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Lucia
PeaNut
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Loc: Ontario, Canada
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And yeah teen boys' rooms stink. I will never forget the Axe years.
You're not kidding!! We're still there with one. I need a gas mask! |
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petesmom
Tragically Flip
PeaNut 141,872
April 2004
Posts: 6,149
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Loc: midwest
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I've got nothing to add, everyone else is saying it so well. I absolutely *puffyheart* my boys, it brings tears to my eyes everytime I think of them. They love their mama and are just a true delight to hang out with. | |
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LisaDV
BucketHead
PeaNut 171,792
October 2004
Posts: 771
Layouts: 72
Loc: somewhere between going & crazy
 | Posted: 10/7/2012 8:11:22 AM
Mother of 4 boys here.
1. Cold air makes baby boys pee, open that diaper cautiously.
2. Boys are black & white and do not have the emotional dribble girls have.
3. Boys are about mud, snot, and farts. Get used to it.
4. Boys like their gun toting, shooting, action figures and Go, Diego, Go is a short lived phase. Get the cute costumes in early because by 7 they want to be that action figure and by 10 they want to be some blood dripping, knife wielding zombie hunter.
5. Boys don't do matchy matchy. They just want to wear what's comfortable.
6. Once a boy finds his penis it becomes his best friend. An erection is intriguing when they're little and a source of joy when they're older. They need to be taught when and where it is appropriate.
7. Boys love to please their mothers (example:: I was having an overwhelmed moment and my 15y asked me what he can do to help me feel better)
8. Boys live in the moment
I have raised my boys with respect, I talk with them not to them. In turn I now have young men that are compassionate, respectful and polite. I believe you need to model the behavior you want to see in your boys.
Yes, to all of these.
My biggest lesson wasn't about my son, it was about my husband. Before my son, his "boy" humor was saved for the boys. And I had this respectable adult as my partner. Now even my little girl says "pull my finger." I tell DH all the time, I didn't realize he was SUCH a boy until we had ours. He just says it's his job to teach him how to be a boy. And that's the truth. I know people who don't let their boys play with toy guns and swords or anything "war" like. But it is in most boys nature, just like fart jokes, dirt and collecting things (bugs, rocks, etc). Your job is to love them and let them explore. |
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heartcat
International Association of Epic Length Posters
PeaNut 51,429
October 2002
Posts: 39,659
Layouts: 237
Loc: Where dreams come true
 | Posted: 10/7/2012 8:30:16 AM
I have two boys and one girl.
I have found my dd to be much more independent than my boys, and from a very early age. Boys, mine anyways, seem quite content to let someone else 'do' for them. They never showed the same interest that dd is in learning how to do laundry, or cook or bake, or grocery shop. etc.
If making food for themselves, they rarely ask if someone else wants something. Dd always asks. It could just be her personality though and not necessarily a 'girl' thing.
Dd was also very particular about things like clothes, and had very strong preferences since she was a toddler. My boys didn't really much care what they wore or what they looked like heading out of the house, until they got interested in girls.
It made it much easier to shop for them, and resulted in far less crisises about having 'nothing to wear' or arguments over 'I'm not wearing that/don't like that!'
There has been more 'friend drama' with dd. I don't think we ever had any with my sons. Boy friendships seem far less intense and emotional.
Tween and teen boys smell worse. You always think there must be something hidden in their bedrooms to be the source of that noxious smell.
All three of mine have always been very affectionate and loving, there has been no difference in that respect between genders.
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NNNsmom
StuckOnPeas
PeaNut 72,049
February 2003
Posts: 2,744
Layouts: 101
Loc: the stars at night are big and bright....
| Posted: 10/7/2012 9:43:19 AM
You're going to learn more about things like:
Trucks
Star Wars
Guns
Baseball
Trains
Legos
Snakes
pirates
Guitars
Football
Warhammer 40,000
Bearded dragons
Video games
Comics
Chickens
Spongebob
The goonies
Dogs
Bugs
Fishing
Atvs
Boats
Basketball
Skateboards
Drawing dragons
Mud pies
Building forts
Camping
...than you EVER thought possible! (and the list goes on!) |
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PierKiss
What if everything is an illusion & nothing exists
PeaNut 82,319
April 2003
Posts: 14,424
Layouts: 39
| Posted: 10/7/2012 9:53:03 AM
Pretty much the only things that I have to add are that little boys LOVE to snuggle their mommies. Ooooh I get the best kisses from my little 2 year old son!  He hops in my lap and demands "Snuggle!". It's freaking adorable.
