|Posted: 11/13/2012 7:40:37 AM|My ds is in 7th grade and his school is having a parents day tomorrow. Parents are invited to go to the school and shadow their child the entire day....go to class with your kid, enjoy a catered lunch, etc.
I'd like to go and ds is vehemently opposed to it because its the most embarrassing thing I could ever do to him!
I don't let ds dictate what I do but this one I am, actually, reconsidering.
1. I wont be able to be there all day, just about an hour and a half due to my little ds' schedule with preschool. Id be at the jr high for a class and a half of ds'.
2. I have gone to all the parent things up to this point (orientation, get to know your school night, open house).
3. I have spoken to all of his teachers, I have emailed with all but 1 of his teachers, his teachers know me and know that I am an involved parent. Ds also knows this.
4. 2 of his teachers have initiated calls to me for minor issues in class and both stated that they wouldn't normally call for those things but they knew that I would want to know.
5. I also have a relationship with the principal of the school. At the first event I went to him and introduced myself, we have spoken at each of the other events, I saw him at a city wide band concert (4 jr highs were involved) and he called me by name, and knew which kid was mine.
My point in saying those things is that the teachers and the principal know who I am, they know which kid is mine, and they know that I want to be kept up to date on things that go on with him. Ds also knows that I have a relationship will everyone at his school and I WILL find out about it if he steps out of line!
So, in light of those points, would you go to school for the parents day for an hour and a half when your ds REALLY doesn't want you to?
I'm thinking I'll give in to him on this one...
Loc: Canada's Capital
|Posted: 11/13/2012 7:47:55 AM|
You already know what is going on. The teachers know who you are so I would stay home and give your kid a break.
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Loc: Portland Oregon
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Loc: Pea-get Sound
|Posted: 11/13/2012 9:31:18 AM|I would skip this one
Who thought this was a good idea for Jr. High
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Loc: Follow the Yellow Brick Road
|Posted: 11/13/2012 9:33:16 AM|That was always a tactic I used as a punishment (and I only had to follow through once, )...
so if it were something my child was adamantly opposed to and I felt that he was otherwise pretty successful academically, I'd let him decide.
|Posted: 11/13/2012 9:34:37 AM|Only if you HATE your child, in which case you should not only go, but wear your pajamas!!!smile:
Loc: Southern California
|Posted: 11/13/2012 9:36:16 AM|I did, but only because my kids were good with me being there.
"...the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair..." ~RelientK~
Loc: Washington State
|Posted: 11/13/2012 9:36:28 AM|
I would go. But, I also know many of the other moms in my son's class and I would know if they were going. Plus I don't see this so much as an opportunity to meet the teachers, but more of a meet the kids my son is hanging around with.
My middle school dd would LOVE to have me come.
|Posted: 11/13/2012 9:38:39 AM|Thanks for the responses. I've been leaning towards not going to this one because of his feelings on it. he's ok with me doing the other stuff so I was thinking I could let him have his way on this one.
he's my oldest so I'm still learning how to navigate the teen stuff and how utterly humiliating my very existence is to the kid.
|Posted: 11/13/2012 10:02:34 AM|
My son wouldn't even speak to me when he was at school in Kindergarten lol, he got over it when he saw that his friends went out of their way to speak to me.
I would not shadow my kid, but I would do a drive by. Pop in the school, hey, you! your kid and give him a buck fifty for the vending machine. Say a quick hi to anyone looking, but keep it movin and leave the classroom. I always end up talking to other parents or teachers in the hallway, and then other students who know me or my kids who may be just passing by. These visits can be done in 30minutes or less. It's just to show your son that his middle school peers will give him a pass when it comes to parents.
Loc: Northern Virginia
|Posted: 11/13/2012 12:34:17 PM|
I would go, for the same reasons CMPeter states. I would know lots of the other moms and DD (8th grade) would introduce me to her new friends. I'm always amazed at how much info I can gather in a small amount of time. It just held me relate with DD more.
|Posted: 11/13/2012 12:50:16 PM|
We are going only to the lunch part. First, how humiliating. I will not to do that to my DSD. Shes in 6th.
Second, theres no way we are taking a day off of work to sit in class. F that. I too already email with the teachers and don't need to sit there mooning at them. Ok, well Science teacher is cute, but I think SO would frown on that.
|Posted: 11/13/2012 1:24:24 PM|
I already know his friends. Hes had the same core group of friends since early elementary school and I am familiar with them as well as their parents. He is much closer to boys he is in Boy Scouts with, and I know them and their parents well. He has made a few new friends this year as its the first of jr high in our area. I don't know their parents but I have met the kids. I don't know them well but have been introduced and said hello at the other functions I have attended.
As someone else stated already, there is no way that ds would introduce me to anyone new at this!
I am a SAHM so taking a day off work isn't an issue for me. If I were working, I wouldn't have even entertained the thought of this event.
My now 8 year old 3rd grader would be thrilled for me to come spend the day with him at school! I think he even would in 7th grade as well...but he's my Mama's Boy!
Anyway, I think I'll skip this one in favor of ds' feelings on it.
Thanks for the input. I do appreciate it!
He'll be thrilled to hear this turn of events when he gets home Im sure!
Loc: Houston, TX
|Posted: 11/13/2012 1:29:20 PM|
Good decision! I know your son will be relieved!
My ds would be mortified. He hates it when I go to the mandatory sports team parent meetings - oh, and he is my momma's boy! I haven't gone to a teacher conference since 5th grade. I would if I really felt the need but he is an all A student, athelete and no discipline problems so I cut him slack. I know all his teachers really well and see them so many other times that there is just no need.
By the way, why does your school think this is a good idea?
Mom of Carly (16) and Nathan (14)
|Posted: 11/13/2012 1:44:59 PM|
Given all the details, no. And honestly, the last thing my middle-schooler would want is for me to be at his school following him around all day.
Our elementary school used to have open house (which wasn't even a full day) but they did away with it several years back because it really was a wasted day. I think it's the sort of thing that sounds great in concept, but doesn't translate into such a good thing practically speaking.
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
|Posted: 11/13/2012 2:00:42 PM|
f it were something my child was adamantly opposed to and I felt that he was otherwise pretty successful academically, I'd let him decide.
I'm with Kiki on this!