My husband completely surprised me with a gift, and I don't care for it. Now what?

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:54:06 PM
It is completely and utterly out of character for my husband of 23 years to surprise me with a gift for any reason at all. So I am so VERY torn. He came home this evening and gave me a watch that is not my style at all. It's blingy, and huge. I've been wearing it this evening to see if it grows on me, and thus far it hasn't.

Now what do I do (if anything)? He's been genuinely thanked, and kissed . Do I just buck up and wear it from time to time? What would you do? I'd hate to do anything to make him not feel good about what he did, or nix the chances of this happening again. Ya know?

For the record, this is the watch: WATCH

ETA: The watch he gave me is not rose gold like the one in the link, but yellow gold. I didn't see the yellow gold one on their site when i looked.




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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:56:00 PM
You "lose" it when you're in NYC this weekend and I'll miraculously find it when we have lunch this weekend because I really like it, lol.



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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:59:04 PM
OMG...it's beautiful. I would wear it for a few days and see if it grows on you. Again...it's just gorgeous!!



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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:59:07 PM
If it were me, I'd tell dh the truth (finding a different reason other then I don't like it - like it doesn't fit well or it is snagging on my fav sweater) and ask him to go with me to find the perfect one for me.

For the record, that watch is beautiful!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 8:59:24 PM
I'd keep it. My husband is like yours so any gift is special whether its my taste or not.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:00:39 PM
Personally I would keep it and wear it. I wouldn't want to hurt him. I think it's really sweet what he did and he might've been nervous about doing it since he doesn't normally buy you stuff like that (I understand that btw, I would downright faint if my dh brought me a gift out of the blue, LOL). Anyway I just would feel too worried about crushing him by telling him you didn't like it.




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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:02:33 PM
I am not a blingy person either and I always wear a watch with a leather band, but the watch your DH surprised you with is beautiful and I would wear it for special occasions.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:02:35 PM
I love that watch and I hate watches with a passion!

I'd keep it and bring it out every couple of weeks.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:05:37 PM
OMG! It's beautiful! I say wear it when you can. DH does buy me great gifts (birthdays, anniversaries, ect) but not out of the blue. Enjoy the moment!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:05:49 PM
Keep it, or as a PP said, lose it up in my neighborhood when you come to NY!

It's super cool.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:06:08 PM
The best way to make a man who NEVER buys gifts to never buy another is to tell him how much you don't like it.

Learn to love it and wear it, as a symbol of his love for you if nothing else.

By chance is he reading "The Love Dare?" One of the dares is to buy a gift.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:07:08 PM
How sweet! I'd keep it no matter what. If you don't like it on all the time, save it for special occasions.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:08:16 PM
Wear it and love the reason you're wearing it, even if you don't love it.







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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:09:23 PM
I don't even wear a watch but I'd wear that beauty

Bring it out every couple of weeks ... it's a great timepiece!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:10:25 PM

A year ago, that would not have been my style at all, but I saw a crystal watch at Wal Mart a few months ago. 12 bucks. HAD to have it. Bling bling. Love it. Glitter nail polish now. Totally girlry girl. Don't wear it every day, but when I am in the mood, what fun!


I love it. Ask him out to dinner, get dolled up, wear the watch...and later....



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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:10:48 PM

I'd hate to do anything to make him not feel good about what he did, or nix the chances of this happening again. Ya know?




....then don't say a thing. Please, you know what i'm saying is true. If you say *anything* the chances of it happening again are very slim. Trust me; I've been there.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:11:51 PM
I think it depends - if you are on a tight budget and rarely buy yourself something - I would go exchange it for something you love (tell him it was faulty). If you aren't on a budget keep it and wear it and think of him



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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:13:44 PM
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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:15:17 PM
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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:15:51 PM
I'd ask myself the question,"What's more important..this watch or my DH's feelings".

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:17:40 PM
I love the watch!! And it's a very trendy style too. Just learn to love it or I can pea-mail you my address =)




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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:17:43 PM
Well, I'll be the odd woman out and say I don't like the watch either; I don't care for rose gold at all.

That said, I agree that it's very likely he'll never surprise you again if you tell him you don't like it.
Under the circumstances, I'd wear it occasionally, and hope that it grows on me at least a little.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:19:22 PM
What a sweet surprise. I think it's a beautiful watch. The size is going to take some getting used to. I'll bet after wearing it for a week or so you'll love it.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:19:25 PM

The best way to make a man who NEVER buys gifts to never buy another is to tell him how much you don't like it.

^^ That ^^


Wear it and love the reason you're wearing it, even if you don't love it.


and ^^ That ^^... really.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:20:25 PM
I think it's gorgeous. I'd keep it.

That said, why am I the only one suspicious of a man who normally doesn't give his wife gifts for no reason suddenly presenting her with a gorgeous watch?


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:24:31 PM
Even if I didn't love it (which I totally do) I would wear it from time to time and be thrilled with the gift. I think it was really sweet of him to pick out a special gift for you and I wouldn't have the heart to tell him I didn't like it.

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I'll repeat what Marianne said. It is big for my taste BUT I LOVE pink so I'd love it anyway!


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:30:09 PM
I am in th ekeep it and make sure how much you apreciate his random act of kindness. I would not tell him you do not care for it. He will be so afraid to buy another surprise it may be your last if he knows you do not like it.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:31:11 PM

Do I just buck up and wear it from time to time?


