My DD has just O/Ded on iron tablets ***FURTHER UPDATE***

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Posted 10/2/2012 by lesleymark in NSBR Board
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Posted: 10/2/2012 3:59:35 PM
Dear OP,

So sorry for your family situation. I can't imagine the pain that you have been through.

I can understand how you and your dh have to balance the needs of both children. My heart goes out to all of you.




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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:17:07 PM
My heart goes out to you and your family. Having to stay at home to care for another child places you firmly between a rock and a hard place and no doubt feeling quite helpless so I quite understand you coming here to try to glean any information that you can.

In the UK there is the National Poisons Information Service but they do not deal directly with the public.
The contact numbers they give are - 0845 4647 - 08454 24 24 24

I do hope that by now you have have had some positive feedback from the hospital but hopefully following the above contacts may help you to fill the time.

Sending healing thoughts to your DD and wishing you strength.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:26:17 PM
From Wikipedia:

The amount of iron ingested may give a clue to potential toxicity. The therapeutic dose for iron deficiency anemia is 3 to 6 mg/kg/day. Toxic effects begin to occur at doses above 10 to 20 mg/kg of elemental iron. Ingestions of more than 50mg/kg of elemental iron are associated with severe toxicity.

Your DD has taken 1700mg of iron. To calculate the mg/kg, divide 1700mg by her approx weight in kg and from there you will be able to see where she falls within the range given above, where 50mg/kg is severe.

For example, if she weighs 60kg, it would be 28mg/kg. Her body weight is very important here.

OP, I hope you hear good news from the hospital soon. A & E are equipped to deal with iron poisoning, and there are treatments available. Can DD not be sectioned? Dealing with that number of suicide attempts is beyond my comprehension. Your poor girl. You have all been through so much.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:28:58 PM
Saying a prayer for your DD and your family...

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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:36:14 PM
My heart aches for your daughter's pain and I will be keeping both her and you in my prayers.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:42:52 PM
lesleymark --

Sending your family good thoughts and hugs.

Please update us when you can.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:43:55 PM
I'm so sorry for all you and your family are dealing with. Prayers to you all.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:48:05 PM
I am so sorry and no judging here. I think there are so many wonderful, supportive and caring people here that I do understand posting here and given your history here is a great big (((((hug))))).


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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:54:55 PM
(hugs) and prayers...please let us know how she's doing!


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Posted: 10/2/2012 5:00:01 PM

I'm sorry. It's such a helpless feeling to have a family member bent on self-destruction and it seems no interventions help. I hope things turn around for her. There's always hope.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 5:08:40 PM
Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 5:10:42 PM
No judgement here. Sending (((hugs))) and prayers to your family.



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Posted: 10/2/2012 5:39:28 PM
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Peace.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:15:58 PM
What you are going through is heartbreaking...I'm so sorry.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:24:40 PM
I am so sorry! I hope that she gets the help she needs and there is a light at the end of this tunnel for all of you. Many hug, good thoughts and prayers that she is well soon. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. So so sorry.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:27:44 PM
I guess I have a really hard time with you..the MOM not being there. Yes there is another kid, but couldn't he be dropped off at a relatives or friends? What if the 31st x is THE time? wouldn't you want to be there? I couldn't take it...not being there.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:28:49 PM
Prayers for your daughter and for your whole family. I am so sorry you are facing such a devastating mental illness in your dd, and I hope she gets the help she needs.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:31:30 PM
Cindy-I can only imagine going through this 30 times and having another child needing you and living in such a precarious situation, it's very draining, her Dad is a parent who will take good care, just a good as a MOM, and the younger DS needs not to constantly feel dumped. OP doesn't need to feel worse about this.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:35:15 PM
Prayers for a positive outcome. I can't imagine how terrifying this must be for you right now. But I do understand your situation, and wish that more on this board would be sympathetic to your circumstances. No one should judge you without knowing all the details.

Please keep us updated and try to remain calm - if staying on this board helps, then by all means continue.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:35:19 PM
{{{Lesley}}} Sending you prayers for strength and comfort and healing thoughts for your daughter. Please keep us posted - I wish I could do more but Oklahoma is so far away from Scotland.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:39:13 PM
I'm so, so sorry you're dealing with this. I've been checking back for an update. I hope and pray she is doing well now.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:41:01 PM
Oh no! I don't know the answer to this but I hope your DD is okay.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:49:57 PM
Prayers for her and for your family. And FWIW I don't find it at all odd that you would come here in such a circumstance. I can't imagine all you have been through.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:53:55 PM
I know Batya..I totally get it...and I feel horrible for them. But I can't help thinking...what IF. And yes, I understand the dad is just as good a caregiver..but..I guess. I would want to be there...30-40-50xs. But I'm medically over sensative to


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:20:33 PM
No judgement here, only prayers and best wishes from me. No one ever knows what they will do in that situation. I hope your daughter finds the care she desperately needs.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:22:39 PM
So sorry to hear about what you are all going through. I hope that she will be ok and she will find the correct help and that your whole family can find support in dealing with this.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:58:29 PM
OP, just wanted to let you know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. One of my sisters is bi-polar and has been involuntarily hospitalized for her protection 4 times.

