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Loc: In my own little world
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:28:43 AM|
In the next few days, I want to do a couple of RAK's in memory if a few different people, and I need some new ideas.
Anyone want to share?
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:35:03 AM|
I like to pass along good things when I can. Saturday I was at The Body Shop and noticed I had a 15 of 50 coupon at the bottom of my receipt that I was there about. I wasn't going to need anything before the end of the month so I gave it to the lady checking out next to me that could use it.
My girls and I also passes along fast passes we get at Disney that we aren't able to use.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:38:50 AM|
I sometimes pay for the order of the person behind me at the drive-thru.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 11:00:25 AM|
When I am out shopping or whatever, when I see an elderly woman who seems like she has put an effort into how she looks that day, and esp if she has failed at it... I always tell her how nice she looks.
Or at work, if someone has done something different to their appearance, and kinda failed... I make a big deal out of it how great they look. Giving these compliments seems to make them feel good about themselves.
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Loc: SCV, CA
|Posted: 10/9/2012 11:03:57 AM|
Nothing major for me, but I bought coffee for a random co-worker in our hospital. She was ahead of me (in the cafeteria) and I had that urge to just pay for her.
Loc: in front of my computer
|Posted: 10/9/2012 11:19:30 AM|
I remember one day I swung through a coffee-shop drive-thru on my way to work and the car ahead of me and paid for my order. The barista told me they said to RAK someone else. Pretty cool - totally made my day!
That would work at any drive-thru.
Also, one time I got stuck in a snow drift during rush hour and the guy behind me happened to be in a pickup and had a tow rope, so he pulled me out. I suppose that doesn't help you come up with ideas - but I guess you could be looking for someone who needs help and just help them. Could even be helping a mom navigate a door or aisle at the store, or picking up something someone has dropped.
There was a woman on pinterest who celebrated her 35th birthday by doing 35 RAK's that day. Her ideas included taping change to vending machines with a note, delivering treats to the city librarian (could also do firemen, policemen, nurses, 911 dispatchers). She left change in the washers and dryers at the local laundromat...I supposed you could do this for some public transportation systems, too? She also bought a Barnes & Noble gift card then stuck it in a random book at B&N for someone to find.
If I'm heading into a grocery store or large retailer that has carts, I bring a cart in from the corral to use. I know they have people to do that but if that saves them some hassle or an extra trip, that's nice.
You could do nice things for a neighbor...help with leaves, fall clean up, etc. You could call a local school, church/place of worship, food pantry, shelter, or animal shelter to find out if they have a specific need & then meet that need. Often times it is as simple as a jar of peanut butter for the animal shelter or a pack of construction paper for the school. Since you are honoring some special people perhaps you could pick a cause close to them or that somehow relates to them, or find a cause in the area of the country they lived in.
Are there any fundraisers right now that you could donate to in their honor? Tons of places sell bricks that they put in a garden or walkway with peoples names on them. Perhaps a local botanical center or school would have that going on right now?
Sharing coupons with others in the store is always appreciated.
Do you know of a new mom who would love some help? You could drop off a meal, or offer to babysit for a small amount of time so she can nap, shower or do something for herself. Or take her a small gift bag of treats for herself (favorite snacks, bath products, etc.) Or someone who has recently been ill/had surgery?
Christmas is coming up and Angel Tree or Toys for Tots type things will be popping up - perhaps you could do something for that?
Genuine compliments and smiles work wonders. I truly believe that if you try hard enough you can find something to compliment someone on and still be genuine. For example, while you might not like the style of someone's shirt, the color might look great with their eyes...look for the positive things you can compliment in others - whether it be based on their appearance, their performance, etc.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 11:39:13 AM|
One of my coworkers is so sweet and does a RAK for me once in a while,
Once he brought me a croissant for breakfast, another time he gave me a chocolate bar from a russian deli that I like, once when I had a terrible cold, he brought me some chicken soup (from the Russian deli) and a few weeks ago, he found this retractable back scratcher and gave it to me. Things like that can really give you a boost and it is nice to know someone cares about you.
