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We could go to any of my or dh's immediate families house without an invitation. It would be polite to call and make sure they didn't have other plans if we wanted to stay for more than a short visit and to make sure they were home. Almost all our family lives out of state. |
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lynlam
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Susie_Homemaker
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We can show up anytime for any reason and be welcomed with open arms. That is what I want my daughters to always feel about coming to my home too.
I can't imagine having to be invited first. That isn't the kind of relationship I want with my family.
quoting mama stew because she said what I was thinking. And I want to add that I'm thankful my parents are that way since I couldn't control it if they weren't. My ILs are both deceased but it would be the same with them too- we could show up anytime. |
    
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azredhead34
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Yes on both sides with welcome and beds and meals same if they stay with us. Even extended family cousins ect.
Grandparents on the other hand are different but they would still welcome us (when both sets were alive) if we let them know we were at least on our way. |
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My door is always open to my parents and my ILs and it's the same in reverse. But we live in the same town and I don't know if that's relevant or not. |
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Mary_K
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He said he could literally show up at his parents' house at two in the morning unannounced, and they'd gladly welcome him, make him something to eat, and put him up on the couch.
That's my parents. And that will be dh & me for our kids.
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purplepackrat
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 12:19:25 PM
An invite? No. But mom lives in another state, so she does get a heads up. My DS just drops by my house with family sometimes, but they usually call first.
FWIW, I don't think no invite equals pop in unannounced. There's an inbetween where you call and say, "whatcha doing?" That's what DS says to let me know they are on the way. LOL |
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dynardr
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 12:21:28 PM
I was always welcome at my parents home anytime, and I had a key if they weren't home.
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erinTFG
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It has been years since I dropped in unannounced on my parents-- they live 3 hours away and we have 3 kids-- but I would absolutely be welcome if I did. I have a key to their house if I need it. Usually when we go there we just tell them "we're going to come out on such and such a weekend."
Honestly I can't imagine any of the members of my family not being welcoming if we were to "invite ourselves over." It would be weird b/c they all live far away but they would welcome us. Even my in-laws, for all their many faults, would be glad to see us and would feed us and put us up.  | |
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Kiwi-Jo
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 12:27:26 PM
Arriving at any time, unannounced, is absolutely fine in my family. We could show up at Dad and Step-mum's house (when they were alive, with children in tow, or without) and vice versa. And now Son and his Girl-firend can show up here unannounced, and vice-versa.
I think it's vital, however, that we all know it's equally fine to say that this isn't really a suitable time and the visitors will leave with no hard feelings. We all live in the same city, so it's no big deal.
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purplepackrat
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I once drove by DS' house once when I was unexpectedly out that way. I wasn't sure how DIL felt about drop ins. Asked her about it later, and it turns out she's totally fine with me dropping by. She did warn that the house might be a mess or she might be napping. LOL
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birukitty
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My parents live 15 minutes away from my house and I absolutely do not need an invite to visit. To me that would be really weird.
Sometimes if I'm going pass their house I'll pop in and I'm always welcomed warmly. Usually I'll call from my car first before stopping by to see if they are in and not busy.
I don't have any inlaws (deceased) but hubby, my son (22), and I are always welcome any time at my parents house. The reverse is true also, they are welcome at any time in our house.