Little boys have the nastiest smelling poops on the planet. Seriously. We thought there was something really wrong with him with regards to intestines. We took him to the doctor for it. The pediatrician laughed at us and said that he's fine, just that some little boys have smellier poops than others. She told us that's one of the most heard complaints/questions about baby boys. It's horrifying how one tiny poop can permeate clothing for DAYS. Unbelievable. |
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Mrs_Tyler
Sorting Laundry
PeaNut 197,836
March 2005
Posts: 24,080
Layouts: 246
Loc: Enjoying the humid continental climate zone.
| Posted: 10/7/2012 10:03:06 AM
I love raising both genders! My boys are such sweethearts. They are my huggable snugly kids, while DD has been more independent. You're going to love having one of each!
Congrats! |
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606slz
AncestralPea
PeaNut 59,460
December 2002
Posts: 4,810
Layouts: 35
Loc: Central WI
| Posted: 10/7/2012 11:11:18 AM
I have two boys. I grew up with 3 sisters...I always thought I would have boys..
They are so sweet and do love their Mama...my 12 year old still calls me that. They are very close to their Dad too.
My life is all about football and baseball. Love it!
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creativeflmom
PeaNut
PeaNut 557,180
June 2012
Posts: 65
Layouts: 0
| Posted: 10/7/2012 11:21:38 AM
My son is the best snuggler! He will crawl in bed with me and snuggle for hours if I want him. My daughter will last maybe a minute and I have to force her to snuggle lol
He also loves fart jokes and anything gross makes him belly laugh. You just have to say the word fart and he giggles lol
My son will play and play and play and not get tired. The saying "boys dont sleep they recharge" is so true!
Boys loooovvvvvve their mama but they want to be just like their dad.
They are soooooo different then girls!
Congrats and good luck! |
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Cariad12000
BucketHead
PeaNut 515,377
July 2011
Posts: 931
Layouts: 3
Loc: Unitd Kingdom
 | Posted: 10/7/2012 12:37:56 PM
I have two sons( 31 +30) and a daughter(25). They are now grown up. treat them the same except when changing their nappies lol. Boy can make little fountains that soot a surprisingly long distance lol
Differences....... hmmm... boys still live at home and dont show any signs of wanting to move out yet... girl moved into her own place and loves the independence.
affection... one sons and daughter love cuddles and hugs still, one son doesn't.
Fashion? ... it was my middle son who was keen on labels and matching clothes. daughter and other son not bothered!
Get used to make up, nail polish (girl) and hair gel ( both genders) and motor oil staining your carpets, |
CARIAD
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Cariad12000
BucketHead
PeaNut 515,377
July 2011
Posts: 931
Layouts: 3
Loc: Unitd Kingdom
| Posted: 10/7/2012 12:38:51 PM
I have two sons( 31 +30) and a daughter(25). They are now grown up. treat them the same except when changing their nappies lol. Boy can make little fountains that soot a surprisingly long distance lol
Differences....... hmmm... boys still live at home and dont show any signs of wanting to move out yet... girl moved into her own place and loves the independence.
affection... one sons and daughter love cuddles and hugs still, one son doesn't.
Fashion? ... it was my middle son who was keen on labels and matching clothes. daughter and other son not bothered!
Get used to make up, nail polish (girl) and hair gel (both genders) and motor oil staining your carpets ( Both again once they atart driving. |
CARIAD
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voltagain
OklaPhoma
PeaNut 18,334
July 2001
Posts: 35,144
Layouts: 15
Loc: State of cultural confusion. Yeehaw and Aloha have collided!
 | Posted: 10/7/2012 12:59:47 PM
The only bad and ugly I recall about raising boys is the need to keep that fountain covered when changing diapers!! The other, once they start walking, make sure to check ALL pockets ALL the time before doing laundry.
Failure to check pockets will mean washing (and possibly drying) an assortment of treasures from tiny rocks that will jam up your washer, worms, part of a sandwich kept for later, bits of crayon, and only God knows for sure what all else. (The worm laundering left me the most traumatized) |
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ratqueen
I drank the whole fairy.