Pea All You Can Pea!
|Posted: 10/9/2012 12:02:00 PM|
nothing monumental but DH let some guy go ahead of him in the drive through line and that guy bought his meal. It had never happened to him before and it made his day.
You could buy a gift certificate at your favorite store and tell the owner to give it to the 7th (or whatever number you like) customer of the day.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 12:32:27 PM|
Last spring we were at outback steakhouse and someone in the restaurant paid our tab. We have 5 people in our family so it's a pretty big tab. We did the same for someone else this summer.
DH's brother regularly will pay for the order behind him at drive-throughs.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 12:40:46 PM|
I often pay for an extra couple of hours' parking and then pass that ticket on to someone else as I'm leaving. I always let other cars merge when I'm in a line of traffic. And I have been known to buy flowers occasionally for my elderly, very grumpy neighbour!
|Posted: 10/9/2012 1:23:30 PM|
I was recently waiting for my grocery order to be rung through & an elderly lady in a scooter cart was behind me. I unloaded her cart onto the belt for her and she was beyond thrilled to have the help.
When we were at the fair this summer, my daughter decided she was done with the rides and had three tickets left. I told her to pick a child and give the tickets to their parent. She was tickled, the parents were a bit suprised but very grateful and the little boy was so excited he got an extra ride. My daughter smiled the rest of the afternoon, which at 13 doesn't happen often!
Before we got the easy pass, we would pay tolls for the 4 cars behind us when we went through a certain booth. We were "chased" down more than once so people could wave and smile!
|Posted: 10/9/2012 1:35:49 PM|
Just yesterday, two dds, granddaughter and I went to lunch at Olive Garden. It was just okay, but our waitress was very cute and just as sweet. She asked if we had a coupon and we did not. She came back with the bill and told us she had discounted our tab because she had an extra coupon. Very nice!
|Posted: 10/9/2012 1:48:39 PM|This isn't random cause it happens everyday but it is so appreciated...I have three children...one in elementary, one in junior high and one in high school. The one in elementary starts later then the other two. EVERYDAY my neighbor takes the youngest to school. The kicker is she doe not have a child at that school. She takes her (and sometimes feeds her) as she knows it is extremly helpful to our family. EVERYDAY. If she happens to have a meeting at work that conflicts with her dropping my child at school she has her husband go in to work late so he can do it. The kicker to that is, he doesn't mind either and he commutes an hour to work.
I really try to be a helpful thoughtful person like my neighbor but the truth is...I am not.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 2:07:26 PM|
1) The soap in the women's bathroom in my office (the 18th floor) is disgusting. I have bought hand soap for everyone to use since January.
2) For back-to-school, I bought enough pens, highlighters, pencils and markers to fill a bucket and gave them away.
3) I put out bowls of candy every now and then in the break room. I once bought chupa chups and everyone was thrilled.
4) Since I have a small fridge, I pack it with water and I never refuse a person who requests a bottle.
5) One of my friends buys me cuban coffee every morning.
6) the support staff on my team ran out of CD sleeves. I bought the team 1000 sleeves so that they didn't fall behind in processing orders.
7) Whenever I buy office supplies for myself, I share with my team members--my hearing clerk said that "You buy the BEST office supplies." I know everyone's favorite color and try to buy a little something for each member.
Loc: Cedar Rapids, Iowa
|Posted: 10/9/2012 2:30:20 PM|My dh and I are visiting my stepdaughter and staying with her 5 year of while her and hubby are at the hospital having their new baby. I stocked their pantry & fridge and made a bunch of meals and put them in the freezer. She had a c section and I know she won't be up to making dinner and her hubby certainly won't be of help in that dept since he's a horrible cook
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|Posted: 10/9/2012 2:53:29 PM|
I bake goodies and bring them into the office for no reason
I've paid the person's toll behind me
I've given extra money at the drive through to pay for someone's order
I think the best RAKs though are the ones that just happen organically.
years ago I was at the pharmacy waiting for a scrip and there was a young mom there with two little kids. one was REALLy sick and you could tell the poor mom was very tired and harried (she had a baby and a toddler) she looked very, very downtrodden. when her name was called, she went to the counter and when the pharmacist told her the amount she burst into tears. apparently their insurance had been cancelled and she would have to pay out of pocket and she didnt have enough money. she was sobbing and it was clear the medicine was really needed for the sick baby. the pharmacist was no help at all-he just shrugged and said there was nothing he could do. I paid for her prescriptions and told her to help somone else out when she was in a position to do so.
