At the ER with DD

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Posted 11/5/2012 by -Tara- in NSBR Board


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Posted: 11/5/2012 11:57:57 PM
We are waiting to see the ER doctor. DD is resting and DH and DS had to stay in the waiting room.

DD has been in a strange mood for a few days. She posted on Facebook that she really needed someone to talk to RIGHT NOW.

So, I went up to her room and at first she wouldn't tell me anything. She just cried and said I wouldn't believe her if she told me.

I was very persistant and calm (in my mind was freaking out...did someone hurt her, was she being bullied, was she raped?!).

Finally, she told me that she's been having suicidal thoughts for several days. I hugged her and told her I loved her very much and then called for DH to come in.

He handled it better than I thought. He attempted suicide in high school and almost attempted again in 2008.

I had suicidal thoughts on middle school. Both DH and I have been diagnosed with severe clinical depression. We are on medication and it's going very well for both of us.

I just hope DD knows that we didn't bring her here in an over-reaction. This is serious and we are taking it seriously.

Thanks for letting me talk about it while waiting (and DD is resting).

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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:00:32 AM
Oh my gosh. Your poor girl! So happy you got her to confide.

Prayers and keep us updated.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:02:27 AM
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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:04:54 AM
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but so glad you are taking action to get her help. It's a tough road, but you are on the right track. All my best to you. Your family is in my thoughts.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:11:38 AM
You are where you need to be right now. Thankfully you were able to intervene before she acted on those thoughts. Now she will be able to get the help that she needs. You did good.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:13:24 AM
OMG. You are handling this so well. Good job, mom. And high hopes for your DD to start feeling a lot better very soon.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:21:23 AM
I'm joining your cheering squad---good for you for taking this seriously and taking action. I hope she gets the help she needs and is feeling better soon.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 12:34:13 AM
They came in and drew some blood...and DD fainted. I calmed her down and she's resting again. She wants to go home.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 3:47:05 AM
You're a great Mom! I hope that your dd gets the help she needs and feels better soon. (((Hugs)))


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Posted: 11/6/2012 4:01:21 AM

I'm sorry she's struggling. But this is the first step in getting her the help she needs. Good job momma!!

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Posted: 11/6/2012 4:12:47 AM

Many hugs headed your way.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 4:26:37 AM
We are home. She was allowed to come home with us.

I have a list of people to call tomorrow (insurance being the first to get counseling centers in our area).

DD and I were each given a crisis number to call anytime.

The psychologist said he felt ok letting her come home and he felt comfortable that I would follow up because I didn't dismiss her and took swift action when she told me.

He also praised her repeatedly for telling me. He felt she would be ok coming home because she DID tell me and that shows that she wants help.

Thanks for letting me talk about this here. It was too late to call anyone and I didn't want to worry my parents (I would have called if she had to be admitted).

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Posted: 11/6/2012 5:52:07 AM
I am a licensed counselor and made same decision once for our DD. She received help, meds, and we ended up making her come home. (She was in college). Sooo hard. I send well wishes she receives help needed and peace for UR DH, DS, and U!!

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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:00:35 AM
ALWAYS better safe than sorry. Hugs to you both.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:02:16 AM
Prayers said that your daughter receives the help she needs x

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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:02:53 AM
Poor girl, my heart goes out to her but I am so glad she told you and that you immediately sought help for her.

Sending P & PT to your DD

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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:04:10 AM
I wish your daughter and your family all the best.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:18:47 AM
I just have tears in my eyes. My niece was just diagnosed with depression and she is pretty bad off. This is a very stressful thing to go through with your child because you are not in control.

Yay for your for having your DD's back and for her having the courage to tell you. Sorry you're going through this.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:20:19 AM
I'm so glad she told you. You did the right thing. At least now she knows that you took her seriously and she can get the help that she needs.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:24:07 AM
Sending you all {{{hugs}}}. You definitely did the right thing for her.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:34:40 AM
(((Big Hugs))) to you and your daughter. It takes great courage to get help.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 6:53:01 AM
So sorry to hear your daughter is feeling that way. But so very glad that she felt she could talk to you. Prayers that you find the right person for her to talk with, and that she can resolve those feelings. You have done a great job as a mom, and if you ever doubt it, look back at this, and that she knew she could talk to you.



