.

Have fun with whatever you choose.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 11:29:34 AM
To me these three don't seem to be equal price wise. I would guesstimate the trip and the fence to be between $2,000 and $3,000.

The AVERAGE kitchen remodel costs $50,000.

We just did a pretty small kitchen remodel (no new appliances, no new floors, no new paint) which was $15,000.

I think if you choose a $3,000 kitchen remodel you'll end up being pretty disappointed with what you get (and don't get!) for that amount of money and regret that choice.

Since the fence sounds fully functional, I'd pick the trip!


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Posted: 3/10/2012 11:33:07 AM

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Posted: 3/10/2012 11:59:13 AM
As much as I love NYC and can not WAIT to go back. (finally got to go for the first time in Oct.'09 for a week and even that was not enough time) I would choose the kitchen. Waking up every morning and loving my kitchen again - cause we know you're not digging that 80s kitchen. LOL

And just so you know how much I love NYC - I'd move there if I could.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 12:56:04 PM
I would be the most content with a newer kitchen. I just got new pots and pans and I'm offering to cook for everyone because I love new tools, and a new kitchen would be the ultimate new thing for me.

Right now, i am talking with my son about moving in and basically taking over my house to begin upgrading it for sale. He wants to do it at a reasonable pace since he will still be working full time. Of all the upgrades he has planned, the kitchen will be the one I am most looking forward to. I half think that when he is done, I will change my mind about selling it.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 1:04:29 PM
There are so many variables here, one can't just be arbitrarily chosen.

1) Have you really investigated how much these options cost versus how much you have saved? Unless your lot is tiny you may be shocked at how much a wooden fence costs.

2) Are you going to be selling your home between now and the amount of time it will take you to save up for a kitchen improvement project? Is your current kitchen so dated that you'll need to do these small improvements just to make it marketable?

3) Does the kitchen or lack of privacy in the backyard make you miserable versus something you'd "like to have"?

Here are some examples of how we set priorities on things like this over the years:

Our backyard was unusable without some sort of deck project going in there. It was a huge project, we only wanted to use cedar, so that became a priority in the first 5 years or so we were here. We don't regret that for a minute, we use the space constantly from spring until fall.

I'd always dreamed of spending my 40th birthday in Paris, so that became the priority during that time period. Experience of a lifetime.

Our HVAC was on its last legs and were low efficiency. We could have still gotten at least a couple more years out of them. However the government was offering fantastic incentives for energy upgrades (we ended up paying 40% of retail when all was said and done) so the priority became the HVAC that year.

We celebrate three milestone anniversaries this year, so if at all possible we will get back to Hawaii this year. While we are making it the priority, our house is at the age where it may need some emergency repairs that may put a damper on our plans. We're purposely planning the trip for the end of the year instead of the anniversary dates in case we need to change priorities.

Our kitchen is almost 15 years old. It's looking dated, lacks storage despite its size and we want to have it remodelled. However, it is still functional and could sell if need be. That is on our 3-7 year priority list.

You really need to write out a list of everything and weigh all the options before choosing. They are not necessarily going to be the options I have mentioned but consider all sorts of things before making your decision.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 1:31:10 PM
All things being equal, I'd take the vacation with my family.

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Posted: 3/10/2012 2:18:17 PM
In my past life, I would have chosen the kitchen, and then the fence as 2nd place. Traveling was reserved for when we could REALLY afford it. Looking back, I think I'd travel instead. My house looked great and I enjoyed it thoroughly, but I think I missed out on traveling!

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Posted: 3/10/2012 2:22:55 PM
I was going to say kitchen, but I've never been to NY, so that's what I vote.

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