I was at the grocery store and didnt have enough money (was down to my last few dollars and I must have dropped a $20 along the way) I was mortified and was going to have to put a bunch of things back. the guy behind me paid-I was sooo grateful to him.
a police officer once bought me gas when I ran out many years ago and had no cash on me (I didnt have a credit card at the time either)
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|Posted: 10/9/2012 3:11:09 PM|
I have put a flower, anonymously, on someone's desk who was going thru chemo. She still doesn't know who did it, I did it for about 2 months, every Tuesday. Sometimes with a note that said "glad you are here"! (she had her chemo treatment on Monday).
I've purchased arby's or subway or other gift cards that are in my downtown area at work, and then given them to a homeless person or two that are within walking distance from the building.
I left a yummy gluten free treat on someone's desk who never get's to join in our treat days because of the gluten free issues. So occaissionally I'd buy a GF treat and surprise her.
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Loc: Somewhere in Ontario
|Posted: 10/9/2012 3:17:47 PM|
I very often pay for the coffee of the person behind me in drive thru. (Best time was when the person behind me ordered 7 extra large coffee's. Yes, I paid for all of them).
I will also often buy a timmies card for a couple of my co-workers who take the brunt of everyone's complaints and yet always manage to be smiling. Don't know how they do it.
~trying to make the world better, one random act of kindness at a time~
|Posted: 10/9/2012 3:28:08 PM|
I always pay for military members when I see them at the airport coffee places or restaurants.
DH and I paid for the breakfast of a darling little couple celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary (happened to overhear them tell waitress).
When I bake, I share with the neighbors or the single guys at work.
I have had my coffee paid for at Starbucks by the car ahead of me.
While DH was having surgery, another person gave me her free coffee coupons because we had a big group.
It's surprisingly easy to find ways to do RAK's. Thanks for the thread, I need to do some!
|Posted: 10/9/2012 3:37:10 PM|
EVERYDAY my neighbor takes the youngest to school. The kicker is she doe not have a child at that school. She takes her (and sometimes feeds her) as she knows it is extremly helpful to our family. EVERYDAY.
Wow! What a blessing she is
|Posted: 10/9/2012 4:02:20 PM|
My son has autism and he started having a fit in a local store. I try to take him to public places when there are less people, no siblings, and I have time to work with him. I thought I had planned well that day. Well, he tried grabbing a ball from a display. I was frustrated and wanted to leave ASAP. A neighbor saw I was embarrassed and said I know it might not be good letting him have the ball, but can I please buy it for him? She told the cashier to ring up another one so we could leave. It really wasn't the ball he was dying to have. For some reason he flipped out as soon as we entered the store.
I took him to the grocery store next. I know what the peas are thinking. Why take him somewhere else? He feels better when he's restrained in car seats and shopping carts. I go to customer service to buy him a balloon so he'll be happy so I can just get some milk. He's calmed down by this time but is stimming verbally (not loud) and trying to bite his hand. The manager gave us a free balloon. After that he was fine.
It was nice of two people to give a ball and balloon to my son, but what was better was their understanding. So please don't think kids throwing tantrums in public are entitled brats. Show kindness to a mother who is doing everything she can to get her child to calm down.
ETA: Maybe think of the person and something that they liked or did. Pay for coffee at Starbucks or donate books to a library.