PeaNut 233,449
November 2005
Posts: 6,632
Layouts: 19
Loc: Here+There
 | Posted: 10/7/2012 1:08:34 PM
I just wanted to come back and share one other thing Finny does: his comfort thing isn't a blanket or a stuffy. It's my hair. He pets my hair and runs his fingers through it when he's tired or sleepy or just not feeling great. He also pets my face. |
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zombie*grrl
AncestralPea
PeaNut 281,551
October 2006
Posts: 4,290
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I only ever wanted a girl and didn't want to ever have a boy. When DD was born I was thrilled she was a she. But when I got pregnant again and found out it was a boy, I was excited. I have to agree with everyone who says: little boys and their mamas have a special bond. You just do. DS is 14 now, and of course he doesn't cuddle with me or any of that stuff we used to do together, but he does give me a hug sometimes still when I leave for work or whatever and it just melts my heart. | |
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cjp
PeaAddict
PeaNut 12,909
March 2001
Posts: 1,052
Layouts: 0
Loc: iowa
| Posted: 10/7/2012 1:31:22 PM
i had three girls and then a boy and he is the easiest, mellow kid in the world (age 16). i wouldn't trade him for anything. it's true what everyone is saying about loving their mom (my girls love me but are daddy's girls). there is no drama with him like the girls. the only thing i miss is the talking. the girls told me everything (sometimes too much) and sometimes have to pry information out of him. |
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TheBiscuitScraps
Bubbie is my most prized title.
PeaNut 99,833
August 2003
Posts: 5,226
Layouts: 2
Loc: Raleigh, North Carolina
| Posted: 10/7/2012 2:08:42 PM
* They love gross bathroom humor.
* Stinky feet.
* Loud and boisterous.
* No matter how "non-gun" your are, they will find their thumb and fore finger works well. Ask me how I know. 
They can be so sweet and love their mommy bunches.
Way in the future:
Advice for summer camp...buy their clothes for camp at the thrift store and throw them away when they get home.   |
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*Delphinium Twinkle*
I'm just a pea:)
PeaNut 163,613
August 2004
Posts: 68,322
Layouts: 236
Loc: *Sunny Southern California*
| Posted: 10/7/2012 3:39:22 PM
"And yeah teen boys' rooms stink."
I don't have that problem. 14yo DS runs cross country and can get stinky after a 10 mile run in 100+ degree weather.
But he showers three times a day and never eats in his room or keeps dirty shoes or clothes in his room.
I think that's they key.
His room smells like fresh cedar and I have no idea why. There is no cedar in there and no air fresheners.
He loves to snuggle and prefers to tell me everything, from who he likes and how he's feeling. He asks me for advice all the time and doesn't ask DH very often.
You'll love having a son. I didn't think I'd ever want a boy and when i found out he was one I almost fell off the exam table. Seriously.
But I ended up so excited to be having him.
He us the light if my life |
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Cutesuzyq
BucketHead
PeaNut 96,863
July 2003
Posts: 856
Layouts: 6
Loc: Lost in the Land of Confusion..
| Posted: 10/7/2012 5:01:02 PM
Think...
DIRT and lots of it all the time. My boys could get dirty just standing still and the 10 yo still does. |
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tamhugh
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
PeaNut 12,875
March 2001
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Layouts: 11
| Posted: 10/7/2012 6:56:52 PM
I don't have that problem. 14yo DS runs cross country and can get stinky after a 10 mile run in 100+ degree weather.
But he showers three times a day and never eats in his room or keeps dirty shoes or clothes in his room.
I think that's they key.
My oldest was and still is a clean freak. He showered several times a day. His closet is organized by sleeve length and color and his room is very neat. But it still always had a special stink. I think it was usually his shoes/feet. We were flying home from a family trip to FL one year and I was seated with SIL and BIL a few rows ahead of DH and the boys. SIL started sniffing and blurted out, "Oh no! I think I smell M's feet!" Sure enough, he had just taken his shoes off. | |
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TREZmom
Lost and Found in Pea-land
PeaNut 138,098
March 2004
Posts: 5,818
Layouts: 2
Loc: NC but wishing I was somewhere else
| Posted: 10/7/2012 7:25:35 PM
I have two boys and two girls. Raising my boys has been a joy I never expected. I always thought I would only be "capable" of raising girls, but my boys are wonderful. They are loveable, easy-going and amazing. OTOH, my girls are too! Good luck and congrats. | |
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