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Nope. Not with my dad and stepmom- nor do they need one here. We also have keys to each other's houses and as they have been helping a lot with my kids lately while I am school etc- we are all back and forth all the time lately. However these are quick pop ins- like they live at one end of town and I the other - we each have different stores at our ends, so one of us may pick up say detergent for the other if we are going to that store and going to be near their end of town. So these are just quick 5-10 min stops- there is no expectation of a meal or entertainment. Although sometimes one of stops and the other invites us or them for dinner etc. hope that made sense. Often though we might send a text or call and say, hey dropping off x for you...., but it's not required! They ate now retired and traveling so I am often checking their mail, watering plants, etc anyway. Now with my dad- no way- it is a weird dynamic with him and my stepmom- I won't even try to explain  |
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We all have keys and are welcome anytime! | |
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I don't like people turning up at my door without prior warning, so I'd usually tell them if I'm about to pop round. They are always welcoming though. | |
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 1:25:21 PM
Given all the talk about boundaries I engaged in on the gift giving thread, I want to clarify something about the 'cleaning up first' thing. I know that really, how I keep my place is none of my mother's business and it's not her place to comment on it ever. However, I know she grew up in a home that was always messy (5 kids and too small a space), that she's a neat freak, and it raises her blood pressure to see clutter. So I choose to cut her slack by hiding anything she'd classify as 'mess' out of respect for her issues. |
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Deena714
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 1:33:06 PM
I don't need an invite to go to their home, and they don't need one to come here. However, we aren't really a "pop in" family. We at least make a phone call to see if the person is home. "Hey, are you home? I'm around the corner and want to stop by" kind of thing.
I expect to be welcomed (which I would be) but I would never expect to be fed. We all have small families and cook accordingly.
Everyone has keys to other people's homes but that doesn't mean we use them without 'permission'. It's more for emergencies. Or babysitting convenience. |
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theboydbunch
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 1:49:41 PM
Absolutely not!! My parents live 5 minutes from us and I would never feel like I had to wait to be invited there, nor do they need an invite to come to our house. | |
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melanell
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 2:01:08 PM
I could stop in at any time, without invitation.
But if I opt not to call, I may find an empty house or find that they are too busy at the moment to do more than just say "Hi", kwim?
So basically, I fall somewhere in between. Times when I absolutely know their routine, I may drop in unannounced for a few minutes on my way somewhere else.
For instance, I know I am good to stop in M/W/F right after I drop off DS at school. Dad will be asleep, but mom would be up and about. Of course, if she had an appt. or something, then I would be out of luck.
But if I wanted to come over for an actual visit, I would call first. Because it would be a waste of my time if I stopped by an house with only 3 dogs at home.
Now, I do still have a key, so I could actually stop by when they are not at home, but unless we needed an urgent stop for a kid's bathroom visit or a diaper change, I wouldn't do that.
They have a key to my home as well. |
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rainydaypea
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Nope, I don't even need an invitation to move back in at my dad's! I have done so temporarily a couple times between cross country moves.
When I lived in the same town as my father we both had keys to each others' homes. I would usually just give him a courtesy call such as "hey, I'm coming over with Chinese food" or "see you in a couple minutes, the kids want to play you in a game of chess". He would do the same with me or sometimes we would just stop by...it really didn't matter. It is the same way with my brother.
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Cariad12000
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 2:33:51 PM
I've always been able to pop in to see my parents and my in laws. My children also just pop in to see us and their grandparents.
We do tend to ring them to expect us just in case they are going out but we are always welcome. |
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domoo
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 3:59:06 PM
My adult kids are welcome to drop in at any time and all, including DDIL, have keys to our house. All of them do usually call first to let us know they are coming.
Oddly though, I would never go to any of their homes without being invited. Just wouldn't feel right dropping by. |
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wholarmor
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 5:21:53 PM
I'm sure they would be pleasantly surprised if we just showed up, but I wouldn't do it. I don't visit anyone without calling them first to make sure that they're home and are good with company. Even my friend that I visit nearly every Saturday. I would hate to show up and find out that they're on their way out the door to an appointment or whatever. I think it's common courtesy to call anybody to make sure they don't already have plans.
Plus, my family all live far away, and when we do visit, we usually stay with them. I don't want to inconvenience them if they have other plans, ya know?
I think I'll tell my kids that they are more than welcome to come home, but they need to make sure that we're there to welcome them and available to host them. |
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 5:31:33 PM
I guess I'm in the middle somewhat. My parents would absolutely welcome me if I showed up unannounced any time (and I have done that on occasion for a surprise) but on the whole I respect that they have their own lives, busy with friends and activities etc, so I would always check it was convenient.
Same here. And I appreciate some warning so I typically do the same for them. | |
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Is It Spring Yet?
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We open the door, step inside, tap on the wall and holler "Anybody home?"