Loc: Long Island, New York
|Posted: 10/9/2012 7:19:42 PM|
The man in front of me at 7-11bought me my coffee- for no reason. Made my week.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 7:29:47 PM|
My DD and I went to Florida in 2003. We didn't have much money to spare, and so we could only visit one Disney park. DD chose Epcot. When we were standing in line to buy our tickets, an older couple approached us and asked if we wanted tickets. My first thought was--Grandma and Grandpa are scalping Epcot tickets. Nope, they already had a season pass and had won tickets in a drawing. So they decided to wait for a mother and daughter to come along--us--to give the extra tickets to. It was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 7:35:26 PM|We left warm donuts at another family's home tonight (rang the doorbell and ran ). DD, 6, loved it.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 8:12:38 PM|Great thread
Peain' in the Pool
Loc: Sunshine State
|Posted: 10/9/2012 8:23:17 PM|This summer DD and I did one RAK a week.
My favorite was when we made one of those little pull tab signs (like you see for something for sale and you rip the number off the bottom) that said "Take a Smile!" and each little tab along the bottom had a smiley face. DD wrote all the words and drew the smiley faces herself (she's 5).
I kept them in my purse with a roll of tape and we planted them in public bathrooms all over the county (a park, the library, Target, the grocery store...). I have no idea if people actually took the smiles or whatever, but DD and I had a great time planting them and hoping that we maybe made at least one person smile!
|Posted: 10/9/2012 8:24:49 PM|When we first moved into our house, our neighbor pulled our garbage can to the street on garbage day, which was nice because we didn't know which day of the week it was
I've been known to bring Lumpia to work for a random treat for my coworkers.
I like to leave my extra coupons on the shelf in the grocery store next to their items.
I LOVE the idea of putting a gift card in a book at Barnes and Noble! I think I will put one in a magazine, you know someone will pick it up and glance through it and find it! What an awesome surprise.
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|Posted: 10/9/2012 9:06:16 PM|
In addition to some of the things above, I like to drop a quarter here and there where I know someone will find one. I found a dime the other day and it made me smile.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 9:17:02 PM|
Recently I put $1 in the parking meter and popped into a shop for 2 minutes. when I came out, a guy had just parked behind me and was searching his pockets for meter money, so I gave him my parking voucher which still had 30 minutes on it.
Every year in the couple of weeks before Christmas, I hand out mini candy canes, mainly to shop assistants, also to anyone I see who does something nice for someone else. It costs so little and they all get such a surprise.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 9:22:04 PM|
I always buy a gift card to pay for my coffee because it rings quicker in the drive thru and the girls in the coffee shop asked me to do it. When you do this, they give you free drink cards. I never spend them on myself. When the mood hits, I spend them on the car behind me. The girls at the coffee shop LOVE when I do this and I usually get my drink for free. Not only does it make me happy to do something for someone else, someone does it for me!
I always have candy on my desk. I do my best to find out what everyone's favorites are so they are they when needed. When we've had a really rough day, I walk the basket around and check on everyone.
|Posted: 10/9/2012 9:26:46 PM|
Two weeks ago I was at the shopping center. When I went out to my car I noticed an elderly lady wandering from row to row obviously looking for her car. She looked frantic. I asked if I could help her look for the car. She said that she had left her husband home alone and she knew that he would be getting upset. I gave her my phone to call him then we found her car. She was so relieved and greatful.
Note to self: Pay attention to where I park my car. This was a good reminder since it is kind of easy to get distracted and I'm no spring chicken!!!
Loc: Rite Aid
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:04:28 PM|
So they decided to wait for a mother and daughter to come along--us--to give the extra tickets to.
We'll frequently get a Disneyland Resort pass that's "5 days for the price of 3" but only use 4 days.
We cruise the ticket line and find a couple who looks like they would appreciate them. It's funny because it always takes a little bit for them to understand we're giving them away. LOL! No, I'm not selling. GIVING.
a Wild Strawberry
Loc: Western Washington
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:11:15 PM|My neighbor (who was walking our dog for us) cleaned my kitchen and vacuumed for me while my husband was home on leave. It was nice to come home and know I didn't have housework to get done before the weekend and could just spend time with him
If I'm not peaing, I'm pinning!