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Posted: 11/6/2012 7:16:38 AM
I am so glad she talked to you and gave you the chance to get her some help!


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Posted: 11/6/2012 9:59:53 AM
Thank you so much for all of your kind words!! She is sleeping in this morning.

It's almost 8am here and I've already talked to a rep at our insurance company. I'm just waiting for the offices on the list she gave me to open and I'll start calling counselors to see if they are accepting new patients.

I also talked to my mom this morning. She is ready to get on the first flight out here as soon as we say the word. I told her we would love for her to come anytime, but I thought I could handle things for now. But the second I feel overwhelmed, I'll call her.

I can't thank you all enough for letting me get this out here!! I the Peas!

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Posted: 11/6/2012 10:08:11 AM
What a night for you all. Sending much love and prayers your way.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 10:17:10 AM
I often worry about my kids suffering from depression/suicidal thoughts (I've suffered with depression for years, pretty much since my teens). Good luck to you and your DD. At least she has parents who can relate/help her. My parents shrugged it off and made me feel invisible, which lead to attempted suicide in my twenties, etc, etc.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 10:22:43 AM
TREZmom- I'm so sorry you went through that.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 11:51:35 AM
I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family today.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 1:13:55 PM
Your daughter is lucky to have you. I am like TREZmom...have been battling depression since I was a teen. Things got SO much better when I got on the right I wish someone would have been able to help me like that back then. You are a great mom!!!!

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Posted: 11/6/2012 1:19:52 PM

I hope they find the right meds and she's feeling a lot better soon

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Posted: 11/6/2012 1:21:48 PM
(((HUGS))). I hope she gets the help she needs to feel better.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 1:33:20 PM
So glad to see a mom handling this so well and quickly. Sending good thoughts your way. Your daughter is lucky to have you.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 1:42:14 PM
Thanks for being a great mom and taking her seriously. The fact that she felt comfortable enough to share those thoughts with you as a teen speaks volumes about your relationship. You and your family are in my thoughts!


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Posted: 11/6/2012 4:59:09 PM
Wow, I can't imagine what you are going through. Good for you for taking her seriously. Wishing ou all well and sending big hugs your way.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 5:51:30 PM
Hugs to your family. It sounds like you have a good support system in place.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 5:54:29 PM
You two must have a wonderful relationship, for her to have been able to talk to you. And I am so glad you listened to her and took her seriously, and got her help right away. Love that your mom is on stand-by, too!

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Posted: 11/6/2012 7:26:21 PM
P&PT for your DD and your family!

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Posted: 11/6/2012 7:30:28 PM
Said a prayer for your DD. (((HUGS)))

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Posted: 11/6/2012 7:30:32 PM
Lots of prayers and good thoughts for you, I'm so glad she opened up to you and that you and your DH are there for her and helping her through this. I hope the Drs can help you all.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 7:53:28 PM
So sorry you and your family are going through this right now. I think you did the right thing and I hope your daughter feels more hopeful soon.

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Posted: 11/6/2012 8:07:56 PM
I'm so sorry! Big (((hugs))) for all of you. I pray she receives the help she needs.


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Posted: 11/6/2012 8:32:35 PM
I'm so sorry your DD is going through this, but how great that she was able to talk to you and your DH, and how great that you got her help right away. That is going to make SUCH a difference to her, I promise you. I'll keep her in my prayers, and you, too.


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Posted: 11/7/2012 2:49:48 AM
You saved her life! I know she doesn't like it right now but you saved her. How awful to have to take her to the hospital but better the hospital than her commiting suicide. My heart goes out to all of you. I had 2 good friends commit suicide in the past 2 years. I wish they had gotten help. It sounds like you are on the right path. Big big hugs to you. I hope it gets better. I hope you can find a treatment plan that will work best for her! And I hope you and your husband can manage your depression. I know how debilitating it can be at times!
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