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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:49:43 AM
This was being discussed on the radio on my way to work today. My DH isn't on facebook, so I can't check mine.

Apparently, FB is creating "us" pages, combining your wall with your DH (or significant other) into a new page that you cannot delete or control.

They said on the radio that you can check if you have a US page by going to Facebook.com/us

Like I said, I can't check mine, but people were calling in saying they found theirs and they were ticked.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:51:06 AM
Thankfully my DH hates FB, so my page is "safe".

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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:52:16 AM
It just takes me to my 'info' tab, but then again I don't have a partner so I don't know who they'd link me up with




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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:53:48 AM
Yep, it's creepy. Weird. Not sure if I like them doing this or not. I'm proud that I'm married to the man I have been married to... but for some reason it feels so invasive.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:55:41 AM
They were talking about this on the radio yesterday here too. They said that it will automatically create a couples page if you are linked to someone in a relationship. They did say that you could delete it though if you didn't want it.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:56:00 AM
This is not really a new thing, especially since it has the old page layout on it. Yeah, it links to your DH first, but you an also view other "friendships" - like my DH with another female friend on his page, you with a friend on your page, etc.

Nothing new.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:57:05 AM
ew....I have one with dh and I don't like it!




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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:00:17 AM
I just checked and yes, it's a real thing.

The profile picture is one of me and my husband together -- it is not the profile picture that either of us uses on our own page. It's a photo that I posted on my FB page a couple of years ago that we are both tagged in.

It shows all our mutual friends and the pages that we have both chosen to "like" (in our case, the West Point Parents page and a restaurant in our home town).

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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:01:24 AM
Me and my DH have a page hmmm that's kind of weird..


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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:12:09 AM
I can see this with any of my friends, been this way for a long time. I go to their page, click see friendship, then it shows every picture we've both been tagged in together, all of our wall posts to each other over the years, and the date we became facebook friends. I find this to be very nostalgic. It also shows our mutual friends. No invasion of privacy here.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:14:25 AM
No big deal to me. Doesn't show anything that people couldn't see without it.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:14:29 AM
Ha! Never knew this . . . and it appears that the DH and I have one. The only posts on it are ones where I mention him in my wall post, or me on his. I realize, seeing this composite, that I call him "sweetie" a lot. LOL.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:43:57 AM
My husband doesn't have a Facebook either, so it doesn't really affect me at all.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:54:40 AM
just found ours. Creepy. Doesn't have my name, says you and dh but does have my posts. What's the point of this?




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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:56:17 AM
Dh has FB, but he hasn't logged on it probably a year.

It basically shows me tagging him in pics or status updates. It's really boring.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 8:59:41 AM
My husband and I have one I guess. Not sure how other ppl see it if the address is just facebook.com/us
Doesn't bother me a bit, but I like my husband so....


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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:02:09 AM
It doesn't really bother me, but it seems like a strange idea.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:20:19 AM
Lovely. Just checked and yep, we have one. I do not want an "us" page with my husband. We are our own people. What a pile of crap. Now to check the settings on this crap to make sure it's completely locked down.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:32:45 AM
If you remove him as listed as your spouse then does the page disappear?

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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:37:04 AM
I don't think you have to worry about "locking it down". As far a I can tell, no one else can even see your couple page unless you give them a direct link.

It is different than seeing the relationship link between you and your other Facebook friends. This one actually gives you a profile picture and an actual page. Facebook is kinda dumb because the profile picture it gave me and DH on our page is a photo of carne asada cooking on the grill from a neighborhood cookout that our neighbor tagged us both in.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:40:08 AM
What about all the high school/college kids who put they are in a relationship with so and so? Will those pages stay up even after they break up? I could see this being a problem once they move on to other relationships/get married, etc.

I really wish Facebook would take a more "opt in" approach to things rather than an "opt out" where we always have to be on the watch for whatever new things reduce our privacy.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:40:47 AM
It will combine any of your friends that have been tagged in pics or posts together. It does not actually make a "couple" page. It is just using info it already has.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:43:09 AM

I go to their page, click see friendship, then it shows every picture we've both been tagged in together, all of our wall posts to each other over the years, and the date we became facebook friends.

Where is "see friendship"? There are numerous times I would have liked to be able to do this. I don't see it though.





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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:46:58 AM
I saw this on local TV news the other day. I'm not a fan of the idea. My husband and I both have FB pages. I use mine more than he does. We're both "friends" with each other. We have nothing to hide, but I don't think we "need" a couple page and I don't like it's been automatically created.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:49:26 AM
My DH HATES FB, so I won't ever have to worry about that.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:50:47 AM
We have one. Not sure what the big deal is or why it's "creepy". It's all the same info that's already on my page. So what?




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Posted: 11/16/2012 9:59:48 AM
I can see mine and it is like the old fb page not the timeline.