Loc: Adelaide, Australia
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:16:35 PM|
I will often let the person behind me go through the checkout if they are obviously in work dress and in a hurry. I'm retired and I don't need to rush.
I will weed the neighbours garden bed that joins our just because then it is all done and looks better. They are a younger couple who both are at work all week.
At the nursing home where mum and dad live I will pay for the next staff member who comes for coffee as a surprise.
Alex told me to change it
Loc: never in one place very long (...in San Jose, CA)
|Posted: 10/9/2012 10:29:43 PM|
Last year at RiteAid the woman behind me was buying diapers and formula and was really upset when she didn't have enough to cover it. I was still putting my stuff away and heard she was $18 short. I just gave the cashier the money and left. It could have been a scam. My sons were with me and did note that it was a nice thing to do.
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|Posted: 10/9/2012 11:10:58 PM|
I wish I had something cooler than "I gave away some coupons at Boston Store's Goodwill Sale after they gave me 30 of them" but I don't. But the woman who was buying two pieces of clearance costume jewelry seemed positively thrilled that I had!
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Loc: California Coast
|Posted: 10/10/2012 12:38:04 AM|My DH is the best RAK'er ever! He does nice things daily just because that's him. He picks up trash on our rural road, takes trash cans up for the neighbors, helps out at the athletic fields, buys people lunch, gives rides, whatever comes up throughout his day. When I grow up, I want to be just like him
So just finding "needs" as your day goes along and filling them with no sense of obligation or return. The little things mean so much. Truly.
And God bless you for your kindness
I need therapea!
Loc: In my own little world
|Posted: 10/10/2012 12:54:23 AM|
Wow, thanks so much to everyone who responded! Sorry I didn't get back to this thread. LOONNNGGG day. LOL
There are some really wonderful ideas here! I think I will print it off and keep it.
I posted this because in the next day or two, I want to do 2 RAK;s for some special people. The first is my boss's mother, who would be turning 100. I decided to go to one of her favorite restaurants and leave money with a note to pay for someone's dessert.
The other is closer to my heart. Tomorrow is the due date of my dearest most wonderful friend's first grandchild. Unfortunately, he was born still over the summer, so tomorrow will be a very sad day for her family. Her daughter (the mom of the baby) is very special to me too. They live across the country so it's hard to do anything, so I thought I'd do an RAK in his name and then write to tell her what I did. The idea of the gift card in a book at B & N is awesome.
Thanks everyone for sharing!
Never mind, I forgot what I was going to say.
Loc: Middle of the Monterey Bay - Ca.
|Posted: 10/10/2012 1:12:05 AM|How sweet Erika! I love your dh!!!
I try to do little things for people when I can. I always offer to take someone's grocery cart back if I'm walking up to the store, always let people who have less groceries or grouchy kids go in front of me in line, etc.
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
Loc: South Florida
|Posted: 10/10/2012 7:18:09 AM|
Our cat had to go on a special diet. I had alot of canned cat food and didn't want it to go to waste. I went to Animal Control and gave it to a family who was leaving with their newly adopted cat.
Not really a RAK: I was in the drug store using my coupons, rewards, ect..to purchase items. Two ladies were also looking for items. They were not aware of the coupon machine in the store. I told them what they needed to do. They scanned their customer cards and both received a $4 off coupon with a $12 purchase.
|Cheers from Southeast Sunny Florida!
|Posted: 10/10/2012 8:23:03 AM|
I also love when people leave coupons near the item they are for at the store. I see this a lot!
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
Loc: somewhere dreaming
|Posted: 10/10/2012 8:51:53 AM|
I have a really cute hand out that says JUST BECAUSE. I knew there were a few families in our neighborhood suffering financially so I got a brown grocery bag and filled it will canned ingredients for Taco soup. Put the above sign on it and the recipe. We dropped them off on their porches.