I hope your dd is able to get the help she needs. I know what a roller coaster ride it is for you and your family

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:16:36 PM
Just wanted to add my positive thoughts for the situation.. Lesley I know you and DH are doing the best you can in an impossible situation.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:21:13 PM
I'm SO sorry. Please keep us updated and know that you have so many people from all over the world pulling for your daughter.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:36:32 PM
One consolation is that your dd is in the best place for her physical and mental crisis right now. Hopefully, they can rectify the physical danger and then send her to a place that can finally treat her successfully. As a mother, my heart just goes out to you right now.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:39:50 PM
Prayers coming your way....I sure hope she is okay.

We are in the midst of dealing with mental health issues with my are definatly in my prayers.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:44:53 PM
Hugs and I hope your daughter gets all the help that she needs.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:45:10 PM
To the OP--for the bitches who posted on this thread PLEASE, for your sanity, click the ignore icon and ignore those users so you can come back and read the love and support of peas who don't have an "I get it buuuut....." Because those of us who HAVE been there and DO get it understand that there is life that goes on despite these issues with your sweet dd. there are other children involved who cannot be ignored and who still need to be raised into healthy and loved and loving adults. They need our attention more than, yes more than, your dd. because your dd is being taken care of by a team of health professionals--a team that you are a part of but a team who takes charge of her care. Who takes care of those left behind or left crawling behind?? You and your dh do. You are exactly where you need to be.

Much love and support to you.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:12:22 PM
Sending hugs and good thoughts to you and your family. Please let us know how you all are doing.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:20:12 PM
I'm so srry. I can't imagine what you have been going through, with her so sick for so long.What a toll that must take on everyone.

Praying for you all from here, please update us and let us know what is going on.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:23:52 PM
I am so sorry you're going through this again. You and your family are in my prayers.

I had serious depression after my dad died. Sometimes I would get this overwhelming urge to end it all. In my right mind, I would never do that to my family, but there were times when my brain chemistry was so out of whack that I couldn't think straight. Some days I'd be fine most of the day and then have the urge come out of the blue.

I'm sorry your daughter is having such a rough time. I pray that the doctors can help her and get her out of this crisis.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:26:01 PM
I'm so sorry! I hope she'll be okay soon!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:29:10 PM
Cindyupnorth, sometimes your every thought doesn't need to be said. She has her reasons for not being there. I'm sure she'll get there when she can. I'm sure she's thought of the "what if" scenarios.
OP, my thoughts are with you and your daughter and your family. I'm sure by now you've heard from the dr. or your husband an update. I am glad your daughter has help available to her, and I'm sorry that you are going through this. Truly heartbreaking!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:50:48 PM
Nothing but {{{hugs}}} and a prayer for your family.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:58:16 PM
Sending love your way - for your daughter, your son, and you and your husband... Listen to the Pea who said to pay no attention to the negative comments, there are many here who understand some of what you're going through... You guys got her to the hospital and that was the immediate right thing to do... Any decisions you made after that took into account all the other needs of your family, and those decisions are rarely simple - I'm sure you made caring and thoughtful choices... Hope things get get better...

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Posted: 10/2/2012 11:59:36 PM

Sending positive thoughts and prayers for your family.


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Posted: 10/3/2012 12:11:22 AM
Praying for you and your family. I hope your daughter will be OK and that she can get the care she needs.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 12:13:46 AM
your family is in my thoughts. It must be a total hell to see your daughter got through her trouble. I'm so sorry.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 12:36:15 AM
Sending hugs and best wishes your way. When we were little kids (under 5), my sister climbed up this tall cabinet and ate the whole bottle children's vitamins with iron. My parents took her to the hospital and she had her stomach pumped. She stayed in the hospital for a couple days. She has had no ill effects (she's 43 now). I hope the same is true for your daughter.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 1:18:21 AM
Im very sorry to hear this. Ill be praying for your family.


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Posted: 10/3/2012 1:30:01 AM
Lesley, I am so very sorry to hear this. Your daughter's illness is mind-boggling, and I say this as someone who has dealt with serious mental illness, including suicide attempts. I just hope that you know that this is not your fault, and that no matter how much you love your daughter, and no matter how hard you try to keep her alive, ultimately only she can truly decide to live.

My heart just aches when I hear these stories. And if you haven't been there, then you truly have no idea of the hell it is either to live with the illness yourself, or to be a parent to someone who finds living so excruciating.

My thoughts are with you.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 1:34:26 AM
Just popping back in this morning (our time) to see if there is any news. Lesley, I'm continuing to think of your daughter and the rest of the family.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 1:48:46 AM
<HUGS> to you and thoughts for your family! My sister that lives with us battles mental health issues and I totally get the "not again." Sometimes you have to do what you can to just maintain for other family members.

I hope your DD can find the help she needs. You are doing all you can and I understand that.

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Posted: 10/3/2012 2:11:23 AM
Thanks for the update. I am sending more hugs and prayers.


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Posted: 10/3/2012 2:24:31 AM
Thinking of you and your family this morning Lesley. I hope things have improved overnight and that your DD is out of danger.

Thank you for the update ((big hugs))

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