Also see the friendships on the side of the page - you can see the same type of "us" pages with other friends you and your dh/dw have.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:05:06 AM
I'm not seeing what's creepy about it. There is no info on there that's private or unknown to our friends it's just really basic stuff. It's not like it's telling anyone we love to get jiggy on the dining table with the curtains open.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:08:15 AM
Mine is pretty empty. DH has Facebook but he's more of a lurker. He had never posted anything. Our page only has a few things I have tagged him in so I am not sure what the big deal is.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:43:33 AM

It is different than seeing the relationship link between you and your other Facebook friends. This one actually gives you a profile picture and an actual page

No it's not different, I see an actual page and profile pic of us together.


Where is "see friendship"? There are numerous times I would have liked to be able to do this. I don't see it though.

Go to your friend's page, to the right of the message button is an arrow, drop down to see friendship. It also shows all the events we both rsvped to.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:47:35 AM
thank you for posting this, u r right found mine and my husbands and i cant do anything to the page. i am kinda pissed i think the only way to un link it would be to not show relationship to your husband on your personal page how weird and disturbing that they can dlo that so totally not right.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:10:06 PM
Interesting. Our page just shows how boring we are Apparently neither of us are tagged in the same picture because we have the generic FB couple picture. We really don't use FB to communicate much with each other so our page is pretty dull.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:22:44 PM
It's their product. They own it. They can do whatever they want with it. You choose to add your information to it. You don't pay for the service.
They can do whatever they want with that information. You agreed to it when you signed up.
I'm not sure why it would bother someone to have a page that combined their info with that of the most important person in their life-but if it does-of course you have an option. Cancel your account.
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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:23:31 PM
It must depend on your page and privacy settings. My husband just has a page for freebies/offers since lots of companies require you like them on FB or whatever. He's listed in my friends but I have not relationship linked to him. And he doesn't put anything personal on his page. I can't even write on his wall. Not unless I was just leaving a comment under one of the product posts. I also have high privacy settings with tagging off.
The only thing on my 'us' page is a friend that is listed in family as a sister. But we aren't actually related. She just wanted to make sure she could find my posts when FB was making changes awhile back.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:27:59 PM

I do not want an "us" page with my husband. We are our own people.


If you look on the upper right hand corner of the page you will see that you can grab an "us" page with any of your friends. It's not just your husband.

I'm not bothered by it.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:29:47 PM

how weird and disturbing that they can dlo that so totally not right.

???

It is the same information you have already put out there, under the same privacy settings. You've already identified your spouse on there. If you haven't, the page doesn't exist.

I don't see using the page, but I'm not up in arms about it. I don't understand why anyone would be.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:36:54 PM
What Barb said. Dont forget Fb owns everything even photos you post.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:38:08 PM
DH only really uses his page for work purposes since he needs up be up on social media. I wouldn't be comfortable if his coworkers and clients could see an us page. That would be creepy to me. I say goofy things about my husband that I do not tag him in because I don't want certain people to see.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 1:39:36 PM

DH only really uses his page for work purposes since he needs up be up on social media. I wouldn't be comfortable if his coworkers and clients could see an us page. That would be creepy to me. I say goofy things about my husband that I do not tag him in because I don't want certain people to see.
Then it won't show up. The only things that show up there are photos you are both tagged in, or stuff you actually post on each other's pages or tag the other in.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:01:26 PM
Heh. The profile pic on our us page is my DH and his friend who died 2 years ago. I had tagged myself in the picture so I could use it to put on my timeline.
I don't see it as a big deal. It's not like it's what people see when they go to my timeline. I'm still my own person.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:06:07 PM
Ooh I like that! I think it's kind of sweet.

I'm not sure why it's creepy?? Why is a page dedicated to you and your husband creepy? Who is the creepy one in this equation? Hehe...

Anyway, I think it's a cute idea, but there are like 2 posts on ours. We don't communicate with one another via FB.




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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:13:38 PM
I have one, it grabbed a recent pic that the hubs and I were both tagged in. It just lists everything we have in common- friends, posts to each other's wall, posts we're tagged in. You can do it with any two people. In the right hand corner it has suggestions to look at.
I think it's weird, not sure what purpose it serves. But not really creepy.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 4:59:53 PM
It's not creepy and it's not new. That option is there for everyone you are FB friends with. I guess the main difference is that you don't see it by looking at "us". I can also browse the friendships of any of my FB friends who are friends with each other.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 5:21:22 PM
I had no idea this existed until reading this post. It's not a big deal to me.

I think that those who think it is "creepy" may think this because they didn't know it existed until now. I can see how it can be a little unsettling to see a page like this that you didn't create and had no idea that it was even out there. JMO.

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Posted: 11/17/2012 9:47:21 AM
I'm sure DH and I don't gave an Us page. We aren't linked in anyway on Facebook other than being friends.

We don't have family members listed as family members.

What's the point of having a page like that?


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Posted: 11/17/2012 10:05:58 AM
I like it. I think it's kind of cool, but I'm a dork like that I guess. It shows my fave pic of dh and me (we are linked as husband and wife on our pages). Shows what I've written on his wall. Shows our mutual friends. Don't understand the purpose of it, but it's nothing disturbing to me.


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