We've had so many nice things done for us. Cookies, cakes cards candy!
|Posted: 10/10/2012 8:54:50 AM|
I have shared coupons to fellow shoppers.left printed off coupons by products and helped lost shoppers,
Peaing From Podunk
Loc: North Dakota
|Posted: 10/10/2012 8:55:20 AM|We have an Air Force base here. One day I was at a gas station filling my car when a young airman pulled up to the pump next to me. He pulled out his wallet and seemed to be counting his money before he started putting gas in his car. I finished filling up and went inside to pay. I told the clerk to wait until he was done and I'd pay for his gas too but she couldn't tell him until I was out of the building. I don't know what his reaction was but the clerk was overjoyed with it
I have a good friend who just had a baby. She is married and has two older children. She's needed a babysitter twice in the 18 days since the baby was born. I've been able to do it for her and when she picks the baby up I have dinner ready for her to pop in the oven when she gets home along with homemade cookies for the big kids.
There are some good ideas on this thread that I'll have to keep in mind
|Posted: 10/10/2012 9:02:30 AM|
When I was in the hospital with kidney failure, my doctor came in my room while doing rounds and while in there got distracted by a commercial on the tv. It was for Thomas the Tank Engine stage show that was coming to the city we were in. He started asking me if I saw the commercial and if I knew the details of the show. I did because my son, who was 5 at the time, was the biggest Thomas the Tank Engine fan around. I didn't know the price of the tickets, so he asked me to find out for him after he asked why I knew about the show. My therapist explained to the doctor that I had a young son that was a huge fan of Thomas, and as it turned out, the doctor had a son that was the same age and loved Thomas, too. The doctor asked me if we would be taking DS to the show. I explained that since I had been in the hospital for 3 weeks, we were very short on funds and wouldn't have the money to get tickets.
When my SO came up that evening I used his phone and called for the ticket prices. I sent a note to the doctor via his nurse. The next day she came in and handed me an envelope. Inside was enough cash to buy 2 tickets to the show.
I sat and cried for ages about that. One of my therapists came in and asked why I was upset and I told her what he had done. She said that he often did stuff like that for his patients. I am still amazed by his generosity. We weren't able to go to the show, but we did take DS to A Day out with Thomas a few months later instead.
Loc: Greater London
|Posted: 10/10/2012 9:49:53 AM|
I had a great experience yesterday- sometimes the small things seem huge! I had rushed out of the house to go shopping and forgotten my bag and purse. You have to pay to exit the car park, and all I had in the car were 2 20p pieces, for a Ã‚Â£1.20 parking charge. Even though I was literally only in there minutes, the guy on the help button of the pay machine was refusing to let me out, and just suggested I walk the 3 miles home. I am riddled with arthritis at the moment and the walk would have killed me. As I was talking, two young men came up behind me in the queue, quickly asked what the problem was, and paid my parking fee. It was such a small thing but I nearly cried, as I was so frustrated and annoyed with myself.
I did actually pay someone's parking charge for them some time last year, a guy who had come out with his kids and forgotten to bring his wallet, so I guess, what goes around, comes around!
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|Posted: 10/10/2012 11:04:43 AM|
I did the buy the next car's Starbucks coffee last week.
|Posted: 10/10/2012 11:06:39 AM|
I rarely go to Starbucks now that I work from home but today I was craving a salted caramel mocha in the worst way. I used an old gift card from last Christmas and at the end of my order I had about $1.10 on my card. I gave the card to the gal next in line, it wasn't enough for her whole order but I figured she couldn't turn down free money!
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Loc: Big Sky Country
|Posted: 10/10/2012 11:08:56 AM|
Rene, 2girlsmom, made me an auto window decal in memory of my son. I had posted a request for a good source so I could buy one, but she took it upon herself to make me one and send it, asking nothing in return.
Loc: in front of my computer
|Posted: 10/10/2012 11:38:22 AM|I love the B&N idea. I would suggest if you do it though, to put a post it note on it that says the card is already paid for/activated and that it's a RAK so that they don't think it's a blank gift card and put it back or throw it away!