Yes.



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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:31:16 PM
It's pink?! Oh would someone PLEASE post the photo? I'm dying to see it, even more now that I know it's pink!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:31:53 PM
I'm curious if your husband is having a big work 'anniversary'? My mother got a watch very similar (also michael kors - i don't think it was rose though) for her anniversary at work, i think she picked it out of a catalog or something.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:35:47 PM
I agree with you OP. I don't care for it either. I'm not much help though, my DH gave me a ring for Christmas. I don't like it, won't/haven't worn it, but haven't told DH.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:36:54 PM
Screw losing it in NYC, I think you need to make a trip down to Dallas and accidentally lose it! I'll PM you the exact location to lose it in.

I love the watch and I've had my eye on a few Michael Kors watches for a while.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:42:55 PM
I am in the process of a divorce..he is persuing..and we are close to the end of a 23 year marriage. One of the things he consistently brought up was how I had taken a gift back that he had thought would make me happy.. if i could do somethings over - this would be one of them..

Not saying you are headed where I am.. I just regret taking the advice of my very practical mom and looking at the $value or that it was not 'me' and thinking it was 'okay' to trade in / up for what I wanted.

Take it for what it is worth..but I'd hang on to it and do like the other pea said, invite him to dinner and thank him in the way you best know how.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:44:58 PM
You give him a GREAT BJ tonight and then you wear it for like a week. Then maybe once a week in the evenings when he'll see it for a year or so. Then take it out of rotation.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:47:43 PM
I would keep it and wear it. No way would I hurt my DH's feelings just because it isn't exactly my style. Plus, it might grow on you. And BTW, it's absolutely beautiful.

Every time you look at it, just remember how much your DH must think of you and care for you to have surprised you with such a lovely thing.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:50:14 PM
I don't like rose gold either. I would try to find out where/how he got it. It's possible it can't be returned if it was a work anniversary gift or something, like PP said.

If it can't be returned, keep it!

If it can, there's no reason to keep an expensive thing you don't like.




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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:50:23 PM
I just remembered dh bought me a watch about 6 years ago that I didn't love, I wore it every once in a while. Now,I wear it every day because I love it.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:58:48 PM
It is expensive to just keep and not wear.


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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:01:48 PM

there's no reason to keep an expensive thing you don't like.


Other than sometimes the right thing to do is to put someone else's feelings before yours...

To the OP - Id keep it as well. You could save it for special occasions only, or just wear it every now and then.

It is too fancy to be worn everyday, I think, so you don't have to worry about that!




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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:05:02 PM
Wear it when he sees it. Make him feel good. Why hurt his feelings. Sometimes men really are clueless to their wives tastes.


I love it, drool

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:05:29 PM
I absolutely LOVE that watch! What was weird though is I clicked on the link and looked at it. Then I had to post something on facebook and on the side the watch was advertised. A little freaky. I hope the watch grows on you. How genereous and thoughtful of your husband!

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:06:38 PM
IMHO, I don't think the price has any bearing on the situation. The fact that he surprised you, and probably spent a lot of time picking something that he thought would look great on you, holds the real value. I'd keep it and not say a word. (I do like it though!).



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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:07:30 PM
Since I wear t-shirts that dh keeps buying me that I don't like (well I wear them to bed and crops) I would wear it with a smile

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:09:05 PM
I don't think I would wear that watch daily because it is way too nice to wear with yoga pants and a tank top. But if I wore work clothes or something dressy, I'd definitely put it on. I think it's beautiful and I think the one sure fire way to not get a present out of the blue for another 23 years would be to return it.

I think from the response you're getting, many people would admire it on you.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:11:55 PM

there's no reason to keep an expensive thing you don't like.


Other than sometimes the right thing to do is to put someone else's feelings before yours...


Feelings have nothing to do with it. It's about money. DH and I don't waste $$$ on things the other might not like. We discuss those purchases with one another before making them. He would never spend that kind of money on a watch without my input.

Hell, he wouldn't buy a watch anyway because I'd never wear it. We actually had a talk about watches a couple of years ago about how we weren't going to wear them or buy them anymore, and how unnecessary they are nowadays. (Clock on you phone, clock in the car, clock on the wall, clock on your computer, etc etc etc.)




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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:12:16 PM
Thanks ladies. You've reinforced what I thought. I will keep it, wear it on occasion, see if it grows on me, and love this sentiment:


Learn to love it and wear it, as a symbol of his love for you if nothing else.


I didn't realize that the link I posted was to a rose gold one, the one he gave me is that watch but in yellow gold.


Lauren




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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:12:34 PM
I don't care for the watch, but it was so thoughtful of your DH to get it, that I would suck it up and wear it.



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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:15:50 PM
Somehow when I read "blingy and huge" I thought it sounded like the watch DD got from her BF for christmas last year and that she bugged me to get her the year before that but was too expensive for me. sure enough, another Michael kohrs watch although it's not rose gold. I thought the same as you but it grew on me. Now I really like it and yours, too, so it might just grow on you, too. DH is not one to buy such gifts, so I would love it just because he surprised me after 30 years with something like that. And he'd never do it again if I didn't appreciate his effort.

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Posted: 10/2/2012 10:16:36 PM
Here is the watch for those who cannot see the link



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