Now that being said, I'm not at all sure I would want my own kids to do that with me. But she seems to love it.
My kids are much more likely to catch me doing something racey that would embarrass them. | |
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MergeLeft
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My parents are gone so it's not an issue anymore, but I wouldn't have traveled the thousand miles to see them without a call first. If I had, of course I would have been welcome, but imagine if I went all that way and they had planned to be gone for the weekend or something. They were busy people with a lot going on.
Funny story, though: I had a friend whose in-laws lived in the same city as them, but who always wanted to be called before anyone came over. They came to find out that the in-laws had gotten heavily into a BDSM lifestyle after the kids were out of the house and frequently had "guests" over as part of that lifestyle. Understandably you don't want your grandkids to walk in and find your sub trussed naked to a chair or some such thing ....  |
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Laurel Jean
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 5:36:20 PM
Neither my mom nor my DH's parents are living, but when they were, we never needed an invitation.
In fact, they would be a little put out if we were in the neighborhood and didn't pop in. | |
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wholarmor
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 6:10:53 PM
My kids are much more likely to catch me doing something racey that would embarrass them.
And that's another reason why I'd rather have people call before they come over, lol. Before we had kids, we had someone show up unannounced while we were in the middle of some intimate time. It was extremely awkward. They knew that we were home, so they continued to knock. I wouldn't want my kids or grandkids showing up at a time that would make someone feel awkward- assuming that we still do that when they're out of the house- knowing my husband, I'm sure he'll want to take advantage of that, lol. |
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TXDancermom
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 7:13:05 PM
Kind of - they live in another state, and it is more than just a "drop over for a quick visit" kind of trip - so we would need to plan with their schedule - however they would welcome us most any time....
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 7:22:50 PM
While I don't exactly require an "invitation" (i.e. Mom initiates the request for a visit), I would certainly never just "drop in". Of course, "dropping in" would require a 7.5 hour drive LOL!
All I have to do is call and say, "hey Mom, we're gonna come visit next weekend", and it's all good. She's never said no. | |
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 7:58:42 PM
My folks always made it clear that their children were not to do "pop-ins," and show up unannounced, and that if they wanted us over, they would invite us.
Wow. No, that's something that isn't even part of my reality. |
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 8:22:31 PM
My parents live an hour away in a very small town that I am unlikely to visit if not to see them...so we typically do not drop-in unannounced. BUT, I could. They are more likely to drop in to see us because they often come to our town for a movie, shopping, etc. they usually call, but not always. No biggie. |
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 8:35:07 PM
My mother would be pleased as punch if I showed up at her door at 2 am (I live 12 hours away, so she doesn't see me often). I would certainly feel welcome at any time at either my mother's house or my MIL's house, but I would never just drop in without calling first, just in case I'd catch them at a bad time. But needing an invitation? Nope. | |
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huskergal
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 8:43:14 PM
I call first to make sure they will be homem, but no, we don't need an invite. |
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rathercrafty
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Don't really NEED an invitation, I usually tell my mom/sister when I'm coming to see them as a courtesy. I like to phone when I know, at least a day in advance.
Now that I live overseas, I let them know when we're planning, so they can arrange any time off or let them plan around it - it's just common courtesy.
I wouldn't drive for hours on end and not let them know before I showed up. I probably could, but they'd be concerned that something was deeply wrong. |
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EllenPea
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| Posted: 4/14/2012 9:26:41 PM
My parents have a limit of about three or four days. They tried to "uninvite" me to Thanksgiving when I wanted to make it a week-long stay, but after DH and I stayed at my aunt and uncle's house for three days before going on to my parents house, they turned around and asked us to stay with them one more day.
I think if I was by myself, not with my DH, they would be open to me staying however long, whenever.
I don't do "pop-ins" because of how far away they live. If I'm driving all the way up there (4.5 hours) I need to make damn sure they will be there.
However, we do "pop-in" on my mother-in-law. She's 2.5 hours away, leaves the house much less often than my parents do, and may or may not be able to remember when we do tell her we are coming.
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 7:11:36 AM
No, we don't need invitations to visit both parents. We live within 5-10 minutes from them. We do, however, make every effort to let them know in advance that we will be popping in. My son likes to visit my mom three to four times a week so that is one parent that I just pop in anytime. | |
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Artbabe
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 8:28:43 AM
I can stop at Mom and Dad's anytime and do. I have the key code to their garage. I usually call them on their cell before I use it, though.
They are welcome to visit me anytime they want if they can deal with the mess.
I stop at my sister's anytime, too.
My family is extremely close. |
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kimberly38
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 8:32:26 AM
When my mom did not live with us and my dad was alive, no, I don't think I ever needed an invitation and I had a key to their home and vice versa. I think that they always knocked first if they came to my home, but I think I had an open door policy at their home. But, most times, I knew when they were coming to my home, sometimes, I would just pop in at their home.
My dh on the other hand, not so much that he needed an invite, but i don't think he ever just stopped by and he never just walks into his mom's home, nor does he have a key.
That being said, when all my kdis are out of my house, I tell them they better knock before entering because me and the hubbs could be just walking around naked and enjoying our home all to ourselves! | |
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robindefender
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 9:13:07 AM
I don't need an invitation, but I do always call before I come over. |
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 9:59:31 AM
No, no invitation needed. In fact, I have a key to her house and she has a key to mine.
Now we live 1000 miles apart but when we lived close to each other, we just showed up whenever we liked. |
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raindancer
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 10:06:26 AM
Nope, my MIL was insistent that we never just "stop by". In fact I stopped by once to drop something off that belonged to her that we had borrowed. She lived near the mall, and I was going shopping with a friend. So I just swung by. She would not open the security door, just talked to me through it, and basically told me how rude I was to not at the very least let her know I was coming. I just left it on the porch and went shopping.
Never made that mistake again.
My parents on the other hand? I can drop by any time. I can go in and just hang out there if I want if they aren't there. We all have a key.
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MiniMcguyverGirl
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 10:52:54 AM
No. I have a key to my parents house and my old room still exists... Except now my own kids toys are in my closet! I usually call before we come, but I could show up whenever and they wouldn't mind. |
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cocoanmom
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 11:17:53 AM
No I can pop over anytime. I even have my key and alarm code still in case they are not home. To me it is weird to have to be invited.
DH family you are invited. Or I should say DH Father's we have a key but would not call at least first. DH Mom we are invited. But she lives in another state soI cant see us doing so anyways.
My kids will always be welcome. |
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 11:29:43 AM
No. We live less than ten minutes from each other and I have weekly Sunday dinner at home. During the meal we go over our schedules to see if there are any other times during the week that I can pop over.
My older brother still lives with my parents so I go over a lot to hang out with him too. I have never been given an ounce of a feeling that I wasn't welcome whenever I wanted. I could show up at 3 am in the middle of the night for all they care and my room would be set up for me to sleep in. | |
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| Posted: 4/15/2012 12:51:53 PM
My family is really close and we are always welcome at any of their houses and they are always welcome at ours. We generally call first if we are headed that way (they live 2 hours away) but even if they aren't home we have a key if we need anything.
My dad occasionally has business this way and is famous for calling from my driveway
ETA: in-laws on the other hand: we were in their town doing some shopping once and dropped by to say hi before heading back home and MIL acted like the world was ending. She never comes here to visit but FIL comes down every few months and stays for 4-5 days. He always calls first to make sure DH will be off and to make sure we will be home. | |
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PeaNut
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| Posted: 4/16/2012 7:54:33 AM
She would not open the security door, just talked to me through it, and basically told me how rude I was to not at the very least let her know I was coming. I just left it on the porch and went shopping.
That's pretty cold of her not to even open the security door and admonish you through the door. Even colder knowing that you were just stopping by to leave it and run off again.  I think you did the right thing just leaving it on the stoop/porch.
If I were her, I'd be grateful that someone returned something that belonged to me free of worry and charge.
I think she just gave you a reason not to see her again  |
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